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My name is Alex or you can call me w/e u want i dont really mind.My main interests are love,listening to music,reading,and writing music and poetry.You can come and talk to me whenever you like at my aim :acdcbothways *note im always on just most of the time invisible* My music taste includes techno,80s metal/hairbands,new wave metal,underground,punk,grunge,some country,death metal,and classical.

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hey everyone my girlfriend and i are coming up on two years i thought that maybe i would make her a CD with songs that make me think of her is this a good idea and if you think it is can u tell me some up to date good love songs and any other ideas we are only 16 too thanks ill rate

the cure- love song
def leppard-2 steps behind
edwin mccain- love suicide
lifehouse-hanging by a moment
guns n' roses-sweet child
kid rock/sherl crow-picture
hoobastank-the reason
RA-every little thing she does is magic
maroon 5- she will be loved.

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hi my friend shes always soooooooooo obsessed with the hair on her stomach and back. What am I supposed to tell her. IT gets me really crazy.
Is there anything she could do to get rid of it. Do a lot of brunettes have a lot of hair on their stomach or back. Whenever she asks me these questions I kinda blank and say beats me.
But please tell me so she can shut up about it.
Oh sorry shes 13 a dark brown brunette close to black. Shes worried guys won't like her because of it because shes never seen any girl with hair on their stomach or back etc. etc. etc. Help me make her feel better. BOYS she needs your advice as well. Oh see also wants to know if brunettes and blonds have a lot of hair on their stomach or back? Thanks

well i dont really know what to tell you. alot of dark hairded girls do have more hair.btw blonds , no they dont really have hair on their stomachs most of the time and if they have any on the back its really light so it usualy even matter to them .

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Ok heres the story, im going to try to make it short.... i have younger borhter who has a friend who has an older brother and ive known him for since like forever. We are really good friends and our brothers keep on saying that we should get married so that they can be realted. Anyway my friends keep on saying that he likes me but i can't see it. He's told me that he likes this other girl, but he invites me to go see the stars on a summer night and we go to the movies togehter. He invtied me to go to a hcokey game just me and him and when i asked him why he didn't ask the girl he likes he said he would rather go with me and that she doesn't like hockey, i couldn't go though:( Most recently he got tickets to go see pink floyd (which i love) and he invited me to go. I told that he didn't have to bring me, that he should ask the girl he likes because a relationship could spark up (trying to be encouraging for him) but he told me there was no relationship going to be built, so he doesn't want to take her, he wants to take me. I am so confused i always thought of him as a friend but this happeneing and my friends telling me he likes me has gotten me confuzed. What do you think is going on? please help, thanks

It sounds like he has it bad for you. you cant really make him stop feeling the way he does.you could wait for it to pass (if it even does) or you could embrase it. good luck. i hope everything works out for the best.

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ok me and my friend are really close she is like my sister but a year ago she started to hand out with other people and she gets drunk every night and does drungs and parties a lot (i mean i party to but not like her) and i have notest she has started cutting heself and she has just been mean to me and if any of u read me last advice u kno i just found out that i am pregnet i try to tell her and talk to her but she just wont talk to me......plz help me i dont now what to do i am soo confussed i am scared of lossing my best friend-----thanks

i know its hard to see that ur best friend is changing, but people change. She may not even realize that shes hurting you. I had a "sister" like this she didnt care abotu much either and she had a adiction to to cutting. she made everyones life a living hell. i had to dump her as my sister and made her my friend =/ cus i feared that she was guna make me be something to her i didnt want to be. so your options are probly A:deal with it B:talk to her about it one on one C:dump her. sory to be harsh . good luck. i hope everything works out for you. it always sucks loosing a friend.

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Okay i have a boyfriend and i realli like him i mean hes perfect 4 me. but lately its been weird like cuz i think im in love with my best friend. i ownestly dont think he even notices me i mean i just think im like him im not intierly sure i no that weird but yea i dont know im soo confused can someone please help me.

this one is complicated (i was in this situation for 4 years till me and my best friend got together),if u have aim i could probly help u better my sn is acdcbothways

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I'm 13,female and into goths.How can I get this gou to like/notice me if we only go to school and ride the bus together(not alot of time to mingle).I'm really shyand don't know the first thing about guys and flirting or dating.Need help ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!=/

well em, btw dont call him goth...hell get pissy . just talk to him.

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Snow is a whole new conception to me, so does anyone have any tips at all about jogging during the winter through the snow, ice, and slush?

Or, is it as simple as "carefully", or "don't"?

we actuly did this last year, we jogged and had the little warmer packets that the hunters used and packed those in and had our jackets and pants.just be carefull joggin u can slip

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14/f...Tomorrow me and my friends (2 guys, 2 girls including me) are going to hang out a park all together. My crush, Alex, is also going to be there because one of the guys is friends with him. I don't really know my crush that well because I've only talked to him a few times before. I kind of want him to get to know ME and I don't know how to do that if we're all in a group. Like I think we would be playing football or some type of sport. I don't know how to act around him so that he could get to know me. I don't want tomorrow to turn out being a day where I didn't talk to him at all. Any ideas? thanx
I RATE HIGH!!!

hello,i think you should just step up to the plate, say hi . just be yourself .good luck check out my advice column to get my aim adress if yah wana talk, ta ta

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My best friend and I got into a fight a while back and we are good now and all but I'm still feelin a lil bit weird about it. I love my friend more than tha world but Im scared to talk to em about stuff in my life because I remember how hurtful he was during that fight. Whenever he wasn't around it sucked cuz lots happened and he was the 1 that i usually ran too. Im scared to trust him again. What makes it worse... the guy I was in love with and i broke up after that. Im having trust issues. I feel like Im drifting away from people I was once close 2 and there is nothing I can do about it. I dont want to trust them... Im still hrt and afraid to love or trust. Any Advice?

15/Virginia

well,i was in this similar situation. i loved this friend dearly and i dont know what happened.i wish she would forgive me too and theres not a day goes by that i dont want to get on my knees and ask her to forgive me. the truth is, im not sure if ull ever forgive ur friend ...its hard to say....i dont know if my freind that i call a sister will ever forgive me.i know ive hurt her and i want to tell her sorry too. I hope you 2 get it worked out cus theres nothing that hurts worst then to hurt a friend. good luck to you.if u want to talk im me at acdcbothways.byes.

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For some reason when a boy looks into my eyes when they talk to me I get SO scared and look away! I don't know why, but it makes me feel weird and awkward!!! When my family went out to lunch with my crushes family, i sat next to him and when he talked to me he looked me in the eyes. My face got hot and I blushed and I looked away. IS this normal and how can I fix it?!

its normal and u cant fix it.

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My mom and dad separated and last year had a fight about me going to New York. Since that i have spoken to him but havent gone to visit him but he comes to see me at school. The problem is he is upset that i dont come to his house and i feel sad that i made him feel that way but i dont want to go because all he is going to do is pressure me with school work and i dont want that because i want to hangout with friends. I really dont want him feeling that way and i want to visit him so waht should i do.

Well,if you dont want to hurt him it wont hurt you to just go and visit. it all depends on if you want to make the sacrifice.good luck,byes.

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ok, so, I like this guy, and I want to get to know him better. Trouble is, I'm anti-social and I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm a freak. Or weird. Or scary. Anyway, I know some people who are friends with him. Any suggestions? I don't want any sugar coating on this, btw.

ok,well..coming from someone who alot of people consider scary,just do it. Talk to him it's not like he will tell you "get away your scary" if he sees you as his friend he will talk to you as long as you talk to him and then just go on from there.good luck and so long.

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Quick question... What sites do you visit other than advicenators? I tend to get bored on the internet and I am looking for some cool places to go. Thanks.

Myspace and Vampirefreaks.com(if it fits your taste) is very good for social interaction.Also,Newgrounds.com and Albinoblacksheep.com are good game site.

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well ive been dating this guy for like 2months now and im in love with him! were complete oppisite but we cant get enough of eachother! but about a week ago he told me that he had cheated on his last girlfriend and im a very jelouse person and now all i do is blame him and accuse him of cheating on me! he does certin things to make me jelouse, like drive by her house and break his neck to look over me into her windows and talked about her all the time and throws her in my face when i do something he doesnt like! like he'll say for example " oh, amanda would never act this way," or "amanda would do it" and now hes even acting kinda mysteriouse and not calling me and when i ask his mom y he hasnt called me she tells me that she thought that he was because for the past 3 nights he has been talking on the phone till 3am! i dont know wat to do i love him alot but i dont know if hes tryn to test me or hes cheating on me and i just dont know it!

He's testing you.He told you what he did beacuse he felt sure that you would trust him not to do the same to you.I use to be a kind of a man whore and my g/f know it and i still hang out with my ex's ive dated 3/4 of my friends and she gets jealouse but she trusts that i wouldnt do anything to hurt her in any way. You must have the same trust in him. If he truely loves you he wont do anything like that.And if you truely love him you should trust him.Good luck,i hope everything goes well for you. BYE BYE

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Is there any way to tell by a hug if a guy likes you in a romantic way? I've had many different types of hugs, but most hugs are from family and friends, that's the type of hug where it's friendly, but does not in any way feel sexual.
I'm asking because a guy that I'm just friends with, after giving me my birthday gift, hugged me, but when he hugged me he held on for a couple seconds longer than most hugs last, and then he started to to stroke my back really slowly with his hand. There was no one else around, and normally he's shy around me with other people.
Do you think this was his way of letting me know he likes me as more than a friend?

My guess is he does think of you in a romantic way.You should (if you like him) start to talk to him more and what not and see what he actually does feel beacuse if he likes you he'll probly tell you when he feels comfortable.Hope everything works out for the best.

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My boyfriend broke up with me in october because he thought i was cheating but i wasnt. After it happened it was like nothing, but now i really miss and i want us to get back together but i dont know if he still has feelings for me. My best friend said she was going to talk to him for me but if that doesnt work then what will i do. i would write a letter but he isnt the type of person you give letters, he is a really sweet, kind person and im still in love with him. PLEASE tell me what to do.

My advice,is if hes this really sweet kind person just call him or talk to him face to face and tell him what you feal and what really happened.It might mean more to him coming from you then from your friend. Good luck first loves are always the hardest ones to let go and keep.

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There is this awseome song I'm thinking of singing for chior called Lean on Me, by Bill Withers. Where can you listen to the full song,even if it's not the original or if its just the backround music? I need to get a sence of how me and my group are going to sing it so anything helps. Do you think it would be better to sing it accapella or with the music?
Thanks.

if its the song that goes "lean on me when ur not strong" i think? ive heard it and i think it would sound very nice accapella.

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On that song "Loose control"
why do they say "get your back on the wall"


whats that mean

also what is a "Bizzo"

you can be a bizzo..not to me but to other people and it's not just people..it's actually your friends. think about it.


what does that even mean?

yah know, i have no clue.I have no idea what most of the rappers mean or where they make these words from.

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k hey guys... im 15 and a female..so i realy like this guy..i've liked him for over a year now but i dont know how he feels about me..me and him have been so tight with one another last year but this year we've grown apart and he said hes "not really" my friend when my friend asked him..and last year he's been calling me his sister and he even said i was alright! also we talked every single day.. so anyway i don't know what happened and it really upsets me cause he'd give me these long stares and i feel really long stares that make me feel uncomfortable, then he'd approach me the next day and ask me to buy him something. and i dont know what to think or do! i want to talk to him but i notice he acts very different around his friends, and he's more of himself when he's alone. if he tells his friends what i told him, i'd have to deal with them cause most of them are in my classes.
anyway i really really LOVE this guy and i've never loved anyone this much...someone please help me cause i cant figure him out..what would you do?

I think he's using u.Love is blind so you wouldnt see the fault.I think you should get over him. It will hurt,and it will take time but its the best thing for you .

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Ok im 13/f and my bf and i are really close weve been dating for 2 year now and we are pretty sure were in love with each other...For REal...and its so weird because when we are just hangin out with all of my bf's friends we are like allways fooling around with each other and like kissing and hugging and i feel sorta..turned on...and i like wanna touch him and stuff...but then when we actually wanna take it a little further he starts putting his hand down my shirt and feeling my boobs! and i chicken out...what can i do to make my boyfriend feel that i want to be like sexually involved with him but i dont wanna be like all the other girls and a "whore" and just do it all at once?

please help i rate fives!

take it slow . u shouldnt feal pressured to do anything ur not ready for . have a convo with him about boundaries. and chill out in public cus that seems like a tease to us.

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