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well ive been dating this guy for like 2months now and im in love with him! were complete oppisite but we cant get enough of eachother! but about a week ago he told me that he had cheated on his last girlfriend and im a very jelouse person and now all i do is blame him and accuse him of cheating on me! he does certin things to make me jelouse, like drive by her house and break his neck to look over me into her windows and talked about her all the time and throws her in my face when i do something he doesnt like! like he'll say for example " oh, amanda would never act this way," or "amanda would do it" and now hes even acting kinda mysteriouse and not calling me and when i ask his mom y he hasnt called me she tells me that she thought that he was because for the past 3 nights he has been talking on the phone till 3am! i dont know wat to do i love him alot but i dont know if hes tryn to test me or hes cheating on me and i just dont know it!
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just tell him that you aren't amanda. if he does not treat you right, then he is not the guy for you. it may be hard to tell him, but it may help the situation. i feel for you! good luck! hope i helped! <3 <3
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maybe he is. break up with him its the right thing to do if you really feel this way.
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He's testing you.He told you what he did beacuse he felt sure that you would trust him not to do the same to you.I use to be a kind of a man whore and my g/f know it and i still hang out with my ex's ive dated 3/4 of my friends and she gets jealouse but she trusts that i wouldnt do anything to hurt her in any way. You must have the same trust in him. If he truely loves you he wont do anything like that.And if you truely love him you should trust him.Good luck,i hope everything goes well for you. BYE BYE
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What you should is to tell him that when you like or love someone you are jeallous. He has to accept it if he loves you. I mean that's you! The next time he will tell you about Amanda tell him why he broke up with her and these things. And when he will tell you about phone calls until 3am tell him that he knows you are jeallous and ask him if he is telling the tuth.
Whatever he does, testing you or cheating you, be yourself and do whatever you want. If he is cheating you he will broke up with you and you will found someone else. If not everything will be fine because he will understand that you care and you are jeallous...
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Well, for one thing your boyfriend sounds like he is very immature. However, did he start trying to make you jealous as soon as you became jealous due to his confession to you about what he did to his previous girlfriend? If you've been blaming him for certain things (?) and accusing him of cheating, is he just responding to that, albeit immaturely? I am NOT condoning what he is doing to you right now, but I'm just curious if this started as soon as he made his confession.
He could have told you about his previous cheating because he wanted to be up front and honest with you. I can understand though why you then would be a little worried if he'd do something like that again, but it doesn't sound like you gave him much of a chance to prove himself to you. (From what you've written, I wouldn't bank on this being the case - that he was just trying to be honest, I'm sorry to say.) On an entirely different note, maybe he was telling you about his previous affair to let you know what type of person he is - someone who is unable to commit and thus may have the desire to do it again. A "warning" of sorts. Uh oh...not good.
You two have only been dating for two months and even though you feel like you love him, I don't think you've known him long enough to really know 1) much about him, and 2) if you're truly feeling love, or if you're infatuated with him...and he with you. Love and infatuation are totally different things. Love lasts and infatuation usually dims and goes away.
Again, I believe his behavior is extremely childish and mean, but your jealousy leads me to believe that you are very insecure. Jealousy is derived from insecurity about one's self and often the relationship at hand.
Ask yourself - HONESTLY - if this guy isn't just a player and he, for some reason, gets off on making girls jealous by doing the things he does. I'm thinking that this attitude of his makes him feel powerful and boosts his ego in unhealthy ways. If he's not calling you, but you're finding out that he's on the phone a lot (I'm sorry his mother told you that), you might want to try talking to him withOUT anger, jealous reactions, etc. and ask him what exactly is going on. You also might want to ask him in a calm way - not when he's actually doing this - why he still seems to be stuck on this old girlfriend by peering into her home and throwing her up in your face when he's angry. That last part concerns me. I think that is a sign of complete lack of respect for you and that perhaps he thinks it will make you "straighten out." Wrong. The guy's thinking is just too skewed for my liking.
I'd be careful with his guy. Sounds like you're already being hurt after only two months. Man, that's not a good sign. As hard as it may be, if I were you, I'D start backing off from this guy and setting your sights elsewhere. You don't need this kind of grief. He's definitely acting like a jerk. Do you want to continue being with someone like that? Do you want your jealousy issues fueled all the time by having someone who is obviously not putting all of his energies into your relationship and then TRYING to make you jealous? You're worth more than that. And try really hard to work on remembering that you're worth more than that and that you DO deserve respect and someone who will pay attention to you and when he's unhappy deal with the situation between YOU and HIM and not throw up past relationships to try to make a point. Bad news, sweetie.
Good luck. Please, please work on your self esteem and becoming more secure about who YOU are and what you actually want in a relationship.
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