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o my goodness!! i was JUST HANGING out wit my lover dom. i over heard him talking to his/mine friend shawn, he said liz (a girl) likes him!! liz is pretty and dom always likes her! soo any way dom goes to shawn-liz likes me, i like her to,shawn goes go out with liz then, dom goes in 5 days!!! that hurt soo much i was gonna cry but i hide it! (im crying as a write this) i love him so much!!! i had my first kiss with him, he had her first kiss with liz!!! i love him to death!!! i would do anything for him!! please help! please tell me how i can get over him!! (link)
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If you love him to death and would do anything for him, than you need to tell him. He;s never going to know that you still have feelings for him if you don't tell him. And if you wait until he is going out with this liz chick you'll be too late. Good lucK!
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ok... me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and we still haven't had sex... i am a virgin but he isnt, he has had sex 3 times. I am afraid that i am really tight down there and that either it wont fit or its really going to hurt. my friend said not to worry about it but i am freaking out and tomorrow i am going ova his house because its our 1 year and we are going to be home alone, and he is already brought up like hints that he wants to do it... i am soo scared... PLEASE HELP !!! (link)
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I would talk to him about it. Especially if you're that nervous. Say something like "Can we take it slow, you know this is something new to me." Or if your not ready yet, tell him. I think that if you've made it together this long, that he doesn't just want to have sex with you, so use that to your advantage and be honest with him. Good luck!
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My exboyfriend and I have been hanging out. We're the closest you can be without being together. Valentine's Day is coming up, should I get him something because we have feelings for each other, or should I just leave it alone since we're not together? (link)
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I think that if you still really like him that you should get him something anyway. You can give things to your friends on Valentine's Day, guys or girls. As for what to give him, I have no clue, I'm sort of having the same problem myself. But anyway, don't let the fact that he's your ex stop you just showing him that you still care. Good luck!
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Hey!! I have a question, my friend was smoking weed tonight and she has to get her wisdom teeth out tomorrow, and she is freaking out that they will be able to tell if she has?! She also thinks that when they give her laughin gas she will tell everyonethat she did? Can you help me out so i can give her some advice so she will quit freaking out?! Thanks!! (link)
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I don't know if they can tell or not. But the laughing gas shouldn't make her fess up. They've given it to me like everytime I've had a cavity worked on and it just makes my nose cold. She should be fine, but I would thing twice about smoking the weed. It impares judegement, kills brain cells and is down-right bad for you. Also, it's illegal, so is it even worth the risk of being caught?....
hope I helped!
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I'v been doing the whole secret admirer thing for a day or so now. I think that this girl knows its me doing it. Should I just play it off and continue with the plan or should I just forget it and go for it. (link)
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I think that you should just go with it. She'll probably think it;s sweet that you 're going way out of your way to show how much you like her. Besides, she might not even know... Keep it up because it will be great to see how she feels about you in the end... Good luck!
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hello. i apologize if the english that i speak isnt as good. i have moved to USA from brazil one month ago.since i speak portuguese(the language used in brazil), german, spanish, italian, french, and english, sometimes i do not remember to speak in english. at my school it is hard to join with friends. if a person has knowledge on joining with groups of people it would be helping. (link)
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find something you like, like a sport or activity or something. Then make friends with people who have the same interest. BY the way, I think it is SO cool that you know how to speak all those languages. I want to learn Italian. You could also maybe tutor some people in foreign languages. Good luck!
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Hi. I have a problem here. My cousin is really nice and he is friends with my boyfriend and his friends. My boy friend dosent do drugs but some of his friends do. I cant just stop his friends from doing drugs because some of them i dont evan care about. My cousin hangs out with them alot and im sure he dose drugs because i asked some of his friends and they say he dose. They all tell me not to tell anyone. My mom is really good friends with his mom (my aunt). Im not going to tell on him but what should i do to make him stop? I dont want advice that says talk it over with your cousin or just go tell on him cuz thats not what im going to do. (link)
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Even though you said you didn't want advice like this, I'm going to give it. You need to hear this from your cousin. Although I wouldn't get your mom or aunt involved, yet. But you really do need to talk to him to make sure that all of this is true. If it is, ask him why he's choosing to do drugs, even if he knows they're slowly but surely hurting him. good luck
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Ok well me and my boyfriend have been broken up for 3weeks now.We have both moved on to new relationships.The problem is lately I havn't been thinkging about my new boyfriend but about my ex.I feel really bad 'cuz my new boyfriend likes me alot but i can't seem to get my ex out of my head. I need help i am so confused 'cuz i don't want to leavemy b/f on!! (link)
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It sounds a lot like you are just going out with the guy you are going out with now to get over your ex, but it's not working, and that's the problem. Maybe you should tell the guy your going out with that you need sometime and thought you were over your old guy, but your not and you just need sometime. Good luck!
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okay, so there's this guy at my school, I dont really know that well, and I'm new here this year. but he''s supposedly the hottest guy. Two months ago he started flirting wit me almost everyday, and some other girls actually did think he liked me. A month ago one of my friends asked him if he did and he said yes( i wasnt there), but then a week ago my friend told me that she and another friend asked him again a week ago, and he said I was disgusting and he only liked to make fun of me. But he still flirted with me uptil then. I'm confused, does he still like me, and tried to cover up for it? Because in the beginning it genuinely seem like he liked me when he flirted. I DO know he's somewhat of a playboy. I'm in Middle School.Female, of course. (link)
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If u know that he's a player, than he might have just been flirting to flirt. There's this girl @ my school, who will flirt with any guy she thinks is hot (even if she knows they have a gf...)until it gets a little to serious and then she backs of. She's afraid of commitment. Maybe it's the same with him. He likes you, and will flirt with you, but doesn't want anything serious. SOme people are just like that.... Hope I helped, anymore ?s send them to my inbox, later!
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ive been trying all different kinds of excersizes to get a flatter stomach but most of them dont work that well. does anyone know any ideas to get a flatter stomach in just a few weeks? thanks i will rate high if the tip helps! thanks (link)
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crunches, sit-ups and sprints. Start out small and work your way up. It worked for me in a matter of a view weeks and I love being able to put my hand on my stomach and it be flat... you'll love it, good luck!
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ok well my name is ashlee.. and im in the big junior high my first year and it sucks beacuase there are so much gossip and yesterday i was tied down with a bigg roomer..and i skipped school today i know it sounds weird but i did bc i like lost all my friends yesterday bc this boy named alex wrote a note saying i said bad stuff bout my 2 so called best friends..maddy and sonisha and its gotten worse and we were all suppose to go to the movies today and im just feelin rele bad.. AND I DIDNT DO ANYTHING and i swore up and down i didnt it sucks i dont know what to do..bc i have like no friends cause they're all believeing sonisha and maddy and alex..i need some help on what to do i mean im crying cause of this=( and i skipped school today cause of this... i need some help please help me=(
signed..lonesome child (link)
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So called best friends is right.... Maybe you should talk to your mom about how misrable you are feeling. I'm sure she wouldn't want you in an environment with people like that. You could also try talking to your school counselor about how mean these kids are being. Hang in there, it'll blow over soon...
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i have some friends named elizabeth kirsten chandler and kate. kirsten is jelous of elizabeth elizabeth is jelous of kate and chandler is jelous of everyone but mostly kate. i have no clue wat to do. please tell me b/c its driving me insane there like pulling me 4 diffrent ways!!!!! (link)
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It sounds kind of like you need some other friends that aren't always jealous of each other. In the mean time, I would do my best NOT to get involved and NOT to get in the middle of it all. Find something else to take up ur time until it all blows over.
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I am 16/f and my boyfriedn and I are planning to get married when I am 18, My bf is 21, but my mother said she wont except this marriage as i am too young and have to finish my education first. I dont want to hurt my mother as she is very upset. But i am absolutely in love with my bf and so is he. We are totally sure about this marriage. What should I do? (link)
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I think that if you are totally sure about this marriage and that if you love eachother this much, than you love each other enough to wait on one another. I would start collage and set plans for your future and be happy for the fact that you already have someone to spend the rest of your life with and that you don't have to search for someone. Your mom just wants to make sure you are setted. Maybe you could get married after you;ve been through a few years of collage so that you can also make your mom happy? it's up to you though, I would pray about whatever you decide to do also...
Good luck!
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okay to set things straight im 14/f and I like this guy who is 13/m (Daniel) but, i have this exx bf who is 14/m(alvin) and he still likes me alot and it is kind of my fault that we broke up, so i feel like really bad, but i like Daniel alot but i think Alvin is more experienced cause he has had more than one gf and Daniel well.. i'd be his 1st and i'm not a hoe im still a virgin and i plan on stayin pure till marriage, but i like kissing and i dont want to like be all pushy w/ Daniel but i dont want to be one of them couples that are too shy to hug because i would have to kill my self cuz those guys are the clingy ones what do i do? i like them both but daniel more cuz he is more athletic like me. (link)
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If you like Daniel more, then go for Daniel. But like you said, be sure not to be pushy and such. Don't worry about your ex, u sound like you just still might be getting over him. But that's in your past, so I would go for Daniel.
Good luck!
ps. way to go on wanting to stay pure till marriage ;)!
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ok well im a little overweight and when i wear tight shirts you can see my stomach ... so my question is, is there ANYTHING i can do to temporaraly make your stomach flatter. i thought of duck tape but that would hurt like a mother but i want to wear a cute outfit tomorrow but it is pretty tight on me. but i am going to work out every day after school and tonight so PLEASEEE answer ASAP!!!! thank you in advance and i will rate 5s to almost anyone :) but i need your help cause even my mom calls me fat
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chubby lil me
pS i asked this before and you deleted it but please dont this time i really need some answers and this is not a joke question (link)
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I'm not a stick myself, but my stomach has gotten a lot flatter than normal because of running so much in athletics. Lots and lots of sprinting. I don't really know any last minute things because loosing belly fat is not something that happens overnight. Sit-ups and crunches might help, but umm...it still won't happen overnight. Maybe you should pick something else to wear for tomorrow and hang the outfit you were planning to wear in ur room. Then for the next couple of weeks work out, do crunches, run alot... whatever u decide. And then wear it to school and see how it looks. Hope I helped!
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im a 13/f and no one likes me everyone spreads rumors ant talks about me all of my friends r backstabing bitches!! sometimes on the i sit alone and the highschool people r mean everytime i go to school one person or the other talks about me what should i do??????
I RATE 5'S for evert answer that doesnt piss me off!!!
Thanks
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It sounds like you need to find some new friends that you can trust and know won't talk about you. I would find someone who is into the same hobbies or something as you, and then strike up a coversation. But don't rush the friendship... and just try and block out what other people say... if they're that big of jerks then their opinion doesn't really matter anyway, does it??? good luck...
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okay, so my friend and I need some ideas for valentines day for our boyfriends. we heard they were cooking something really good up, so we need A REALLY GOOD thing sto top thiers. anybody got any ideas?? gracias..i`ll rate you a five no matter what because you tried. (link)
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as a joke, you could say you can't make it to their big dinner and then surprise them with something big when you show up anyway. Or you could bring dessert or something.... Idk this is a hard one. I would deffinatly make them something though if their going so out of their way to cook you dinner.
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Okay im 15 .. and i like these two guys .. tha first one lets call him Joe ..okay well he goes to my school .. and hes a junior(im a freshman) well our lockers are right next to each other so thas sorta how we met but then we started talking,talking bc i became "close friends" with his friend (lets call him) Steve .. well me ans Steve just have sorta drifted away .. but me and Joe still talk alot !! n we talk online n everyday at school .. and i like him alot .. hes 17 .. soo hott and is soo sweet to me!! we just sorta click i guess.. hes so awesome .. and then tha other guy lets call him Bob .. well i met him about a month and a half ago from my two bff's ..Well we have all hung out together a few times and me and Bob talk online all tha time n see each other about every weekand(hes a freshman too but goes to another school) .. so every weekand me and my friends go to these local concert things .. its just basically a whole bunc of local punk/emo bands and they play .. its really awesome .. well me n my friends have been goin every sat. night for tha past month .. well this comming up saturday .. i invited Joe and Bob .. and they are both sorta thinking like im guna be there n we can get close or flirt or hook up or w/e .. which we prolly will ... but i dont want like Bob to think like we are guna make out or anyhthing bc then Joe is guna be there and vice versa .. i dont want to hurt either of them .. Me and Bob talk ALOT and we both like each other and know it.. but me n Joe .. well i like him ALOT and i think he knows it but im not sure how he feels about me .. I really like both of them .. Bob has a great personality and is SOOO sweet .. There are so many things i love about him .. but then Joe hes so hott ..and nice and sweet..n i like alotta things about him too .. and i told my mom that i liked both of them but she keeps insiting that i should forget about Bob and just keep persuing Joe !! but i think she thinks that bc hes older and his family is way rich ... so im not sure what i should do about this upcomming weekand .. Pleae help ? I rate 'XoX (link)
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I think that it's really up to you. I would go with the freshmen guy, because you to can face all the rest of high school together, enjoy senior year together. And ur junior friend leaves for collage too years before you. Just my opinion, but it's truly up to you. Here's a way for you to decide. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle and write each of the guy's names @ the top. Start listing what you like about each of them on both sides. The hard part is, you can't put the same thing on both sides, like you can't put that they're both sweet, you have to weigh it and pick one. That way it's not a tie and you can back up your decision. Good luck!
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A guy i realy like and he is like my bestfriend is going out with my friend and like i am really jelous. i think it is rude of me and like i am happy for her but i really wish i was her. Is there any way to get over him? (link)
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I would try and wait their relationship out and then when they break up, let him know how you feel. In the mean time, focus your attention elsewhere. Who knows, maybe you'll find another crushworthy guy!!!
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every time i go out wit some one they just feel bad for me wat should i do? help i rate high (link)
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How do you know that they feel bad for you??? What if they really like you??? If this is really true, then you should make sure you really know the person before you go out with them. It might take a while to get to knw them, but I bet it would be worth the wait!!!
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