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Q: My good friend is really mad at me I asked her what she thought of one of our guy friends and I thought she said she liked him. But we were in the hallway and I guess I didnt hear right. I told this guy friend because he likes her somewhat. well it turned out that i was wrong and he told her that i told him and she immed me and was cursing me out and stuff. I tired to explain to her that i missunderstood and that i was sorry. She then told me that even if she had i had no right to tell him and that she wont ever tell me anything again. She wont even talk to me. I feel really bad about the whole thing. What shud I do?

I think you should give her a couple days to cool down... and then ask her if you could talk to her. If she doesn't want to just say that you are extremely sorry and say that you hope you can be friends still! Just tell her that you really care about her. Hope i helped!

Q: I have a really great singing voice, but I'm so embarassed to sing in front of anyone, even my mom. Can someone please give me tips to overcome my shyness? I RATE HIGH. Someone pelase help

I think that you should just sing.. and let everyone know that you have an awesome voice! I mean if you do everyone is going to be like WOW! Or you could start with just singing in the mirror... then sing in the car... then sing with everyone! Hope i helped!

Q: ok well i started to like my best friend, and i was talking to him one day, and he asked me who i liked and i couldnt lie so i said it was him. acctaully, i asked him who he thought it was and he said he thought it was him, so i said it was. ever since then we've still talked and stuff, and things only feel a little different. today, i told him i didnt like him anymore. he asked me why and asked if it was because i liked someone else.. while in my head i was thinking aww i imed him back and said no, its because its screwing everything up between us. then i got booted off. but i dont know what to do, i wanna stop liking him but i cant!

I think you have to stop... and ask yourself do i really like this guy? Then, if you think it's right, go out with him. It sounds like he likes you. I mean he asked you y you didn't like him anymore! Hope i helped!

Q: Hey you guyz does any one know if the ab lounge works. If so likie if it works good or not.

Yes the ab lounge works! Just be careful... hope i helped!

Q: how do i change my password on AIM

You go 2 My Aim, then go 2 edit options, then change password! Hope i helped!

Q: I am a 13 year old girl and in 7th grade. I would describe my clothes style as preppy. However, the music I normally listen to is (in my opinion, I really don't know) far from preppy. I listen to bands like Green Day, The Killers, Linkin Park, and Evanesence (I don't think I spelled that right). I was just wondering if anyone thought this was weird. I can listen to some "preppy" music (a.k.a- stuff you would find on TRL) but most of it really bugs me, because it doesn't soud like they are the people singing. Again, does anyone think that this is odd? Sorry for the length, but I was just wondering! Thanks in advance to all that reply!

You definitely aren't weird... i like the same music as you (well some people can call me weird) but anyway,even if you are weird that means your different and i think different is Great! Your unique soo... i wouldn't call you weird you just know wat you like! Hope i helped!

Q: Im 13, and im in 8th grade. Theres this girl, her name is Ashley. She is VERY annoying and she constantly follows me and thinks im her best friend. Shes not my best friend! I have 3 best friends and she is tearing us apart becasuse whenever I leave her for them, she gets mad, and I can't even talk to them without her there! I don't know how to get rid of her because I really want me and my best friends to hang out again without her! I know it's mean but I dont have a choice and shes very geeky and nobody really likes her! Please don't tell me to tell her to go away because everyone is telling me to do that and I don't have the heart to. What should I do?

~Kylie~

I think that you should tell her the truth that you would like some time with your friends and that she is being a little bit of a nosy person. Don't be rude and just tell her that you don't mean to hurt her feelings! Hope i helped!

Q: my friends mom is lets say not the nicest person in the world. my friend comes into school with bruses (not big ones but they shoulden't be there in the first place) and fingernail marks on her. i ask her and she just says her mom and her got in an argument, and not to worry, but i do. i really want to help her but i don't know what to do. please help

The way to help your friend is to make sure she is actually being abused by her mom, then if she is or her bruises are getting worse... CONTACT SOMEONE IMMEDIATLEY!!! Make sure your friend is ok, Hope i helped!

Q: hey the other day my dad made me feel really bad i didnt say anything to him and we talked about ppls death and if I died I asked if he would cry forever like my mom said she would think about me every night and cry but all he said was no i can't put my life away just because u died i would need to move on i feel really bad and my dad has always been caring for just himself. Whenever I try talking to him he starts yelling for no reason. What should I do?

Maybe you should ask your dad wat's on his mind and talk to him about stuff he likes! Then ask him why he keeps yelling at you... or you should forgive him, i mean i don't think he really wants to think about you dying! hope i helped!

Q: My parents fight a lot and my best friend keeps telling me that they're going to get divorced, and it really hurts my feelings. I don't think that they are going to get divorced because I know how they act around each other, but it just hurts my feelings when my friend says that. What should I do?

If your friend asks you this again just tell your friend to not do that because it's hurting your feelings. Also, maybe ask someone else for comfort instead of this friend. Hope i helped!

Q: ok well my acne is getin pretty bad an i was wondering if any1 knew some good products out there..one's that aren't too expensive please let me know..

Klear action works pretty good it has 3 steps of formulas. I used it so i know for a fact( u can see results in up to a week)! Hope i helped!

Q: ok im 13 female and i cut myself but not as much as i ust to i mean i havent in a week or 2 but my best friend betray me and my ex. bf still likes me and i dont no wat to do cuz his best friend makes me feel bad and i just tell myself not to cut becuz i dont want to but sometimes i have to like its the only thing i can count on to help me but i realli dont want to tell anyone so i dont no wat do can you help me?

First things first, STOP cutting yourself. You don't need these people if they make you feel like you want to do this! Also, I think that maybe you should talk to someone about this problem with cutting yourself! Please don't cut yourself! Hope i helped!

Q: In school there are about 10 boys that pick on me they call me names and I hate it , Once I tried to kill myself but they laughed more Please help me!

Wales Bullied

Why would you try to kill yourself that won't make the problem go away and for that matter it won't make you look cool! Just ignore them or just tell someone if it gets way too out of hand! But don't try to get rid of yourself because of this! You are way better then them! They do this because they don't have a life! I hope your safe and hope i helped!

Q: I am attracted to guys but there are these two women i am too. One is my moms friend who is 42 and her daughter who is 17. I like them a lot like more than friends and im only 13. After i stop liking these two girls i dont think i will like any others. After thse two im back to guys 100%. Am i bi?

I think right now you are... a little, but i also think that you want to expreience new things and don't be ashamed if you are bi. Just be who you are. Hope i helped!

Q: ok so I have been going out w/ my boyfriend since january 16, 05. and we have only kissed 4 times!...and this sucks for me...everytime we have kissed it was me kissing him!...i mean like he kisses back but he doesnt make the first move!...how in the world do i get him to kiss me first???....plz help me...i rate high*

I think that you should be flirty, and make hime feel like he wants to kiss you. Or you could talk to him about this if you feel comfortable. Hope i helped!

Q: My Birthday is today ^_^ im turning 14,and i dont no what to do for it [[im having to friends over but i dont want to bore them]] What should i do?

You should totally play some awesome music and watch movies! Or you should go outside and play volleyball and badmitten! Hope i helped!

Q: okay ... you see lately my mom has been getting me all these babysitting jobs that i really dont want. i've asked her to stop and she has, but one mother wants my to babysit on a regular basis! she has three kids(2, 4 and 6) and i really cannot handle them. the middle child is pretty good, but the 2 year old cries a lot and the 6 year old is always being mean to the middle one and i cant take it! can someone please help me find a way to tell the mother i cant babysit for her regularly. thanks so much!

I think the way to tell the mother is just to be honest with her and tell her that you like babysitting(even though you don't really), but you need a break from time to time. Or you could say that you already have plans the night she wants you to babysit. Hope i helped!

Q: Alright i have a few friends that are awesome to hang out with and everything but now they are telling me that they cut...not always but once in a while i guess i was too scared to really ask...and now i dont know what to do...i dont want to make it serious because i dont want one of my friends to hate me...but they might just call me stupid and stuff because i never dont anything like that. i'm very scared and i dont know what to do. if you can please help me because i dont know if i can handle seeing them tomorrow without breaking down in tears because i'm so scared. Thank you so much.

If you cry it's no big deal it just means that you care about these people and you are extremely worried. All i can tell you is don't cut yourself it doesn't make you look cool and it doesn't look attractive. Just talk to your friends, and don't worry! Hope i helped!

Q: I was scalded by my chicken pot pie.
What is the best way to heal a burnt toung?

Drink lots and lots of water then eat bread!
Hope i helped!

Q: I like this guy and recently I told him I liked him, but now i kind of regret it because I know he is going to act different around me and its not going to be the same. What should I do?

I think that you should definitely be yourself and if he is weird around you, just say that you don't want things to be weird. Just lighten up the mood! Don't make him uncomfortable!

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