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Q: This year as a junior I have snowball ( seniors and juniors only ) and prom. I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months now and last year for ring dance when he was at work I went to his car and put on the back in car marker.. " will you go to ring dance with me?" but this year I have no idea .. I like being creative instead of simply just asking the person.. so does anyone have an ideas.. or stories on how you asked someone in a creative way?! Thanks soo much!!!

if it's cold, you could do a REAL snowball for the snowball dance. Get that crushed ice, like for a cno-cone, and hide a note inside. Be sure to use something that won't melt inside the ice. show up after work or a practice with a "treat" for him... and when he finds it... voila!!

Q: http://www.fuzzypc.com/Gay_Test.php

Can Anyone Explain This To Me? I Don't Get It!!!

I think what it's saying is that men like things complicated. If the first picture(simpler) appeals to you, that means you're probably a woman, or gay. ;)

Q: on myspace i can't read the bulletins.
i can only read the first page!

when i click the 2nd page or further it says it's done and already loaded and i keep clicking and clicking and it won't go to it

why is it doing this? and what can i do to fix it

thanks

Your links must be messed up. Sometimes myspace misses links. Send a request to Tom to fix it. :)

Q: Ok so i really really want to be home school right now i want to take a year or two and jsut do home school so i have more tiem to do other things during the day to exercise more to actualy eat breakfast and what not you know get my head together and start a routine of working out every day and stuff but my parents wont give me a chance they wont listen to me and seriously i think this would be really good for me you know i think i really need this cause i am soo unhappy right now what should i do ?

You want to homeschool so you can work out more? No wonder they don't want to let you.
Homeschooling is a huge task to take upon yourself. Most people don't get this, but in order to be homeschooled, unless your parent is a certified teacher(in which it is called Private Tutoring) you MUST take a test in all the subjects you've taken at the end of the year. If you don't pass, you can be legally forced to attend school. Your parents are supposed to be your teachers, and that takes a huge amount of time.
Take it from me, homeschooling will not help you work out and have more time. You won't get up at the same time, and you'll stay up later. You'll still spend time with friends, and because you don't have deadlines, you'll spend more time slacking, messing around.
Unless your parents are extremely committed to keeping your schedule, you won't keep it. Trust me.
Now, if you're having PROBLEMS in school that's an entirely different story. You need to be HONEST with them, not tell them this stuff about wanting to work out more. Because truth be told? That's a really immature reason to be homeschooled, and to homeschool yourself you have to be very disciplined.
How do I know?
I was homeschooled for seven years, and I taught myself for four and a half of them.

Q: Okay so i want to ask this girl to winter formal, i went to prom with her last year, and my best friend, who happens to be her best friend says that she would definitely say yes if i asked her, but i dont know how i want to ask her, i mean i want to do something special, but i cant think of any ideas, last year for example, when i asked her to prom i left a bunch of roses in her mailbox, and they said to look out her window, and i asked her then, but what should i do to now, i need help.
if it helps im a junior... thanks

If you remember exactly the type of roses you left last year, you could do the exact same thing, putting the roses in the mailbox, with a note telling her to look out her window, but when she looks out you're not there. Suddenly, there are hands over her eyes, and you ask "Will you come with me to the winter formal?". It'll trigger her memories of prom, and all the romantic and sweet feelings then, as well as the element of suprise.
Another option would be to leave flowers in her locker, or on the front of her locker, anonomously, one for each word of "Be my date for Winter Formal" or a similar statement, finally showing up with the same type of flower at her locker. This works well if you time it out to last five days, with you showing up on a Friday. I don't really know why, but it everything's better on a Friday. :)

Q: I hope you're a girl....
I am 13 and I got my period first time this year and but last month, I had unusual period, I didn't bleed as much. And it is now a month + 20 days later, and I haven't had my period yet. Is this normal, or did I lose my period or something? Does this have to do with my rapid weight loss (I lost 45 pounds in 3 monthes).???

Yes, I'm a girl. LOL.
Its completely possible. Losing weight that quickly is not really a good idea, but if you're doing it safely its alright.
I'm sure you know this, but your period is your body cleaning up after it prepares for a baby(even though there wasn't one). When you lose a lot of weight, it thinks that you must be sick or hungry. Your body's pretty smart, so when this happens, it won't ovulate(release an egg to be fertilized). Thats also why people say you won't get your period until you reach 100 lbs. Your body won't let itself get pregnant if it thinks you can't carry the baby to term. :) Hope I helped!!! Rose

Q: Self injury-ic
i need help, anyone willing to give advice on cutting?

Advice on continuing to cut?
Or advice on quitting??
Inbox me or add info, and I'll give you an answer. As a recovering cutter I know about it, but you need to tell me what you want to know.

Q: I usually eat chocolate when i get them but this time I bought some for a present.

The last time I bought soem and didn't have time to eat them, they melted.

Any tips to keep them unmelted for a week and good by 2nd period?

Would sticking them in the fridge be a good idea?

Yes. However, don't try fixing it like that. It makes the chocolate taste funny. When it comes out of the fridge, put it into a thermos, or an insulated container with a ice pack thing. Better safe than sorry.

Q: I want to make my own little iPod holder. Like the first (leopard fur one) one at http://search.freepeople.com/?q=ipod How could I make that one? Like with what materials and stuff. My mom said I could make one like it, but I have no idea! It looks fairly simple, but I still don't know.

The difficulty with that style is the woven part. Unless you can weave(and I doubt it, very few people do nowadays)cloth, its difficult to find ANYTHING similar. However, if you substituted a nice ribbon, its very easy.
Materials-
>1/4 yd piece of faux fur. You can purchase different prints. Keep in mind that the thicker the fur is, the more difficult it will be to work with and the harder to handle. You could just go with leopard print fabric(cotton is the simplest fabric to work with) but it won't have the style of faux fur. Another option would be to use a shimmery fabric, like a satin or silk, in leopard print, but these too, are difficult to work with.
>1 yd. ribbon(any color will work) or, 1/4 yd fabric.
>scissors
>needle(you need a longer one, with strength, but low weight. I suggest a quilter's between)
>thimble, unless you frequently sew. Your fingers will thank you.
>tape measure
>1/4 yd. differently patterned ribbon
>I'm not sure what that hook is called, because I've never used that style, but ask at a craft store for clasps, and they should have a nice selection.

METHOD:
1) Measure your iPod
2) Cut from the faux fur a piece of the faux fur that is the width all the way around plus one inch, and the height plus 1/2 an inch if you plan on leaving it unhemmed, 1 inch if you want to hem it.
3) Sew the bottom edge and the sides together INSIDE OUT to form a pocket. As you sew the side together, around 1 inch from the top, slide in the edges of the ribbon, and sew them into the seam. I'm not really sure how to describe this, but if you look at the picture you described, how they're tucked inside, you want it to look like that, and it needs to be done in the origional sewing.
4) Lightly baste stitch the edges of the ribbon around the pouch.
5) Sew the second type of ribbon through the clasp's fastenings.
6) Cut a hole the same width as r2(ribbon two) into the space below r1, and slide the end of the ribbon through. Sew it down INSIDE the pouch.
7) Repeat above r1 on the opposite side, with the ribbons pulled tight enough to clasp shut, but loose enough so as not to tear. Do this part with the iPod inside for measuring purposes.
:)
Hope this helped!!!
Rose

Q: black highlights at the front and side maybe would look good with dark brown hair?!

just wondering,thanks.

don't do highlights just in the front or back. it looks funny. either do them all around, or don't do them at all. :)

Q: My mom gives me mixed messages on things I buy. She will tell me she doesn’t care how much or what I buy but sometimes when we go to a store and I am going to buy she says you don’t need it or it is ugly so I wont buy it: (But the jewelry I do buy which is a lot my mom admires and tells me it is beautiful.) Here are examples:

(1) This past summer We were at a crafts fair and I was looking at rings and I had a few in my hand and she said "how many are u going to buy" later on she said she did not care what or how much I brought. She told me that the only reason she did not want me to buy the rings was because they were ugly. (They were ugly and that was why I put them back and did not buy the rings) ((THIS INCIDENT HAPPENED OVER THE SUMMER))
(2) When I went to a 99 cent store with her I wanted to see about purses (some stores sell beautiful purses for $1.69 - parachute material similar to LeSportac). I have a lot of purses at that price to. As I was taking the colors I wanted she grabbed them out of my hand. Later on she said that the reason why she grabbed them out of my hand and said I don't need more was because she wanted to leave the store. (THIS HAPPENED A YEAR AGO)
(3)TODAY: My mom and I went to National Wholesale Liquidators to buy a few jars of coffee. On the way out I saw something that looked like a bracelet so as I went to look at it and my mom said it was ugly. This got me mad so we had a huge fight. I said to her I thought you do not care what or how much I buy and she said I don’t but you don’t have to be compulsive. That is when I said to her but I get compulsive when I go to the 99 cent store and she replied that is different - that is a place that supplies jewelry. I said to her “but would you grab the jewelry out of my hand at the 99 cent store” and she said “you just brought a necklace today at the 99 cent store when I was at the bank and I didn’t say anything but at the same time I don’t go to the other 99 cent stores with you.”. At home at dinnertime she said to me she wants me to save money to pay rent in my own apartment and last week when she and I went to a department store I didn’t have to buy 3 pairs of pants in three different colors one would have been enough.

My question is what do you think of the messages she gives me and should I write her a letter explaining how I feel which is if she did go to the 99 cent stores with me and she saw me buying 30 dollars of jewelry she would grab the jewelry out of my hands even though she swears up and down she does not care how much or what I buy she just wants me to pay rent.

Writing a letter isn't smart because it will desensitize you. You won't be thinking about how she'll feel.
Instead, pick a time(not when either of you is stressed or upset) and talk to her calmly, saying something like "Mom? I'm not sure what you think about my spending money. Sometimes you make me feel very responsible about purchases, and tell me that you're not concerned, but some days I feel like you're upset with me. Do you think that I shop responsibly or not?"
Pose it as a question, not an accusation. :)

Q: okay well im always losing my things, the other day i dropped my cell but i got it back, i leave things in my classes, big things like books!!!i left my bag of gym clothes in a class too and i dont remember until i leave the place. so tonight, halloween i went trick or treating and i was taking pictures and i went to go take more when someone fell in the leaves a while later and i couldnt find my camera. my mom picked me up later and i was still looking for it so we went back to where we stopped to sit.not there.drove by the place i last remember using it. not in the yard. not only am i like crying over my camera, im sick of losing and forgetting my things in school and here at home, just wherever i go. i dont have times for like check lists cause like tonight i must have dropped it or something. ah i need help

For smallish things, like cameras, get a carabiner and clip it on. You can do this with a cell too. Its so much easier than worrying about pockets. For bigger things, like bags, make sure you'll bump them. Like, gym bag, twist the strap around your foot under your desk. :)

Q: ok im turning 16 in may. and i want to start planning. or at least get some ideas for a party. like what me and my friends can do. im inviting like 13 people. no drinking, no drugs. and at my house. maybe a bomfire. is that stupid considering its in may??

Nope. Bonfires are always fun. So are races(stupid ones), water type fights(balloons or guns) music(be your own DJ) and dressing up(costumes!! ;)

Q: I can't read the notes! I've really tried. Are there people who just can't read notes or something? I've looked at websites online, asked my teacher, everything. I've been playing piano for like a month, but only by memory or writing down the number of what finger to play. How long does it usually take for someone to read notes? Do you have a really easy way? I can't even read them with the whole acronym thing. I feel so stupid!

Don't. I had the same problem for the longest time. My cure was that a friend of mine stole some staff paper from our music teacher, and wrote me secret notes in the music codes. For the letters that weren't there, she just wrote them over the lines, like guitar chords. You learn them, just like a code, and if you keep at it, it gets WAY easier. I promise!

Q: My names Emily, and me and my friend, Katie are worried about my friend Lila. Shes been hanging out with this girl named Grace, who isnt a good influence and has bad reputation for doing things with guys that she deffinatly shouldnt be doing at our age.
She's becoming a bad influence on Lila. Lila's been going way too far with her boyfriend lately....and sending pictures to random guys. Theres even a video going around about Lila doing some things that she shouldnt be doing. She's starting to get a bad reputation. I dont want her to have a bad reputation, and also her reputation is starting to rub off on me. And everyone at the highschool knows her for her pictures and videos. Since we are starting highschool next year, i dont want to have a bad reputation because i hang out with her. Shes still my best friend though and i dont know what to do. Please help! Please e-mail me back as soon as possible. Thanks so much.

Take Lila aside and tell her straight up- what she's doing is NOT okay. Tell her that you love her a lot, and you don't want people getting the wrong idea of her. If she keeps doing what she's doing, tell her that you can't come to her defense if she's not coming to her own. Remind her that she could get icky diseases, or even get pregnant. Then give her a hug, and tell her you love her. Let her make her own choices, even if you don't agree.

Q: okay, well my english teacher gave my class a project to do, they said that we needed to create a "mobile".

she said we need:
seven items--these can be drawn constructed or bought
- these figures need to give the viewer a fair representation of the entire novel that you have read.
-figures must depict certain elements of literature...title, theme, plot, character, setting symbolism, etc.

but the main thing is she said

use a hanger or other material that will be sturdy and hold the weight of the items hanging from the mobile, we will hang them from the ceiling.

is there anything else you can use besides a hanger? because, i can't come up with anything to use to hang stuff from, and would be sturdy enough, tell me please?
but if there was a hanger... how exactly am i supposed to use it like? metal wire or plastic? O.o

The reason a hanger works is because you can shape it... the idea is a heavy wire. Other things that work are a strip of one of those 5 lb. cans[coffee can] thats still a circle, the really sturdy corregated cardboard[the kind that they make big stuff out of], a picture frame with the glass taken out or even a shoebox. I know a friend who made one out of hemp, following the directions to weave a bracelet, making 3-1yd. pieces, braiding them, and twisting it in a circle... this works with twine as well. Depending on the weight, you could use multiple plastic cups, cut into thinner circles and bound.
The easiest way however, is the hanger. there are two ways to go about this. you can simply a) hang the items on the flat end by string, or b) pull the straight edge of a [metal] hanger, and make a diamond. take two pieces of string, and make an X. hang it by the X.

Q: alright, if i take a shower and put mousse or gel in it and try to make it wavy, it never turns out how i like it. but after i go swimming and put some mousse or gel in it, i LOVE the way it looks. it looks SOO much better when it dries. why? how can i make it like this without having to go swimming?

Chlorine is the chemical that makes your hair like this.
If you want the same effect, you need that chemical.
If a friend has a pool, ask if you can have some of the water, and put it in a spray bottle. Spray it on your hair after you shower, and apply the mousse. ;)

Q: Hey, So I have Long Dark Brown hair an its curly like naturally an I was wanting to try something new. School is starting in a few weeks and I need a new style and maybe even a new color but I dont want any blonde like my friend told me a lighter shade of brown would look cute streeked into my hair. So yeah I was wondring is their any like type of treatment I can get done to my hair where it can cause it to be not as thick because my hair is extremly thick and I heard about an relaxer or something idk I dont wanna do it unless I have known someone thats done it before or can have some answers to what it will do like I dont wanna end up getting something to cause it to be not as thick then lose all my curls because um my mom would definetly kill me an I get payed tommorow an I rather do it without telling her an it look good rather then doing it an it looking terrible. So I need some CUTE hairstyles with how to do it steps, An different like stuff to use in thick hair or if an hair professional can do a treatment so it wont be as thick.

-Thank you so much-

:)

I know a friend of mine gets hers "thinned" with a razor cut... Its weird, but its like, where you can't see it, its cut differently.
Hairstylewise-
Leia buns-
part hair down the middle, then make two ponytails. you can braid them, or leave them unbraided, but make two buns on the side of your head. the higher they are, the more "preppy high style" they look. [Buns of any kind can be made by twisting the hair in the same direction around a ponytail]
Twisted Back-
make a low ponytail in back, then twist in one direction until the hair is tight, then clip to your head with a banana clip, or a claw clip.

Can you tell me a little more about your personal style? Its hard to reccommend styles for a stranger. :/

Q: Is it wrong to date online?
and know that you'll never see that person
and still go out with them?

its not wrong, but it IS dangerous. Okay, I know, if you're an adult and everything, its supposed to be okay, but I've tried the online dating thing SO MANY DANG TIMES, and they have all turned out to be really upsetting/weird/downright SCARY. I had one threaten to kill me, and the other straight out type my address he'd found online and say he was going to rape me. Its not safe, no matter what anyone tells you.
Be very careful.
However, a very close friend of mine has an online/telephone boyfriend whom she has no intentions of meeting, and she's doing just grand, so be careful, but have fun!

Q: hey
i have a bunch of cuts and stuff on my legs and arms. and some scars. and i want to get rid of them so when i go to the beach my legs and stuff look smooth or w.e. anything i can do to get rid of them. there not horrable but there not good.
thanks

I have the same problem...
A friend of mine had horrible scars on her wrists, and she put on Miderma[sp?], and they were nearly gone, to the point where she started wearing short sleeves, where she'd always had to hide them before.
As for fresh cuts, to help them heal quickly, don't pick at them at all, leave them uncovered, but clean gently with a little low alchohol solution daily. I use Claire's earring solution, and it helps a lot.
Hope this helps~!
Rose

bio

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose