I love books and I love to give advice to people when they ask me. I am very well spoken and i tell you the honest truth. i don't just tell you on a whim, I actually process your problem and see how i could help with it. Solving problems aka drama's is something I do constantly with my friends.
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17-f
I had a dream last night that i was in the back of a car with my boyfriend of 2 yrs. (so far) & in the dream we were married or atleast engaged...bbecause i saw a ring on my finger. except we were older and i was in the back seat because our little baby was beside me in his carseat i was playing with him and making him giggle and we were on the way to the hospital to have my next baby checked out (i'd say i was about 5 months in.)
thats all i remember from the dream...im just really curious to what it means.
thanks in advance. (link)
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Dreams mean a lot of things especially when people are involved. I think that this means that you and your boyfriend will be able to get through hard enough times that you'll soon be married to him or someone like him. Babies are hard to interpert but it could mean that motherhood is in your future not now but soon, that you'll be a good mother.
I suggest that you look it up on the internet or in a dream book that gives you the definition of what this might mean. again suggestion don't really have to look it up if you don't want to.
hoped i helped
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18, f.
how can you tell someone you want to be sexual with them if you dont know 100% they feel the same? i dont want to make a fool of myself but everytime we hangout it's so intense, we flirt like crazy but he gives mixed signals. i know we're both attracted to each other but we've also been good friends for awhile now too so its hard to tell. how can i let him know i really want him, and to please him haha okay that sounded kinda stupid but you know what i mean. i need some suggestions when i'm with him and when texting without completely saying like i want to have sex with you or something as of that because if he didnt feel the same i would feel extremely dumb. but this has been going on long enough, he turns me on everytime i see him!!! (link)
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If you really like this guy and he turns you on so much that you have the urdge to have sex with him.You should first ask him what he is feeling.
You said that he gives off mix signals find out what signal you are to him and ask him nicely to keep it. Then ask him if he is into you if he would like to ever has sex.
That is what I would do first figure out what signal he is giving me and then ask if he likes me and then go into if he would ever has sex with anyone. If he say's yes ask with what gender because he might say yes but only with guys who really knows these days.
hoped i helped with your problem.
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Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f. (link)
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That happens to me all the time. I think you should tell him the truth unless you just know going out with him is going to turn out like a tiger and rabbit. Which means for the worst because the tiger is going to win while the poor rabbit is killed.
Okay enough confusion, here is what you should do, you don't like him but you like talking to him. So, make yourself to were he doesn't like you anymore but still has the balls to talk to you and have a shoulder to cry on. This may work if it doesn't work and you hurt him again you'll be in that arkward silence. Actually I hate to say it but some people are not meant to talk to each other. Telling him the truth may hurt him and he won't talk to you for a while but he will soon get over it and end up talking to you again if you try to get the conversation going. Truth works if that doesn't work then just for the sake of him go on a date.
Hope I didn't confuse you. Good luck, and no I honestly don't think your a bad person truth hurts and life is hard and if you don't like him he is just going to have to deal with that and move on.
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My only bestfriend has been talking to this guy that I like alot lately. I really do like him, he's such a great guy. Well my friend and I were talking last night about her talking to him a little bit. Now talks to all the guys in our group A LOT. The problem isnt exactly that she talks to them alot. It's that they tell her so many things. Like when my friend,we'll call her A, and my other friend, we'll call him K, were going out K would tell my best friend things that he didnt even tell A. I dont know I just don't think that's right. It really bugs me that all the guys in our group talk to her and tell her things that they don't even tell their own girlfirends. I mean i'm glad that they can open up to her about things, but well I don't know it just really bugs me. My friend always does this, I say I like a guy and then she wants to talk to him all of a sudden. Not to mention the fact that she flirts with them. The guy that I really like, well she flirts with him constantly, she even told me she does, she also has a boyfriend so that definitely doesnt make sense to me. I just don't know what to do about it. She said she just gets along better with the guys, and I could have understood that, but the fact that she flirts with them, even though she knows that I really like them, I don't understand that. I don't know what to do. What do you think of this, what should I do. I'm just really scared of losing him to her. I really don't want that to happen. Plus I don't like her flirting with so many people even though she has a boyfriend. She even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend, and then if he gets the least bit upset about it she just tells him to stop being so jealous and that it's nothing. I don't know, help please. Any advice would be greatly appeciated. (link)
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First off tell your friend to stop her flirting, second a lot of friend talk to the guy that their friend likes because they want to know if this guy is good for them or not. Also tell your friend to back off especially if she knows that you like him, because she is doing this to annoy you and it is working. so, call her on the carpet and tell her to leave your man alone, he is yours okay not yet but if he likes you back then he will be. That is the best part of being a girl you can be as mean as you want and you can blame it on your period or just her. Stand up for yourself.
Here is what you should do, instead of her talking to him, you should and when it looks like she is on the verge of flirt central, butt in and when I say butt in I mean it push her off to the side and pull him away saying that you need to talk to him in private. Then make something up like: do you have the same teacher for math or something. If you don't have the same teachers at different times don't use it.
A lot of girls are good with the guys because they seem to understand them a little more and like you said it is great that your guy friends are so open to her, but she isn't their girlfriends and whatever is the problem in their relationships won't help them if they talk to your friend.
hoped I helped you, good luck
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I need a sexual healing. GIVE IT TO ME!
Lol well not exactly sex because I feel I'm not quite ready for that but...
I have an amazing boyfriend. He's not perfect but hey no one is. Regardless I love him all the same but I want more. I want to fool around, you know. We have a few times before but I want to do something to him for a change. I've touched outside his pants but I'm at a lost when it comes to being inside. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions or advice or maybe tips? Anything would be helpful (except anything about bj's {-pretty gross to me). You do not have to just talk about being inside his pants. (link)
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I would suggest teasing him making him want you more even when he really doesn't. Guys do all the things that we yearn for to be touched inside the thigh, up the shirt stuff like that.
But if you want to be healed start making out with him, don't go so far as sex since you said you weren't ready but if it was me I would be asking what is comfortable for him, and start doing it after he is done listing.
see I would ask because they normally don't because they just assume that is what you want right now. You could just hold him and rub your hand up and down his arm, wear something that he likes and start pretending to take it off, or if your into rpg games role playing games dress up as a character and make your own lines up.
It really all depends on what turns you on.
hoped I helped you.
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i have been friends with taylor on and off for more than two years. me and a few frriends will stay over her boyfriends house on weekends and part there random weekdays too. we always have a lot of fun, we are all exactly alike and just wild teenagers and twenty yearolds. i was shopping with our friend melissa last night and she told me thattaylor told her a story of how one day taylor was in stop and shop and when she came out i put condoms all over her car as a joke and she had to pick all of them up..., never happened. she also told melisaa that one time i put a bumpersticker on her car that said somehting funny.. never happened. and she also tellls me she has her nipples pierced but she tells me not to tell anyone else. so she clearly doesnt. she also told melissa i called her a pervert because she madeout with a 17yearold. and to be honest i dont care, its sort of funny. there are so many more stories like that, its just so aggravating. what can we do? (link)
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I know exactly how that feels. My friends and i are the same as well, if it was me and one of my friends where making up stories and talking sh*t behind my back i wouldn't take it. i would go up to whoever it is and tell striaght out that if you have something to say or stories to tell tell them to me. And the next time that happens you and i are no longer friends, don't come up to me and say hi because once your out you can't come back.
Some people aren't that way though. some are just well maybe if i mention it she/he might tell me what is up they might have a small problem at home or they just want attention, which is mostly that.
Tell it to their face that they need to stop spreading stories about you and if that doesn't work telling someone helps to, so you might be a snitch and a rat but at least she would stop if that doesn't work, say something that you know will terrify that person forever and just keep bringing it up when you hear more of these so called "stories".
Hoped my suggestions helped. Good luck.
dearbookworm
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16/female
normally i dont need help but this is like serious haha. my exboyfriend & i went out for 2 years.. im finally over him after 6 months. of course there are a cute guy in atleast 1 of my classes, but most of the cute ones are in honors.. surpisingly. haha well this one boy lets call him shae, is in my math class but sits on the other side of the room. hes REALLY quiet, but i kinda am too cause i dont talk to alot of people in that class. ive only talked to him twice lol. i asked him if he talks and hes like yeah i do i just have no friends in this class.. and i asked if he got a haircut and he said yes and i told him i liked itt lmao. i really dont know how i'm spose to talk to this boy who sits on the other side of class.. same with alot of other boys. & we have assigned seats. s0o how do i talk to the boys that arent in my classes.. or sit on the other side of the room lol =) (link)
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Boys are hard to talk to no matter if you hang around them or not. Here's the thoery, if you don't like the guy you can talk like mad and never shut up, but if you do then your mind seems to go into that omg i don't want to sound like a complete idiot so what do i say.
Talking to the guy in your class is easy and simple, before class starts go to him if he is there and since he said he doesn't have any friends say that you'll be his friend and invite him to hang out with your friends.
Talking to the guys who are not in your class is not so easy. First you have to know there name. secound find out if that guy has a class with one of your friends and ask them to talk to him or set up a small get together like the movies or bowling or whatever you like to do when your not at school.
Boys like to talk about boy things and not girl things like i just bought this braclet at the store yesterday what do you think of it, most boys any way. so find out about this guy in your class what does he like what doesn't he like, stuff like that. yes i know it sounds like you have to be his friend first, but that is how you end up with the courage to ask him out.
hoped i helped you. good luck.
dearbookworm
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How can I lose weight? I only need to lose about 5-10 pounds. I have celiac desease so I don't eat wheat. And I don't have many cravings so thats no problem.(I only crave Capri Sun) I eat pretty healthy so I really only need help on are some good excercises. So I guess the question is does any one know any good exercises for losing weight? I don't need to lose it fast. I want it off by June 19 so I have a few months. Thanks! (link)
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Losing weight is hard even if it is just five to ten pounds.
i would suggest something fun, like make the exercise fun for you so you don't feel like your excercising. it all depends on what you like to do.
Dancing
weights
running
walking
if your into more intence try hula dancing or belly dancing or you can buy a cardio work out with someone famous on it or you can buy dancing with the stars cadio work out no partner needed.
hoped i helped you.
dearbookworm
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So i'm really Into writing and Its very deep and important for me. I was wondering if there was any sites where writers can talk and share there writing It would mean a ton to me =] please && thanks!!! (link)
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Well, congradulations first off because writing is a good way to start off as a deep thinking emotional person. i am saying this because i am a writer as well so i just wanted to congradulate you.
okay so i don't know a lot of websites that give you that without you having to pay in order to do whatever it is your trying to do, but i would start off with blogging or go to yahoo or google and look up writing websites. i'm more of a book person than internet.
so i hoped i helped you. good luck if your still into it later. and i hope you find what your looking for.
dearbookworm
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(16/f)I am going to try out for my high school talent show in a couple of weeks, singing a song and accompanying myself on the piano, and I'm not sure what song I am going to sing. I tend to lean towards singing songs that are a little more bluesy and soulful and I like a lot of older music, but I like literally every genre of music and am open to anything. here are some of the songs i am considering:
Lovin U- Alicia Keys
Hallelujah- Jeff Buckley
What goes around comes around- Justin Timberlake
Sorry seems to be the hardest word- Elton John
That'll be the day- Linda Rondstadt
Who's loving you- the Jackson 5
The Way you make me feel- Michael Jackson
I wanted to get people's opinions on what song they think would be best to sing, and I would also absolutely love any other song suggestions.
thanks so much! (link)
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Well bluesy is what your into, so here are some people who sing that type.
Alicison Krauss- country blues like a bluegrass sound
Pasty cline- has that bluesy voice
BB king- blues man
here are some that aren't blues:
kelly clarkson
Britney spears
Mandy Moore
Faith hill
Carrie underwood
aly and aj
hoped this helped
dearbookworm
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Ok my friend has told me that when you manage a club for about 5 or 6 years your son is generated in the game.I'm just wondering if this is true as I and him love Football manager for years now I don't really stay at a club for 5 or 6 years. (link)
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This is true if your a football couches son, he or she would want you to play. But here is the real question: Do you want to play?
If you don't stay at a club for five or six years then i don't believe you can do that.
hoped this helped?
dearbookworm
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Wow, this has been bothering me all day.
There's a country song, forget who it's by and what the title is.. and I only remember a small portion of it.
The story line is basically about two people who are so familiar with eachother... and one of the lines talks about how before one of them sits down at the restaurant, the other one has already ordered for them.
I dunno, sorry that's all I can give.
Please help!! (link)
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It sounds like a Gretchen Wilson, Carrie Underwood, Taylor Swift, or a very new artist.
It might even be a pop song, who actually knows since country and pop are going to each other stations and playing the artists songs.
Maybe it is Jessica Simpson.
Hoped this helped, these are all guess here.
anything else you need to know just aske me
dearbookworm.
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http://stickam.com/viewMedia.do?mId=182995490 (link)
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I listened to this video twice and here is what i seem to get from it, the beggining sounds like hey there delilah then goes into a sound track. Becasuse it goes faster but it is hard to decipher because artist/singers steal some melodies from other artist/singers. it seem like they were just making a song up from the top of their heads because the one playing the guitar says that he/she doesn't know the words "i just made them up". the one on the right says that he/she "should wright it down" and then the girl just seems to being saying words with the music.
Hoped i helped you.
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In this Avril Lavigne fan video what music video is used at 2 minutes and 20 seconds through 2 minutes and 27 seconds?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkGacEwwb9A (link)
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I believe it is from He wasn't, but I could be wrong. i would kinda look through her music on youtube starting with he wasn't in order really truly figure it out.
Hoped this helped.
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So I've known this boy for like six months, I can't say we've been talking that whole time, cause when we were we weren't that serious, M. I had sex (lost my virginity) to another guy during the course of that time, I have no affection or love or anything for that boy. I truly feel I love M. Im pretty sure were going to end up having sex, but we're not together or anything, do you think it's bad for me to have sex with him & he's not my boyfriend? He knows how I feel about him, and he knows I wouldn't do anything with anyone else but him. Do you think he'll think I'm fast cause I have sex with him & were not together, & do you think he might not ever want to get with me because of us doing this before being in a relationship? Advice pleasee (link)
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This is a opinion but yes I do think it is bad to have sex when he isn't your boyfriend. But if he knows how you feel about him, I would talk to him about this. because six months is a long time to know someone but if you never really talk I would honestly start with that (talking of course).
Talking is the best policy, especially when your unsure of something, doesn't really matter if your in a relationship or not, if you want him he has to want you back or you'll just being doing the same thing with the other guy.
Being fast doesn't mean your a bad person, it just means that you've grown up a lot faster and your needs for things needs to be forfilled now and not later, don't worry everyone grows up differently, some are not very fast so their needs don't hit til maybe adulthood.
If your in adulthood then again talking would work actually talking works if your in adulthood or not.
Good Luck hoped i help you, sorry if i am to repeative.
Bookworm
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Hey everyone. Im 15 years old, my name is Tayden Nicole. This may sound like a depret atempt too get a boyfriend. Its not that i have a problem getting guys, its more that i cant find a cute and honest guy. I would really enjoy having a boyfriend that meets those two simple things, If you are a guy arounf my age that saw this, and youre single.. Please message me and we can get too know eachother.
Thanks in advance (link)
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First off sorry i am not a guy, but i do know what your talking about. Finding that kind of guy is hard because they like to tell you what you what to hear not what you need to hear. At the age of fifteen not a lot of guys are going to honest they may be cute though.
Guys around that age not all but some only think about getting a girl in order to impress friends, get another girl, or get them into bed since they sort of get in to that.
Don't get me wrong, like i said not all boys think that way but most of them do. so, here is my suggestion, do a speed date except do the opposite a slow date. have a lot of girls and guys get together and ask questions.
Go for the guys that your friends know a little bit about, this way you can ask them if he is lying or not. Now if you like one or a lot of the guys you ask just say a get together at B&N or your house somewhere that has a lot of witnesses just incase things go wrong.
Hoped i helped. If i didn't i am terribly sorry. Anymore question contact me
From:dearbookworm
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I really honestly am stuck on what to do..... Im so short money and I still need to pay my phone bill.. I have to get all my stuff to deadwood before the end of march when my lease ends in my apartment... my car just broke down and i still owe about 2800 dollars on that... thank god for my mom letting me drive her car.... I jut feel like everything is falling on me at once and its just too much. I know im not the only person out there with these problems but I need some advice to let me know what i can do so i dont end up in the nut house!!!! (link)
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Like you said, everyone has these problems. I would suggest doing the one thing that is the most important. For instance since your using your mothers car you can go back to packing or trying to get money,have you ever tried cash advanced when you need money right now in a emergency and it sounds like your in one of those. i believe that is what is called.
That is what i would do find what is the most important and do that first. if you can't find anything that is most important do everything one at a time so you don't overwhelm yourself.
Hope things go better, and hoped i helped
dearbookworm
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ok i like this guy but i dont know how to tell him..i mean i talk to him should i tell him that i like him? (link)
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Here's a question, do you think it would help or destroy the friend relationship that you have between this guy? Do you have fun with him while your with him? if so, just tell him that your interested in him by asking him alone to a movie or something. if you really like him i would tell him, yes i know it isn't as easy as it sounds but i'm sure he will tell you an honost answer.
Good luck
Hope i helped.
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so theres this kid he calls me cute/ hot &stuff and invited me to go away w/ him in the summer and he sends me " (link)
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Most boys who do that do like you. At first i would just assum he was flirting but then he wanted you to go away with him for the summer. honostly i think you should ask him if you haven't yet. if he avoids the question, and starts the conversation with something else then maybe he does. i don't want to give you false information, but he probably does. I would ask.
Good luck and hoped i helped.
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Does anyone know who the guy in "What Hurts The Most" video is? Thnx in advance! (link)
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I looked up the video and looked very closley at the guy who isn't singing but is with the girl. you really don't get a good look at him, but far away he looks likes josh Harnet, and up close with a profile he looks like David Archileta. Try looking it up on Youtube and post if you can.
Hoped i helped you.
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