Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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I accidently hurt my friend's feelings over a picture I head on my cell phone. When I showed it to 3 people she sent me a text saying "Why the f*#$ do you have a picture of me on your phone?" and she has hated me ever since. I have tried to apologize many times but all she has ever said is why do you want to be my friend so bad and that's just plain wierd. She is a 15 year old Sophmore and I am a freshman at high school. I see her as somewhat of what I want to be, a great soccer player. She has made Varsity since freshman year and I just want to be as good as her. I dream about my mistake every night and that it becomes fixed, but when I wake up it is only a memory of what I want. Should I just forget about her(even though I see her twice a day and it's hard to do) or should I try something new to get her back? (link)
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Well, many people don't like the pictures that are taken of them. and they don't want them passed around, so I guess it is understanding why she is mad. You may think she looks fabulous in the picture, but its her opinion that matters.
Since she won't talk to you, you'll have to try to slip her a note, or email or text message. I would appeal to her ego. Don't apologize at first, because you already tried that. Tell her how much you admire her, and mention two or three things that she is great at, and you wish you go be as good at it as she is. Tell her you were hoping that she would help you with something. learn something, or help you with your soccer game, so you can, in time, be as good as she is. If this works, and she calms down, then you can apologize (for the last time) and tell her you thought she would be pleased that you had her picture. And that you will never do it again. Give it some time. She may come around. She also sounds very busy, and may not want to put forth the effort for you because she is not pleased with your recent behavior.
Hope this helps
Michele
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how do you know if you don't really love somebody anymore?
i have been dating my boyfriend for a while now and i used to be butterflies in my stomach can't stop thinking about him in love. He was the same way to me, and the thing is he is still completely head over heals for me but im afraid i don't love him. he changed alot lately, he lies to me now, hides stuff from me. he's doing alot of stupid stuff like getting arrested when he is with his friends. i talked to him about it, we even went on a break. he appologized did anythign to get me back and the second i did, he lied to me again. im a good girlfriend and i don't cheat or lie and i am there for him when he gets in trouble but im afraid i don't love him anymore. how will i know for sure? (link)
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This is what dating is for. You get to know each other. Of course everything is wonderful in the beginning because both of you are on your best behavior. But he didn't think enough of you, to stay out of trouble. Dissapointing you was not on his mind. But I can see that you were dissapointed, but you took him back anyway. That gave him no incentive to change. Granted if you did stop seeing him because of his impulsive and stupid behavior, he may have changed, but you would not have had the benefit of that. But that is the way it goes. In my opinion you have given him enough chances and he has taken you for granted. The kind of trouble he is getting into can follow him for the rest of his life.
This must be obvious to you, and that is why you don't love him any more. I think it is time to break it off. I hope he doesn't give you a hard time. When you see him breaking some other girls heart and trust, you can thank goodness that you are not longer involved.
Michele
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I took a picture from my phone, then sent it to my email.
I have a mac, so i can't right click and hit save in pictures,
so i dragged it onto my desktop.
Then, I edited it on "Preveiw" and saved it.
So I went to the myspace upload form, and when i upload it it says error.
What can I do? Why is this Happening (link)
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Well every time that has happened to me, it was because the picture was too large. Can you make it smaller. Also the format. MySpace takes
.jpg format. What format is your picture? Can you save it in jpg. format?
Michele
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My mother is getting married in September and I really think it is a mistake. I think she is really forcing her fiance to marry her and he feels guilty about telling her he doesn't want to. She tells me that he really wants to, but I don't think he does. I have spoken to him many times and he doesn't act like he is very interested in the wedding or in being married. I know he cares for her, she had two major heart attacks and he was by her side for both - and she broke her ankle recently and he was there for her every day. He goes places with her, comes to family gatherings, etc, so I do not doubt that he loves her, it's just the commitment of marriage - he was married before, and his ex-wife left him for someone she met on the internet, so it was not a nice separation and my mother was married to my father for 20+ years and it was a horrid relationship. My father was abusive and a compulsive gambler & liar - so I think she is just looking for peace in her life. I don't want to deny her any love or happiness - but forcing someone to marry you is not right. Her fiancee is still caring for his aging mother and the mother lives in his house, which my mother will be moving into after they are married. My mother thinks that his mother is not going to live very long, and if she dies, they are selling his house and moving out to a adult community. Now, this is what she is telling me, I haven't heard his side of the story.
I would hope he would tell her if he did not want to go through with this, but like I said, he doesn't want to make her unhappy. She is very obsessed with moving into the house and the wedding. This will be the first house she will ever live in, she lived in apartments her whole married life, and her fiancee is putting her name on the mortgage, so she feels that she owns the house with him. Legally she does, but the house is still her fiancee's and his mother's because they were there before she was. Her fiancee is remodeling the kitchen and other parts of the house, for her I suppose, but I am wondering if she is making him do that? It really bothers me that I feel this way, but I cannot shake it and I am on the verge of telling her how I feel, but I am wondering if that will damage our relationship or even if that will make a difference in how she is acting towards all of this? I have told her before how I feel, in a round-about way - but not directly. My two sisters feel the same way, but their attitude is that she is a grown woman and can make decisions on her own, and that her fiancee should tell her if he is not happy, but I really think he just doesn't have the guts to do so. Does my mom really want this fake happiness for the rest of her life? Should I tell her how I really feel? Any advice would be greatly appreciated (link)
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Hi Honey, I understand your desire for your mother and her boyfriend to find happiness, even if it is not with each other. But your sisters are right. They are adults. Wish that we could save people from themselves, but we cannot. I know, I have tried, and been hurt myself in the process. From your description, it seems that your mom is looking for some stability in her life. She has never had any. Her fiance must care about her if he is doing all those things for her. And his reluctance may completely be due to the fact that is first wife left him. And he doesn't want to go through that again. But life has no guarantees and the only way to be sure is take the plunge. Do you want to be with him on his death bed when he says, "gee I wish I had married your mom"? My fiance, after 6 years, finally moved in with me. He was very scared of making a mistake. But today, 6 months later, we are both happy and realize there wasn't anything to be afraid of. Because we both make the effort to make the relationship work. Your mom may just become the happiest person in the world after the wedding and will go overboard to show her new husband how happy she is that he cared about her enough to give her the stability that her life always lacked. (When things go wrong between them, it may be good to remind her of that.) One area that you might intervene (I know I would) is when your mom tries to have his mom move to an adult community. This is his mom's home also. That would place a lot of guilt on the husband and he would take it out on the person who forced his hand, your mother. You might remind her that his mother is also entitled to the same stability that she craves, and it is not right to take it away from her. Basically, they all have to learn to get along.
The best thing you can do is learn from their mistakes. Don't ever put yourself in a position where you have to rely on a man to support you. Earn a college degree and gain skills that make you employable. I found myself alone with two little boys and no means of support, back in 1991. Thank god I had a college education and was able to go to work and support the three of us. I had to provide the stability that my boys needed, even if I didn't feel capable. Today, they are both fine young men, and my oldest is graduating from college this year. thanks for letting me take the time to give you some advice.
Hope it helps
Michele
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Ok, so I have a REALLY bad sunburn and i have trieid putting ice on it and i cant even feel the ice on it. I have put Aloe Vera on it and Ointment Spray that is suppost to help heal burns and it wont work. I cant feel anything on my face or on my shoulders or back except for pain. please help me!!
Shelby (link)
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This is something that worked for me a long time ago when I had a really bad sunburn on the back of my legs. Hopefully you have someone to help you. Soak a lot of tea bags in cool water for 15 minutes to half an hour. when the water is tea colored. Be sure it is cool water. Soak towels in it, and place the towels on the sunburned areas. Leave them there until the warm up, then repeat.
Hope this helps
Michele
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Why are black people more commonly centered in the inner city, and why are white people more spread out among the suburbs? (link)
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The answer is money,power,education, and discriminiation.
White people general have better educations, so they have more money, and more power.
More money, power and educations gives you more choices. You can choose to live where you like. If you are poor, you have to live where the rents are cheaper. Though in the past 20 years or so, many black people have realized that education brings more money and more power, and more and more of them are moving to the suburbs. Though not enough.
Discrimination, is insidious. It is a behind the scenes, unspoken plan, to keep blacks in the inner cities, by perhaps, not showing them any houses in the suburbs, when they are looking to move, or deny their loan application. Things like that also, keep blacks into the inner city.
Here is something interesting. In France, the rich white people live in Paris and the poor ethnic people live in the suburbs.
HOpe this answers your questions.
Michele
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ok i am usually good with my bros and siss but my younger one is a pain in the neck. my life seems to be the center of her life and she keeps butting into it. it got to a point where she went and bot those something for idiots books to teach herself about computers and to hack into my emails. i'm generally a good girl but last semester i kind of let go of the rope a bit and had fun, for the first time in my entire life! i'm over 21! but my parents are extremely strict... and i mean really really! i am not allowed to date until i am like married... (i know it sounds weired but you get use to it where i come from) anyway so i went out dancing one night as a farewell thing with the rest of my frnds who go their seprate ways and i never told her what i did. we live alone. i just sed dinner. the thing is she knws details! and i never ever told anyyyyone about it right.... the only ppl who knew are the friends who i was with and they hate her existance because she'd ruined our vecation in LA when we went on a college trip and i had to take her with or i wdnt go (it got so nasty she yelled and screamed infront of them called my parents and started shouting there are boys everywhere -they already knw that! thats not the case but its the fact she screamed infront of my frnds that was so bad!) anyway so now she knws that i got a bit wild that nite of dancing (nothing slutty or anything i just danced and hung out with my frnds...that wild :s) ..... the onlly person i emailed was my bestfrnd about that nite (she lives in japan) so i cdnt exactly call her (coz my sis eavesdrops) and i thot email was safe. i changed all my paswords after she told mum and dad about another thing (i told them the truth about it and i was very straight forward so she dsnt screw around! i got punished for it and i won't be finishing my education because of it but at least the heard it from me you knw??) but the fact she senses i wast afraid of her is i think what is driving her to find new info on me! i mean whats the matter with her! and why is she on my case!
she is tooooo conservative she doesnt even wear tshirts coz she thinks showing your shoulders is a sin. and she is so rude with everyone and she thinks the only right way is not associating with anyone "wrong". my parents are like her and i am even shocked to say abit lesser than her! (but not so that i could talk to them rationally) i wouldnt be surprised if she was in some kind of terrorist group later in the future! i mean one of my closest friends is gay and the other a lesbian and she attacks them like no tomorow! and pretends not to see them when they pass by. i tried to open up to her but but she attacks me and i don't want to get beaten emotionaly all the time already my parents do that as is.... plus its not like she is unhappy! she likes how she lives (and if you ask me she lives miserably she refuses to go to classes coz she says she shouldn't go out alone!) i don't know what to do! i mean i want my parents to trust me but i don't want to live like her! i get good grades i am well like by almost everyone i knw.... i don't knw what to do!
and i can't find out how she is finding this info on me! and i don't even know why she is doing this! she's nineteen for heavens sake shouldn't she get a life!
please tell me how to handle this. (talking to my parents isn't an option because they'll think of what i did as wrong and forget how she got the info and how she butts into my life! and so is talking to her) honestly i need help i don't my fiance to think i am a weirdo like her. and my parents don't help either.. she is willing to make up stuff to make him angrey at me... i dont know what to do! :'(
sorry this is long but i don't knw who to turn too...
i need a plan i seriously need one with out having to sacrifice myself or what i did to get here! i just need to shut her up until i move away and my older siblings become her problem! (link)
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Wow, that is a problem. I know what it is like to have a sister that hates you and undermines everything you do, and tries to get you in trouble all the time with your folks. Just to make her look good. Sounds like your sister is going to spend the rest of her life telling people how they should live their's. Hopefully you will be out of there soon. I just have one suggestions.....can't you go to Hot Mail, or Yahoo Mail and create a new email account? they are Free and you can have as many as you want. Then she would need your user ID and password to get in. Don't "save" your user ID or password on the computer. And then change it every month, or week if you have to. Not your email address, just the user ID and password that you need to get into your email account.
My second suggestion: Don't ever let her know that she gets to you. In other words don't let her see you sweat. That just gives her incentive to do more. One way that I have found that turns people around and makes them my friend instead of my enemy is "compliments". I pay them a complimment, (try to make it sound sincere) and that seems to change their attitude towards me. All people love flattery. Tell her you "admire" something about her. That almost always works.
If that doesn't work, then she is one tough cookie, who seems more like the "devil" to me, from your description, that a person of faith.
What happened to being charitable?
Hope this helps.
Michele
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So, my EX boyfriend sucked on my nipple for like 10 minutes straight and while it was happening it didn't hurt so bad.
Now, a week later it's been hurting so bad. Like it's been bleeding and it's been scabbing and it's been swelling. It's actually looking a lot better but the pain is terrible; do you think this will cause damage? And, what can I do to help relieve the pain? (link)
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NO I think you will be OK. it just needs time to heal. Mother's who breast feed get the same problem. Eventually the skin in and around their nipples gets used to the baby's constant sucking, but at first, and for a couple of weeks, it hurts. A lot!
Michele
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This is kind of embarrassing and gross. Ok. So, I think I have lice. No, scratch that. I KNOW I have lice, because my head is itching, and the real clincher is finding stuff in my hair. So you're probably thinking, okay, so just get the shampoo, comb it out, and be done! Not so easy. First of all, I have suspected it for quite some time now. A lice outbreak occurred in my school at the end of April. I was checked and found clean then, but a couple weeks after started finding stuff in my hair. I was totally in denial and told my self it was dandruff, and I was itching because I kept thinking about it. I've decided not to be so naive about it now, and realize that I have it. So, the second issue I have is that I'm on vacation right now. That makes it even more inconvenient to have such a gross problem. I have another example of my naivete in the fact that I actually thought that the ocean water would clean the lice right out, but I've decided not to entertain that thought any longer. So, my question is how do I deal with all of this? I've probably spread it to so much now, like the airplane, the hotel room, all the people I've been around. I've been checking everywhere that I have been lately to see if I see any nits or anything that I left behind, and I haven't seen anything, but that doesn't mean it isn't there. Plus, it would be SO inconvenient and unfair to have to deal with lice on our vacation, especially since after Sunday we don't get to see my sister for 9 weeks. What do I do? I'm so confused, and so don't want to deal with it, but at the same time, I just want it to be gone, you know? So, if you have any ideas on what to do, like when to tell my mom, or how to tell her (I know she will freak; I would) that would be helpful. I'm really embarrassed, becuase I know my mom probably hasn't even thought about the lice outbreak lately, and was so sure that we were safe from it. I'm so sorry that this is so long; I just needed to make sure I got everything down. Thanks for any advice you can give. (link)
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Here is a remedy that I found on-line:
INGREDIENTS: 1 bottle of Listerine mouthwash
White vinegar
INSTRUCTIONS: My dughter has very long thick hair and we had suffered head lice for six months, buyingall the chemist remedies,with no effect. My mother bought a book containing household remedies and it said: saturate the hair with listerine mouthwash and cover with a shower cap. Leave for 2 hours then shampoo in the normal way. We did this and it killed all the lice immediately. The saturate the hair with white vinegar and comb with a nit comb and the vinegar destroys the glue that the head lice fix the nits to the hair with. Just comb them out.
I have also read that vasiline works, as it blocks their air hole. You will still need the "nit combs" to comb out your hair. Another remedy that was recommended was Tea Tree Oil, which you can get at any health food or vitamin store. These remedies are designed to help you keep your hair, and not have to cut it off.
It is not your fault that you got head lice. But you do have to tell your mom, you will need her help to get rid of them. You could say you just got them, it is easy enough to get them on vacation, or even from the seat in an airplane, if the person who just sat there before you had them.
Hope this helps
Michele
Maybe this can help.
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i have had two sexual partners and i have not enjoyed sex with either of them! if it goes for too long i end up becoming unlubricated and we cant continue its really embarassing! although i can bring myself to orgasm, i dont know whats going on and i dont want my boyfriend to think its him when it actually happens with all guys (link)
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Ok, I know how you feel honey, I have the same problem. I hope I can help. Not all girls are built the same. Orgasm comes from direct stimulation of the clitoris. And some of us have a small clitoris. It doesn't get stimulated when engaged in sex, in the standard missionary position. You can arouse yourself, because you know where to touch. I have never had an orgasm with regular sex in the missionary position.
I learned many years later, that I could have an orgasm from oral sex. And direct stimulation with fingers or a vibrator. But when I was your age, I would not have been comfortable with that. Luckily I grew out of my embarassment about sex and now have a wonderful sex life, but only because my partner is willing to engage in oral sex.
If you are not ready for that, you might want to suggest that you guys use a vibrator as foreplay,
when you are real close to orgasm, or even when you do orgasm, you could then have intercourse. It is wonderful, and your boyfriend, will love it. He will be very happy to see you stimulated and enjoying yourself.
You can assure him that it is not his fault. It is not even your fault. YOu can't help how you are built. If you are not sure where your clitoris is, you can google the word clitoris, click on images, and you will see some medical images (not porno) of the female anatomy, and you will see the clitoris, and then perhaps with a mirror you can see exatly where yours is.
I hope eventually your boyfriend, or someone in the future, will be happy to please you with oral sex. Then you will be amazed how wonderful it feels.
Hope this helps.
Michele
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My son is 8 years old. He has a very good memory power. He now can tell capitals of all the 193 countries in the world.
Can yu advice me of any other items like above which he can master? Eg currencies of countries, etc.
Kiddly advice.
Regards
Anish (link)
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Well I once asked an engineer, a gentleman who was making $100,000 per year, what I could teach my sons, that would help them with school and work, for the future. And he told me that they should learn and memorize
the multiplication tables.
Michele
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What is shortening? What can I replace it with in my cooking and baking? And is it a natural ingredient, like is it full of artificial flavorings? (link)
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CRISCO is shortening. it is made of vegetable Oil. Shortening is hydrogenated. THey add something to make it hard at room temperature. (Not Healthy) Depending on what you are making, you can substitute shortening with any liquid vegetable oil. Corn Oil, Canola Oil Olive Oil. But shortening is required for cake frosting, when you are going to decorate it. The stiffness allows you to make the decorations, and for pie crust.( Just can't make decent pie crust without shortening.) Really it depends on the recipie.
Michele
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My boyfriend and I have been debating about whether or not sperm is still active when it hits air. Recently we've had sex (we use a condom) sperm will be on me or him and we have been really really worried (paranoid) that it will travel into my vagina and make me pregnant. I've recently heard that once sperm hits the air it's dead. True? (cant stop thinking that i could be pregnant!)
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Excellent question! Sperm can live inside a woman's body for six days — possibly seven. Outside the body, as long as the semen is still wet, the sperm can survive. If the semen has dried, been wiped off, or washed off, there are no longer any living sperm. So as soon as the ejaculation dries, the sperm die. I assume that if you cleaned up right after, you should be oK.
Pregnancy can happen any time semen spills on or near the vulva.(the vulva is the area between your legs that is visible.) So if you got semen there, but cleaned it up right away, you should be OK. Please use two kinds of birth control, to be double sure. You should be on the pill, AND you boyfriend should us a condom. Most condoms have a spermacide in them, that kills sperm on contact, you can even buy spermacide as a foam, that you can insert into your vagina, before having sex, and then if the condom breaks, hopefully the spermacide will kill the sperm.
Michele
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I'm 20 years old and I have a bf who's 21. My bf and I live in different city. Just this week, he went in our house to have his vacation. He's very much welcome in our house because my mum is a cool mum and my sister is so nice that they became close immediately. The problem is with my aunt. I already introduced my bf to my relatives and everyone likes him because he's a nice guy, except to my aunt. She was so angry because she said that it's not nice that a guy would come to a girl's house and sleep there.(we sleep in different room) My bf stayed with us in our house for 2 weeks. My aunt told us things that made me cry. She said that she's pretty sure that my bf and I already had sex and that maybe i wouldn't graduate from college because i maybe become pregnant, and many more. The rest of the family really didn't believe in this opinion of my aunt because they trust me a lot, especially my mum. The problem is that i'm GUILTY.. My bf and I already had sex but i told them that i wouldn't do it before our marriage and i assure my mum that nothing happened yet and that i really won't do it. She believed in me and she really trusts me. I really feel guilty. I don't want to tell the truth because first of all it would break their heart and i feel shame if they'll know it.. Please help me.. and should i stop having sex with my bf to make sure that i wouldn't become pregnant? Thanks a lot.. (link)
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Yes, you should stop having sex with your boyfriend, until BOTH of you are using contraceptives. (That means the pill for you, dear if you want to go to college.) See how guilty you feel now, and no one really knows the truth, but you, and so far your immediate family believe you and like your boyfriend. So assuming you are not pregnant, then you are lucky, you dodged a bullet (so to speak) Now, forget about your aunt, she is just jealous, and remember how bad it feels to lie to your family, so don't put yourself in that position again.
Stay on track to go to college. If your boyfriend really cares about you, he will understand why it is best NOT to take chances so you can both have a better life in the future.
Don't beat yourself up about already having had sex, just wait now, for a long time before your try again. Don't worry, sex is not going anywhere, you have the rest of your life to enjoy sex. Life is just much easier to manage for people who have college educations. they have more choices and more money.
(PS here is a little secret: people who have babies still go to college anyway....but that just makes it harder on the mom. It's just easier to "do" college before you start a family.
Good luck to you.
Michele
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Just this year I gain alot of weight over the winter, and now I am starting to get my body back in shape. The only probably is the stretch marks on my boobs. I mean I don't go showing my boobs to people but I would like to feel comfortable in a swim suit. Now is there anyway to get my boobs back to normal faster? I lotion about once a day, and thats about it? Thanks! (link)
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Strivectin is a product that gets rid of stretch marks, but it is not cheap. About $130 a ounce.
CVS Pharm. makes a similar product called
PREVENTIN,AT, which has the same ingredients. It costs about $20.00 for four ounces. If you decide to try it, use it every day.
I am a licensened esthetician, (skin care) and have had good luck with theses products.
Michele
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My best friend's parents are getting a divorce. This will entirely turn her world upside down. They will have to move, maybe to a different city, and she can only keep one of her horses. I want to be there for her, but I have to go to a different state this summer. I don't even have a cellphone that she can talk to me on. WHAT DO I DO? I have been through a divorce and I know what it's like... I'm really worried because she is a very sensitive girl. Help please! (link)
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It is great that you want to help and be supportive, and since you have been through it, your support will mean a lot, and have a positive effect. I know this will sounds silly, but since you don't have a phone, why not use the mail. Post cards are inexpensive, and greeting cards are even better, but cost more. I have had friends who have gone through very difficult times, and well, being adults and having more responsibilities, we don't have the luxury of talking on the phone any time we like, but when I want someone to know that I am thinking of them, I send a card. I always get a call, when they have the time, telling me how thoughtful it was and how much it helped. Sometimes I type a letter and put it in the card, when I have a lot to say. I guarantee that your friend will look forward to your cards and letters, and it will help a lot.
Michele
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i get a lot of acid reflux. therefore, the doctor put me on medication. but, the medication hasn't been helping me, so i've had to drink things like tumms on the side, and i get the acid reflux very often it's not just when i eat tomato sauce or anything things like that. but after i got the acid reflux, my esophogus really burns and I thought I was getting sick, or that it was a soar throat, but the pain isn't in my tonsils, it's like in my esophogus. But I've also heard that acid reflux could cause coughing, which is what I have and my ears are bothering me. what could this be because it's been bothering me since I had a terrible episode of acid reflux the other day, around that time, but I can't remember if it was before or after. any ideas? (link)
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Could be a couple of things going on. You seem awfully young to have acid reflux. You should try taking "digestive enzymes" with each meal. You may not be producing "enough" hydrochloric acid to digest your food. Digestive enzymes can help with that. You can get them at a health food for vitamin store. they are all natural. They help your stomach to digest, fats, proteins and carbs. Digestive enzymes ARE NOT Tums. Tums neutralize stomach acid, but do not help you with digestion.
It could also be an allergic reaction to something you are eating. Most likely if it is that bad, is could be something you are eating often. The most common foods that cause food allergies are: milk, soda, caffine, chocolate, wheat products (break, cakes, cookies) citrus fruit or juices. ) You can try the elimination diet, by eliminating the foods that are most likely to cause problems, and give it a week at least, and see if things get better.
It could even be an allergic reaction to something in the air, like pollen, Causing you to have post nasal drip, that goes right down your throat into your stomach. This COULD cause acid reflux, but it is rare. I think the most common cause is a food allergy.
Hope this helps.
Michele
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ok i had diarhea last tuesday, a week from today, and my sister told me to take this medicine so i did and it went away but now i cant poop at all since then. i took stool softeners and laxitives and i could only poop a verry little. i dont know what to do i need some help. (link)
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warm up some apple juice and drink it slowly. And relax. Soon the problem should remedy itself.
Michele
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Okay... My history final is tomorrow and I have been cramming all night. I need help with this essay question because it is worth a lot of points. Please help... here it is...
The age of imperialism played a huge role in shaping the current global political situation. What are the long term effects of this event in: South America, Latin America, Southeast Asia, Africa, and Indonesia. Focus on how colonialism left a wake of instability in each region.
You would be a life saver if I got help with this. Thank you so much. btw 10th grade mod civ. (link)
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Well, you must not be paying attention in class, because the teacher must have gone over this, but this is your lucky day. I haven't visited this site in a long time, though I have been a registered advisor for over a year. I am very interested in this subject. So here go's:
During the age of imprerialism, stronger nations like the US and Great Britain, colonized underdeveloped countries like Inida, the Phillipines, and many countries in Latin America. The governments, or multi-national corporations from the developed countries set up bases where they plundered the developing country of it's resources, like oil, copper, diamonds, and natural gas. Plantations were set up for growing sugar cane, tobacco, rubber and native inhabitants of these poor nations were forced into working these plantations, or paid very low wages. Native people who lived on or near natural resources were thrown off their land, and were not compensated for their loss. If they rebelled, many of them were killed.
THe leaders of these small developing nations were bribed and corrupted so they would turn a blind eye when their own people were thrown off their lands or killed, in the name of profits and capitalism.
How does this relate to what is going on today?
These people have LONG memories. The stories are passed down from generation to generation. They resent that they have been thrown off their land, made to work as slaves or for very low wages, or perhaps family members who fought the plunder of their lands were killed. They blame the United States, Great Britain, and the many large companies that came a took over their lands. Like ALL of the large oil companies. Conoco, British Petroleum, Exxon, Shell, Etc. Etc.
In many cases, the corrupt leaders of these countries signed laws "privatising" their natural resources: like oil, and natural gas, and gold and copper and diamonds" and by doing this gave control of them over to Large corporations from the US and Great Britian. So the companies make huge profits, while the people who owned and lived on the land, DIE!
While is some cases, we have left these countries, like when Great Britain gave India it's independence, still in some cases we are still there. Like in Saudi Arabia, we still have 40,000 troops on the ground there to protect the international oil companies. And in Nigeria where companies like Exxon and Shell and Conoco have their own mercenary soldiers to protect their oil platforms and workers. They shoot to kill. And the native people just suffer.
The United States and Great Britain is hated in most of the developing nations in the world. We stong arm nations out of their natural resources just so the corporations can make a profit.
THis is the MAIN reason for the Iraq war. Don't believe what anyone else tells you. The US is trying to force the Iraqi Oil Law down the throats of the Iraqi people and their parliment. This law will give 70% of control and profits from the production of oil, in Iraq to THE OIL COMPANIES. Not to the Iraqi people.
I hope this helps. You can check this by reading a book called " Confessions of an Economic Hit Man" or gooogle the workds IRAQI OIL LAW.
I think what your teacher is trying to tell you guys is that things have not changed. We, being the US and Great Britain, and multi-national corporations are still trying to control everying thing and everyone in this world all in the name of profits. Millions of people have died because of it. And now we are all tired of it. We want everyone to play fair.
Michele
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I'm working at under a doctor this summer for an internship..Dr. Ana Johnson (I changed her name). Anyway, when I email her, I refer to her as "Dr. Johnson," but she emails me back and ends the email with "Thanks, Ana." Also, I've only met her once (I finally start working with her Wednesday)...The first time I met her, she introduced herself as "Ana." Would it be disrespectful to call her Ana since she refers to herself as that..? Does this mean she wants me to call her by her first name..should I ask her what she prefers me to call her or would that be rude? (link)
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Yes it is certainly OK to ask her how she would like to be referred to. She may think it is OK to call her Ana, when you two are alone, but would prefer Dr, in front of other colleagues.
She must like you a lot if she answers emails to you as "Ana". She may be looking forward to working with you and being sort of a mentor. Working with young people can be very invigorating. Good luck with your internship.
Michele
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