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ummm complicated?
ok, first i need to tell u this whole story
last year i met him, and we were distant friends, i guess if thats what u wanna call it, now, this year, we are like, brother sister close. except, i dont want to be. i want to be more. i told him this....but on the same day that 3 other girls told him about their love for him too!. He told me that he doesn't want to choose between all of us because he knows that somebody will get hurt. Also, he had liked this same girl for a while. even if he didnt like her, i would still be callin her a biotch. i dont see why he likes her, she is a serious bitch and rude to everybody...you have no clue. she is goin out with somebody right now tho.anyways. i want him to be happy. thats why im not going to try to make him ask me out, because i want him to be happy. it hurts to see him everyday and be so close to him, when i know it cant be anything more. i know that he doesnt love me in that way. i need to get over this, but i dont know how.
help!?!?
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just stay his friend. be there for him, but don't try to change his mind. it's better to be friends first, anyway, and he might change his mind.
oh yeah - DON'T avoid him to get your mind off him - this often makes you think about him more. spend heaps of time with him, and either you'll realise you just want to be friends, or he'll change his mind and decide he loves you. good luck!!
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From my experience:
The best way to get over someone is to find someone else. Seriously. Start checking out some of the other guys around. In this case, you are actually lucky, because no matter what, you can still remain friends (believe me, with men you have dated or been involved with...it's not so easy).
But most of all, don't waste your romantic daydreams on someone who won't return them. You deserve better. And don't underestimate his feelings for you as a friend. Often time, those count for more than the romantic feelings. Good luck, and I hope everything works out!
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Find something to occupy your time that has nothing to do with him. Try putting some distance between the two of you. You are worth being with someone who wants to be with you and you only, no matter how many other girls confess their love for him.
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If the girl is seeing someone else, you should tell him, even if you don't want to hurt him. By not telling him this you could be hurting him. You can't force yourself to get over it. Just wait, and eventually you'll find someone new, or maybe you'll decide boys aren't worth it.
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Yikes, having a crush on a good friend who is interested in someone else bites. First, make sure that you think that girl is a bitch because of her personality and not because your friend has a crush on her. If she really is a bitch, warn your friend ahead of time. Tell him all the reason you think she is and why you don't like her. But don't pressure him into not going out with her. Just state your reasons and let him decide on his own. And as for the 'getting over friend-crush', take some time off away from him. Let him get out of your mind, and just do stuff you can get really into. Get over him slowly, so time can mend your heart more carefully.
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