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Poem #1
“Untitled”-Sabryn Alstatt
Beautiful you
Beautimous and true
Being great; being kind
You are one to find
Being proud of yourself; no one else can tell you different
Stay you and you’ll make it through
I see nothing but brains and smarts
Although you are one brilliant piece of art
You will be one along with few that have helped you fly
Going through life not ever knowing why
You are strong; you are bright
You have nothing to fright
Take a stride; take pride
You’re one in a million; compared to others it’s one in a billion
Stay strong you have won the battle
Sit back and watch the rest rattle
Shining bright; like a star
You believed in yourself; so you went very far

Poem #2
“Untitled”- Sabryn Alstatt
So great and settle
You can now rest
For your journey was too great
Or your timing too late
You fought like a stallion
But the chances of winning were one in a billion
You may have lost but that’s okay
Because you saw it a different way
You couldn’t win; but at least you tried
But you couldn’t just sit around and hide
That’s life; you live then die
Ending your life not knowing why
You are now dead; alone and cold
But you were the one that was brave and bold
The fight has ended can’t you tell
If the bell had ended with a ting-tong bell
They carry your corpse along in a coffin
They may be sad but that didn’t mean stoppin’
Although you lost the battle; you won
No matter the fight; you were their last one
To survive so long in so little time; with each minsicule second just ticking by.

Poem #3
“Trust”-Sabryn Alstatt
Believe in me; believe in you
We will surely make it through
With the help of you and the help of me
We will then both see
The love, the faith, the trust
But it all starts with us
You are my smile; gleaming eye
Taking a breath to just get a sigh
Standing soldiers; yes we are
Because we saw past all the scars
The way you enlighten me; leaves me breathless to thee
The scars, the cuts, the tears that roll
Are soon to be all under control
I love you; you love me
All the pain has willowed away
What that lays in your purse; we are finally free of this curse
Poem #4
“The Choice”-Sabryn Alstatt
Choices are to be made; Choices as sour as lemonade
Flavors change; Flavors sour; Flavors change every hour
The final hour has come to an end; Choices that come to such a bend
The time has come to make a choice
The choice I pick is not about boys
But more of how I go live; Live into the rules of five
The rules start with confident; Then go to independent
The third goes to trust; which is an absolute must
The fourth is loyalty; which means no cruelty
The fifth belongs to honest; If you choose to be the best; you choose to be honest
The choice has been made, yes it is
To be a confident, loyal, whiz
The whiz I am The whiz you are; You will never be too far
For your dreams to come true; you must look up to the blue
The sky, that has all the clouds; Until the thunder alouds
The night will come; the stars will shine
Then your life will be in line
Wish upon a shooting star; you will surely go far
Your dream has come true yes, it’s true; But it’s all because you believed in you.

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I love it Sabyryn!try Teen ink.I cant remember if I already told u that :/


Its sunday night and my mom found out I cut and says I can't do my modeling fashion show if they not gone by wednesday because I have fittings and the lady wouldn't let me model with marks all over me. Anyway I wanted to know how to get the cuts to go away by then? I've tried lemon juice. Any other sugeestions? (link)
Scars don't disappear in a day...They sell cream for that...get help and I hope your mom isn't so harsh


Hi.. Well this might be not a question you would hear everyday.. I dont think my other question posted.. But anyway.. I have cut/Self Harm for a year now.. I really want to stop.. Its just hurting my family and friends too much.. :( can i get some tips to stop? Please dont judge. (link)
This isnt heard a lot, unfortuanatly some self harmers dont want to stop.I know how you feel.Try googleing the butterfly project, it helped my friend stop.Avoid all sharps and triggers.Either throw away razors, knifes, what ever you use, or put them in a very hard place for you to get to, or give them to someone trusted to lock them up.Tell someone, you cant do this alone even though its hard to tell someone.Tips for even asking on here.This is going to dound suuuuuuuuuuper weird, but take off the sleeves bracelets bandages or whatever.Seeing them is hard at first, let it heal.Even one less cut a day or week is an improvment.Try writing inspirational phrases wherever you cut.It takes time.Talk to someone trusted anytime you feel the urge, hopefully not someone not pro self harm.Try snapping a loose rubberband on your arm when you want to cut.Invest in a red ink pen and draw in the cuts while using the rubber band or queezing ice colored red.Im always here inbox me whenever.Stay strong! Dont hurt the baby you used to be.The scars do fade, IT GETS BETTER!! -julia


How do you know if a 13 year old girl is bulimic? She told me she is but I'm not sure if she's lying or not because she isn't losing weight. So what's signs/sympotoms is there that she is bulimic? (link)
I recently overcame bulimia, yet I only lost like 20 pounds.it doesnt hsppen fast.tips for her for telling you, please get her help.some signs are clogged drains and her dissapearing after meals.


Hi. Female 14 turning 15 in Nov and i guess you can say my style is "Scene" I have the teased hair band clothing and colorfulness etc. Etc. Anyways for the past year i've been working on trying to become a "scene" site model. It seems like something fun and would be my second choice of a career in my eyes. Im already have pictures on googled filed under "KittyInsanity" but does anyone know of a site that i could use ro be a site model? It would be highly appreciated. Thank you for you time. Bye bye! (link)
Soemo.com.uk seems to fit the bill, I looked through the site, its great if ur into that stuff.Best of luck! It lets u model and make friends


alright heres the thing ill be 14 soon i weigh from 113 some days and 120 others i wanna loose weight and this summer i was down to 108 but my parents and everyone find out i was doing it the wrong way i love not eatting it makes me feel so much better is it wrong to do something i enjoy? (link)
Thats normal weight for your age.eatimg disorders are bad.period.eat some food kid.


I kinda love this kid and i think were ready for intercourse.
But i am only 12.
What do you think i should do? (link)
Notice the words "kinda" and "kid".try mastribation.


do they make pads for thongs? (link)
For some reason, yes.buy em at the groccery.just wear underwear while on your period the thong pads are microscopic ull bleedvall over your clothes


how do I get human feces out of carpet and get rid of the smell? (link)
Buy new carpet.


Omg lately my brother has been acting like a girl...hes eight but i think hes turning gay...he asked me if i could paint his nails....but i dont know if hes kidding or not.....but then he acts totally gross and gets on top of me and my sister and i push him of and beat him and tell him to stop but hes gross and he wont listen (link)
One doesnt decide to be gay or straight, dontbworry.kids go through phases its normal


I just started cutting about 3 hours ago I don't know if I should tell my parents or not or at least my girlfriend (link)
Get help hit it on the head and stop it before it gets worse.I wish I had...inbox me anytime.im always hrre.


I wanna do something fun creatative and EASY for fourth of july for my nails. Ive done tie dye dipping and dripping designs but they dont turn out the way i want it. Soo can you please help. (link)
Google.newspaperprint nails


Can anyone think of really summery tunes. They have to sound summery, but not too obvious-like not anything with 'summer'or 'sun' in the title?

I'm doing a countdown-so already have the obvious ones!

Thanks in advance :) (link)
"Cabin by the sea":Sorry for the sun but "Island in the sun" by weezer;Anything by FOUNTAINS OF WAYNE...specifiacly "JULIE"SO sorry for there being so few,hope I helped.


I am 14/male and i'm gay i've been with my boyfriend for 2 months he's 14 and we haven't kissed yet i really want to kiss him be more affectionate we haven't talk about it yet is it too soon? i really want to make out with him do i talk to him now? (link)
i suppose if you really want to..i have no experience with this.just talk to him about it,youll work it out.Good luck


anyone want to have sex???? i am a female age 13 (link)
thats illegal man.try....mastribation


Okay so i went from 6g to 2g skipping 4g and my ears are all puffed up. Should i keep my tapers in or take them out? (link)
If its swelling, yes.go back to tapers for a while


I am sick and tired of being alone ; all my friends are avoiding me for no reason and even my family.When it comes to my family , my dad i did not see him for almost 9 years and this month i will travel to him and see him in USA , and my sister works 6 hours everyday,except on Friday ,i am just feeling very lonely and that kind of feeling causes a lot of sorrow to me , my annoying friends only talk to me when they want something , such sycophants ! , so i need to make new friends in USA so when i come I'll find someone to hang out with. so if anyone is interested just add me on Facebook .. my email is ahmedscater2@hotmail.com ... thanks (link)
sycophants are bad neews,try sites like omegle.


I hope to become a singer/songwriter in the near future and I'm trying to find a name. I do not like my last name, but I'm willing to work with my first and middle name which is: Jenna Michelle. My genre is contemporary christian, nothing too edgy. I want something that will sound good on a CD and will give people something to notice. (link)
I know nothing about contempery christian,more of a metal fan.I think jenna Michelle sounds great.its got a great ring to it and a good number of syllables.Good luch miss Jenna,hope you have a fabulous musical careeer.


Yo wassup? I'm 13 years old, living in NY. I'm a guy.

Many of my friends got girlfriends. They say they had sex with them . I'm the only one that haven't had sex yet. My problem is I want to have sex with someone but I don't know with who or how to solve the sex problem about my friends.
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tHEY MAY BE LYING......justa hint.This is going to be a really weird picture in your head,but imagiine yourself pregnant.As a man,thats impossable, but you could get this girl pregnant even with protection because not all girls your age take birth control.If you dont know its super safe,you coould get preggo figurativly speaking. They are probably lying, ignore them.


Im only 14 I HATE MYSELF i have scars on my wrist and thats why.. I want to know how to get rid of them without surgery!! Please! Someone! Anyone! Let me know!! I want my scar free wrist back. I'll do anything to have it back. Please sometime help fast! I can't take it (link)
congrats on stopping cuttiiing btw.I find that using lemon juice fades the scars very nicely.You can also buy scar faders at almost any drugstore.




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