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i can never keep a good conversation going, unless someone else starts something i can go on about. its really weird. its because i think so much, i think. whenever im out with friends, i dont talk very much unless someone talks to me first, and i usually suck at keeping a conversation going, and i feel like all my friendships are failing. i feel so self-councious all the time. i hate it. im always worrying that im boring someone or something like that. what should i do?
hey, well before talking to people in person you should take to them on AIM. i find that that helps me to get to know a person better before talking to them in real life. also that avoids any akward silences cause you can always say be right back, if you really cant think of anything to say.
I have a feeling that this guy, who knows I like him, might diss me in the middle of the school cafeteria... dont ask why i know this.
What should I do when this happens? Any tips?
and pleaseee don't tell me to confront him earlier or anything, i know the public humiliation is coming.
hey, well dont like a guy that will diss you in front of EVERYONE. you can do a lot better then that and im sure you deserve a lot better then that. act like you dont care, even if you do.
my 16th birthday is coming in a couple of months..the last week of april to be exact. i want to play something big for it. well, not to big but i kind of want all of my friends to come, and that can be quite a few. (its around twenty).
i want it to be fun too..and something that will be memorable(sp)...
any ideas would be appreciated :)
thanks :)
hey, do something like sweet sixteen. pick a theme. toga, mascarade, or even just colors. host it at a hall. put cameras on each table and have them get turned into you at the end. hire a dj. make it fun.
if i worked monday-friday from 4:00-6:45 (my friend said thats as late as we can work there,were 15) and on weekends from either 8,9, or 10 til some time, about how much money do you think i would make a month? do you know if i would get paid each month or every 2 weeks? and working on the whole weekends thing, would i be able (being 15) to work from 8 or 9:00 in the morning til 2:00 in the afternoon?
hey, you would ahve to talk to burger king about all that stuff, not us.
i lovee to bake...and i want to try a complicated recipe...but not that would taste "complicated" (i'm a picky eater)...can anyone give me a good recipe??
Thanks so Much!!
i moved to my new school in the start of the year; and i still have like no friends!
i mean i have people i talk to in class and stuff and people are always like "we should hang out!" but when i ask them if they want to they already have plans...even if i ask them like that monday for the next friday...
i dont wanna seem too clingy or like im trying to be "popular" or whatever by asking people too much and i dont want to be a tag-along at parties...cause i feel like i need to BEG people to let me go and i dont want to do that...
i thought "i'm new it will take time" but it's been like 6 months!
hey, well you seem to be doing all the right things. join some clubs and that way you will get to know people who have the same interests as you. hopefully there will be projects that will be needed to be done in groups, that will bring you closer to someone. my advice to you is to throw a big party. make it really cool and memorable. that way people will see how much fun you really are and want to hangout wiht you. if worse comes to worse, theres always your friends from your old school and your family. make the best of what you have. also try to think of how you made friends in your old school.
I wasn't quite sure what to put this under..
guys.. do you find big hips to be attractive? i mean not huge but something to grab onto. ive heard mostly yes but id like more opinions. thanks
hey, well even tho im a girl ill answer. yes, guys like when girls have figures. it alsos help to have a pretty face but big hips and a good figure help out a lot.
Hii everyone,
Well I really need a base tan before i go to Hawaii (i live in Alberta, Canada) so i don't get alot of sun. So i'm gunna go to a booth how long will it take for me to get just a base tan? I'm really white haha like pale so how many min's should i get?
Thanks a bunch!:)
hey, well the people at the tanning salon decide that. they observe your skin color and tell you how many minutes to go in for. your minutes will increase the tanner that you get. everyone is different, so getting a base tan takes diffrent amounts of time for everyone. it usually 1-2 weeks tho.
i hate the cigarette smoking that is going on in my house. theres no way to stop it so what can i do for myself
like wearing a gas mask and retreating to my room and opening all the windows?
hey, you should have a family meeting and tell them how you feel. ask them to smoke in one room. in my house its the bathroom. after there done they have to spray the room with air freshener and put on the bathroom fan. in the summer, they can go outside.
What do you do when you're so desperate that you just long for the touch of any human?
hey, well then you try to make friendships/relationships. join clubs and stay social. it will eventually happen.
I have this guy in my class that we went out couple times, and I can tell he really likes me. But I have bf. After I told him that, he said it's better that he doesn't speak to me or see me anymore. (he wasn't mad at me, but just the fact that I have bf) But we are in the same class and need to work on the project together.
Now, he blocked me from the IM, don't reply emails/txt msg/calls, don't talk to me at all.
I know the fact that I have bf hurts him, but I like him as a friend, and don't want us to be this way. I don't want to lose a friend just because of this reason.
How do I tell him that?(if I can finger out how to make him talking to me) How do I make us still be friend?
hey, well if he wont respond to any of your calls/messages, then you need to confront him. grab him in the hallway and have a talk with him. you could also go to his house and ask his parents for him, that way he wont leave you outside in front of his parents. explain to him what your explaining to us. another option would be a note in his locker.
i have stright hair (naturally) and i can never seem to get it curly. I want to scrucnh my hair does anyone have this same problem and can tell me how to use mouuse and curl it. Curling irons dont work so intructions on how to "srucnh" me hair and differnt types of mousse and how to do it would be great! thanks =)
hey, well pantene products are the best. they have shampoo, conditioner, anti-frizz creme, gel, and mouse, all just for scrunching. i like aussie SPRUNCH spray. biolage gel is good, but you can only get that stuff at the salons. the other prodcuts you can get at like walmart. as for scrunching tips, just make sure your hair is pretty wet. what i like to do is mix products. like ill mix gel with mouse and create a product that scrunches well. using a diffuser is also a good way to get a good scrunch.
I'm going to see Daphne Loves Durby (with a bunch of other bands) tonight @ a night club near me called Jaxx (near D.C.)
anyone have any idea's on outfits?!
i'm meeting up w/ people there so my girls cant help me get dressed...
hey, well why dont you call your friends and ask what they are wearing? that way you will know what range to follow, whether its more casual or more dressy.
Alright, this is the deal. I have an extremly
close group of bestfriends. We range from 13 to 14. We've all been friends since I can remember. So this year this girl we never really hangout with started hanging out with us. (We were really nice to her, she just felt left out... its hard to include her when all of us were so close). However we tried our best. So for the past couple months she hasnt been hanging out with us as much but we all still get along. So anyway getting to my point... the beginging of this week she told me she got raped. I had known for a long time she was seeing this older african american boy from another school. I'd met him once and he seemed kind of shady. She doesnt exactly have the same taste in boys as my closer friends and I do, we're into cute preppy suck ups (I know I know.) We were writing notes in LA class and I asked her why they broke up and she told me he forced himself on her and at first I didnt belive her beacuse she does a lot to get attention but I looked over and she was all teary eyed. And She's not the type of person to cry in class. What can I do ? I told her she should talk to someone but she wont. I promised her I wouldnt say anything... but this is horrible right? I just dont know. She told her sister... but her sister just thinks she wanted to, and wasnt raped. Who can I tell ? Or should I just not bother. I dont want her to get angry.
HELP.
thank you.
hey, well dont tell anyone else. if she wanted other people to know then she would have told them. especially dont tell the girls in your group, so probably choose you to tell for a reason. she probably thought taht you were the best secret keeper and you wouldnt want to let her down right? encourage her to tell a trusted parent/guardian. if she doesnt want to do that then advise her to seek help. whether its a conciler or a therapist. be there for her as much as possible, but dont suffocate her.
i have jock itch...
i went to the doctors and they gave me cream to put on it.
how long should it take to go away?
hey, well thats something that you should have asked your doctor while you were there. give the doctors office a call and find out. you could also go back to the doctors.
i'm a 14 yr old female, and i am a freshman in HS. there is this guy, who I'll call Sean (16-17, junior) that i have liked since the beginning of the year, and i think Sean likes me too, because he's always teasing & talking to me with no reason. i was expecting Sean to do something for valentine's day, but he didn't...and yet he still keeps talking to me. why do you think he didn't do anything for valentine's day? because he's always acting like he likes me, then he goes and blows off the biggest love holiday of the year..was he just toying with me? i feel hurt and pathetic for even hoping..but I still like him a lot..
sorry, i asked this question before - but i only got one answer, and I really need some other opinions...cuz my friends are no help because none of my good friends are in the one class that i share with him so they don't know him that well.
hey, well if your sure that he likes you then maybe he was just scared to do something sweet for valentines day. since you guys arent an item, he was probably a) scared that he will push you away or b) scared of your reaction. you should ask him straight up if he likes you, whether its in person or on AIM.
Im having a sleep over and i dont know what to do! what are some fun activities?!
hey, well there are a lot of things to do.
-invite some guys over
-play truth or dare
-go to blockbuster or on demand
-if the guys come theres always, spin the bottle or seven minutes in heaven.
-also guys or no guys, theres manhunt.
-karyoke
-just talking about boys
-decorating a cake
-reading seventeen magazines
-making videos
Ok honestly I don't care if I sound desperate but here it goes...
I HAVEN'T HAD A REAL BOYFRIEND....EVER! And practically everyone I know does! One of my cousins is married, one of my cousins has a boyfriend, the whole school (almost) is going out with SOMEBODY! I'm 13/f
I'm so sick of being single it bothers me so much. Everytime I even get close to having a boyfriend they either transfer or fall for some other girl. I'm not ugly-BELIEVE ME! I get a lot of compliments about that stuff...
I've heard the saying when girls are so beautiful that the guys just settle for something less because they're afraid of rejection but...I don't really think that's the case all the time because I've been asked out before...
BY PEOPLE I DON'T EVEN LIKE THAT ARE YOUNGER THAN ME THAT I'VE NEVER SEEN BEFORE THAT FOLLOW ME OUT OF NOWHERE IN PUBLIC!
How am I ever supposed to get a boyfriend?
I'm not mean
I'm not aggressive
Could it be the people I'm hanging out with?
I'm not loud
I'm not quiet
I'm not weird in a bad way..I just don't get what's wrong with me.
My mom is always telling me "Whoa, you're certainly not going to be one of those girls stuck home on a saturday night in highschool once you get older...but what if i am?
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't want to be boyfriendless forever. I know I probably won't but it's killing my self esteem!
hey, well believe me having a boyfriend isnt everything. sure it makes you feel good about yourself and being loved feels wonderful, but having bestfriends is way more beneficial. you cant find love. true love will come to you when you least expect it. some girls get there first boyfriend at age 14, but then some get it at 19. you just have to wait it out. it will come for you, believe me.
Oh gosh. I think I made a big
mistake. Ok here's an introduction. My friend has repeatedly started forgetting me in her big profile all dedicated to every single friend she has. I have been friends with her since fouth grade and i'm in seventh. When I said why do you keep forgettting me, she said sorry i'll ad you. This is what I said On AIM:
no its ok kaitlin can keep my spot.im not so mad about the fact that im not in it, but that im so not your friend that all those other people are in it but you forgot me when you would be the first person i put in. and when i think about who to invite to parties your the first person i think of.
i know you might be thinking "why the heck is she so mad about a stupid profile" but like im sadthat you just totally forgot about me. im not mad, im totally sad.
and you can tell kaitlin "jackie says thanks for destroying all her friendships" cause the only person that ever does anything with me is my sister.
and the last person that when i say "who are my friends?" does somethin like that.. it really really really makes me feel horrible
your really my only good friend beside sabrina.o and maureen.how nice shes the only one who talks to me during lunch.
you know the REAL REASON why i didnt have a birthday party this year? I HAVE NO ONE TO INVITE BESIDE YOU!
Was this the wrong thing to say?
hey, well no i think it was good that you let your feelings out like that. you may feel stupid and embarassed right now because she didnt say anything back and im sure that you were expecting a big and sappy apology on her part. my guess is that she was shocked and didnt know what to say back, so she just went away. give her some time to think. if she doesnt try to get into contact with you then you need to get into contact with her. aim her, call her, email her, visit her, do anything. as for that gir kaitlin, you need to confront her and tell her those things yourself. and also how you feel. whether its in person or on the phone or on AIM, it needs to be done.
ok so like my friend is being retarded haha. but not where im gonna be mad. and this has nothing to do with the question. jsut if i knew the answer i wouldnt have to ask the question here. but ok anyways. i like this guy. ok and well he knows. and he talks to one of my bestfriends and they have a class together. so like they talk. and she always tells me after school what they talk about well because i like him. and today she blurted sorta kind of out that he liked me. but im not sure if he really does. ebcause i asked her wait are you serious? and shes jsut liek lets jsut say i know some things. and im liek tell me and shes like no! you'll find out eventually. liek as if she will tell me. and ok so like shes liek hes always talking about you and bringing you up. and he forgot my name but my name is hard to pernounce but he knew like what it started with. and im liek whatever if he cant remember my name then eh doesnt care. then shes like oohh no he cares. im like but he cant remember my name. and shes like look he cares! trust me! and im like ok.. well all im asking is first of all i need to talk to him. but im scared. and also i want to flirt. like i flirt like CRAZY but never with someone that knows i like them. so this is knew. so liek what are some cute things that i can do? and what should i say to him?
hey, well just ask him straight up. do you like me? ive heard things around and i just want to know if its true since i like you. thats the only real way that you can find out if a) your friends lying or b) if its true. if you need flirting tips go to http://www.links2love.com