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Q: my boyfriend smells really funky down there... is that normal? if not how do i tell him?

Well that would suck. Maybe he just dont wash it you no. Like maybe when your having sex be like babi you stinky you no make a joke out of it. Or just come out and tell him babi im not trying to be mean but you stink down there. They have spray for that stuff to. Get a shower with him and wash if your kinki like that and wanna wash it to make sure he cleans it. Hope i helped!

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: About a year ago when i was 14 my best friend and i were kinda role playing when she would sleep over and i just felt so comfortable touching eachother and i enjoyed it sooo much! But now she thinks it's gross and i don't know how to approch any other gurl because it's really fun. It's like girls know what feels good to them so they do it to their partner. i don't think i'm lez because i like guys and have a bf but i enjoy doing sexual things wit girls and i can't take my eyes off their bodies in the locker rooms and stuff. what should i do?

Well you could be just in a stage you no. Maybe your friend has already went through her stage of it thats why she thinks its grose. Or maybe your BI like BI girls have bfs but do LOTS of things with girls!! Theres nothing being with being BI beleive me i dout your bf will care lol. He might make jokes but who cares. Being BI is just something you are and if you ever need to talk about this just send me some questions ill answer everything you need to no!! Let me no if i helped

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: I have a weird discharge, it smells a little weird but it smells good to me. In my underwear its stained yellow and its a little crusty whitish. But the significant thing that ive noticed is that on my genitals there is whitish stuff. Like in my inner lips, theres white chunkish stuff, and the closest thing that i can relate it to is cottage cheese. i heard this is an infection, and theres no possible way i can go to a doctor/gyno right now. And sometimes i get this feeling in my vagina thats like a cramp, but INSIDE my vagina like theres a knife stuck in it. It only lasts for about one second but it happens like 3-4 times a day and it stops me in my tracks. 1) Is this really an infection? 2) How do i treat it without going to the doc?

Ok well it could be a yeast infection(not sure if thats spelt right) they have pills you take. You got that white stuff but all you wanna do is scratch your peach. Like you could scratch forever. The pills will make it go away in about a week you can get them from a drug store well any store with pills. Then it could be something eles i never had this one but my sister did. Its like that and you get pains up there. They started out alittle here and there and she thought maybe it was like another kinda yeast infection and didnt think anything of it then like t he pains wouldnt go away the one day so her friend took her to get it checked out that night cause she was crying. They had to look in her which she didnt want but she had to let them and she was raw inside. Like i guess it can kill you or something if you dont get it checked out all i no is it aint good. So they gave her one pill just one and she had to take it as soon as she got home and then it went away just like that. Well id say try the pills for the yeast infection and if that dont work get it checked out. It could also be the stuff you get like right before you start your peroid just to let you no. Hope i helped

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: Well heres the thing..

Sex..

im completely ready but im scared that the condom will break and ill end up pregnant!

any advice on the subject??

thanks

i rate 5's

Well bab i dout the condom will break. I guess boys can feel it when they break too so just make sure he lets you no. And if you want check the condom when your done just to make sure and dont have sex on your peroid or right after just have it in like the middle the first time till you get used to it you no

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: Ok, I'm 15/f and I was with this guy for 2 months. Well he starting trying to pressure me to have sex with him. And I know this probably sounds stupid but I really wasn't ready to go that far. I know that a lot of other girls have had sex but I just wasn't ready for it yet. So anyway one night we were hanging out and he started to ask me to have sex with him again. I said no and I tried to explain why and make him understand. Well he seemed to understand and I thought that everything was ok. He brought me a drink of water and then I started to feel weird. The next thing I know I'm waking up next to him and now I'm pregnant. My friend said that he probably gave me a drug or something so I would have sex with him. I really don't know and I don't know what to do now. Did he rape me? And what should I do about the pregnancy?

Ohs god id die. If you dont remember what happened he for sure druged you bab. This gotta be the scarests part of your life. Not remembering the first time you had sex would really hurt. Does he no your pregnant? Maybe you should talk to someone bout it. Really something needs to be done cause what if he does it to another girl!! Keep the babi whatever you do i dont beleive in all that other stuff atleast try to raise it in a great life. But really tell someone if your not like with him or you no cause now your 15 and have a baby coming in your life hes not the one who has to have this kid you no . Make him pay for the pain your going through babs. Let me no how things go!!

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: someone said "she's not going to have a cherry after he gets through with her" so what's a cheery, i think it has something to do with your vigina

A cherry is something in a girls peach(Vigina). When you have sex for the first time it will break. It will bleed too when it breaks. When it breaks too it hurts just to let you no. You can break it also by using tampons. It will wear it down and break alittle on its on.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: hey well i am having a problem. okay i dated this guy for four months and i really fell in love with him. at first it was great he was sweet but then we started having problemslike arguing and we would just fuss all the time well that was about last semester of school. this is our second semester anyways his name was andrew and i found out that he had some problems like mental. and i kept breaking up and going back with him on and off. well we broke up feb. 2 of this year and i then started dating this other guy for almost three months. i fell in love with him and he was the second person i ever loved, but andrew was the first. when andrew found out about me and jeremy he started making threats to him and saying all this stuff. well then i finally told andrew to stop and let me live my life. okay me and jeremy have been broke up for a month and a few days. i then have dated this guy michael whom i with now, well i dont care to much for him like everybody thinks. then today andrew's Best Friend who has grown up together came up to me and told me about andrew wanting me back i thought i was for sure over him but when he told me that all these feelings have come back and i am so confused on what to do. my friends say call him and see if he changed and the question is should i call him? and see if it is true? or should i write him well i am writing him now well plz help nikki

Aws give him a chance again. Its not like he cheated on you or anything. And you said you loved him.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: okay...i am 13 f. my bf tried to french kiss me, and he bit my tounge. did i do something wrong? do u know a way that i could help him be a better kisser? thanks -olga

LOL i bet he felt like a ass. Well you could kiss more!! that just cracks me up that he bit your tongue. Did he say sorry?

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: i read an answer to one of the questions about shaving pussy and you said u use nair, and i was thinking about using it because i break up when i do nething else, does nair work good? because its spring n i wanna wear a bikini bottom.. and i usually cant. what kind of nair should i use (i have sensisitive skin) and does it usually work on really coarse hair? i am just gonna do outside the bikini line. how long does it take to grow back?any tips? thanks!

((BI PEOPLE ROCK))

LoL love the BI thingy!. Well nair is really good! I only no of the one kinda mines pink but my freind got a yellow one. It works on all kinda of hair dont worry. I only do it like once a week. You put it on but you dont rub it in. It takes 5 min thats all just 5 but i leave it on for ten so i dont have to do it again. Well hope i helped.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: do most girls shave their pussys?

Lol well i no i dont shave. I nair its stuff that takes hair off of any were. But most girls do

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: how exactly do you finger a girl? and do you have any other advise you can give to a guy that he should know like how to get started or hw to tell when shes ready? well just about any general info will work thanks

Well you could get like started by rubbing her belly sofly. Whisper in her ear you love her. Slowly un do her paints stay calm. Look her in the eyes. If she says stop then stop if she dont then keep going. Pull her paints down to her lower thigh. Tell her not to be scared and youll try to be slow and not to hurt her. Tell her if she wants you to stop just say it and you will. Let her no its ok to moan you wont mind. Kinda rub her inside of her leg first then pull her thong or whatever on down. Slowly rub her. Watch her face try to see what shes feeling. Push alittle harder after awhile. This slowly put her fingers in her. Now kinda like move them around wingle them. If you can try to put two fingers in her. Make her moan dont be scared to push in there. Now your fingers are gonna get alittle messy but the messier the better. Maybe like turn her on if shes like kinki by letting her see you lick your fingers off. Dont worry it wont hurt you. When your all done just just tell her you love her again and help her pull her paints up, Now your all done and you just fingered a girl. Let me no if i helped

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Comment back:
LOL yeah it is like a story but i hope i helped you!!

Q: This kid Brandon, my cousin's friend,and i think he is totally hot! But the problem is that he's 15 and I'm like 13, and a little bit, he flirts with me like, a lot. Does anyone know signs guys can give when they like a girl? He's gone wayy to far on me trying to touch my chest and stuff, and I'm not into that. But its like when he has other girls around, im not even there. what should i do? and now he moved to arizona for the summer, skipping the rest of school this year.now i dont when hes coming back, but probably in august, and i know i'll see him. he is also a trouble-maker, egging ppl's houses and stuff, breaking windows. (etc.) how should i act?

All boys are like that if your not dating. If its just you and him he'll hit on you like crazy. But if his friends are around or another girl your not there i under stand. Oh and age dont matter!! If you dont want anything to do with him when he gets back tell him to back off and forget it. He might not be the same when he comes back he could have changed. Hope i helped!

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: How long do you wait for a pregnancy test? If its an at home one.. About a week?

Id say 3 weeks. Thats when my sister found out was on her third week. Her boobs started to hurt.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: Ok
What kinds of girls attract you, and what kinds turn you off?

Well my friend attract me!!lol were all BI you no... but i like girls with nice shoulders and im not in it for the looks well yeah i am lol i think you should just got with the ones that are more your type you no girls that like to do things you do

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: my period is coming up real soon, and every single one of my friends have told me that tampons work wonders. (by the way i have only had my period once before and im 13) but my mom thinks im not ready, and i feel ready, i have tried one of my mom's tampons, there regular, and i got it in like half way, and i asked her for the beginners teen easy slide ones, and she claims that i am to young to start it, and 2 of my best friends already started putting tampons in by there 3rd period. can someone one give me advice on if i am to young? or jus keep practicing with my moms? ill rate

Well i use them. Not all the time and i had my peroid when i was 12 when i first used one. You really shouldnt use them till you have sex. Cause you have what they call a cherry in you. When you have sex the dick breaks the cherry and makes it easy to put one in. Its up to you though i feel it dont matter what age lots of people who have just started or havnt had sex use them.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: Ever since I started shaving I've always gotten pimples on my legs and thighs. It's really annoying because I don't get any on my face just my legs! What should I do? And why is this happening?

I had this for ever! But i got rid of them by shaving with more shaving cream and putting lots of lotion on my legs. I thought it was was weird too till my sister told me what they were.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: When i was seven years old my mom [lets call her tina] and her friend [lets call her jenn]went away and i was left with *jenns daughter shauna at *jenns sisters house [lets call her jamie] well *jamie has a son john who was 14 at the time. Shauna was asleep and john had his friend jeff over, also 15. john made me do it with him and go to third with him and he said if i didnt then he would kill me.. is this rape? i am asking this years later because it still bothers me=/

Not trying to be mean but um you should no that answer. Yes it was rape. But really it only was if you said NO if you said no thats rape. You should of let someone none cause now its alittle late to do much of anything. You should still tell someone though!!

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: Hmm well maybe I should start like this. I met this girl like 5-6 months ago and she was pretty cool so we became pretty good friends. Now after being with her at school and seeing her here and there after school, I finally figured out I like her a lot. She had a bf though, but he treated her like crap, he wouldnt ever talk to her or do things with her etc. So now she broke up with him and I'm not sure if she likes me or not but I dont want to ask her out because if she doesnt like me our friendship will suffer, and plus I dont usually like to ask people out.

Aws thats cute. I bet you she likes you alot!! I think you should take a chance and ask her out. I wish i would have taken more chances like that in the passed. I bet she thinks the same things you do and is just scared to ask you out. And its great that you two have none each other for awhile. Its way better to start out as friends so you no each other. Hope i helped. Let me no how things go and good luck!!

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: okay so im debating on whether or not i like this guy... like weve talked a lot on the phone recently and hung out alot at school...well he came over yesterday and then called me last night and was like man i wanted to kiss you so bad and i feel stupid for not doing it.. and then he said that if we ever break up he wants me to tell him the reasoning first... well i dont really reccall him askin me or anything... he told me he likes me... but does he think that were already goin out or sumthin?? or if he doesnt... how long do you think it would be before he asked me out?! thanks for your help in advance

Well i think you should ask him if your going out.Cause like he said befor we brake up give me a reason. Thats kinda sound like your going out. But he never asked you out. I had the same thing happen to me with this one boy. He asked me out and i never really gave a answer but i guess it sounded like a yes. Maybe he asked you out in different words and he took your asnwer as a yes. Just ask him. And if your not going out i say id give it any day now till when youll be together!! If your not together yet and you want him ask him out girl dont wait!! Let me no what happens

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

Q: ok i have a bit of a problem.
I just got a hair cut about 3 weeks ago, and my hair is long probably at my boobs and i have all around layers. well I didn't get my layers re-cut because im trying to grow then out, but they are really split bad, other than hair cut what should I do ?!
I've tried pretty much every product, but I can't seem to find anything that works !!

I had the same problem. I had really bad dead ends really bad cause i didnt cut my hair for a year cause i wanted it long. I used Garnier Fructis( Sleek and shine) Work great my hair is so soft and its coming back really nice. I got a trim too and got some layers to help get them gone. But they wouldnt have left with out that stuff. Try it if you havnt its good!!! Let me no if it works.

Love,
Sweetie Pie Ashley

bio

^At the Glo Show
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Lisa
Sam
Ashley(me)

Hey!! How you all doing today? Well im ok i guess people. My names Ashley im 15. I go to the dumbest school ever Shenango!! I love to hang with my friends, partying, listening to music, riding my horses, talking on the phone, watching lifetime. Ohs i have black hair brown eyes 5'1 and a 1/2 cant forget that 1/5 115lbs(im fat i no) dont tell danielle i said that she'll kick my ass!!lol oh yeah im BI!!! I'm a freindly person and i love to meet new people and try new things. I'm a smart girl too but i have no commion sence!!Well i dont no what eles to say but ask my some great qestions plz im here to help when it comes to anything. Every one says im a great peron to talk to about problems. Well i love all of you Poop butts!!
*:.rate me !
.:*[a]ddiction: Boys
*:.[b]irthday: March 1
.:*[c]olor: light babi blue
*:.[d]ream: To have a great life someday(Nikki live with me)
.:*[e]yes: lots colors
*:.[f]riends: too many to name!
.:*[g]rade average: B+ ? lol
*:.[h]air color: Black with some red
.:*[i]nterests: Partying % hanging with friend
*:.[j]ob: barn cleaner
.:*[k]razy: KRAZY AINT EVEN THE WORD FOR ME!!
*:.[l]ocation: in a sucky place called New Castle
.:*[m]usic: Punk, Rap, Metal, Rock
*:.[n]ame: Skeeter
.:*[o]bsession: SEX
*:.[p]lace: Computer room
.:*[q]uotes: love quotes
*:.[r]ace: um..Indian
.:*[s]pecial talents: I can lick my boob
*:.[t]ell something about you: I love my girlsss
.:*[u]nbelievably embarressing moment: too many to name!!
*:.[v]ery best thing about me: My sexi body(Lisa you no you want this)
.:*[w]orst thing about me: I cry over everything
*:.[x]tremly daring stunts: I can hide boys
.:*[y]ummy food: Fruit
*:.[z]odiac sign: if only i new how to spell it LOL
.:*[1]love
*:.[2]Friends
.:*[3]Party
*:.[4]Drinking
.:*[5]Sex
*:.[6]Sexi boys
.:*[7]God(what god??)
*:.[8]peroids
.:*[9]Hair

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