Let's see, about me - I'm an educated (but lowly-degreed) 20-something woman living in South Florida. I am highly familiar with music, youth subcultures, and women's issues. I'm slightly familiar with American history, Electronics, Judaism, and India. I'm vaguely familar with...well...everything else. I love good food and drink, but indulge in it infrequently. Oh, and I'm Black (partial Jamaican heritage) for what it's worth. But most importantly, I'm pretty open-minded...so ask away!
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ok heres my quesion .......i get good grades in school i look somewhat good......and i have a great voice....but i feel like i need to be somewht popularr.....and plez dont answer " who cares wht other people think" wht do i do? (link)
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Keep a good attitude and be friendly. That is really the key to being popular (and not so much looks, and/or material things you may have).
You didn't mention if you were in high school or college. Being 'popular' is a bit more easy to pull off (such was the case with me). I think it's because everyone is going in starting from square one; plus you have the freedom to go places and do things without parental rules holding you down. I was never popular in high school but had tons of people who knew me in college; to me it was worth the wait.
So just keep smiling and watch the people gravitate to you!
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what do i do if i by all the clothing i think is really cool...but when i were 'em at school they dont look so cool..... (link)
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By some different accessories...it can change an outfit's entire look. Also, try to by pieces that you can mix and match with each other. It literally doubles the size of your wardrobe.
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Why aren't you married yet? (link)
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Well, I've never had a boyfriend where we were anywhere near being THAT serious.
I would love to get married one day, but in this day and age, I don't think that people view marriage as the necesity that it once was (like women didn't leave their parents house; until they got married). Dare I say that marriage is no longer that 'sacred' instituion in people's minds either.
A marriage consists of compromise and responsibility for another; notions that the present 'me' generation doesn't take to too well. This is probably why the divorce rate is so high.
If I were to get married anytime soon, the guy would have to be pretty darn stable financially, as I am poor, poor, poor and really wouldn't be able to contribute financially to the maintainance of a household.
And last but not least, I'm not married because no one ever asked me to marry them!
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Lately I developed a liking towards a guy friend in my dorm. Every time it was just the two of us together, or just the two of us and perhaps one other close friend, he would act very solicitous towards me--he would do small things such as put his arm around my shoulder, hold my books for me, etc. I have also had many wonderful conversations with him in his room and elsewhere. So I was hopeful until this week, when I found out that he has asked another girl to a date event and has feelings towards her. Now I wonder if he felt something towards me but was discouraged by my inaptitude in flirting--I have difficulty playing that whole game of hinting and whatnot. It's a foreign language to me. (link)
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Hold steadfast onto your friendship; but also understand that the situation may feel awkward especially if this other girl turns out to be something serious. I feel strange giving advise on this as I went through something similar not to long ago...but I like to keep in mind that there are many, many fish in the sea. You may have lost your opportunity with him, but so what? Work on those flirting skills so the next hottie won't get away.
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I am debating putting in a new exhaust into my car. I picked up a moderate 50$ exhaust from a local garage. They said they were giving me a decent deal on it. I'm hoping that this new exhaust will give me a lot more power and speed. If it doesnt, what can I try to make my car faster?
I own an '89 GMC S-10. Help. (link)
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$50 seems very, very, VERY cheap for an 'exhaust'. True I'm thinking of the whole system (from the catalytic converter back). Perhaps he's just offering the muffler or pipe???
Upgrading the exhaust gives MINIMAL increases in horsepower and speed...if any. The myth among street racers is that backpressure that builds up in the 10ft or so of piping hinders acceleration and speed. This really isn't true, and their are a ton of other things you can modify before tackling the exhaust in order to make your ride quicker; such as reducing drag (you have a pick-up, it's going to need to get lower), and reducing the curb weight.
The exhaust mod is manly a comestic modification. Or should I say 'audible' modification.
Like my fellow advicenator, I suggest Flowmaster exhaust systems. Pacesetter's are also supposed to be pretty good (and they are cheaper)...but they also have a tendency to not be as durable as Flowmasters as they are not totally rustproof.
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I've worn makeup for years, and I have gotten so used to seeing myself with it that I hate the way I look without it. But, I am sick of not really looking like my natural self, since everyone knows me with my face made-up. I don't know how to stop really wearing makeup, without being unhappy with how I look without it. Any ideas???? (link)
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Well you could stop cold turkey. The shock of your family and friends will wear off in like a weak, and it might even change into admiration.
Or you could just tone it down. I myself don't wear makeup...but when I go out, I do use some stuff...like:
Colored lip-glosses
Shimmery lotions
Chrome colored nailpolish on fingers and toes
Eyeshadows that compliment not color
Grey and not black colored eyeliner
Believe it or not, I find a lot of 'toned down' makeup in the kid/preteen section (if that makes any sense). Like Bonnie Blue 'lipsticks' are never too extreme.
Kudos to you for seeing how sucky makeup really is though!
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I have been talking with this guy online for over a year now. He only lives about an hour away but neither of us have met people from online so we've never met in person before. My parents are having a bonfire the weekend before Halloween and I've invited him. He's accepted the ivite but I've also arranged to meet him this weekend. I'm really nervous about it. We're really good friends right now and I guess I'm just worried that meeting in person will ruin that. The question I have is should I be worried? (link)
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I don't think you should be worried; you've been talking for more than a year. Now if you had only known him for a week...or even a month, I would raise some concern. If anything, the personal meeting will make your friendship better.
But if you're hoping for romance, that's a different story.
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ok, first i need to tell u this whole story
last year i met him, and we were distant friends, i guess if thats what u wanna call it, now, this year, we are like, brother sister close. except, i dont want to be. i want to be more. i told him this....but on the same day that 3 other girls told him about their love for him too!. He told me that he doesn't want to choose between all of us because he knows that somebody will get hurt. Also, he had liked this same girl for a while. even if he didnt like her, i would still be callin her a biotch. i dont see why he likes her, she is a serious bitch and rude to everybody...you have no clue. she is goin out with somebody right now tho.anyways. i want him to be happy. thats why im not going to try to make him ask me out, because i want him to be happy. it hurts to see him everyday and be so close to him, when i know it cant be anything more. i know that he doesnt love me in that way. i need to get over this, but i dont know how.
help!?!? (link)
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From my experience:
The best way to get over someone is to find someone else. Seriously. Start checking out some of the other guys around. In this case, you are actually lucky, because no matter what, you can still remain friends (believe me, with men you have dated or been involved with...it's not so easy).
But most of all, don't waste your romantic daydreams on someone who won't return them. You deserve better. And don't underestimate his feelings for you as a friend. Often time, those count for more than the romantic feelings. Good luck, and I hope everything works out!
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I'm eating too much unhealthy junk food. What are some healthy snacks I can eat instead of chips and sodas? (link)
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Flavored rice cakes
Apple chips (usually in the fruit section of the grocery store)
Bottled water (usually an option at soda machines)
String cheese
A salad with a fancy dressing like rasberry sauce or a tangy red wine vinegrette.
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there is this guy who just asked me to homecoming. i dont really like him so i said that i would think about it, and fortunately for me a guy i like asked me and i said yes, now i dont know how to tell him that i am going with someone else because he was really expecting to go with me. how should i tell him i am going with someone else?b (link)
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Give him the news quickly but nicely. Get right to the point, but then explain that you have other plans. If you are really concerned about his feelings, you could really step out on the limb and try to hook him up with someone else. If he will allow you to do so.
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What's this obsession we have with being hairless? Why do we thing that bare skin is so appealing? If we look at any animal, they just look disgusting without hair. Imagine shaving a cat.
What's wrong with hair, anyway? Is it just our preoccupation with youth that we shave the parts of our body that grow hair after puberty, in an effort to look pre-pubescent?
Sorry, just a rant. I guess if I want advice, it's this: How can I make people feel more comfortable about my hairy state? (link)
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Well ultimately, as long as you are comfortable...that is all that matters.
But as far as the issue with body hair, and why it's not exactly loved; well I think it's a hygiene issue. Not that hairy people aren't clean - but me myself, since moving to Miami, I sure make sure to keep myself nice and shaved. You seem to break into 'spontaneous' sweats and it's a fact that the bacteria that is secreted out with sweat sticks to body hair and creates an odor when the air hits it. Whoo-loa! You have good old fashioned B.O.
But getting back to the answer that you're looking for, humans are strange things...they can be decieved easily. If you act like your hairy state is the best thing since sliced bread, than they will think the same. I betcha.
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If toast always lands butter-side down, and cats always land on their feet, what happens if you strap toast to a cat and drop it? My first friend said that the cat would eat the toast. My 2nd friend wanted to know what kind of toast: rye, or sourdough, and when I said it was regular white bread, she bit me. I said that the cat and toast would be sucked into a rift in the space-time continuum and the world would end. Who is right? (link)
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I agree with the second friend...the type of bread will matter.
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These are some of the singers I like:
Simon & Garfunkel
Indigo Girls
Christine Kane
Paul Simon
James Taylor
They Might Be Giants
Dar Williams
Woody Guthrie
Natalie Merchant
Other CDs I own include Edith Piaf, The Canadian Brass Ensemble, The Charlie Daniels Band, Enya, Counting Crows, and soundtracks for Fiddler on the Roof, Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat and Sister Act.
What other artists/bands might you suggest that I might like? (link)
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You also might be into Tori Amos.
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I so want to travel to atypical countries for vacation. I'd rather go to India than France or England, Africa than Cancun, Cambodia than Japan, the Philipines than Australia.
Any suggestions? Where would a good place to go be? What might I need to be aware of before I go to such places? (link)
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May I suggest Trinidad & Tobago if you want an atypical Caribbean destination.
I myself have not traveled that much. But it's always a good idea to talk to either someone who has lived there and/or been there before. Also, traveling with someone else or in a (small) group makes a good time even better. As long as you choose your company wisely.
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