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Too fast ?
So I've known this boy for like six months, I can't say we've been talking that whole time, cause when we were we weren't that serious, M. I had sex (lost my virginity) to another guy during the course of that time, I have no affection or love or anything for that boy. I truly feel I love M. Im pretty sure were going to end up having sex, but we're not together or anything, do you think it's bad for me to have sex with him & he's not my boyfriend? He knows how I feel about him, and he knows I wouldn't do anything with anyone else but him. Do you think he'll think I'm fast cause I have sex with him & were not together, & do you think he might not ever want to get with me because of us doing this before being in a relationship? Advice pleasee
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He won't think your fast if you have sex with him...he'll know it!
You call him a "boy" so that tells me you are pretty young. In my humble opinion, you are probably too young to be having sex anyway. You aren't in love with this boy, you are infatuated with him. You have all the emotions that go along with infatuation and they are strong!
There are consequences to everything we do in life. If he perceives you as 'easy', he will take full advantage of that and he will have bragging rights to it. Your reputation is far more valuable than any relationship that could ever come from this. We are talking about your body, here. Your body is YOU. Do you really think you should hand yourself over to a boy who you aren't even dating? I say "no". Not even to a boy you are dating! Any boy who respects you will respect your decision not to have sex. Sex never bought anyone's love or commitment.
You'll know true love and commitment when you have a boy who sticks around day in and day out even if he isn't getting sex from you. That's the kind of relationship that is worth pursuing. Anything else is just an exercise on how to get in your pants.
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This is a opinion but yes I do think it is bad to have sex when he isn't your boyfriend. But if he knows how you feel about him, I would talk to him about this. because six months is a long time to know someone but if you never really talk I would honestly start with that (talking of course).
Talking is the best policy, especially when your unsure of something, doesn't really matter if your in a relationship or not, if you want him he has to want you back or you'll just being doing the same thing with the other guy.
Being fast doesn't mean your a bad person, it just means that you've grown up a lot faster and your needs for things needs to be forfilled now and not later, don't worry everyone grows up differently, some are not very fast so their needs don't hit til maybe adulthood.
If your in adulthood then again talking would work actually talking works if your in adulthood or not.
Good Luck hoped i help you, sorry if i am to repeative.
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