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Q: hi im 15 f and never had a boyfriend or even kissed a boy. what is a good way to get a boyfriend, even though i dont hang out with boys hardly?
and everytime i go near boys i kinda get all butterflies in my stomach!! what does this mean?!?!
confidence. that is the most attractive quality guys find in a girl. remember that and push yourself to be fun, smiley and crazy!

Q: Hey. Ok so if i turn my weight into muscle, will i become heavier or will i just have muscles and weigh the same...Any good answers i rate high!
muscle weighs more than fat, so es you will weigh more, but it also burns calloried 10 times faster than fat, so you will loose you "fat weight" wich is good. dont focus on your weight too much, just use it as a guideline. wouldn't you rather look fit and weigh more, or look out of shape and weigh less. no one cares how much you weigh, just wat you look like. so you should defidentally turn your weight into muscel.
hope i could help.!

Q: Right now, there is thunder and lightning outside and my dog is freaking out. He is a 2 year old Shih-tzu. I'm trying to calm him down by talking to him and cuddling him but he just keeps shaking and panting and crying. He is shaking so bad it's making this hard to type. Does anyone know of a good way to calm my dog down a bit more? I feel so bad that I can't do anything else for him. =(
my dog (whippet) does the same thing. i think its just the thunder. see, dogs dont know if there is a nucleat war going on out there or justa harmless thunderstorm! bring your puppy into a closet or a small room and just pet him and pey attention to him.

Although that could be a bit anoying when you dont have time, your doignt eh right thing just to hold him and pet him. theres realy nothing else you can do. Sry, hope i could help and tell your pup i said hi!

Q: 16/f Okay, ive known this guy for like ever..he wants me to give him head..i I reallly wanna, but im kinda scared. Like i dk if I should or know. Hes never had it before..so can i still get anything?..plz help!! I rate ALL awnsers 5s!! ;) thx so much!
ask yourself, do you love this guy? does he love you (does he make you feel beautiful when your around him?) just remember he will tell all his friends and everyone will know what happend between you, trust me!

Q: ok so ill lay down in my bed at like 9:30 nd stay up thinking for like an hour. nd i can b exsausted but still stay awake nd think. sometimes it makes me mad cause i wanna go to sleep, or in the morning, i cant wake up since i fell asleep at like 10:30. do u kno wut i can do or if i have like a medical problem. . .?

ps-i tried counting ;)
lol. Same thing happens to me. You get so into your thaoughts that you forget about falling asleep. DOnt worry no medical problems, just a very active mind. Try not thinking about guys or anything stressful. Think of blackness, nothing, empty your mind. dont count, trust me!

Q: ok i went out with this one guy that i really liked a lot, but we broke up becauce he said eh didnt like me in that way, i was really upset but we are still good friends and all, but now he keeps saying that he wants to make out with me and he wants to like do stuff with me, i dont get it.
Oh, the fridns with benifuts. basically he just wants to get into your pants while not being tied to you. guys are poos, so it you wanna go along with it, you will proably get hurt. Fridns with benifits is a very tricky "relationship."

Q: im soo confused.. this one guy says he likes me alot, and told my best friend that he loves me. He told me he had feelings for me he cant explain. but every once in awhile he'll stop talking to me, and like wont say a single word to me.. hes out of town so we can only talk over the internet, and he wont talk to me when i IM him.. whats wrong with him?
Yea, he could be there, or he could not even be near his computer. The internet is a vrey tricky thing. You cant tell if some one is being mad, flirting, happy, sad, ect. dont take anything too personally online. He could also be playing hard to get, you never know, guys a weirdos.

Q: ok, I'm about 5'2 & weaigh 115. & I'm 14/M

well, I want to have abs, just like a 6 pack, & my stomach be flat (I'm strested & thats where it goes). & I wanted to know a diet & a work-out routine that would work.

Thanks So Much!
i know exactly how you feel. I'm 14/f 5'2 (as well, yay shorties!) and i need abbs. I foudn the best thing to do it make a routien, crunches every night, no matter what! dont be discouraged if you dont see results, they'll come within two to three weeks. Dont worry too much a bout diesting, just dont snack.

Q: I've tried using tampons and I want to be able to use them for the summer, but everytime I put them in (i know the right spot) it gets stuck after a certain point, even when I use slender, and it doesnt go up anymore. Help!
are you sure you are putting them in at the right angle? (about 40 degreese)also try pearl, they are so easy to use and they are very confortable. hope i could help!

Q: i just got braces~& i heard that you could have chewing gum but you couldnt have bubble gum

also what are some good foods you can eat with braces?
go for it. dont stop eating your favorite food just because you have braces. i went for three years with braces eating what ever i wanted and a bracket only came out once because i was chewing on a waerbottle cap. lol. but some food, like strawberrys, spinach and salad get stuck in you braces. very imbaressing! ask your friends from time to time if you have any food stuck in you braces, they'll help you out.

Q: Im writeing a paper on second hand smoke and weather or not people should be aloud to smoke in public places ( resterunts, bars, amusment parks, ect. )and i need peoples opinioins..
if you think that they should banned public smoking or if you think that it should be aloud nd why (if you want).. i rate !! so help me if you have the time thank yaa!!
hey i'm 14/f. smiking is just the same as usling drugs, only its legal. it is the uprising epidemic and it will be almost impossible to smuther. personally i LOVE the smell of secondhand smoke. absolutly love it. There should be bars that accomidate smokers and smoke free bars and same with resterants. otherwise, it is impossible to stop people from smoking in public places.

Q: okay-- the guy i like knows i like him and he keeps tellin me hes thinkin about me and he told me he could see me as a potential girlfriend... so how long do you think it would take for him to fainnaly ask me out?? ive already been waiting like 3 weeks (and im just a lil bit curious!!) thanks!!
aww, how cute. You should ask around who he likes, like from his friends and stuff. If they say you then make a move when you guys are watching movies or something. Just be careful because he might just want to get in your pants, or he might only like you as a friend and his hormones were running high when he told you he might like you as more than a friend.

Guys are weird. Really weird. They change their mindes constantly! keep up with them and dontlet them hurt you.
good luck!

Q: ok.... well i have been going out w/ this boy for about 4 months now and i really love him alott!!!! so i am 14 and goin into high school and yaa. so and latley my boyfriend has wanted to go to 3rd base w/ my (down muh pants) i no he is ready and i trust him but i dont now if im still to young or if i should jus do it or wait mann i am so confused ill rate 5
I'm 14 too. and I know that 3rd base is not sex (thats home) 3rd is finger and blowjob. Ok, so anyway. YOu love this guy, and you trust him, but are you ready to give up your reputation for this guy?
at least in my school, third is slutty and i am going into the high school next year as well and third will proably be the norm. Just be ready because he will tell his friends. All guys will and it will get around, trust me. You might regret it later.

Q: Hi,
I'm 5"7, aged fourteen and weigh ten stone (which is 140 pounds I think). I know this isn't majorly overweight or anything, but I feel fat and would like, if possible, to gradually get down to nine stone (126 pounds). I wouldn't mind if this took, say a few months.
I exercise regulary but find it hard to stop snacking between meals. Has anyone got any tips into how to stop this?
Or any other gradual-dieting tips.
Any advice would be very much appreciated :-)
wow, I can really relate to you. I am 14 as well 5'1" (yes v. short, you r very lucky u r tall!) and weigh 108. (ha, just three days ago i weighed 106, but that's a different story) I know i'm not fat, but i have some fat on my stomach and thighes and I can't stand that because last year I was so skinny. Snacking it a huge problem for me, as well as dessert after dinner. I am addicted to food (isn't everybody?) and when i stat I just can stop. I found that posting pictures of Victoria Secret models on my fridge-yes it sounds creepy, but it works- stops me and makes me think. I stare at the picture and ask myself if i really need this food. If they can avoid it, then why cant I? so then i walk away and find something to do (not watch tv) like reading, sewing, knitting, anything that involves my brains total concentration.
I hope it helps!!!! Just remember its all in your head!

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