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Q: what do girls like? give me all the knowledge and i'll rate u really well!

you mean in a guy?
Well, girls like gentlemen, like whenever you're going into a class or building say"ladies first" with a slight bow and smile.
This is VERY rare, guys dont do that anymore, thats why girls like it, its charming and unpredictable.
Girls also like guys who make them blush, they like complements.
Some girls like funny and sarcastic guys, but some like sensitive ones. Personally,I like my guy nice, funny, not sarcastic, a gentleman, cool and somewhat sensitive. I dont like my guy to be so sensitive that he cries when he watches braveheart,lol.
Usually, girls are attracted to looks first, thats what starts everything! Boy hes hot! I wonder if he has a good personality... and BARABING BARABOOM! shes got a crush on that guy.
So make sure you look good before going out, if you think you need a makeover, get one! I helped my guyfriend get a makeover and hes getting married in a few months!
Anyway, girls like flowers, roses, etc.
Hope I helped!

Q: M/18. Me and my best friend talk on messenger all the time and we both have talked about how we have feelings for each other. Before we knew how we felt about each other, I could talk to her all day until my face turned blue. But now, I feel like I need to impress her since we will be starting something soon. So now whenever I am with her, it seems like I can't think of anything to say. It was so much easier when we were just best friends to get something out of my mouth. It's even getting more difficult on messenger. I don't know how to fix it. Somebody help me.

hey,
Well, first of all, I dont think you should try to impress her, she already LIKES you, right?
You shouldnt think of her as a girl you have feelings for, think of her as you brest friend, open up to her, dont think,just speak from your heart. I know its hard, the guy in my school only says "hi", kinda frustrating, so your girl must be frustrated too since you dont talk!
If you really want to impress her, girls like unpredictable guys, surprise her with a rose, a necklace, ring, anything! And use catch phrases, if its a rose "I just wanted to show this rose true beauty" for example
"Id buy you a drink, but Id be jealous of the glass".

Q: how do i make people laugh... how can i becomea comocal person?

this is a rather 'funny' question, no offense.
But its really not that hard to make people laugh. Just dont work your brain too much on it.
A joke just comes out of a persons mouth, without thinking. Just when the 1st thing you think is funny crosses your mind, say it.
There are different types of people:
- people who enjoy making jokes about people (criticism)
- people who just say jokes they read
- people who transform a daily life issue into something funny,like Seinfeld.
cant think of anything else
hope i helped, PPLZ RATE ME!

Q: today my friend was over at his grandmothers house which is only 5 houses down and after school we went for a walk with my dog. well he grabed my hand and pulled me or should i say dragged me and my dog into the woods. he slung me down on the ground he pulled his dick out and wus rubbing all up on me with it. he wanted me to give him a blow job but i didn't want to thats just nasty. so he was like forcing me too then i pushed him against a tree then he looked like he was about to slap the crap out of me i was so scared. i don't know what i should do i want to tell my mom but then she will never let me near him again but i don't want to be friends with him anymore and if i tell her shell like be all overpertected and she already is. so what do i do i'm so scared and confused.

sorry this is so long

no need to apologise, this is a serious problem...
1st of all, where the HELL was your dog when all of this happened? 2nd of all, I think you should tell your mom, but without giving a lot of details. But this guy is certainly someone you SHOULD NEVER be friends with. I suggest you stay away for him, maybe his next move will be raping you. Normally, you should press charges, this is sexual harrassment, people get arrested for that.
Still, tell your mom. Secrets are fatal, keeping something that serious away from your mom or parents is really hard. But I say, sue his ass.

Q: Okay I know its not for a while but me and my friend are going to dress up totally crazy for school. I need some cool ideas for my hair, makeup, and clothes! I dont really want to dye my hair green so idk what to do with it. Any ideas will be great!

If your hair is straight, do a frizzy&curly hairdo, thats totally crazy and punk style,lol.
You dont have to dye it permanently, you can use non-permanent colors, red is the craziest, sexiest & naughtiest. Or use one of these extensions you hook to your hair.
Now, the outfit, its hard to help you, because you didn't mention how crazy! But torn jeans are crazy, mini skirts, leather pants, boots! I love boots!
The makeup depends on your eyes and outfit.
wide eyes: dark colors
small eyes: bright color, dark in the corner
brown eyes: dont use dark colors
hazel,blue,green,gray: use dark colors.

Im really sorry i cant help with the outfit, it depends on the style you want:
-sexy: mini skirt, tight torso, wavy hair and red!
- punk: leather in the house! dark colors, crazy hairdo
- gangsta: baggy pants, sneakers, tight shirt, bir round earings, hat or cap, braids in your hair like Alicia keys ;)
- naughty: all tight! torso, pants, everything!

Hope i helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: hey!well this might be long but here it goes...Ive liked this guy for a year and a couple of months now...but ive never liked someone so much and im quite sure its love. i didnt really talk to him before but now we are good friends..and during thanksgiving 04...i kinda told him i liked him...over aim..i didnt want it to happen that way.. and its a long story but my friend kind of made me. anyhow..i thought i was gonna die..i was so sadd so weak so upset.. i couldnt stop crying.i evn thought of suicide at times..but not anymore. then ive noticed after that we have become even closer and i like that..but we have never talked about the whole thing about me liking him and whenever im about to mention it..i get scared. i dont know wat to do anymore though..because im always thining about him.. and i really do love him. hes usually very sweet to me but there are some days when he just kind of ignores me or he feels upset.i dont kno what to do..its like evrytime im near him theres this feeling i get..and i fall for him over and over. sometimes i even think he likes me but im not sure and i really need help.

believe me, Im already in your shoes! But I havent told him, just giving hints. You got guts gurl! And thats good, dont feel bad about yourself. Try and strike a conversation with him, when it starts to die "Umm..I got nothing to do, how about some coffee?" something like that. Definately not a movie, you cant watch+talk in the same time :p.
Hope i helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: There is a girl I know and she thinks of me as a brother or a friend more than a boyfriend. But she used to like me as a boyfriend, yet I didn't see it. I feel really attached to her now through some stuff we have done(no, probly not what youre thinking). Do you think she will go back how she was? I don't want to lose her to someone else. What can I do to get her to like me more?
M-15

ok, you said my previous answer wont help, I really dont know. You only see her twice a week, and what i said is not possible. I think that you cant make a person like you even more, personally, I think shes playing "im so over you".It took me a year to get over one guy, so is she over you already ?! this is the question you should be asking. I know you wish you could read her mind, but you cant... Dont think what others would do in this situation, think "what would I do?" . If you like her, ask her out and try to win her back.

Q: im 13/m...All of my friends say that i always flirt with this girl. she used to like me A LOT and then when i started going out with my g/f about 8 months ago, she like started yelling at me and we didnt talk. But now, we are friends again and we talk, but whenever we do, EVERYONE says that we flirt, nonstop. i try not to, but i just cant help it, i love my girlfriend and i mean that. what should i do pls help me......

PS.... how do you flirt? i barely know what that means

I think you should make up your mind, who do you like more? That girl or your gf?
Heres what makes other people think 2 people are flirting:
- eye contact
- teasing
- winking
- whispering
- complementing
- smiling flirtatiously
- fooling around in general.

I hope this helps, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: Ok, theres this guy that went to my church last night and he was SOO cute and really funny! and his eyes are VERY pretty, they arent blue or green they are brown but SOO pretty! lol anyway, we have a youth group place and we went to the worship place and its where we like stand up, then sit down and then stand up ya know and when i looked at him he was staring at me! im only 13 and i guess i should know what that means but i dont! haha everytime i looked he was staring at me! and when he first did it, he like jerked his eyes away quick and i did the same but later on we would take like 2 seconds glances, like i dunno! what does that mean? does he like em or jsut think im cute! please i need advice before i make myself look stupid! haha

Well, this happened to me before, it looks like he thinks you're cute. This is usually how everything starts ;). Anyway, I think you should try and talk to him, he wasnt staring for no reason! I really think he likes you, so next time you see him, try to strike a converstion.

Hope I helped. RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: ok well, i swear im in love with this kid on my brothers basketball team, and he's really cute, sweet, athletic, and hes so cool. and he twisted his ankle, and i felt reallybad about it so i was talking to him about it and we kissed somehow and nowh he's all i can think about and i dont want my brother to know, because he's already mad at me because i became best friends with one of his best friends.

I think that if this guy is really interested in you, he should ask your brother's permission to go out with you. If you go out with that guy, he should be happy for you, because he wont be friends with a guy who has a bad rep. He's one of his friends, so he should realise he'll treat his sis good. Your bro is just afraid it would be kinda awkward for him later, siblings never want to have the same friends, I dont know why.

Hope I helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: Well I've been going out with this guy for a month and we hardly ever talk but all we have done is hugged! Is that really bad or what?

hi there,
Maybe you're boyfriend isnt ready for whatever you're expecting. Give him some time, maybe he's just too afraid to kiss you or whatever. Let him know you want him to kiss you! Flirt flirt flirt!

Q: when ever i have a boyfriend they always think im cheating on them because i flirt so much but thats just what i do and i dont know how to not flirt as much

Hun, I think its pretty normal to flirt, but to flirt with someone you're not interested in is bad. You have a bf, in order to stop flirting with other guys, think about how crushed and upset he would be if he found out you were flirting with other guys.

F: Flirting is for FUN, so enjoy it!
L: Always LISTEN to the person you're INTERESTED in
I: INTEREST, only flirt with someone you're interested in!
R: Responsibility, dont just flirt with any guy
T: When you flirt with someone, it means you TRUST them
S: SMILE!

Hope i helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: How do you become confident

Well, Im a pretty confident person, but it would be hard to teach a person how to become confident. Its more like an instinct:
1- POSITIVE THINKING! => When you do something, you always have to be positive. Dont always think you're going to screw up, that is so not confident.
2- In class, most people are scared their answers are wrong. When the teacher asks a question, just answer it! Its not like a person' life depends on it.
3- Wear confident clothes: I know it sounds weird, but you have to wear outfits that show you are confident.I know they say "you are what you eat". But I think its "you are what you were".
If you're a guy, wear a suit. If you're a girl, wear anything elegant and trendy, not ragged and baggy clothes.
4- Walk the walk: If you want people to look at you and say you're confident, you have to walk confident! Walk shoulders straight, and chin up.

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Sarah

Q: i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared

you saying you went out with him even though he had a bad rep? Ah well, we all make mistakes...anyway, if you really think hes dangerous, I think you should get other witnesses and report him to the police. If you dont want to do that, try talking to him, although I dont think it would solve anything. But trying wont hurt.
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Q: [13/f] everyone at my school sees me as a shy person who always follows the rules and everything and thats not at all how i am! i got detention today and this kid saw me in the office [iv'e had detentions before, but i dont brag about it to look "cool" like all the other kids] and he was like "whoa! YOUR in DETENTION??" I feel like everyone knows me for someone i'm not and it's really starting to bug me. i'm not at all how anyone sees me, not even my own friends.. does anyone know how to like idk, show everyone "who i really am"? i know that sounds gay but i don't know how else to say it

Well, it looks like you are in a tough situation. I think you need to do something you're not what they think you are, do something crazy but that wont get you in detention, we all like to keep our records clean.
But personally, im a person who follows the rules, and would love to add some spice to my academic year. I was planning to get out of school without permission before the bell but I hesitated. So before you do anything, make sure you can face the consequences.

Q: THere is this guy and i really like him and hes in one of my classes and my friend asked him if he likes me and he said he doesnt like any one right now and i really wanna get closer to him like talk to him more and get him to like me so how do i do that?
I rate 5's

I really dont think you can get someone to like you. People have a crush on others from the first time they see them or they develop it. You could talk to him of course, it wouldn't hurt, he might actually like your personality and all.

Q: Recently this boy has been walking me to class with his arms around me. Everyone is starting to think that we go ouy but we don't. I tell him I don't want his hand around me but he still does it. But the bad thing it thatwhen I am not around he makes fun of me and calls me bad words. See if I tell someone about this they may think I am unpopular or whatever and I can't afford that to happen. So what should I do.

Just make a scene if he wont back off! Make sure your guyfriends are around you just in case. He'll be embarassed in front of the whole school, and hes gonna be scared of your guy friends, and he'll run with his tail between his legs.
Let him call you whatever he wants, you know deep inside that its not true.

Q: Okay, my friend...Let's call her Jill, is really in love with this guy...Let's call him Jack. She's liked him since 6th grade. Well, Jill is one of my best friends and Jack, he's in my 2nd period and hes been flirting with me alot the past few months, and i'm sorry to say I've flirted back.
Well, this morning, he gave me a note and explained to me that he liked me. And then I heard him talking to his friend about me.

I really like this guy and I want to go out with him but I still want to be friends with Jill.

-I know that I should talk to her about it, and everyones telling me that if she's a good friend she'll support Jack and I's relationship, but i know deep down that there will be some sort of awkwardness around Jill.

So the question here is: How can I have a relationship with Jack, without ruining my friendship with Jill?

well, "everyone" are correct, but dont listen to everyone, listen to your heart. Would Jill prefer if you hid it from her or would she want you to tell her ,instead of letting her dream about a guy she can never ghave?
I think friendship is more important than some guy, there will be other guys. But if you tell Jill, and shes totally ok with it, then go for it.

Q: My friend has gone crazy! We used to be really close. Then, we got in a fight because she thought I was "copying" her (whatever that means" but about a month later, she called to apologize to me and said that "she was stupid" and blah blah blah. Whatever. Well, a month after that, (a couple weeks ago) we were talking on te internet (MSN messanger) and I said, "I have to go because my mom is taking me to KOHL's because they have a sale and I need another pair of pants." She got mad because SHE shops there and now, she thinks I'm copying her. I want to be her friend but what's a friend if you can't trust her? There's no point for friendship if it is going to work out that way! I need to know if I should just apologize for something that is totally stupid and pointless, or wait for her to calm down and call me so she can realize how dumb she's been? I have no earthly idea what has gotten into her. Like, we used to go shopping together for matching clothes and shoes but I never thought it bothered her. It never bothered me when she did something exactly like me! And yes, she has done many things like me just to be like me. We called each other all these REALLY mean names but I don't want to be her friend if I can't even go to the same store as her! By the way, she informed me about that store and it was on T.V but their clothes are really expensive but they are so adorable. By the way, I'm 13 years old and I rate 5's to whoever on this earth can help me! What should I do???

Tell her you're not copying her, what makes her think you're copying her? Im starting to get pissed here, but I'll control my temper...
SHE IS NO PARIS HILTON! Why the hell would you copy her for? Just ask her why she thinks youre copying her. I understand that she wants her own style and doesnt like it when people copy her, but shes really passing the line. When she accuses you again, stop talking to her, dont go sucking up to her because you wanna be a good friend. You gotta have an attitude! Be strong! No more Miss nice gurlie! Its a doggy dog world out there, not everyone is as nice as you are.

Q: I rate high....

Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him.

Well, you said you were going as friends, so why not let more friends join you? I think she'll be more convinced that way. If she says no, tell her its 2005, not 1950s-60s-70s :p. Seriously!
"I didnt start dating until I was 17" isnt an answer, ask her why! It doesnt make any sense!

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