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Q: He loves me but he needs space. I don't know how to do that. I seriously can't stop...it is like an addiction. I love him so much and can't just stop talking to him. I am so worried that I am going to screw this whole relationship up if I don't stop!!!
Help me stop!!

its hard like with any addiction what you need to do is try to find something to get your mind off of him possibly spending time with your friends because i bet they've been feeling neglected due to your boyfriend. It is good that you recongize that this can potientially mess up a relationship (keep that in mind) think of it this way if you spend a few days apart the more you will want to see him, start gradually by seeing him less times a week make a night for you and your friends so he can spend time with his friends. This essentially will strengthen the bond that is between you two. BREAKING THIS ADDICTION BEGINS WITH YOU. remember that. Even though its hard do it for him if not yourself because of how much you love him.

GOOD LUCK,
BRITTNI.

Q: what are certain things i can do for a guy to get him going sexually. ya know :)

talking dirty is always good, show some skin, bite/lick your lip, rub his leg. Guys are extremely turned on by images, in one study i saw on the discovery channel it showed that guys are more likely to be aroused by sexual images than anything else. TRY IT OUT! Hopefully it works for you good luck ( i bet it will its not difficult)
love
brittni

Q: breathing
by progress in color

I can't breathe!
Is that you standing there?
It's not your heart.
As it begins to beat.

Come quick!
the waters up to my neck,
and I can barely breathe,
yet all you say
is "Take it slowly!"

By slowly I assume you mean
that this will be
another one, just like before

Just like before,
I'm on my own.
Just like before,
I'm on my own.
on my own.

I can't breathe!
Is that you standing there?
It's not your heart.
As it begins to beat.
I swear we're losing ground.

So lets say,
you've done this all before
cause I know you play your games,
and I run the same.
we've been here now.
just like we said.
it's breaking out.
we're going now.

I can't breathe!
Is that you standing there?
It's not your heart.
Cause it's not like before.
I swear we're skipping beats.

With this heart you take,
my pain.
With this heart you break,
these chains.
With this heart you take,
my pain.
With this heart you break,
these chains.

I can't breathe!
Is that you standing there?
It can't be your heart.
Cause it's not like before.
Watch as it falls apart!

i found it at the below link
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=195939978

Q: hey everyone
13/f
i have 5 days to lose some wieght
yes i kno.. i cant lose alot..
but i work out daily i lost a lil but
i just want to kno
how i should eat because my mom makes food for my whole family.. and i accually eat with them but very small portions of food tht they are having and im going to continue to do that but i just wanna know sometimes healthy food dont get me full what do i do??
thanks..

the reason you dont get full is because your stomach is still adjusting to the fact you are eating less. What you can do about this is still eat those healthy food but incorparate fiber into your diet along with lean protein such as chicken, steak, etc.

below are some examples of high fiber food, as for the pastas you have to look on the box and make sure its clearly states whole wheat and for bread whole grain.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/high-fiber-foods/NU00582

Q: i used to be best friendd with this girl alex in 4th grade.
we eventually grew apart nd for no reason at all. hated eachother throughout 6th and 7th grade.
in 8th, we started to hang out with the same people, so we became really close again.
not one on one best friends, but we always called eacother one of eachothers best friends.
it was usually me, alex, sydney, linda, and elise who hung out.
[linda is my best friend and elise, aex, and sydney are best best friends]
now i'm about to go into 9th grade and i hung out with linda the entire summer.
i'm not even sure why but alex, sydney, and elise don't like linda at all.
they said they feel like iu hang out with her too much, she talks too much crap, and she can get me into "bad things."
now they barely even talk to me and when i see them i'll wave and they'll just nod their head.
i'm trying to be civil and just be best friends with them again, but they're not making it so easy..
what do i do to get things back to normal?

adolence is the true rollercoaster. Through out highschool i gained new friends, lost them, then gained some. The answer to your question is that some things never go back to normal and if it does it tends to tak time. What the important thing is that you know who your true friends are. If the other group starts speaking badly of your one friend, stand up for her, thats what friends do for one another. AND if the other girls dont respect that fact then they arent worth it. In highschool and through out the rest of your life you have to make decesions, they are getting harder and harder all the time but you learn from them. So figure out which friend/s brings out the best in you and makes you feel the best and stick with them.

GOOD LUCK.

ps. its better to have one good friend than a bunch of friends.

Q: well i know this is a stupid question and like its like my hobbie and all but like i know it might be in a wrong catergory but i need to ask this question because it is bugging me so here it goes.

well i love to write and all i write fics on this site where you can write anything and post it and people review of course. well i had have one story and i'm working on it with a friend but right now i am thinking of writing a story for my own i only have one up there and thinking of writing another story and writing it and put it up on the website.

but the problem is i'm having trouble with ideas.

i like to write horror, and romance like when a boy likes a girl blah blah you get the points. and i like to right a story like a young girl who's 14 likes someone 15 or older and he might not like her back if you know what i mean.

does anyone know how to like give ideas like those? if so can you please help me with ideas and also if you really think of a good title as well and summary? cause i suck at those but good at the rest.

and sorry for asking such a stupid question. but writing is my hobbie and all

and if anyone has great advice on the story i want to write do do do please tell me in advance i would love to know asap! i would also like to know all of your answers maybe i can get some from you guys and so if you want to help out let me know :) thanx again and the website for it as well is

www.fictionpress.com anyone heard of it as well?

ahha sorry for the long question rambling on well g2g let me know ok? asap!!!

i share your passion for writing i write about other topics but i have a few that might spark your interest.
-a girl and an older boy are dating they love each other, he's heavily into drugs and the parents hate the boy for that reason.
-the girls boyfriend is going off to college while shes still in high school, he cheats, blah blah so no and so forth.
-a girl is in love with a younger guy her friends find it strange that she is making it difficult for her friendships to continue
-a girl ends up hooking up with her good friends boyfriend, they fall in love.

hopefully that helps you a bit.

here is a tip- if you're fresh out of ideas just use other peoples true life stories and create it as your own taking some reality mixed with fiction. Most writers steal/take situations they have encountered in their life or they have heard from other individuals. It truely helps get your creative juices going. Also what can help for topics is to read a book its inspirational.

i would love to read one of your stories sometime, and be sure to tell me how it goes.

love
brittni

Q: 15/f

ive never exercised a day in my life cauz im naturally skinny but im starting to get a little pudge below the belly button, is ther any way i can get ride of that with out using exercise equipment?

yes cardio is the best.

try running for 30 minutes a day after dinner and do about 100 crunches before bed to keep your body in shape. This way the pudge should deminish and you'll be back to your skinny self. GOOD LUCK.

Q: Help im a loser! ok you see im a sophmore and i want to become popular, but im very shy so it makes it hard for me to make friends. last year we moved to this small town and during that summer i hung out with this popular chic, who i didnt know was popular at the time, but she had to get a surgery so she missed the first few weeks of skool. on the first day i was soooo nervous about who to sit with that i just sat down with the first person i reconized from church. her and her friends welcomed me with open arms, eventually they became my friends too but they were losers... and i mean the kind that even the regular losers pick on!when my popular friend from the summer came to skool and saw that i hung out with them she ditched me,later on in the year this girl alice started talkin to me adn we soon became friends she introduced me to her friends so i decided to desert my other friends to join alice's group of friends.they were all band nerds so it was a step up from the ppl i used to hang out with. i talked to alice and her friends at lunch, in class, after skool, and i had a blast. but i didnt know any one else besdes alice and her friends, i was spending every moment of my time with them and no one else.well i did talk to this one popular chic for a time cauze none of my other friends were in that class we became friends too but only in that class period cauze she said she wouldnt hang with me in public cauze i hung out with the band nerds. she was the one popular chic who hung out with me even when i was hangin with the band nerds. but this year she moved to another skool so now i have no popular friends what so ever, so im completly alone well except for alice and her frineds. i hardly know any one else in school well except for a couple of geeky guys i play cards with sometimes. it's only been the first week of skool so i still have time to get more friends before ne one remembers who i used to hang out with. is there ne way i can get noticed and befriended by the popular people and become popular my self?

CONFIDENCE IS KEY!! You have to be who you are first and formost. Although popular in that way may seem glamourous, its not all its cracked up to be, trust me ive been the popular snob. You spend most of you days putting people down which may make your status go up but people depise you for it and the individuals in that group will surely spread rumors behind your back, they are not friends, merely fake. I gave that up and became the popular person by just being friendly and being who i am. To become more noticed what i did was join certain groups of interests, crack a joke every now and then to the person sitting next to me. Trust me its so much better than being a popular snob anyday, start a new trend, befriend people of different groups, break cliques and create lasting friendships. ALL BY BEING WHO YOU ARE, honestly if you believe you can do it you truley can.

GOOD LUCK
STAY POSITIVE

Q: so i've been messaging my friends a lot and i kinda ran outa stuff to say like i have said hey wats up or watcha doin or wat you up to and wat are you doin this weekend and sumtimes they get tired of the lines and don't even reply
-does anyone have any good conversation starters that would make them want to reply to me messages

the possibilities are endless although i completely understand where you're coming from..
what you can do is ask questions it always interesting, you could be like so tell me something i dont know about you or if you could take 3 things to a desert island what would they be, if you could persue any career regardless of the cash what would it be. Its crazy what you figure out about people honestly i didnt even know my one friends favorite color until not to long ago. Also you could create a story or song which consists of you and you're friend going back and forth with a sentence. After that conversations should just start popping up. Have fun with it.

Q: i have some stretch marks on my breast. does anyone know of anything that i can use that i can find around the house to get rid of them? cuz i dont really want to buy anything. im 13/f

nothing will fully get rid of the strechmarks but coco butter really helps with diminishing the appearance and helping prevent new ones from reoccuring. Oh and about tanning over them its not true ive tried it and it just makes them more visible.

Q: this summer i went to a boarding school for camp and it was the funnest experience ever! the people there were awesome and since i was with them 24/7, they became my family. now that i'm back home in my small, private high school..i've actually been mildly depressed. i miss the freedom and the laughing 24/7 and everything!! it's just not the same..i mean i like my friends here but they're not very fun at school and i definitely dont see them as much and i dont really like living with my family..i love them soo much but its just that i'll still visit them and call them all the time!! the problem is..i mentioned casually to my parents if i could apply to a GOOD boarding school like phillips exetor or andover..but they were like "no your school is good enough & its too expensive & far away"..i mean my school is alredy expensive so we could afford it and like boarding school would just be a good experience.im soooooo bored here!! and i would study hard there tooo trust me i'm a nerd haha but seriously i can't be happy anymore how can i let my parents let me go to boarding school??

Well im not sure how old you are but, first off tell them how much fun you had at boarding school then what you need to do is make a compromise with them. If money is an issue explain to them that you would get a job to help provide finances, possibly this may require you to stay at your school a little longer before your parents truely see that you're capable BUT its better than not going at all. ALSO tell them that you will maintain your grades and if you get anything below b or c level that they can pull you out. Explain to them that you're a responsible adult and prove it to them! The case could be that they will miss you tell them you will call every night and that they cant hold on to you forever, explain that this would be a great experience for you to become prepared for the real world. GOOD LUCK, tell me how it goes.

Q: My boyfriend and i like to have sex. DUHH but my question is we have used different forms of lub. and well we used milk. and we like it is that ok?

milk isnt harmful, if thats what you like go for it.

Q: Okay I am 16/f to start off :)

My height is between 5'6'' and 5'7'' and I weigh around 145lbs.

I used to be 180 lbs around about 2 years ago and I am glad I've lost that weight. However I am still not comfortable with my weight at all.

I even had minor eating disorder like bullimia and anorexia. But I never starved for over 3 days because it was pretty much impossible to not eat when my mom makes me eat infront of her. So I was bullimic on and off. Not throwing up everythign I eat. Only doing it when ever i thought i ate too much. Which I dont do that any more neither.

So I am sure I killed my metabolism then. So I am going on a new road without any eating disorders and I;ve been working out pretty regularly for 2 months now.

I used to jog about 4 miles but now I jog for 2-2.5 miles. I breakdance about 20-30 minutes here and there. I lift two 3 lbs dumbells when I workout my arms and do sit ups. (i am planning to do 200 sit ups, i used to do over 500 but then i stopped and now starting again)
and after my jogging, I practice my handstand and cartwheels.

I don't think I overeat, nor snack that much. In fact I dont eat junkfood at all, however there are days when I just go too crazy from depriving myself from it, I guess I eat junkfood sometimes.

For breakfast I eat a big bowl of cereal(which i am trying to eat the serving size now)

Lunch, i eat whatever my mom makes me. but she balances it out really good with veggies and meat

In fact I love eating veggies and we eat fruits for snacks

So why am i not losing any weight? My goal weight is to be 125 lbs

some peoples bodies are meant to maintain a certain weight, your body stores fat incase of stravation, dieting is considered that which will make you acually gain weight instead of loosing it. The reason you probably are not losing weight could be your metabolism is slow so you are going to maintain your weight most likely which isnt a bad thing being 5'7 and 145 is perfect. BUt if you really would like to loose more weight what you have to do is decrease your calorie intake and measure out the quanity of food you eat. AND keep up with that excerscising.

Q: is it true that energy drinks have bull sperm in them? A few of my guy friends were tlaking to me and they told me that taurine which is an ingredent in all energy drinks is really bull sperm. I think they are just messing with me cause im gullable.

no that is not true its just a myth people made up. Its just an ingredient used to help produce energy most energy drinks if not all have it.

Q: I'm starting the brth control pill Ortho Tri-Cyclin Lo. Has anybody else taken this? And can you let me know the positives and negatives of it?!

Thanks so much!

+improves acne, regulates period.
-headches, weight gain.

use the site below for more information
http://www.askdocweb.com/ortho6.html

Q: Well, now it's the summer holidays and have 6 weeks off, I know that i'm going to be SO bored!

Does anyone know any, sort of, projects i could do at home??

Thanks in advance =].

there is a variety of things you could do.
you could take up sewing to start making your own clothing or jewlery, create stories and send it into competetions for cash, you could repaint your room, create home movies, cook- create new recipes, clean out your basement-have a garage sale or something for cash, if your into cars work on an old car, if you have tools in your garage you are aloud to use make something out of wood such as a cutting board or toy, be creative. If you need anymore ideas feel free to ask.

Q: when do you use liquid eyeliner and when do you use pencil eyeliner?

what brand of w/e of the above should i buy to achieve this look:
http://pics.livejournal.com/jamjamiejam/pic/000139b5
or this:
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g198/Mewz/blueeyes.jpg
or this:
http://i126.photobucket.com/albums/p94/nicannette/ME/Photographs046-2.jpg

and less like this:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v229/Chicham/Chi.jpg

i use a crayon form of eyeliner, you roll it up instead of sharpening and works like a charm.

i wear my eyemake up simlar to the first girl in that picture.
i would suggest lancome eyeliner which is rather expensive but last aobut 4 months and is waterproof.
or you could start out with maybeline or covergirl which is about 18 bucks cheaper and has less. Personally i would not suggest liquid eyeliner unless you were using a tiny amount, its extremely difficult to work with and isnt waterproof so one watery eye and your done. Pencil is good as well you can just get wet n wild which is cheap around 99cents or even any of the above names i stated just use a tad bit of eye shadow to keep it from running down your face( it soaks up sweat and eye moisture.) Pencils are the cheapest item you can find in the eyeliner catagory.

Q: i need masterbating ideas!
how to get better orgasms
by the way im female.
thanx!!xox

you could purchase a dildo or a vibrator.
if you're okay with touching yourself you could massage your clit or even use a showerhead of some sort.

Q: Ok. Please don't lecure me on this(i am not sure how you can...)
I am 14/f/ and i have more guy friends than Acutal boyfriends. You see i have never had a bf. i mean guys have asked me, it's not like i am the ugly duckling, but i say no. I don't know if you can really answer this question for me but at least try please.
Why do i keep on saying no? Are guys like scared cause of my guy friends? I really don't know i thought some genious out there somewhere could help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

its perfectly normal to have more guy friends then girl friends i myself do, girls just cause too many issues while guys are more laid back and get to the point. The reason you are probably saying no is because you are nervous and may not be ready to commit to someone for an extended period of time. So just go out on a group date, flirt have fun. You have plenty of time to have a boyfriend. Now the reason somes guys may not be asking is because they may think that your guy friends like/ are with you. Normally guys assume if a guy is friends with you they like you and you are their girl and some guys dont mess with that. But if you would like/feel ready you could go approach a guy you like and ask him out on a date or get one of your guy friends to talk to them for you to figure out if they are interested, but if not as i said above you have plenty of time. GOOD LUCK WITH THE BOYS.

Q: Ok, this might sound like an odd question, but is it possible to speed up your metabolism? i.e. I have been dieting for three weeks, so last night, I decided to splurge. I had a lot of cookies and brownies and thing like that. I weighed myself this morning, (i weighed yesterday morning too.) and I haven't gained anything! So i was wondering if my metabolism has started speeding up. thanks!

yes it is possible, normally that happens with excercise and a good diet. So yes i believe your metabolism is starting to speed up. If you continue excercising you virtually can eat almost anything(in moderation). Also if you like green tea that can help boost your metabolism as well.

bio

Hello there the names Brittni, I decided to make a site on advicenators because i wanted to help others with their struggles, its a passion of mine, i hope one day to achieve my dream of opening a center for teens. Let it be known that i will never judge you based on a question you ask, i will simply give you an answer i find fitting, but dont expect me to candy coat my answer, im going to be honest. In the past i have been faced with many difficult things and looking back i am confident i made the right decisions. I've been through a lot personally, i've heard a lot, I've seen a lot, I've grown a lot. Heck, i know im not perfect but im the best version of myself i can be which is perfection in my eyes. I know sometimes speaking to someone you know about your issue is hard, trust me i've been there. Just like i have helped others i am here to help you with the best intentions. So i am here for you if you need me.

never feel hesitant when asking me a question, leave me one in my inbox and i will get back to you as soon as possible.