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Q: ok i am friends with these two girls and i really like them both well they are always together like 24/7 day and night well like when ever i wanna do somthin with either of them they both come like we had a school dance and like i went and i didn't have anyone to go with so i asked they both were like hey we will go with u so instead of buying dinner for one person and one set of flowers i had to by two and like they are always flirting with me like tonight they came over and we were watching a movie and like they both got all dressed up skirt heals everything both lookin so sexy and like they are laying all over me and like no matter what they wont ever do anything with me not just tonight but ever! i mean like we are completely cool with each other we ain't got no problems stripin infront of each other so it's not like we got anything to hide from one another but i want to know like they will be like all over me some times but they always say they don't like me and like they will never do anything with me and i wanna know is why do they do this to me!

15/m

haha...ok I'm sorry. If I were you I would ask them straight out why they have to be acting all sexy and shit around you. See what they say. If you guyz are all comfortable around each other then it shouldn't be to hard to just be like "Man, you guyz are killin me with this!" They'll probably laugh it off. Or, who knows maybe you could be all over them back. Try to like mess around with them if you like them that much. I really donno what else to say oh yeah! You could also try tellin them "Don't tease if you're not gonna please!" lol...Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

Q: hey im 13 nd me nd my boy friend recently spilt but i still like him nd i just found out that he still likes me to but i dont no wat to do cuz my best (guy) friend likes me now nd my ex nd him are really great friends nd they both asked me out tonite nd i said i have to think about it to both of them wat do i do!! thanks in advance!

Do what you feel is right. If you go out with your ex boyfriend's friend though, I'm warning you that it could start some trouble between the two. But, all i can really say is decide who you like more. If you miss your ex boyfriend a lot then go with him. Who knows maybe things will work out the second time around.If you want to try something new, pick his friend. Do what you think will be best for you. But, know that you might not get another chance with your ex boyfriend if things don't work out with his friend. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~

Q: hey i have these new black adn pink sneakers theyre mainly black but i was jus wonderin wut could i wear wit it cuz like i personally think it looks weird if im wearing shorts with it or a skirt with it i feel like i should b wearing pants with it all the tym... wut do u guys think?

if u wear like a black skirt n the same color pink shirt as ur shoes it'll look tight. Good luck ~*CaSSiE*~

Q: what does 69 mean????

69 is the symbol of 2 people giving oral sex to each other at the same time. If you put the numbers 69 on the side you might see the picture of what I'm refering to.The bottom of the six is the head, and the top of the nine is the head. The top of the 6 is the body, and the bottom of the 9 is the body.

Q: how far should you go with a guy at age 13...and don't say "however far you wanna go"--thanks

Probably not far at all....13 is still very young. You have many more experiences that you need to have before you do anything serious. I say making out is about as far as you should go.

Q: ok my boyfriens thinks that i am pregant because i have been complaing about my stomach hirting. and i tryed to tell him that its not that because i havent fucked in like 3 mouths. so what should i tell him....?most importantly how am i gonna get a test with out my parents seeing it.....? they still think that i am a virgin!!!!
help me please becasue i cant lose him!!!!!

If you have gotten you period after you had sex last you have nothing to worry about. But, if you haven't gotten your period in 3 months than you're probably pregnant. You can buy a test at a local drug store and take it straight to a public restroom to take it. Or maybe when your parents aren't home? Or a close friend's house? Or maybe even some other adult that you trust? Good Luck hope I helped ~*CaSSiE*~

Q: i've been going out with a guy for over five months, and i think he wants to but he hasnt tried to kiss me... how do i let him noe im ready?

You've been going out for a considerable amount of time without having kissed yet. There is either some reason between you and him for not having kissed yet which you can ask him about, or you can just go for it! If you want to kiss him so badly then just do it. It's been 5 months I think it time somebody made the first move even though it might not be him.

Q: i had unprotected sex with my bf..and then like a week later i got my period...but i got my period like 2 weeks early....what does this mean?? i dont think im pregnant...am i?

When you have sex, your cycle can go a little crazy on you. If you got your period after you had sex, than no you are not pregnant. But, my advice for the future use protection. You could save your future, your partener's future, and the future of an unborn child.

Q: Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx

~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

I think sex is a very special commitment and it is nothing to joke about. You must be very very committed before you even think abotu having sex. Nine months is a long time but for a 13 going on 14 year old I think it is too soon. I'm going to be 15 soon so believe me I can relate. I'm not sure how educated you are on sex either because I know 18 year olds who still aren't even sure why a girl gets her period!!! But, I think you should definately hold off until you are older because you still have many more experiences to have before you lose your virginity. You shouldn't be pressured into having sex either. If you tell your b/f you're not ready or you think you should wait he should respect your decision. If he doesn't than there is somebody else out there who will. You might think you are comfortable having a commitment, but sex is a big deal and it ALWAYS changes EVERYTHING. Especially, if you're not 100% what you're getting into. Please take my advice and hold off until you are older, have more experiences, and are much more aware. Good Luck n God Bless ~*CaSSiE*~

Q: hey ya'll ..i just turned 15 and i was just wonderin..when does your chest usually become fully developed?..like i'm a 34B & iduno i think that's small..but i'm already 15..is that guna b my chest size? or am i yound enough that i'm still developing?..=/..thanx xOx

It's different for every girl. Being 15 doesn't mean anything. Girls don't stop developing until they're 18 and even then you could still grow after that. Your doctor will be able to tell you if you're done growing or not.

Q: does anyone know of a way to get an anti-depressent(i.e. Zoloft©) without going to see a doctor??? I need something along those lines but i can't tell my parents that i need an anti-depressent for certain reasons. My depression used to be just the common teenage cliche of {boredom + no life + no friends + girl troubles = depression}. Earlier this week i realized it was a much more serious problem when i was alone(drunk + depressed) and for some reason got to thinking that i dont want to live anymore.......So i went downstairs, got a knife from the kitchen, went back up to my room and proceeded to stab myself in the wrist numerous times. It bled all over the place for a while and then i turned really pale felt really cold and also a bit numb....then i just kinda zonked out. The next morning i woke up in a puddle of my own blood, and thats when i realized that i cant do this anymore. So yea my question remains is there any way to get an anti-depressent along the lines of zoloft or ya know something like it without seeing a doctor???

(p.s.) - anyone who says "you should tell your parents" gets a rating of a 1 and i automatically dont like you....

You can make an appointment for a doctor without your parents knowing. Or say you don't feel good and get them to take you, than ask to see the doctor by yourself. Your doctor can't say anything to your parents because of patient/doctor confidentiality.

Q: i cut myself a lot just to make the pain go away and i told one person and they told me to tell my parent but i dont want to i wanna stop but i cant its just hard i need help can someone tell me wat to do please

Once you start its hard to stop. You need to get help before it gets any worse. It will only get worse from here if you don't stop it now. I agree with your friend. You should tell a parent or an adult you trust for help.

Q: I've been goin out with this guy for about a year now. We both really like each other and I believe it could be love (I'm 18)... we've talked about having sex, we're both virgins and he told me he's ready to have sex with me and wouldn't push me if I wasn't (and he hasn't pushed me at all)... but I don't really know if I am or aren't... so how can I tell for sure if I'm ready?!

I think that when you are ready for sex you will know for sure. Don't do it if you have any doubts at all about whether or not you are ready. You're lucky to have a boyfriend who respects your feelings enough to give you the time you need. Take advantage of that. Even if you are in love, love doesn't mean we should have sex. Make sure you're ready.

Q: ok i have this friend,n hes not a virgin but tells ppl he is but he doenst know why he tells ppl he is when hes not probably cuz he only did it once i told him do what ever u want but its like if he tells ppl hes not a virgin there gonna be askin all these ?s n if hes like yea n when he does fuck a gurl thats a virgin shes gonna notice he anit so what should my friend do?

ok 1st of all...a gurl can't tell if a guyz a virgin or not. So, he's safe there. Your friend probably tells people he's a virgin even though he's not because he's worried about his repuatation. Whether he did it once or 12 times doesn't change the fact that he's not a virgin. Just because he's only had sex once doesn't mean that it doesn't count. I'm not entirely sure what your question is about what your friend should do, but if your asking what should he do about telling people I say that he can tell people whatever he wants. The only time it really matters to be honest and open about your virginity is when you're talking to another person about starting a sexual relationship. Because if you're planning to have sex than everybody should be open an honest. If they're not honest when it comes to sex people can end up hurt. Good Luck!

Q: anyway i dont know wha to ask im askin for advice on this thing called life wehre can i get a life i got a life but its going my way but one of my freinds wants one n i told her i would buy her one where can i buy a life( not the board game i tried that already) can u help me find a life for my friend

yes FREDDY (lol)...i think i kno where you can get a life for your friend. Just tell her the name of the place where you bought yours. Don't you remember? Itz called "Get A Life". I hear they sell some pretty cheap onez too! lol...ur retarded u loser! lol jk :)

Q: Ki C...am i the hottest thing in the would or what?

KiKz, ur hotter than a seatbelt thas been sitting in the sun for 8 hours...lmao 143 babe ~*»»Ki C««*~

Q: I want white skin not like totally white but just white skin...I maen my skins dark and thats because of the sun and all but I hear you can use stuff to make it whiter and I was wondering if any of you guys knew wat I could use to make it whiter I mean I wash my face and all but nething else and I dont wanna use makeup because I dunno I guess I just think that it doesnt help that much so if anyone knows nething I can use or do please tel me thanks!

All I can really think of is using a heavy sunscreen. I'm not sure what the highest rating is but I know that spf 30 works pretty well. You have to be in the sum a pretty long time b4 you get too tan. But uhh ionno where you live or how hot it is there but you could also try wearing clothes that cover more of your skin. Your ethnicity could have a lot do with your skin color also. Depending on your background you might not be able to do anything about your skin color. hope i could help...

Q: So i've been going out with this girl for almost 8 months now, right? Anyways, I love her a lot, I really do, I just dont know if I am really what she wants anymore. She teases me about other guys and stuff constantly, and she really gives me the impression that she doesnt love me as much as she used to. Can someone help me on what I should do?

I think that you should talk to your girl about how she feels. Tell her how you feel about her teasing you about the other guys and that you're getting the impression that she doesn't like you so much nemore. See what she says. Tell her that you love her with all you have but if she doesn't feel the same then maybe you should consider ending it. Most people have a hard time deciding whether to listen to their head or their heart. Most ppl pick the heart. But, always remember that your heart can lie to you too. You must follow your heart while you trust your own instincts. good luck and remember that everything will work out for the best. ~*»»CaSSiE««*~

Q: i have a boyfriend whom i really love we been goin out for 2 years .. my friend who likes me says my boyfriend is thinking about breakin up with me.. im not sure if he is just saying that so maybe i would break up with him first and he could ask me out or if it is really true.. my b/f has been acting really weird and said he "dno" if he likes me as much as he used to! i have no idea what to do!! help =( i love him

it seems to me like you need to talk things over with ur b/f. Tell him that u've heard a rumor that he was thinkin about breaking up with u and then ask him why his feelings are changing. Explain to him that you aren't sure how he could just all of a sudden say that he's not sure if he likes you as much anymore after such a long time. also, I think that ur friend is the least of your problems right now. Talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If your friend is telling the truth you'll find out sooner or later. If he's lying, you still need to talk to your b/f about how he is feeling about you. If he's losing interest you can probably be happier with sumbody else. Good Luck!

Q: Hey evrybody, im kinda new, but i jsut wanted to know how most of you people are so popular on this site, like, what do you do to introduce yourself evrywhere. thaaanks - my sn is sshelbyy
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I barely started 2. I think that the more you answer questions and give good advice ppl will come back to you for help. Good Luck ~*»»CaSSiE««*~

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Hey! My name is Cassie and I'm 21 years old. I live in the suburbs of Chicago where I like to spend time with the important people in my life, play softball, and volunteer in my community. I am currently a junior in college. Throughout my years of schooling I have been involved in activities such as: volleyball, basketball, softball, theater, poms, choir, band, foreign language club, science team, and academic achievement programs. I am a Secondary Lutheran Education Biology Major with a minor in Spanish Education.

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