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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

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I am a 16f. I'm concerned about my older brother. He is 27 and he still lives at home with me and my parents. He lives in the basement. He is unemployed and extremely lazy. He usually sleeps in until 1 in the afternoon, then for the rest of the day he'll either watch MTV or play on his X box. He doesnt have to pay rent as he is unemployed. He also doesnt do any chores, and never washes his own laundry. I am angry at my parents, and feel like they are just enabling him. He can never get a gf because as soon as they find out what a lazy mooch he is they want nothing to do with him. How can I convince my brother that he needs to get a job, and get his own place? If I don't do anything my parents will probably let him live in the basement until he's 50. He's also really depressed and unsatified with his life.

hey well youve got yourself a real problem. have a nice long talk with him about his life. tell him to maybe apply to a store. even dunkin doughnuts if he ahs to. have your parents tlak away the x-box and tv. make him get on wiht his life. cait ♥

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I'm playing Only One by Yellowcard as a guitarist, but I can't find violin notes for my violinist. I was wondering does anyone have any idea where I can find violin notes for the song?

hey um yeah i tried searching and nothing came up. you might want to chose a different song. or maybe you could go to the store called " guitar center " i know its for guitars but its worth a try. they might even have a website. cait ♥

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There's this girl that I am friends with and we seemed to have a really good relationship at first, but ever since she realized she can tell me anything (I'm really good at keeping secrets) she only tells me her problems. It seems like every time I see her she has some sort of depressing story and she always expects me to help her! I'm an advicenator myself, so I do give a lot of good advice, but she keeps pelting me with all of these things that really aren't that big of a deal, but she overreacts and gets really upset about them. Now I never want to be around her because I don't want to get sad, but I think she sort of needs me now and I don't know what to do! She gets upset about EVERYTHING, like if she sees the guy she has a crush on hugging another girl (hugging is a big thing at our school, everyone hugs everyone else) she will freak out and start crying and get really mad at that person and then just expect me to fix it! It seems like my best friend and I are just her counselors and that we are expected to change everything that goes wrong for her. We think she may actually need psychological help, but we have no idea how to say this because she will get really upset, and talking to her parents is not an option. Help! I'm posting this in the morning because I know there is another sob story at school waiting for me, and I'm hoping it'll be the last one!

hey well she seems like she really does need help. but you should still be there for her even tho she may act a little crazy sometimes. you might want to sit her down and talk to her about it. say that i love helping you but sometimes you overreact and its not cool. cait ♥

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So A fiew days ago I was really stupid and I gave my virginity to this guy. I really liked him and now I like him even more. He told me he was falling inlove with me and everything!

The problem is I dont think he really likes me I think he is just using me.. Even though he holds my hand in public and kisses me in public I really think he is doing stuff with other girls to. Actualy im almost POSSITIVE. I have heard things about him showing up with hickys and I have heard things about him being with other girls.

The thing Is I lost my virginity to him and Im stuck to him really hard...

WHAT DO I DO!

hey well you should have waited to lose your virginity to a guy who you know loves you and cares about you alot. first of all you should be checking for hickies to see if he realyl si doing that. confront him abot the whole situation. cait ♥

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i was just wondering...my mom thinks thats she's supior to me. that i should have to earn the stuff i do but she should just get them without working for them.and everytime i try to get justice she can just say well im the adult, or your the kid or i get certin things that you dont because im a grown up.she also says yeah im unfair or yeah im a bitch and she also says i should have to do chores and she sounldn't. like she's a queen bee and im just one of her workers. im just wondering do you guys think she has the right to do that or do you think she's just being a mega bitch. oh yah she also lets my step dad do what ever he wants like perposly try to eyyoy me or get a toss every month and when i do bad stuff i should get in trouble and when he gets in trouble he souldnt beacause he's the adult.

again im just wondering, do agree with my mom or me

hey i agree wiht you 100% of the way. thers no reason she is treating you like that. you need ot have a serious talk with her or maybe your step dad so he can tlak ot her about it. cait ♥

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I know how weird this may sound but I really need help.


So I really get goo goo around this one guy and sometimes I don't know what to say. My mind goes completely blank. And that NEVER happens to me. I ALWAYS have something to say.


He's "grounded" so right now we can only talk through e-mail. I asked him about his family because he has 8 brothers and sisters and how he liked that. He responded with "i love having that many siblings... their is always somebody to pick on... lol"


I feel so weird asking this because I know it sounds ridiculous but, what is something I could say back to that?

hey well if you have siblings you coudl say something like yeahh i knwo sometimes it is fun to pick on younger siblings. if your an only child you could say yeah i woudlnt know tho cause i have no siblings. or if you had no yougner ones you could say well sometimes my olde siblings pick on me. cait hearts;

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Ok...today has been pretty much the worst day ever...I cmae hoem from scholl and all of a sudden my dad sais we're moving to NC in August! I can't believe it! I had a really rough year last year..and my friends have truly become my heart..if it werent for them I honestly woudl nto be the person i am now...they have always been there for me...and I just cant imagine not having them in my everyday life. Not to mention...Im afaraid that my school in NC will be segregated and recist..I'm white and i can not stand racism...i like all typ3s of guys..and thinking about being shunned if I like a black guy really pisses me off! Im so sad and I was ballign to my best friend earlier...it's so surreal..i just wish soemoen would wake me up from this nightmare! Please, how can I handle this?

hey well your dad shoudlnt have jsut told you the situatuon like that. that was very wrong fro him to do. but if your moving your moving and thats that. you have to learn to make new friends at your new school. also spend laot of time with your bestfriends before you move and when you do move stay in contact wiht them. cait ♥

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Ok, today I got my ears pierced and the woman the did it apparently wasn't trained well. She told me that I need to take them out every night and clean them. So I took them out and she hadn't evened the hole where you put the earring in. So I can't get either of my earrings in and my mom is now mad at me. I have worked with it for about 20 minutes and still can't get it in. Any Ideas?

hey um go back there and get a refund! then go to a diff. place and get them repierced. or if you want to pierce them yourself you can do that also. cait ♥

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ok so my boyfriend always asks me what i like about him and why i like him. but come to think of it i can't really put it into works like hes always there for me hes caring.. but i cant put it into words its actually really hard. i know this probably sounds corney but do u have any reasons why u like your bf or whatever just to sum it up?

hey um well i like my boyfriend because he can make me laugh when i dotn even want to smile. also when im feeling upset he always know what words to say to cheer me up. cait ♥

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Okay this might be kind of confusing but bear with me please. So at the end of summer last year, I met this guy, Joe, through my best friend, Liz. Joe dated one of Liz's good friends, Grace. They dated for about 2 & 1/2 years and then at the beginning of summer, they broke up. So now its September, and Joe with his friend come by Liz's house, and I'm there with her. So I meet Joe, I knew who he was and about him & Grace and I thought he was pretty cute. He thought I was really cute too. He liked me and all. I wasn't even THINKING about me and him together, the thought of US never came to mind. I felt like I had no chance. Grace (his ex) was unbelievably gorgeous and so much different from me.Well anyways, so we started hanging out. He'd come by more often and we were both very shy. Later I found out that one of the reasons he fell for me was because I was so quiet. But anyways, so we would hang out; play tennis and just hang out with friends. I also got drunk for the very first time with him -- and that's a very goodmemory. I remember how he was so worried about me geeting home and everything that day. Ahh memories. We went downtown by the lake and shopped and everything. Then one day, we were walking, just the two of us, and we kiss. Later on the walk home, he told me about how he wanted to kiss me sooner but that didn't work out cause it was never good timing with his friends and all. So yes, then the following week we would hang out and kiss :) and talked online. He asked me do I see him as a boyfriend and all that and talked about us dating. The next time we hung out, he asked me out. It was perfect. I never met a guy like him. Never dated ANYONE like that. Too perfect for words. It was awesome, the best time of my life. Everything was going great, I couldn't have been happier. He was a bad boy, ditching school, band with his friends, typical guy stuff. But I was always able to count on him. He always chose me over his friends, and even stopped drinking. We went to different schools, and then I started working with my dad, so things got harder. He had his friends drop him off whenever just so he can see me -- it was like a dream come true. My prince charming had come. But meanwhile, Grace (the ex) found out and went crazy. She hated me and my friend/her friend for letting it even happen. She had people watching me and threating me all the time on the interenet that they're going to kick my ass for dating Joe. But I didn't care. My friendshad my back. I remember when Joe was over and I wasn't supposed to have anyone over, and he was over and my dad came home, haha... he ran out the back door and jumped the gate and everything barefoot. Lol poor him left his shoes. He had written me a song and everything, we even wrote each other notes in school. Now back to the psycho ex-gf, well me and her were sort of friends, we just knew each other because of my best friend Liz. She would always follow me & Joe, (she had a car so was EVERYWHERE) and yeah. Then one day, me and joe sort of got into an argument. Me and my friend Liz and some of his friends were all walking around the nieghborhood onour way to chill at this one park. His ex would drive by and stop and talk to Joe's friends. We were with a bunch of friends all walking when these little 12=14 year old were with us and they were talking shit to joe about me and just because bitches and giving me and my friend attitude so I wasn't gonna deal with it and me and my friend Liz turned around and left. He didn't even bother to go after me or call. I regret doing that, I know he must have gotten mad, I remember when I hung up on him, that upset him also. but anyways, so the same day I call him. And I call again. And I call again. No answer. Same thing the following day, Saturday. Then Sunday I call all day. Finallly I try one last time on SUnday night and Grace picks up. And she said he's with her now and all those times he wasn't with me, he was with her. I dropped the phone. It was crazy, my friends wanted to go right over there and beat her up. But I thought about and decided just to forget it. Lateron, I signed online and he was on -- so I instant messaged him. And I yelled at him and everything and then signed off and cried. And cried. I thought I got over him, I was into another guy -- well then he chose another girl over me, and yeah. Then he came back and I rejected him and all that because I'm not gonna deal with someone liek that. SO I really don't even know what I'm asking. Him and Grace have been together ever since. I ran into both of them the other day at a store which was really awkward, he was with his friends in the store and I was with mine. Then they left the store and his girlfriend -- Grace -- and his sister come in. Then they leave and are waiting outside in the car for us. We goto our car and trhey pull up and then she says something and flicks us off and drives off. But anways, I just can't seem to get over him. Its crazy cause this all happened quite a while ago. Maybe its just because he was my first SERIOUS boyfriend? I have no idea what to do... and I really want to believe that one day WE WILLE get back together. I just hope and pray something along the way will happen and we will be together.Like today for example, I felt like breaking down and crying. I went with my friends downtown, on the train. And they were with their bf's and it reminded me how we used to be like that. Last time I took the train was with him. We went to musuems on Columbus Day. Memories :( It was just so heartbreaking. Do you think that we will get back together? People say "THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!" and I wanna follow that, because well thats how I met him. I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. ANd now every guy I look at or my friends want me to meet/date, I just can't. And it kills me because I want to be with him and no one elsre. DO you thinkin it's possible for us to get back together? Maybe later on in life? It was my mistake because I was always so shy and not really OUT with my feelings, and I regret not telling him how I feel, he always thought I didn't like him or anything. Although we dated for only about 2 months, the memrories and the times we had together even before we began officially "dating" ... they mean soo much. I just wish I had another chance. Do you think it's possible for us to ever get back together? Do you think he ever thinks about me the way I think about him? Is there ANY chance of us getting back together in the future?

hye omg that story was so long and sad = [. that should be like a book or movie or something lol. anyways back to your question. well at first i thought he was a very nice guy and evertyhing. but then after he went back with grace i think he is a very bad boyfriend type person. but this is half your fault for walking away. im sure that it would have happened eventually but you caused it to happen ebfore it would have. so my answer to you is you wont get back together with him because even fi you do he will go crawling back to grace. sorry. cait ♥

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Everytime I makeout with my boyfriend I try to go further, so I start with kissing his neck. Everytime I do this he is like "Wow you really like my neck" and then just starts making out with me. Why doesn't he get what I'm tryint to do? What does he mean when hes is like "Wow you really like my neck?"

hey hes basically telling you to lay off his neck. try another area that will turn him on and at the same time let you go further. or just simply let him know that you want to go further. cait ♥

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Ok I was wondering how to write out the bibliography for a science fair project. If you have any websites please include them. Dont say to google it because thats what ive been doing the past hour!

hey um go to http://www.enchantedlearning.com

cait ♥

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So I went out with this guy during my vacation. He could have had anyone, and it was surprising to me that we went out. We broke up (sort of) about a month after vacation, but we never officially made it clear. Since then, (It's been about 5 months since I've seen him) we text each other and he called about 3 months ago. We probably don't call each other more since it seems awkward. Anyways, it seems weird that every time I start to think about him and give up waiting for another text message, I get one and it just brightens my week. I cannot understand why he bothers when the next time I'll see him will be in August and I think he could have better than me. Back when he called me, he asked if I had a boyfriend, I answered "yes but we broke up" (which was true) he admitted the same thing, (Obviously a girlfriend not a boyfriend) My question is, does he really care about me or am I just something for him to hookup with when I see him again? He really seems like he cares, even if I can't see why he does. Anyone’s opinion about my question is appreciated; it'd be especially nice if a guy could make sense of his actions for me.

hey well to me if hes still taking the time to text you then he still cares about you. even if you guys dont see each other alot he still has feelings for you and wants to talk to you. you should text back. cait ♥

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If I like a guy how do I tell if he likes me and also what flirting tips can you give?

hey make plenty of eye contact. flirting with your eyes is the best kind of flirting. cait ♥

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here's the thing --- guys just do not look at me as "girlfriend material". i am 14 and most guys just aren't interested in "my type". i am a really big tom-boy and hang out with a lot of guys. i have girl-friends too but we hang with several guys. i really like this one guy in particular. how can i get him to notice me? i am popular, but not the "it girl" i play soccer and basketball and am well-known but i just don't get boyfriends. i go to a small private school (less than 1000 kids pre-k thru 12) so there aren't many choices. the guy i like is one of my friends but how can i get him to see me as more than a friend? what do 14 year old guys like in a girl? i am not desperate at all or anything... i am just ready for a relationship. anything will help! i'll rate 5's!

hey they like girls that are confident and that are themselves. most girls go for there own types. so if you are a soccer player date a soccer boy. just compliment them and make plenty of eye contact. cait ♥

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Whenever I shave "down there", it gets all red and itchy, and I don't have any baby oil or anything. So what should I put on it to stop the itching and redness?

hey when shaving use skinmate dry skin [ the pink bottle ] cait ♥

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I have a really hard time talking to boys (except for my guy friend). Whenever guys approach me, my mind just goes...blank. Even if I don't have a crush on him. Like when I'm going to drama there's another guy going down to the chorus room right next door. This guy's named Greg* who has a girlfriend, and it's just really awkward. We're headed in the same direction, and since it's so weird for me, he think I like him when I don't. Then he blocked me on AIM and that junk. Or some guys are just trying to hang out with me, and I just go really weird. Does anyone know what I mean, and what can I do to stop this?

*name has been changed to protect privacy ;-)

hey um jsut remember " i am hot and confident " it always works for me = ]. try not to be scared. cait ♥

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i have love handles. first, i am 14/f. second, they are noticable when i wear camisoles (just in front of my girl-friends) and tighter shirts and things like that. i am not upset about the way they look or anything because God made me the way He wanted me to be. i am not overweight at all. my body mass index says that i am at a normal weight. i was just wondering if there are any exercises that i can do to get rid of them. i'll rate! thanks!

hey you could run outside for like 30-60 minutes a day. cait ♥

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my face is really oily. i don't wear make-up so sometimes it is extremely noticable. i use biore shine control face wash and that works pretty good. does anybody know any other products that would help? or anything that i can do to reduce the shine? i'll rate 5's for anyone who tries!!

hey um you have to wash your face every morning and every night. also use products that could possibly help reduce shine. cait ♥

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I really like this guy, my really good friend, who is taken but he doesn't know it. I got him something for Valentine's Day, but obviously, I haven't given it to him yet... I'm wondering if I still should. I'm giving things to other people (both ladies and guys). It's nothing big, I mean what I got for him. Maybe I shouldn't give it to him... or? I don't know... I really want to but it might seem a little wrong. Should I? Or I shouldn't?

hey yes give the gift to him. he will never know your feelings for him if you are giving your other friends gifts also. cait ♥

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