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Q: Can you please help me factor something?

y^2 + 8xy + 16x^2 - 4

The ^2 means squared.

THANK YOU!
ok i think i can do this using PEMDAS

(y^2+8xy)+(16x^2-4) hmmmm....
I cant remember how in the hell to do this but, i cheated for you!!!

16x2 - 8xy + y2 = (4x - y)2
Wanna check me??

http://tpub.com/math1/11c.htm

Q: I'm going to prom this year and I want my dress to "stand out." I really want a dress like this:

http://cgi.ebay.com/8-205-NEW-VERSACE-BLACK-SILK-RUNWAY-DRESS-GOWN-38-4_W0QQitemZ200067286450QQihZ010QQcategoryZ63861QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

or this:

http://www.milanfashionshows.com/fall2003/versace/VERSACE197.JPG

I just need something that stands out, like zebra print underneath or something like that.

Websites with dresses like that would be fantastic! I've tried searching on google, yahoo, and ask but I couldn't find anything.
OK this site has some dresses that or GORGEOUS!! And they are inexpensive!! Like 300 and under!!

http://www.sungboutiquela.com/cocktail-dresses-c-42.html

Look at ALL the dresses not just the cocktails! Thats just the page i copied the link from!!

http://www.fredericks.com/category.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Special+Occasion-Clothing&Page=1

These are nice, But i dont know if they stand out as much as you would like them to. They arent really PROM dress material, but they can be depending on your theme.

thats all i could find!!

Q: 13/F
im having a valentines day party. What are some things i could do? how do i decorate? wat are some good songs to play? thank you so much!
anyything else about valentines day partys would rock thank u!!
xo
OK v-day parties.
Music - just play fun music that people can dance to. I mean romantic music is good but you dont want to bore them.
You can do little cute stuff for your finger foods Like make heart shaped cookies and cake. And sandwiches!! Take a cookie cutter to the sandwich and there is you heart shaped sandwich!!

Do a couple of decorations, but dont go Over board. A couple of pink and read balloons here and there.

Give everyone a cool little valentines day card, to show your appreciation for them coming, or a little goody bag with some stuff in it. Like valentines candy some cookies wrapped up to take with them.

Thats pretty much it for now. If i think of anything else i will edit!

Q: Ok, well now im like 13, right? well my mother has greasy skin and my dad has dry skin. I cleanse my face with apricot scrub every morning to refresh myself in a hotshower, or if i took a shower that night, i'd apricot scrub my face in the morning with cold sink water (St.Ives) well, i just get these little sweat bumps and recently i have been getting red dots (no whiteheads) on my nose, i understand this because people have grease there easily through-out the day. My friend is getting acne n pimples and she said she is glad that she is getting it now instead of when i grow up ill have a lot. i take good care of my skin, and i eat ..pretty healthy, i get my fruit n veges, protein, vitamins and potassium, i drink water and this really tasty drink called vitamin water..every other night i have like idk a cookie or some of a candy bar and i excercise regularly so well that makes the sweat come but i remember to wash off...my friend maybe she is just tugging me cause she has poofy hair and freckles and bright bright skin and glasses n braces, my mom said she is insecure at her age and shoots it out at other people. so .. do u think ill get acne soon? later? or am i not going to get much at all through out my puberty?
OK see here is the thing... You can get acne when your an adult too. No one told you that huh? Its get that you are taking care of your skin, but if you are gonna get it your gonna get it. But since you are taking care of you skin you wont get it as bad. O and that apricot scrub, try not to use a lot because it can dry your face out and you dont wont your face dry because then it wont be as soft.

Q: Can you take your boyfriend into the room when u go to the Gyno?
If you want to. Its your decision, but why would you want to?

Q: 15f how do i forget about this guy i see every day at school plz help me this guy sometimes talks to me at school or by phone but i know he likes this girl named STACY so i think. plz give me a advice to forget about him i have not talk to him seens yesterday and i really miss him. i want to know if i really like him or if its just a fake crush but i do i figure it out.
Its just a fake crush. You just like him because he talks to you all the time. You cant just get over him like that. You need to focus on something other than him. Like schoolwork, Or another boy.

Q: Okay, I'm trying to write a story and I need to find facts about the full homosexual/bisexual facts. I mean I know what they have to go through at school knowing that even I get teased for having gay guy friends. What I want to know is--

Does anyone know a site where it lists facts like the deathrate of homosexual people and what percent are form suicide and what are from homicide. How often they get violent acts thrown to them and all that stuff...thanks =]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality

Has a lot of stuff about homosexuality


Q: My boyfriend was over today, and he fingered me. It hurt, but felt good at the same time. He dropped me off at my house at like 1 because he had a thing to go to with his family. I went to the bathroom, and I was bleeding. I knew he broke my hymen, so I just went about my day. Well, it's well over 10 hours later, and I'm still bleeding. I know it's not my period because my period shouldn't be here for another 10-14 days, and I don't have any cramps. So, how long am I gonna bleed for? Because I'm sick of going to the bathroom & finding blood. Ugh.
It is ok, As long as your not pouring out blood. And Just because its not time for your period doesnt mean he didnt trigger it. Periods can be brought on by all different types of stresses and your a teen so your hormones change. Your period is going to come and go whenever it pleases.

Q: Ok I was wondering what are some easy ways to get rid of a hangover QUIK! I drink, and I need some answers ASAP!!!
LOL!! I know this sounds weird but my mom always tells me to drink some of what you had the night before!!

BUT i always make myself throw up, then I drink Water or milk and Or Eat something thats very filling.

Q: 15/f. ok i like one of my guy friends, so normally i am with him. a lot of people think i like him (which i do), but i don't like to admit it because i don't want to risk ruining our friendship. but thats not the point of this question. the point is a lot of girls keep asking him who he likes. and he tends to avoid the answer by saying who he used to like but that he doesn't like them anymore. and then when they say so who do you like now he doesn't answer. but i always feel uncomfortable when they ask him this because i'm always sitting there next to him.

also he is the kind of guy that a lot of girls like because he is so nice, funny, and easy to talk to. and a lot of girls tell him that they like him and he just says that he doesn't feel the same way about them. So i'm so afraid to tell him how i feel because i don't want to be just another girl that likes him. plus i don't want to lose our friendship.

so my questions are:
1) do you think he might be avoiding telling them who he likes because it might be me and i'm always there?
2) should i tell him that i like him and risk our friendship even though A LOT of other girls like him too?

thanks =]
I think you should take a chance and tell him you like him. It will make your friendship awkward, but i doubt he will just stop talking to you because of something simple like that. Just say i kinda have a crush on you just dont be like omg I LIKE YOU SO MUCH!! Dont lay it on too thick.

Q: I finally get over my fight with Sarah, and now shes depending on me becuase shes in a BIG fight with britany. since sarah's mad at britany, she told me her "big" secret. she might move to seattle, which is so far away from where i live. im upset that i have 2 bear such a secret, and that sarahs so miserable. what do i do?
Why is that a secret? Of course she is going to be upset if she is moving. All you can do is try to show her the best time you can while she is still here and she will have those memories.

Q: I met a man who seemed very interested in me. He gave me his phone number, I phoned him a few days later and he wanted to get together. He said he'd call back in a few days. After two weeks of not hearing from him I called him back. He apologized, said he had out of town guests and would try to get back to me in a week or two. It's been over two weeks and I haven't heard from him. Should I call him again or forget about him?
Forget about it. Its not worth wasting your time over.

Q: LoEstrgen24. What is it like, i looked at the website but it wasnt very helpful.
i want to know,
if i could easily get it, cuz i'm 15/f. and i wasn't sure that i could get it first opition.

are the side effects bad?
and will it really be effective for shorter periods?
It a pill. Its supposed to make your period short, but it actually takes up to 3 months to start working correctly. The side effects for this pill is like everyone else.
Irregular bleeding, acne , etc. You most likely wont be able to get this easy. Its probably very high in price. Your doctor will probably try to put you on some thing more commonly used like any thing that starts with ortho.

Q: okay, so me and my bf are having problems ever since we got back from winter break. well, should i say.. im having problems. lately, he's been talking to his ex lately more and more. i keep thinking in my head that he's cheating on me with her but, people that know him pretty well say he's not the TYPE of person who would do that. today, i asked him.. if he had the guts to break up with me. his answer was "no...well, if i had to, but i dont want to break up." its soo hard.. my head has been going crazy with these thoughts about having him cheating on me. i asked him if theres anything going on, and he said no&&he loves me, i gave plenty enough chances to break up with me.... but he hasnt. the thing is, he's driving me crazy......usually he says i love u or sumthing like cute or nice or at least say goodnight to me before i sleep.. but he hasnt done that. he says "i fell asleep cuz i was waiting for your text." what does this mean... seriously... my head says "he's cheating on you, break it up with him" and my heart says "dont do anything dumb, you know you love him and you trust him.", what should i do?

im desperate here.
If you love this guy like you say you do, you need to put ALL your trust in him. He's not leaving you for a reason. You are letting your jealousy get the best of you and thats not good. If You go to far he will get tired of it and he really will leave you. So i say wait it out a few more months. At least you know he is talking to his ex and he's not keeping it from you. If he was keeping it from you then I would see a problem. Go with your heart on this one.

Q: wrong category maybe, oh well
So theres this guy at my school M, i'm a freshman and he's a junior and i've thought he was gorgeous since the first day i got there. Anyway, we never talk, he sits 2 seats in front of me in my art class (its pretty mellow, everyone just randomly talks to eachother and the teacher doesnt mind) so i have this other class with his friend J, today he told me to tell M something, some stupid little joke thing and that M would laugh. so i wrote a little note with it on it and passed it to him, but when he looked back he looked at me really weirdly. like weirded out/disturbed. he did kind of laugh when he read it and wrote a response for me to give to J but im like "wth is this look for?" its not like im trying to get him to like me, i have no chance with the kid, but i don't want him to not like me. you think he doesn't? (btw me and my friends are kind of loud and stupid in that class...maybe thats it?"
Yea. Thats probably the reason. But m probably never expected j to give the joke to u to give to him. She should try to start a conversation with this guy. Here is a good starter:

So how do you and J know each other??

And if you really want to know what the guy thinks, ask J what he said about the note.

Q: i dunno what they put in our water to make everyone look so fine! XD especially the boys! and i keep falling for them.. now I like 2 guys, mostly one of them, but I think its mostly based on looks... and I guess we can get along, but I dont even know! We're nice to each other and stuff.. and I hope he didnt figure out that I like him yet.. heh. And the other guy its the same too, but I also find his personality cute in a way, since I know him better. Ugh why do I keep doing this? I'm 13, a girl (no duh) in 7th grade, and I keep falling for boys! Or I just have like these feelings in me when I'm around them.. why did they all have to look so good! well.. alot of them, not all XP. ... maybe its the water?? (XD like in some book called the "Midnighters")

Anyway, I think thats called lust right? I dont wanna do a sin! And why do people say "omg its sin" shouldnt they say "omg your doing a sin"?? i dunno but i heard it on degrassi once.

And sometimes I flirt.. its kinda weird because sometimes I dont wanna.. but like... its hard to explain! Like I'll be trying to flirt but not like you know.. outdo it or something.......... it sucks when you have people like you you dont even like back! ack i hope its not the same for my like bajillion crushes. I've had crushes on guys since like.. first grade! and once I even had a crush on my cousin for petes sake!!!!!!! well it was also cause of his personality, so it wasnt entirely cause of looks.

(and I know this question is completely out of order.. heh sorry.) And sometimes if I really like them like the first guy I talked about that I liked soley cause of looks (I mean, hes not that smart.. but we're both athletic and I was attracted to him cause of that too.) then I'd get all shy. It was worse last year.. oh my god. I was super shy! I could hardly conversation with my crush! (it changes every year) once we were partnered for a project (with like 3 other people) and my friend in class told me that my mouth dropped when our teacher said we were in the same group! XDD how embarassing!! and i sat down with my friend, and my crush sat next to me and i couldnt really look him in the eye and i felt really anxious and stuff. it stinks because i think i'd have alot in common with him, judging on seeing him everyday in school and stuff. now i got better... and well.. yeah! but sometimes i can be a little more outgoing. like i wait for my ship to come in, then i act outgoing. maybe im just self concious sometimes... like you know those kids that you think may be your friend but you dont really know? ack and other stuff. i'll stop now, this is probably uber long already...

THANKYOU LORD AND Y'ALL
FOR ANSWERING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What the hell are we anwsering?? I bet everyone who reads this is lost.

All i can tell you is that you are boy crazy and thats all it is. You are only 13. You need to calm down. AND for this one i dont even care about the rating you give me, you need to take a seat before you turn into a lil hoe, because the way your talkin, thats how you gonna end up. Flippin from one boy to another. Now let that simmer in your mind for a lil while.

Q: So this year, in my class.. I have my friend, Terry and this girl, Katie.

Terry has been my friend for almost 3-4 years. We were at the same middle school so she knows me.

But this new girl, Katie... is really weird.
Our class is Biology.

And since I had to retake .. I'm aware of all the things we have to do. Katie.. is a baby about it. She won't touch things or work with us. I'm quite tired of doing things by myself. She often comes into Terry and I's group.

She's annoying sometimes, assuming everything about everyone.. and she doesn't even know me.. and she talks about me like she does. It just bothers me.

So in this lab before.. she didn't know what she was doing and I was trying to explain it to her.. but she was messing up our slides. So I took over and Terry said at lunch.. Katie said she hated me?

I didn't really care because I need good grades this year. And if I have to do things myself, I must do so. After that I let her lead the group and we had this drawing thing to do.

She made us start over 3 times so I took the paper home and did most of the work. She got mad at me. Even though I left work for all of us to do.

I may sound mean. :I

Terry stole something off of Katie. I was laughing at Terry because she's a funny person. The whole stealing thing wasn't my idea. So Katie noticed her missing things and while I was laughing at Terry.. she thought it was me! She called me a bitch and came up to me cussing me out. "Give me my fu*king things!" so Terry put the items on my desk under my bag. And I would not move because obviously it looked like I stole it.
And my word against hers.. is poo. So Terry took the blame and Katie still seems to hate me? She said she was sorry but I know she somewhat hates me.


I don't know what to do.
I work well with my friend Terry but not someone that doesn't pay attention in class and almost destorys our experiments. We have this egg project and we had to leave an egg in a beaker full of vinegar. Yeah? Well she takes out the egg and just.. throws it onto the table when the teacher said not to 3 times. And if there's a crack.. we can't continue the lab.

We told her not to touch certain liquids and then she got skin eating liquid on herself.. and she blamed me! I don't know how she got it on herself because we all touched the same beaker. (There was a blister)

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. She's annoying me and my friend now.

What can I do? Do I sound like a bitch or something?
You dont sound like a bitch, but im about to.

Tell her ass to take a seat!! I dont even know this girl and i dont like her!! Treat her like she treats you so she can see how it feels, if she dont know what shes doin, dont tell her in a nice ways since she dont seem to understand it when you try, let your emotions show. You cant let this girl treat you like this because all she will do is continue to do so. Let her know that it is not ok and you dont approve. Don't worry about her hating you, jus worry about passing your class. You dont need a friend like her to like her. The next time she doesnt something that the teacher says not to confront her ass right there in front of the teacher and straigh out tell her, you dont need that shit from her.

Q: i have to very best friends who are also friends. my female friend has a lot of feelings for my guy friend. about a month ago he broke up with a girl who cheated on him a lot and always lied about where she was. the other week they were flurting a lot. now she has a whole lot of feelings for him. and we dont know what his intentions are with her. he stilld flirts a little and she has already told him that she doesnt want someone messing with her emotions and he agreed. but he still flirts with her. what do you think we should do? should she let him know how she feels? or should i do the ditry work and ask him for her how he feels about her? we just dont know what to do. she is afraid if she asks and he saids he doesnt see he that way that they wouldnt be able to stay friends cuz then it would be weird between them. she is also afraid not to say anything becuase what if he does have feelings for her but doesnt want her to feel like a rebound? and i feel like im stuck in the middle becuase i dont know what to tell her anymore. please some advice anyone.
The best thing to do is for you to ask him privately, and tell him that it is just between you and him. When he gives you his answer tell him that you were just curious, and you wont say nothing to your friend unless he wantsyou to.

AND second, Please, PLEASE, work on your grammer, and the way you write because your story ran together and it didnt really make since, sorry.

Q: 15/f

I know this question is getting old but I'm in some need of advice. Preferably from a guy.

Alright, Well I'll just use my name and his.. I'm not ashamed:].

OK well heres the situation.. Mike was being all nice and sweet to me. I known him for a good year and I liked him last year and he liked me. Lets just say wrong move by me and I never got my chance with him. Well now this year we have a class together and we flirt like crazy. Well just recently my uncle fell ill and so Mike put "hope your uncle gets better sara" in his MSN Personal Message space. Well he's like my support system when I'm down. I always tell him he's the bestest and he says you are too. So basically it feels like he's into me but thats where I got lost I'm guessing. We had made plans to hangout just didn't know when exactly. Well we still haven't set a date yet but we know what we're gonna do and he seems excited. Like he was like
"Can I go into A.E while we're at the mall?" and I was like
"Yes of course, but can I go into boathouse while we're there?"
And he said yeah of course and that we'll go together.
Basically he lights up my life(sotospeak) But now I'm confused by him. His p.m read what I said up there and well my family came over and so I was downstairs with them so I was on msn as away, so I never had the chance to see him sign in. Well when I came back up his p.m said "get better soon nicole." Which I understand that his friend is sick and all and thats fine but what I don't get is, when I changed my status to online in a matter of 5 seconds he was away and then next time I looked(about 10 min later) he was offline.

I know I didn't give enough useful information for the question I'm about to ask but please make do with what I gave.

Does he like me even just a little bit or am I blinded by the light, and should just give up on a year long crush?

Thanks sooo much.
I know you wanted a guy but ima girl and im here to tell you, he probably does like you. But that doesnt mean that he doesnt like nicole. Guys dont just go for one girl, they are going to be attarcted to several. So take it from me, if you want mike, stop crushin and make your move before nicole steps on your toes.

On the other hand Nicole might just be his good friend, but dont take a chance in losing your man.

Q: I cry like 2-3 times a week for one reason.
A boy,I will tell you my story.
He moved here about 3-4 years ago, he was a new kid so i just messed with him and thought he was cute.[I'll call him "B"]
Then we would talk online and stuff and see eachother around the neighborhood and stuff,so i had a crush on him.
He acted like he liked me, he would call me ,Im me, all that good stuff but he would say he liked my friend but he would like invite me over and stuff all the time.
Then I got over him , next year came around and i liked a totally different boy until the end of the year.
My Best friend came over and was pretty good friends with "B" so we would hangout , which made my crush on him come back.We started talking more again online and on the phone, then we did ""stuff"" and he still continued to call me and talk to me online
yet he would say he didnt like my best friend.
Our school found out about what we did and everyone knows.
Of course , we both deny it,
At the exact time of all the rumors going around i moved out of the nieghborhood he lived in.
He started hating me becuase he thought i went around telling everyone [which i didnt] and we didnt really say much to eachother for about a good month or 2, besides the occasional him taking something from me or flicking me or some boy shit they like to do.
Just recently , maybe a week or 2 ago he randomly started talking to me [honestly i didnt expect it]
online, he said he didnt hate me and we started talking and he even asked me questions about why i moved and he told me to move back and just some other conversation.
After that one night , he never talked to me again.
My friend talked to him and asked about me and said he hates me so much and he said he has ALWAYS hated me.
Which makes me cry becuase i miss everything we used to have [but it wasnt a relationship, it was a friendship with benifits]
I dont know if he was just saying that to get as many people to believe we didnt do what we did, or if he really hates me?
Sorry this was soooo long, i just need help and I cant be sad anymore
and please dont say to move on, ive tried
and tried and tried
it isnt working at all
What shld i do?
WOW. He doesn't hate you, he was using you. He knew you liked him and that you would do "stuff" with him, but he didnt want any1 in public to now prrobably because he really did like your best friend. Its stupid, I know. You know that boys do things like this but they do. He talked to you that one day to mess with your head. He knew he could do it. I think the next time he tries to talk to you that you just ignore him, or if your friend tries to tell ou something about him tell her that you moved on from that, even though you havent she doesnt need to know that. Its ridiculous that she breaks you down by telling you what he said anyways. Try not to think about it as much find something to occupy your time when he comes on your mind, because those tears you wasting could be saved for something better.

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Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!


I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!



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