I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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Age: 34
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how do i know if my hymen is broken? besides the whole bleeding thing, is there something i can actually feel or something to let me know?
answers appreciated asap (link)
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Actually, I have to respectfully disagree with the previous advice. Your hymen can be broken before intercourse and it can remain after intercourse. Here's the wikipedia article which shows a hymen:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen
You can usually feel at the opening of your vagina whether it's blocked by the membrane. A doctor can usually tell you for sure.
Sabine
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I'm not sure if this is a sex question or not, but I'm asking anyways. >_<
When I think about certain things (fantasies I guess), white stuff ends up in my panites. Sometimes, it jsut happenes for no reason. There's is usually some in there every day for whatever reason. It's been happening for years and I'm starting to wonder if it's normal for not. Is in the same thing as "cum"? Sorry, I'm not very educated in the sex category.
By the way, I'm 15/F (link)
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Nope. That whitish stuff in your panties is just normal female vaginal discharge. It's our body's way of making natural lubrication. It contains some mucous-y stuff, with a few sloughed cells. The texture and color generally depend on where you are in your menstrual cycle, if it's alredy begun. It might be thinner and clearer, for example, when you are more fertile.
Sabine
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Why is it that when woman orgasms it sometimes shoot out this watery looking substance... I thought it was pee when it happened to me at first... but it dosen't have that urine smell... Is that normal? What is it cause it was a clear fluid.... and if this happens every time does this mean that your having an excellent orgasm or somthing? Just curious.... (link)
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It's not urine. It's called female ejaculate. Not all of us get it.
Here you go:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation
Sabine
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Ok so I know when anybody says "I have a friend who..." they mean themselves. but im really talking about someone else here
so my friend travis and i were talking about taking midterms next week, and he said he heard about people taking chap stick and running it across the little black bars to make all the answers correct. i know it sounds stupid for me to ask this, but is he right? because there IS a possibility, but if its not true i dont want him to fail his exams, because he would have just wrote down random answers and used the chap stick.
please help me out (link)
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"I have a friend who" worked at the OMR (optical mark reader) place in college. They marked all of the scantron sheets. I saw it being done several times. There's no way chapstick would fool the machine into marking everything correct. The thing that's more likely to happen is that it will stick his paper to another one and either jam up the machine or simply go through without being read. Your friend is risking getting a zero. :0
Sabine
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i feel lazy, have a constant desire to eat esp. sweets, getting forgetful, socially remorse, shouting everytime i get irritated, gaining fat and weight, sexually sterile, lost confidence in having a career again.i am 28, an MBA and a mother of a daughter of 2.5 yrs.presently at home.no friends but no problems with spouse.what can be the problem with me as i loathe myself bcause of my laziness and wont do anything even as i know that it is wrong.i am from india (link)
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You are not alone. Many of us experience these problems. There's loss of your career which leads to a feeling of lost identity. There is the stress of a difficult marriage. Even the joy of parenting a 2 1/2 year old is physically and emotionally draining. Know that this is not unfixable.
First, you need to see a physician and tell him/her what you said here. S/he can do bloodwork to make sure you don't have a low thyroid level or diabetes. Second, you may wish to look into a Mom's Day Out program to give yourself time alone. Third, please check out this organization: http://www.momsclub.org/ They have helped me more than I can mention. I'm also a stay-at-home Mom. Fourth, you may wish to see about getting a part-time job, if it's possible. That may give you time away from a stessful situation at home, more confidence in yourself, and a renewed sense of worth. I agree with the previous advice-giver that you sound as if you're depressed. Your doctor can probably help you. Good luck and take one day at a time.
Sabine
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the screen on my mp4 player(new version of mp3) cracked.is there any place that like replaces the screens or anything? because the mp4 player itsself works fine, its just the screen.so is there any way I could take it or send it somewhere to have it fixed or replaced?
anything would be GREATLY appreciated.thanks!!! (link)
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Oh, dear! :(
Have you looked up the manufacturer on the web or tried to call customer service for them? I'm not very tech savy, but you asked for anything! Hope I helped.
Sabine
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ive been on accutance for 7 years now is that bad? are there any risks? (link)
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Here's the FDA website:
http://www.fda.gov/cder/foi/label/2005/018662s056lbl.pdf
Accutane has been linked to serious birth defects and should not be used by any woman of childbearing age who is not protected against pregnancy. It is also linked to mental illness. I don't know your gender or age, so it's hard to answer exactly. Your dermatologist can help you understand the risks and weigh those against the benefits.
Good luck,
Sabine
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15/F
I broke up with this boy about 2 months ago. And we stayed friends and we talk. 1 of our friends says he talks about me all the time. She says he tells her good things about me all the time. He says he doesn't like me anymore, but she tells me different! Who should I believe? Does he tell me no because he doesn't want me to know or does he really not like me. I can I find out??? (link)
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What motivation would your friend have to lie to you about it? Is she trying to keep you away from another guy? Is there another motive? Either way, the guy says he doesn't like you, so don't push it. Whether he really doesn't like you or he's trying not to like you, it all adds up to him not wanting to be with you. Sorry. You should take him at his word and move on. Maybe things will change later, but you can't count on it.
Sabine
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I know i'm getting an ear infection, i've had numerous growing up so i know what they feel like without having to be told by a professional. My mom is supposed to be making me a doctors appointment to get something done about it, but hasn't had the time to make the appointment. I really need to do something about the pain. Does anyone know of an over the counter medicine or at home remedy for an ear infection? I'm seriously willing to try anything.
Also, how can you tell if your getting strep throat or something of the sort. My glands on the right side of my throat are swollen and it hurts severely to swallow. I was told this could be causing my earache, or vise versa. Does anyone know how to get my throat to stop hurting also?
Thanks! (link)
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Poor dear! You can drink hot tea to help your throat. Suck on hard candies or cough drops, anything with sugars which coat the throat. You can gargle with salt water or 1/2 water, 1/2 peroxide to try to kill any bacteria in your throat. You can apply a warm compress to the area just below your ear and near your neck and massage there. You can use things like sucrettes or cloraseptic, which have pain-relieving properties. Regarding your appointment, perhaps you could make an appointment for yourself? I don't know how practical it is. Ask your mom if you can do it. Also, ask her for Advil or Tylenol to help with the pain. Are there other people, like relatives who could take you to the doctor?
Good luck.
Sabine
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I'm not sure why someone brought up the dangerous and illegal idea of getting antibiotics from Mexico, but as she said, please don't do it. Nor should you pour warm oil into your ear, as she also said could damage your hearing. She mentioned that you should take 800 mg of Advil. This is also a bad idea. If you are 15/f, you may be slight of frame and 800 mg of Advil may affect you differently than others. Advil in high doses can cause kidney damage and intestinal bleeding. You don't want to throw up blood, so please be careful with the Advil. Do not exceed the recommended dosages on the bottle, which for an adult is 400 mg, without your doctor's okay. Never go over on Tylenol, either, please, because even a small overdose can kill your liver. Sabine
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I think the psychiatric doctor I have and the psychiatric nurse that I regularly go to, conspirated against me.
I needed to get a drivers license psychiatric paper that I can drive and he was very negative, asked me all crazy stuff like my psychosis illness and If I have had a psychosis the last time etc, and I got very scared and pulled up in a corner , and I left them and I sent a sms to the nurse saying the f word and that I hated them, and now I think I have f... up really badly and now I dont feel good I was in a psychosis yesterday and I felt they were conspirating against me, I really need your help!
Apologise my poor English , I am foreign. (link)
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This must all be so scary for you. :( I suggest that, since you admit that you were psychotic yesterday, maybe what the doctor is saying is correct. You need to get your medication taken care of so you can start feeling better and not so out of control. Then you can work on driving and your other goals. If you are stabilized on medicine, later, and you feel that you are not in a psychotic episode but you still feel as if the psych nurse and the psychiatrist don't have your best interests at heart, you must tell them and let them know why. You can choose then to end your relationship with them, if it seems appropriate. It must be horrible for you. Please talk with your support network, including support groups, friends, and family, if you need an objective opinion as to whether you are seeing reality. I wish you the best.
Sabine
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Is there a specific number of times you have to have sex in order to have a baby? Just wondering.. thanks (link)
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The only specific number is at least 1, with one possible notable exception (Mary). One or more times could possibly cause pregnancy. Some people on the other side of the spectrum could have sex hourly and not be able to get pregnant.
Sabine
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im looking for a website that show pictures of native american facepainting and the meaning behind it im looking to find one particular style. where they paint a dark blue strip across there eye area. please dont guess or give your own explanation i want a website (link)
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im serious about the not guessing or explanation part aand if you have no idea please dont answer.
Okay, seriously? Your tone is insulting. If you need this information, google it and go through each web page to find your very specific answer. Post here if you want advice on the best face paint to use, but do your own internet research, okay? If you give me a low rating, you can count on me to contest it.
Sabine
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does any1 have any links that shows information about the civil war in england between 1642-1649??
thanks
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_Civil_War
Sabine
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ok soooooo. im in modern world history honors.(freshman) i absolutely hate it. ok so first of all, we don't have textbooks. because there's not enough or something. and the teacher gives these question sheets out almost every night, and to answer them we have to find the information online, or we recently got these documents books that are so boring and hard to understand that i don't even bother looking at it. so basically, we have to find everything on the internet. which is COMPLETELY unfair. my friend who is in CP history, has a textbook and sometimes my other friend & i (who is also in honors) would look at her textbook to find answers. suddenly, our teacher has caught on and says how we're in honors and we have to learn how to generate our own answers blahblah. (other kids use the textbook too, see like everyone thinks this is retarded and hates her homework) i also think the way she teaches is bad. ok well what she does is give us the question sheet the night before she goes over it in class, which makes it soo hard to do the question sheet, cuz when we go online we're not sure what to look for and we're not sure if it's right. sometimes the question sheets take me up to an hour. and i just hate ittt! i have a test tomorrow and i'm completely confused! well what should i do? this is really starting to annoy me. it's soo unfair. just because we're in honors doesn't mean we're geniuses. what should i do?!?! (link)
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Hmmm... I'd have to take a serious stand. First of all, what if you didn't have a computer or your internet access were down? Are only those wealthy enough to enjoy computers and internet access allowed into the class? Since it's not a computer course, I'd say that the policy of answers only being looked up online is class discrimination. Bring Karl Marx into the discussion, if you can! That'll show her some world history. Second, I would ask her why the internet, with all of its misinformation, slang, and biases, is a better resource than a textbook. Are ALL books off limits? Or only that text? Could you check out a similar text from the library, like, for example, _A People's History of the United States_? Being able to find your own answers is great, but specifying that you can only use the internet is what tweaks me. And don't forget to paraphrase whatever you find in any book. Do not quote word-for-word unless you credit the author or you can get into serious trouble.
How to study depends on your experience of what kind of tests she gives. Does she want essays? Then study the stories. Does she quiz on dates? Memorize the dates using nmemonics. Tailor your approach to whatever your experience tells you is likely to be asked. Go over notes from class, etc.
Hope I helped.
Sabine
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i dont know whats wrong with me i been just acting weird! im afraid of death and thats all i seem to think about! when i get into a car i pray that we make it back alive and safe when im gone away from my mother i pray that she's ok and that nothing happens while im gone! i love my mother to death she is my everything my world and i would seriously go crazy if something was to happen to her! i do believe in GOD he is also a big part of my life even though i dont go to church anymore i trust him with my life! but my problem is that i was told by a verity of people that i was bipolar and at first i just laughed it off but now im starting to think that i really am and its gettin the best of me! i have a boyfriend that is so annoying but i love him we been together off in on for almost 10 months and he puts me through alot of things that makes me sad and mad sometimes but i get over it because we always seem to work things out but i have to much stress to deal with! my mom has alot of health problems and im just scared that she's going to leave me on this hell hole called earth by myself! i do have friends that i love so trust me im not lonely but she's my everything i got so close to her that im scard to let go! but then its a twist they always say the one that worries the most is the first to go and thats me im also scared that i may die and leave her here by her self! i kno i have a better chance of leaving on this earth without her than the other way around! im scared to death i cry every night and i read the bible to make me feel better but it dont always help! everything is so depressing and crazy! i dont want her to die and leave me but then i dont want to die and leave her! i dont know if im going to heaven or hell i dont even know how im going to die or how she's going to die! i dont kno if its going to be painful if we going to die together or if i would live another second! i dont kno if my boyfriend loves me like he said before because he treats me different! my mom is having surgery and i dont even know if she would live to have that happen! im confused about everything and scared at the same time i cant talk to my friend because some of them dont know what the other may know! i dont know who to turn to and i dont know why im feeling this way! i need help i think i may be depressed! im not going to kill myself for the simple fact that i cant be without my mom! i thought i was going to be doing better this year but it seems not! im just going crazy! my birthday is this summer and im going to be 16 and she is planning so much stuff but she wont tell me and everytime somebody plans things for a big day something bad always happen! i dont know what but im afraid i may die before that day or she may die but anyway it goes i need serious help because im losing my mind i dont act different around people so they wont ask me things but she can tell that im not the same! since i think about death will i be the first to go? PLZ HELP ME i dont know what to do i need help ASAP!!! plz!!!!!!! (link)
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Yikes. You have an obvious case of anxiety disorder. Whether or not you're bipolar, I can't tell. What I can tell is that you need to see a PSYCHIATRIST, not a psychologist or a counselor. Your symptoms are bad enough that they are affecting your life, causing thoughts of death and suicide, and making you pretend to be something you're not (calm) so you don't worry others. You most likely have a medical condition which can be eased with the help of a good psychiatrist.
Don't be afraid to see a psychiatrist. Our thoughts and emotions are affected by the physical problems in our brains. The only people who can be sure they will never need help are those without thoughts or emotions. Why should you suffer like this? Tell your mom you need to see a doctor immediately and either see or get a referral to a psychiatrist. They are medical doctors and they are kind, helpful people, not people who want to judge you, lock you up, drug you, or make your life more difficult.
Good luck, dear.
Sabine
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holy crap.. it feels like theres a burning in my throat. first it felt like i was coughing up some stomach juices or something, and then now i got this taste or whatever in my throat that really hurts!!! i drank some water but its still there! ahh what do i do??? 13/f help!! (link)
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See if someone has some TUMS to get rid of the acid right now. Prilosec OTC, Zantac, or Pepcid will be good to keep the acid away for up to 24 hours. See your doctor if it happens more than 3X in a week.
Sabine
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My dog Bear is a mix bread of a German-Shepered and Black Lab, and ever sence Christmas she's been slipping, sliding, falling on our hard wood floor and she can't get up by herself.She's 12 years old which is old for a dog but she's mine!She has to protect us!She can't leave.....I've seen this happen before to a friends dog and she ended up putting him down but I don't want to put Bear through pain.She's always been here...I was like 2 when we got her and she's apart of the family.I'm crying just asking this but if she doesn't get better I-- I always wanted her to be here to slink around rooms and check on us, Im afraid im ganna come home and she'll be gone(past away).How do I help her?Both of her back legs give out and slide right out from under her....
It's kinda not a question but
Ill miss her (link)
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Definitely take her to the vet. She may just have hip dysplasia, which is common in labs. In that case, anti-inflamatories, or arthritis drugs may help. She may have other issues, such as diabetes or a brain tumor. There is no way for you or anyone on this board to tell you what's wrong with her or how long she has to live. You have to take her to get a proper diagnosis.
I've lost pets. It's always hard. There will never be another Bear like her. And she's going to die sometime, but make sure you have done all you can to give her a great life and a painless death.
Sabine
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if i got tested for mono and it came bck negative could i still have lupus??? (link)
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Uh. Positive mono test is not required for a diagnosis of Lupus. They're not connected. Mononucleosis is caused by the epstein-barr virus. Lupus is caused by genetic and environmental factors and MAY be triggered by a viral infection, such as epstein-barr.
http://www.lupus.org/education/faq.html#1
The average time from onset of lupus symptoms to diagnosis is 4 years. It's hard to diagnose. Your doctor may be ruling out everything else first.
Even if you do have it, don't panic. I've had a variation called Mixed Connective Tissue Disease for 12 years now and it hasn't killed me.
Sabine
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i am always dizzy feeling like im going to throw up,all my jionts are achy, i get hedaches, nd rrashes in the sun and i have swollen lymph nodes everyonce in while...this has been going on for 5 months any idea what it could be? (link)
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Go see a doctor. It could be lupus.
http://www.lupus.org/education/faq.html#1
Sabine
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I get made fun of a lot because I have red hair so people call me firecrotch AND Im not very pretty. I look like a fish. Anyway, guys on my bus are always making fun of me..and I want to know what I say to them. Swearing isnt working - they just mock me and it just gives them a reaction. (link)
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Okay. I looked at you. You are making a fish face, but I don't think you probably usually look like a fish. You seem like a young woman with good grooming, above-average intelligence, and above-average looks. I'd say you are pretty. One picture won't lead me to declare that you're model material, but I see nothing you should be ashamed of.
As for "firecrotch," how would they know? They never will, right? See, bullies don't pick on the ugliest ones. I'm sure there are uglier, poorer, less intelligent, less popular, geekier, (whatever category) kids out there than you, right? They pick on whoever they can get to respond. So nothing you can say to them will make a difference. If you want it to stop, either stay away from them or report their behavior at school. The school counselor should speak with them about what they're doing. It's called sexual harassment and it's serious. The bus driver should be informed and should watch for this behavior.
Other than that, avoid them and don't take the bait when you do see them. Try to be with other people, like friends, so you don't feel so alone. This is a good opportunity to make a friend on the bus if you don't have one already. And remember, you have about 5 more months in the school year. Maybe next year you will drive to school or you'll go to another school. This isn't permanent, only a temporary problem, and if you can get through this, you can face the next challenge.
Be confident. Know your value. Remember those who love you. And don't respond to these boys' lowlife attempts to destroy you.
Sabine
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