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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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I'm 18f and my boyfriend is 17m we have been together for almost 7 months; we have had our problems like most couples do, and we have got through it. He has a real bad problem with his anger, although he has never layed a hand on me before, or even came close; he just raises his voice at me often, and sometime curses. Well, there is this guy named Jesse. He's 17/m and he works with me, and went to the same school me and my boyfriend went to before we graduated this year; for the last three months, Jesse has had the biggest crush on me. He says he's in love with me and he's not going to stop waiting for me, and he doesn't want me to rush me and my boyfriend relationship; so he is going to wait patiently. I didn't believe him at first; I figured I'd give him a couple of weeks and he'd stop waiting and find someone else; NOPE. 3 months and he is still waiting; we having touched, or anything; so I don't see how he is in love with me; he tells everyone how he feels for me; and he seems very serious about it. He's a total sweetheart; which my boyfriend really isn't the type to have a way with words; and he doesn't really say sweet things to me as much as he should; (being a girl; we like to hear it!) I told him I was going to take my time with my boyfriend; and work out everything we can work through until we come across something that can't be worked through and I wasn't going to do anything to rush us breaking up. He understood and told me to take as long as I needed cause he'd still be there. We both agree if we are meant together we will end up together; The last month I have caught myself thinking about Jesse alot, and I think I have allowed myself to gain feelings for him; but I think its wrong, so I'm telling myself no. My life is about to really start. I graduated high school this May; and now I'm starting college for Medical. I have a car and a job; and I'm trying to figure out whats going to be best for my future. My boyfriend doesn't have a job or a car; and jesse had a job but no car; Riley wants to go to college but he doubts he will because he just wants to work; and Jesse wants to go to college for Culniary Arts;

I love my boyfriend dearly; and I've talked to him about this whole situation and he's hurt by it; and I completely understand; Ive thought about it for the last month and I'm torn. Do I stay with my boyfriend who we fight a little more than most; or try this new guy without knowing if it'll only bee a couple of month thing? Please help me out; I truely don't know what to do; at all. (link)
It seems like you like jesse more and the fact that hes been waiting around for you and hasnt done anything to get in the way of your current relationship should tell you that hes a good guy i think you should do what your heart tells you to but from what youve written i think jesse would be the better choice since hes the type of guy you really want.


so, i was hooking up with this guy. i was giving him a hj and he started to precum, it was like clear and there wasn't that much. he took my pants off and his penis was close to my vagina, is there anywa i could be pregnant? and if there is what should i do? plan b? (link)
You should probably take a drug store pregnancy test or go see your doctor to make sure your not because if you are plan b wont help and if you just take plan b without knowing whether you are or not it wont really be helpful.


If a dentist notices that i use smokeless tobacco, will they tell my parents? (link)
No the dentist doesnt know what youve been exactly doing he/she will just tell you how to treat your teeth if there not in the best condition.


This girl wont leave me alone. She makes fun of me because Im mixed, my mom is Puerto
Rican and my dad is black and mixed with white, she makes all these jokes calling me a piece of sh**t and talking about how the UK is better and that shes all glamorous up there. shes keeps saying that I live in texas so I have to catch what I eat and etc, and she keeps saying she has a life but she wont leave me alone .All these insults telling people that I eat dog and saying that Im a wetback and all of this is NOT true. She keeps getting on my nerves and no one likes her because shes racist, but she bothers me mostly because she knows it really bothers. Ive tried ignoring her but shes still doing the same thing. How do I get her to leave me alone?
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Just start agreeing with what she says even though its not true it will just get boring for her because it wont affect you as much so she will stop trust me although it will be a little hard to do it will work and she will leave you alone for good.


Okay I am 16/f I have blondish brown hair - its like its changing to brown SO slowly. anyways I have been growing it out and right now it's down to my chest and it took me the whole school year to get it that way. My boyfriend likes it long and tells me not to cut it. I had it medium-short a long time ago and I liked how much easier it was and healthier too... without all the split ends. Just sort of like a fresh start- is that crazy ... I know it's just hair and it'll grow back but should I get it cut??? I have prom in less than a year now and then graduation... HELP please!!! (link)
A year is a long time to grow it back for prom and graduation so if you feel like cutting it you should long hair can be hard to handle so if your having a hard time taking care of it you should just cut it because it will save you a lot of time and plus your hair will just be a lot healthier when its short because you'll b able to take care of it better and easily.


My boyfriend and I are inseperable. He treats me like gold...always complimenting me and being so caring and loving towards me. He and I get along great, with an amazing connection and a lot of things in common. He's going to the Navy in December and he says if we last until I graduate, he wants to marry me. He is already graduated, and I am a junior. He is extremely mature, and he is very serious about this relationship, and it is weird for me because I have never ever been in a relationship like this...but I am so grateful. He is amazing.

We went to his cousin's house today and ended up having sex. Although I am sixteen, and he is seventeen, we had parental consent earlier when we first started dating, and we also used a condom. It was a little painful at first, but it felt good. I've had sex before, just not as deep, and I'll admit I'm glad I waited to have sex this time. I've always rushed into it, but having such a patient boyfriend is extremely great, because my other boyfriends have always been a little pushy on the subject. Anyway, I have always been a little insecure. And being insecure gets me scared for the worst....

I am a little scared that because my boyfriend got what every guy wants, he will ditch me soon enough. I am getting nervous just thinking about it. I know I can trust him and that we have an amazing connection outside of sex, and therefore I have nothing to worry about, but I am still very paranoid. He reassured me today, but I would like to know how I can get over my insecurities...

Thanks!!! (link)
Just think about all the things he has done for you and continues to do for you if he was going to leave you he wouldnt bother being a great guy now that youve already had sex that should be enough for you i know it can be hard to get over your paranoya but just think about how he treats you and you should be able to ignore your insecurities. :)


Who Should Be The First One To Say "I Love You" first? The guy or the girl? (link)
Normally its the guy but i dont think it really matters who says it first if you truly love him and want to express it you should just say it.


So there is this guy at my work. At first I didn’t think much of him, just a coworker, but then I got invited to one of his get togethers, and there I started to see what a great guy he is. We all had a lot of fun, his mother loved me and his friends said that he really likes me too. At the same time my guy barely talks to me. I have cut him looking at me a few times, but he never texts me or calls me. Since then we have hang out a few times and had a lot of fun yet he never makes the first move. How do I get him to take control and make the first move? (link)
Well since you two have been hanging out and him and you both seem to be having a good time id say he likes you but probably wants to get to know you properly before making a move so dont worry when hes ready he will just be patient and enjoy the time you two spend together :)


where can i get a job at 14
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fast food places hire at that age so maybe try there.


I like this guy, he likes me,hes engaged, and im his "sancha" i want to stop wat we have, but yet another part of me wants to keep wat we have going. I dnt kno if i should break away or keep doing wat were doin.
his fiancee lives in another state, hes in the marine corp nd is stationed in my city. he tells me tht she is cheating on him too, because she has tld him, but he hasnt tld her about me. Anyone wanna help me, im confused. (link)
I think you should break away because what your doing is not right and its a bit wierd how hes engaged to someone whose cheating on him as well so i think you should find someone else who is not only single but who is right for you.


So he is 33...I'm 22. I was very aware of the age difference when I begin to get interested. We come from the same set of friends, including the girl who he was previously dating (she is dating another guy and basically is off and on with that guy). He was always like a big brother to me...so it was weird when I began to have an attraction towards him. He is mature, has an insane work schedule and travels all over the country, he is dependable, and has opened me his entire life...yet, I feel so out of it. Our relationship is definitely not serious and he always talks about my future and how he imagines it and how I will end up with a "specific" type of guy. I can feel the connection with him but I can also feel how he misses her. I know I'm probably his rebound, and he is my boredom killer. So, what once consisted of casual encounters, has now developed into butterflies in my stomach...yes I'm falling for him. Would he be able to feel the same for me? Do 11yrs apart (age) tend to work? Should I stop it?
About a year n half ago I finished a 3 yr relationship, yes I do terribly miss my Ex and would get back with him in a heartbeat...but is not possible for me....So I understand his feelings for that girl and I try not get mad or jealous because I know how it feels. But for once, after dating many, I feel protected yet so vulnerable...what to do?!!! I know I have the answer but I'm just not wanting to see it...I don't know! (link)
If the guy doesnt seem interested its probably because he isnt and like you said hes just a boredom killer and your probably his rebound so why stay in a relationship like that? im sure you can find somone not only closer to your age but that you will have more in common with and will love you as much as you love him so as hard as it might be end this relationship and find someone worth your time.


ok so my mom is on facebook like all of the time and she never freaking gets off of it! every time i try to talk to her about anything, she tells me to shut up and go away. so i really dont know what to do anymore because its been like this for 2 or 3 years now and once when my dad confronted her about it she drove off and he was driven to tears (and ive never once seen him cry in my life) so that was the end of that and ive tried everything and it just never stops no matter what. please answer if u r in similar situation or if u have good advice. thanks in advance! (link)
Take the computer away from her and any other way she might have to get onto to facebook and sit her down and talk to her kind of like an intervention im sure if you tell her how you feel and she hears you she will understand.


Soo um yeahh. Im
14 nd my pits , kneees r very black
i tired everything
any edivce i want them brighther
noo lazers
Or pills (link)
applying foundation can make your knees brighter and matchable to the rest of your body but for pits i dont think that would work you could try but ive never really heard of a way to fix that problem most people just leave it.


well i was with boyfriend a year and almost 4 months a week ago he broke it off saying he stopped loving me long time ago...I got hit by a car on my way too go see him was crossing street too catch bus... he came.. at hospital.. too see him.. didn't really see him after he would say he worked a lot...he waited 4 months after accident too tell me.. he stopped caring ...but he still used too be really caring two months before even a month before.. then he said well i got him to admit that he as speaking too someone else...i cant stand the idea of him... being with someone else i really really love him with all my heart..he blamed me saying everything happened too too fast but i mean he never say stop.. lets take it slow..he begged me too meet his parents i finally did.. his whole family.. the second he got this new job where he worked a lot.. he stopped caring for me literally... i don't get it.. it hurts so bad..i emailed him a poem... no response hurt even more.. i really really want him.. back.. i don't get.. it .. I'm so sad.. crying not eating.. i feel like my whole world.. id don the drain... He said he was not happy these past 4 months i was in bed rest i needed him so much too be at my side.. he just stopped caring.. i don't get it..i love him so much...i wish there was a way.. he came back and said.. everything well be ok.. its better.. (link)
As hard as breakup can be sometimes you have to just deal with if he really loves you or ever did he will come back and if he doesnt then you move on you shouldnt waste your time waiting you just have to get out and find someone else i knoe its easier said then done but you can do it dont sit there and be helpless go out with friends and meet new ppl :)


16/F

Okay, this is my first prom and I really didn't want to go, but that was before I had a great boyfriend and I didn't bother looking at the dresses. At first, I was like what the hell? All these dresses are kind of ugly, so for fun, I added 'lolita' to the search and I got these amazing dresses! They're gorgeous! Are there any sites out there with lolita style prom dresses?

http://cn1.kaboodle.com/hi/img/b/0/0/11d/7/AAAACzlCGhEAAAAAAR1-hA.jpg?v=1294464812000

Maybe something along those lines? Nothing too flashy, but something pretty... I dunno, I've never done this before. I also want it to be red, mostly because everyone says red is the best color on me with my dark hair and eyes.... And it's apparently my boyfriend's favorite color :)
And, I'm not all that loaded either, so anything less than 200 or 150? If not that price, I can try and work around it... I don't know, but I was just hoping someone knew some good sites with dresses like the one in the link! Thank you! (link)
Try some of these sites

www.dressnetwork.com
www.promgirl.net/prom-dresses-2011.html
promformaldress.com

also you should go to your local mall and check out the dresses there and try them on to see what works best on you.


Okay, I asked you questions in like March! You gave me really good advice and I tried to follow through with it. I'll tell you what happened. Well The kick back never happened because we couldn't go that house, Angel and lizbet never showed! Carlos wasn't making effort to talk to me so I ended up getting back with my ex Paulo! big mistake! Paulo and Carlos fought over me that night and I screamed for Paulo to stop choking him to death so I broke them up! I felt bad! Me and Paulo were together, I fucked up because I had a hickie from his homie Chino and then I made out with his homie tyler in front of him and I fuckked Angel again! Paulo didn't come see me or anything for like 3 days and I got mad! So when Angel was there I ended up making a mistake and having sex with him! I talked to Paulo like 3 days later and He said he didn't want anything to do with me anymore, and I still wanted to be cool with him and he said to let it blow over, he was getting locked up the next morning and he said when he gets out we'll see what happens. So like a month later, we talked. and we weren't getting back together! We ended up fighting and fighting and fighting! it wasn't good. Then in like May, He was really drunk, and Enrique was like paulo wants to talk to you, So we went up stairs and we sat down and talked, and Paulo told me he still likes me enough to date me but if he can't trust me when we aren't together what makes him think he can trust me when we are together. I promised him I wasn't going to mess up and I told him that Angel didn't mean anything to me anymore! So we slept down stairs and everything was back how I liked it. Until the next day. Paulo didn't come and Angel did. At night I was trying to go to sleep and Angel kept trying to kiss me and shit and I didn't want to because of Paulo, then eventualy I just gave in and we had sex! UGHH. Me and Angel weren't gonna say anything because of Paulo but Jonny walked in right after and he knew. So the next day Audi called me at my grandmas and was like Paulo knows and I was like what and she told me Paulo walked in her house in the living room and started freaking out saying he was done with me and all this shit, So I was like wow whatever. I made another mistake! the next night I tried to talk to him but he wouldn't talk to me. he kept saying that the only reason he's mad is because I made a promise to him and I broke it or something. And now? he hates me! About a week later, I found out I was Prego. Not From Angel, From Paulo! I told him I was prego, and he kept saying it can't be his that it's angels. and that's all he kept saying. so eventually it got back to angel and angel started saying it was his and shit, then they both got locked up and they both barely got out and angel was still saying it was his. then I had a miscarriqe. I still haven't told them. But my problem is, I know I've had many different chances with paulo, but I wanna prove to him I've changed, he thinks of me as like a big hoe because I fucked his bestfriend and shit, I just don't want him to think of me that way, I know I made a mistake but so did he! I kind of want him back! helpp please!! (link)
Well the only way i guess to get him back is to try to be friends with him by doing that your showing that your making an effort and actually trying to make things right you should slowly show him how you feel and hopefully from there things will go great but only if you dont mess around with other guys you have to stay faithful otherwise things will never work out with you and paulo do if u want a chance with him your going to have to change.


Hey! I'm 15/f and I would really like to start to have my mind set on what I would like to be. I'm opened to any careers mentioned and to look up more info on them. My family has told me to either be a Lawyer(I have a big mouth lol) or a Physician(I like children) ever since I was little. However, I want to explore different careers to see what else would interest me. Considering how the money now is terrible, I want to have a well paying job, that is manly my most consern and then I would have to obviously like the job. My mother had also said that I should become a Nutritionist because I am interested in eating healthy. Would someone be able to give me a list of specific careers that are well paying and what I should be studying? (link)
go to www.careercruising.com it helps you decide what careers work best with your personality and skills or just write down your skills and personality traits on a piece of paper and that should tell you what career thats all best for also dont look into money so much because truly money doesnt make you happy i mean would you rather have a job that you like and enjoy and want to go to everyday or be miserable and hate your job but get paid well.


there is this guy. we argue sometimes but not seriously you know. we can argue but yet be cool about it. Like he teases me and stuff but yet when i argue with other people he seems to stand up for me.
He isn't very talkative when it comes to girls but yet he isn't that quiet. He is very attractive. I tried to drop hints but i dont think i make it very obvious because im sorta shy. He seems to always ask me questions. Like if he is talking to some friends about the act. He would ask me Talia what did u get on your act? or if they are talking about pancakes and waffles he will ask which one I eat. Don't think it means to him anything but it kinda seems fishy to me? But what do you think? (link)
Maybe he likes you or really wants to know your opinion on things because he truly feels your the best person to turn to. If you want to find out if he likes you either ask him how he feels about you or look for signs does he ask you to hang out alone or with friends does he talk to you everyday does he get jelous when other guys talk to you etc etc


I have this friend named Austin and we're very close friends. One day his father told him not to talk to me anymore and Austin me that. We're thinking of ideas where we can talk again. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
Well you could get a secret place to meet thats far away from his house so his dad wont see you or you could talk on the internet or even at school.


hi i'm in 8th grade and a girl anyway i have this best guy friend who's in 8th grade too and ive known him for about 8 months now. he has suffered 3 losses. (his grandma, grandpa, & uncle) he told me he was close to his grandparents. im not exactly sure how long ago they passed away but i know it's not very recent. he is a good guy and seems happy but he's told me that sometimes his smiles are fake. it's like he hides his real emotions sometimes from everyone else except me. he has said that i've brought out the “emo” in him. i guess cuz he's never had an emo friend before. but it's not like im sad all the time. and he like hides himself in a glass case and somehow i manged to get through it quite easily. my question is though how can i help him through his losses? i personally haven't lost a loved one yet and dont exactly how it feels but i can only try and imagine half of how it feels. i would really appreciate some advice for how to help him get through this thanks. -sorry this was long (link)
Just sit him down and tell him to tell you how he feels let him open up to you and express his feelings letting go of emotions is the best way to get over losing someone so make him do that and encourage him to move on and think of his future and not his past and explain to him that in life your going to lose a lot of people but thats just a part of life you have to be strong and deal with it or else you will completely break down.




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