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I come from a small town in New York called Fulton. not many people in our high school maybe 300 something. But I still love it here. I am most like any other 17 year old girl but I am not all that girly, I grew up with all guys except my best friend who I meet when I was 6. I love to dance, I also love the UFC! I am the biggest dork ever and I just dont care beucase I love it! There are very few people in this world that I love with all my heart. I still act like a little kid most of the time. I can't stand people who are fake and who casue drama. I get along with just about everyone and I tell it like it is.

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Every day after school, I get on the computer. I talk to this guy that I like. (He can only stay on the computer until 5:30 PM.) Before I met him, I would work out every day at 4. Reccently, I've been starting working out later, like at 4:30. Whenever I tell him I have to go, he always says, "Don't leave me." or "I want you to stay!" I really want to stay and talk to him, but I know I'll be sorry if I don't work out. Do you think I'm right to sign off at 4:30? I like him, and I like to exercise, I really don't want to give up either. (Unfortunately, we do NOT live in the same state so "hanging out" is not an option. And the only time I can talk to him is between 3:30 and 4:30.) Am I just wasting my time?

I feel bad about leaving him at 4:30, because I really do want to stay. But I like it because it leaves him in suspense and makes him want to talk to me more. Any opinions?

I am sorry but yes you are wasting your time. I know you may not want to hear this but if you two live in two differnt states there is no reason to have this realtionship. I say go workout. yes you can still talk to him but dont feel bad. And yeah its great that you have someone to talk to but its not gunna work out in the end so dont sweat it just be friends and yeah still talk but work out and have funn.

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what are excercises to tone your thighs,legs,and stomache? i really need help,and how long will it take till i see results?

The fastest way is to eat right and watch you calorie intake, Runnning is proably the fastest way to get results.

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i met a guy about a month ago at a mixer, i go to an all girls hs and he goes to an all guys. hes cute and nice and i like him. but hes really shy so like he doesnt call me or even IM me .. i have to do all of that. his school is having a semi in may and i reallllyyyy wanna go with him, but i cant ask him cause it's his school and his dance. how can i like get him to like me, or to talk to me more. pleaseeee help

You should try and drop some hints be like so are you going to your dance?? Some guys are really shy due to fear of rejection. yeah guys are really complicated at times but if he acts really shy around you at times its probly beucase he likes you. When he is on sometimes dont im him, beucase then that makes him think that its ok, but it isnt he should man up yes whatever you dont say that to him beucase he will probly take it as a diss, the key is to make him want you and think that might not have you. And when he does talk to you drop many hints. Guys need some help sometimes.

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How does a female condom work?

What is a Female Condom?:
The female condom helps protect partners from pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS. It is the only female-controlled device offering this protection. A female condom is a thin, loose-fitting and flexible plastic tube worn inside the vagina. A soft ring at the closed end of the tube covers the cervix during intercourse and holds it inside the vagina. Another ring at the open end of the tube stays outside the vagina and partly covers the lip area. A female condom provides a barrier between partners to prevent sharing bodily fluids like semen, blood, or saliva. This helps ensure that sexually transmitted infections are not passed and pregnancy does not occur. Female condoms are 79-95% effective.



Use:
Female condoms can be inserted up to 8 hours before intercourse and are only effective when placed prior to intercourse. At first, female condoms can be awkward to use, but they are easy with practice. Take your time and try inserting the condom before sexual play. You can stand with one foot up on a chair, sit with your knees apart, or lie down. Lubrication can help keep the condom in place and lessen noise during intercourse. Adding spermicide before or after insertion can reduce the risk of pregnancy. A female condom and a male condom should not be used at the same time.

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when you get your hair thinned, does the sylist cut hair off the outside of your hair or the inside layer? and where does she thin it? bottom? under the ear and lower?

she uses a pair of special sissors that thins out your hair from all over. it looks like she is cutting your hair but it only cuts some hairs.

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ok so i go out with this kid and we have gone out before this but we never really lasted long(2 weeks was usually out maximum). Well this time we are coming up on 2 months and im not sure if i still like him like sometimes i like him sooooooooo much and then other times i like him as only a friend or just a little. But when i hang out with him i like him alot...the last time we went out i liked him sooo much more then i do now and im not sure if i shoudl maybe break up w him or not...like i dont want to do it cause i know that i will regret it but i dont know if its fair to him when i only like him 90% of the time..sorry its kinda long thanks..

Well no one likes everyone 100% of the time. and if you like him 90% of the time that is alot more then 10%. you will have doubts yes everyone does but I dont think you should break up with him. If you like him 90% of the time. if you only liked him say 20% of the time then yeah you would break up with him but 90% is alot of the time.

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my family is really messed up. my mom can't stand up for herself,and shes such a jerk. my brother keeps saying im fat and i was wearing shorts and he said "you shouldn't be wearing those when your legs look like that". and he always takes away my things,he took away my purse,now i can't get it back. i'm only 13 and i feel like everyone is putting me down and taking things like im a baby.i really need to know how can i lift my confidence up and be happier and be stronger?

Just ignore them and dont show that they get to you. And no matter what you are beautiful and if you stay strong it will get better. Hope i helped Stay beautiful and strong!

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Ok! Soo... there's this guy that i like. he's 18, 19 in June. He's really hot. really nice. yet a big asshole sometimes. I like him a whole lot, but im trying to get over him. Im not quite sure how. He's always on my mind every minute of everyday. & even when i go out somewhere to forget him something reminds me of him. Im not sure what to do.
sincerely.
The Confused.

You cant just get over a guy its hard ts just gunna take time and try to go out with other guys and hopefully that will work but there isnt much you can do its jsut gotta run it corse

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so i got my belly button periced yesterday..
and im a 15yr old female..
i was wondering if anyone could give me some tips?


&& how long did you leave yours in before changing it?

thx.

ohh yea, and i use "H2Ocean" spray :]

thx.

and i have a barbell in , if that matters?

I kept mine in for about two to three months that way it was all healed and i had a barbell and used H2Ocean spray too just read the bottle and keep it clean.

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there was this video that i saw on ebaumsworld or youtube or something once, and i can't find it but it was so funny. it was of these two 20-25 year old brothers trying to take a christmas card photo by setting the timer, but they would end up messing up the picture by hitting each other and doingn stupid brother stuff. it doesn't sound funny from how i said but it was hilarious and has anyone seen it/know what i'm talking about or where to find it?

If i got it right this is there youtube page they are known as Barat and Bereta


http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=BaratsAndBereta

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hey ive been wanting to dedicate a song to my boyfriend cause hes dedicated alot to me but i dont know a good one do you know any respond as soon as possiable.

Well i dedicated I'd lie by Taylor Swift to my old boyfriend (while we were dating) or there is the famous I'll be by edwin maccain, Far away by Nickelback, Or one of my favs Four letter word by Def Leppard

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okay so i hate reading. i can only read books that are intersting or else i just fade away and dont even no what i just read. so i was wondering wat are some good books. like preppy books. or just fun to read. thankss

There is the It Girl Series, TTYL Series, Lets get lost, The Clique Series. That is all I can think of that you might like I hope I helped.

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ok so for my parents annerversiry im making a dvd with like pictures and music in the backgroundd does anyone no any good songs i could use?

http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/music/songs/love-songs.htm

go there.

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I'm 13 and I'm about 5' 1" and I weigh 79 lbs., and I know that's in the healthy range for BMI's but I can tell I have too much fat, especially on my stomach and thighs. Anyone have any advice on how to lose it?

working on your cardio is a great way and or try for your thighs:
Stiff leg deadlift - Stand upright with your feet slightly apart and your legs straight. Bend over at the waist until your back is parallel to the floor. Grasp the weights (barbell, dumbbells, milk jugs full of water) firmly in your hands and carefully, slowly rise to a straight, standing position. Be sure to exhale as you rise. Slowly lower the weights to the floor, bending at the waist, until your back is once again parallel to the floor. Repeat this 10 times. Note: Although this is an excellent exercise for your lower back, hamstrings (backs of your thighs), and your bottom, lower back injury can result if this exercise is performed improperly. Be sure not to strain your back muscles when lifting the weight. If you feel pain. Stop. Do not perform this exercise if you have lower back pain or problems without talking to your physician first.


Lunges - Standing upright, step one leg forward 2-3 feet. Keeping your upper body erect, and not moving forward during the lunge, dip your upper body down, bending your rear leg at the knee. Dip down until your rear knee almost touches the floor. Hold the tension for a count of 10, then slowly rise back up. Repeat several times before switching legs. Note: This is an excellent exercise for the hamstrings, bottom, and muscles around your hips. However, use caution not to stress your knees. If you feel pain in your knees, reduce the depth of the lunge. If you have knee problems, talk to your doctor before doing lunges.


Standing calf raises - Stand with your toes and balls of your feet on a step, stair, thick book, or block. Stand straight with your knees locked or nearly locked. Slowly lower your heel toward the floor using your calf muscles to balance. Lower yourself until you feel your calf muscles pull--but not painfully. Hold that position for a count of 10. Now, using only your calf muscles, rise back to a level position. Repeat this 10 times. Note: If you feel too great a strain on your heel, foot, or leg muscles, don't push it. A little tension is what you are seeking, not pain. Use a handrail or chair for extra balance if you feel unsteady. As you get stronger, you can try using a barbell with weights over your shoulders to add to the exercise. You should also increase repetitions as you gain strength. If you have knee, foot, or heel problems, talk to your doctor before beginning this exercise.


Hamstring Stretch - Stand erect with legs crossed, outsides of feet together. Bend over with rear knee straight. Reach toward feet or bring torso toward legs. Hold stretch. Repeat with opposite leg. This is an excellent stretching exercise for warming up before intensive leg workouts or for cooling down following your workout. Be sure to keep your rear knee straight!


Inner Thigh Toner - Lie flat on the floor with your stomach up and back on the ground. While keeping both legs straight, raise one of your legs about 6" off the floor. Make a circular motion with the leg, keeping your toes pointed. Make 16 circles, then lower your leg back to the floor. Repeat with the other leg. Try to do it daily! This exercise is brought to you by A.D. We tried it. It's harder than you might think--we could feel the burn!


Leg Lifts - Lie flat on your back with your feet and legs together, hands and arms at your sides. Lift both legs 4-6 inches off the ground and hold them for a count of 2. Spread both legs apart like a "V" and hold for a count of 2. Bring both legs back together and hold for a count of 2. DO NOT LET YOUR LEGS TOUCH THE GROUND! . With your legs still up, raise them until they are about 2 feet off the ground. When both legs are up, hold for a count of 2. Spread and hold for a count of 2. Bring them back together and hold for another count of 2. Bring them both back to 4-6 inches off the groun and hold for a count of 2. Bring them both to the floor. Then, start again! This thigh and bottom toner were provided by Zip who tells us, "This exercise is difficult and the first time you try it, you probably will only be able to perform the first few steps. You work your way up to 3 sets of 10. Add a step every dy until you are doing 3 sets of 10 with the firmer bottom and thighs to prove it!"


Abs: 1.Standing push-ups. Do these in front of a wall at home, or even outside against a tree. Stand with your feet apart at hip-width. Your hands should go on the wall at shoulder height. Contract your abs and hold them in throughout the exercise. As you inhale, slowly lower your chest toward the wall. Keep you heels on the ground as you do this. When your nose is just inches from the wall, begin to exhale, pushing away until you have returned to your starting position. Build up to 15 repetitions. This will strengthen your arms as well.

2.Standing side crunches. Stand with knees slightly bent, placed hip-width apart. Form soft fists and bend your elbows, bringing your fists next to each other at the center of your chest. Take a deep breath to begin. Exhale and bend from the waist, lowering your right rib toward your right hip bone. Squeeze your abs as you do this. Inhale yourself back up to start, and then exhale to the left. You can do this alternating for 1 to 2 minutes.

3.Standing oblique twist. Your stance should be one of feet placed hip-width apart. Make a goal post with your arms by holding them at shoulder height with the elbows bent up at 90 degrees (your palms should be forward). Inhale, and then as you exhale lift your right knee up and rotate toward the right. This will twist through your waist. Contract your abs as you do this, and keep your hips forward. Inhale to lower your leg and twist back. Do the same with the left knee, rotating to the left. Alternate sides for a minute or two. This will also help your leg muscles.

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I really really like this guy, but I'm not sure about how he is feeling at the moment.
We had been aquaintences before we met at Prom, but began to pay attention to eachother when we both were in the same picture party group, and found out that neither of us had dates. So we spent the evening together getting to know eachother and found that we're quite similar! He called me the day after telling me that he liked me and wanted to see me again. That week he called me everynight on the phone and we talked for hours.
About a week after prom, we went on our first date. (this date was also my very first date too! so it was special) We had a great time, and I let him kiss me. (It was also my first kiss!)
We see eachother sometimes at school and he always seems happy to see me.
But heres the thing, it's been two weeks after our date, I see him less and less at school now, and and he hasn't called me once! He told my friend that he really really likes me but might possibly be too busy to make things official.
Of course I really want us to be Boyfriend/girlfriend, but I'm also fine with going a little bit slower to accomodate his schedule.

So, what should I do? Its killing me how sparsely I see him, and I feel like some of the magic is being lost with less and less contact. He makes me incredibly happy when we're together, and I really like him and don't want to lose him. This is my first 'relationship' so I have no idea what to do!

Thanks so much!

try to start talking to him more on the computer if you two do or try and make time for you to take a new way to class and see him and im sure he likes you its just that he is scared. dont pressure him into it.

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im dating this guy and have been for a year in june. we've had sex 3 times, but the last time we did, i got pregnant. i had a miscarrage, and it was hard. we have'nt had sex since then and he has been very understanding. but now i want to and i won't get to see him till the day of our 1 year anniversary. but i think it would be cliche to have sex then, after so long. but i want to show him that i care about him and love him and i think by giving myself to him again after what happened will show him that. i lost my v-card to him, and want to be with him, we talk about it everyday of what it would've been like having that baby. we know god did it for a reason, and that we weren't ready, after it happended matt was sent to iraq. he is 19 and im 17. how do i let him know im ready to have sex again, without sounding whorey

dont plan it out when you two see each other just start doing stuff and it will lead to it just work into. im sure everything will be ok.

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Ok well 13f and ive known this guy for about a year. We've never officially went out but we are talking about it now!! We say we love each other etc. but when he promises to call me back he never does then when i tell him aobut it he says it must be your phone b/c i called you & you didnt answer!! he swears he called me!!! what should i do..... i love him alot!!!!???? :)

I dont think if its love yet beucase if you two havent dated yet then you still have alot to work out and I dont think he really loves you like you think. you two are only 13 and dont really know what love is all right yet. Just dont worry about it all that much im sure he likes you, just dont worry about the calling thing.

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does anyone know any colleges in new york that would offer divison 2 or 3 volleyball and have a elementary education studies? thanks!

you can always check out collegeboard.com

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Hello theres this girl I like and she no that I like her I liked her for 2 an half yrz now lol I no her older sista I told her I liked her but her sista said you need to get to no her thatz tru but theres this party soon I no she will be there and I want to talk to her so she can get to no me but I don’t know wat to say im not good at talking to girlz..all I no wat to say is hello wat you up 2..how do I make a long conversation that she will like..an how do I get her to like me bak………i am 17 by the way

well tell her she looks beautiful, and try joking around with her make her laugh a girl loves it when you make her laugh.

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Does anyone know of any websites I could use to find scholarship other than Fastweb.com? Do not tell me google, because if you google it you get 20 trillion results. Thanks

you can go to collegeborad.com they have just about every thing in the us and it narrows stuff down for you.

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