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Q: So i've had kidney problems since about fifth grade. And I am now a sophmore in college. The problem is...they dont know what kinda kidney problems i have, it just makes me pass out and not be able to hold anything down for days...ive been to every hospital ive had surgery to get kidney stones out but nothing has worked and im overwhelemed...so much that last year i stopped breathing in class and passed out and was rushed to the hospital. Im so overwhelemed i feel like just laying in bed, because all i get is rude remarks from people who have no idea whats going on. On the other hand i would like to explain it too them but then they will think of me as a cherity case and i dont want that. I swear im like the nicest person in the world everyone tells me that, i would go to the end of the world and back just to make someone smile, if im so nice why dont i get treated nicely in return!?

because truthfully most people in the world are pretty crappy . if they can find something thats diffrent from them and be able to use it agains you they will . to them its fun . its wrong but is life . the best advice i can give you is to do better than them in school . if they see your grades are good and the teachers respect you because of it they usually wont be so rude because they fell that you can easily belittle them . and in the end all that will do is get you a great job and more money .

Q: i am involved with a married man i dont love. i am with him because i have no other financial assistance. he is very controlling, obsessive and he threatens me , even locks me up in the house and demands to know my every move. i can live with my mother but i am scared through past experiences that they might disown me again and i have a 6yr old son. what should i do? i am 26yrs old, female.

get out of the marryed man relationship , hes abusive and you don't need that . in your time of need your family won't disown you . your responciple and theres no reason why that should happen . if your looking for some financial assitance get a daytime job and be home at night with your son( you may want to take some secretarl corses or become a dental assitant then once you know the buisness become a dentist and open you own place !) . you could also threaten to tell the wife , you'll get out of the relationship and possibly make some extra cash . good luck !

Q: I`m a straight A student. Last week I grabbed the wrong composition notebook so I wasn`t able to turn in my weekly D.O.G Work. My teacher refused to take it when I turned it in late for half credit. I told her today I admit I made a mistake and asked if there was anything I could do. ( my grade was a 96 but since I didn`t turn it down it went to a 71%) She yelled at me, Told me she wouldn`t grade any crap that I would do to get extra credit, laughed in my face, and completly insulted me ( and made me cry ; I don`t cry easily ) in front of the whole class. Now getting a C wouldn`t upset me, however if I don`t get 98 or above on ALL my papers/projects/tests from now on that grade could easily fall to an F and I would be kicked off of the cheerleading squad and lose my Captain position. What do I do ? I Have no hope of getting any sorta extra credit ; progress reports come out on this coming Monday and my coach always does grade checks.
PLEASE HELP ME.

get your parents . i once had a teacher like this . my friend grabed my homework by accident and i wasn't able to turn it in . the next day i asked for a new one and she laughed and said no . i got straight A's and never missed any work . I told my parents thy called the principal , she then appoligized and let me turn in a new one full credit . i suggest you do the same.

Q: I have a question that may sound strange, but tis a genuine question. I live in the UK, and I know nobody who supports George Bush, or even has a good word to say about him. He is generally a figure of hate. But I don't want to be close-minded, I just want a reasonably intelligent answer from somebody as to why they voted for George Bush, because I cannot see any good points to the guy at all.
Thanks!

the people who voted for him are from the middle states and are raised to only belive in republican views and they are the majority lie texas and kansas and places like that .

Q: i just bought a shirt from a store but i supopse they forgot to take off big plastic squarish thing that says"Warning: Tampering will break glass and cause ink to leak out..please see sales associate for removal".. can i remove this myself some how or do i have to go back to the store tomorrow and have them remove it? I really dont wanna go back but i guess i will if i have to. thanks

you should brink it back , i tryed to remove one and got ink all over the shirt and my hands

Q: I have a question about men. I want to have children some day but havent found the right guy yet. When I do find a guy that I like, what are some signs that could tell me whether or not he would make a good father?
Also, is it a bad sign if the man is already in his mid 40's and has never had any children? Is there still a chance he might want kids at that age? I am 26 and know a guy that is 45 and I think he likes me, but he has never had kids.

im going to say no to the 45 year old , he's older enery isn't high , the kids will be loud and it will disturb him and he's used to not having a responcibility like that . what to look for is a guy with a sence of humor , energy , careing , likes kids , responcible , reliable that sorta thing

Q: I have a quiz tomorrow in math and I dont know really understand how to find something from a cirle graph. Okay so lets say that the cirle graph is called Persons Living Alone by Age and the pieces of the cirlce are ages45-64 is 33.4% Ages 25-44 is 14.8% and Ages 65 and older is 46.7%. Lets say they ask If the total of 10,851,000 people were living alone, how many in each age group were living alone? How do I find it out? Please help and thank you! Sorry its so long!

multiply the percent by the total number like 10,851,000 multiplyed by .334 eqauls the answer for age group 45-64

Q: I was due for my period about 10 days ago and it sitll hasnt come...is this bad??and when will it come again?
(i have had it for about 3 or 4 years now)

rate 5's for anything

ohh and im not pregnant

well it may be a change in diet , if your eatting something that you usually don't eat it could be from that or a vitamin defficentsy , try taking some vitamins and talk to your doctor . theres no telling when it will come back but it should come with in the month

Q: 13/f
ive lived with my grandparents for 13 years and just a few months ago i moved in with my mom and her boyfriend. i REALLY miss living with my grandparents and i feel like my moms trying to take me away from them. sometimes ill ask my mom if i can stay the night with my grandparents and she says no. we fight and argue every single night and im so sick and tired of it. i cry myself to sleep everynight because of her and her boyfriend. her b/f is so rude to me too. i try to talk to her about this but every time i try we get in another argument. i talk to my grandparents about it and they undersatnd but they dont know what to do. i just cant stand living with my mom and her boyfriend. if anyone can tell me what i can do besides talk to my mom please help me.

get a court order to go back with your grandparents , you could get a divorce from your mom and be with your grandparents .

Q: One of my friends think that i have been practicing witchcraft and black magic. She thinks i have become a witch and she keeps scolding me. I told her im not a witch and she keeps lecturing me; What should i do?

well after you've told her and she keeps saying it and doesn't belive you i just wouldn't talk to her anymore , or you could ask why she thinks what she thinks ,or she may just be having fun and joking around with you

Q: Ok, my gramma has cancer and shes dying. We dont think she will make it until Christmas. I have a big family, and we are all very close, so it's a sad thing. But for some reason, i just dont feel sad. I feel guilty, it feels like i dont care. I know i do care, but i dont feel sad. It seems like everyone else is sad except me. Am i like a bad person? Is this normal? Please help!

the whole idea may not of hit you yet , when your grandma unfortanutlly gets closer to death it may hit you then . you may also not know how to deal with your really feelings of being sad so you block them and don't feel anything. your not a bad person .

Q: can sites appear in the address bar and history that no ones even been on on your computer.
Like in your history menu, can some websites be stated even if you havnt been on those websites.
it can do it wih the favourites menu, like add sites to it that u havnt been on and that come back if youve deleted them. i didnt know if it was possible with history menu too.

unless you have spyware and popups then no .

Q: I have a project in English for an individual reading assignment, and i got signed THE PRIME OF MISS JEAN BRODIE.. its a movie also..

but in the movie and the book, Miss Brodie keeps saying she will turn her students in to creme de la creme. does anyone know what she means by that? I don't know if anyone would have read it so that would probably make more sense..

easy 5

it means she will make them great , the best of the best .

Q: i am babysitting with a friend so we have to split the money and the town isnt very rich about how much should i charge 1 kid per hour 2 kids per hour 3 kids per hour and 3 kids per hour

i rate high

1 kid - 5$

2-kids-7$

3-kids-11$

Q: do girls like the smell axe or tag.

no , they smell really bad your better off getting a real colone

Q: If you don't look at somebody in the eyes...do they get upset or something or feel like they did something wrong? Im really bad at eye contact. It makes me feel weird knowing somebodys eyes are staring right at me..

when someones talking to you and you don't make eye contact its like your not lisening to them and your thinking about something else and uninterested . try making eye contact with your self in the mirror , it helps

Q: I know this is a dumb question but how do you stunt your growth? I don't want to get taller so how can I stop it, My mom is 5'5 and my dad is 5'7, so how can i stop it.

its not good to stunt your growth , it will effect other things like your feet can become cripple and when people's growth is stunted they usually have bone problems .

Q: Hi. Well, I'm in the 8th grade (female) and I live in Maryland. Well, I am taking a Science and Tech exam to get into this highschool. Anyway, I'm having some trouble with analogies, because most of the words I don't understand sisnce they are so unfamiliar. So if anyone could give me a heads up on what books to study for or other resources to explore (internet, video, etc.) that can help me improve on analogies to help me pass the test with a really good score so that I can be excepted into the school. Also, if anyone has tooken this test and can tell me how it was like (like was it hard or easy) that would be awesome! Thanks!

well most science and tech words come from roots , find a scientiffic roots list and the root is in most scientific words and you'll be able to understand them for example the root dent means teeth like dentist ! the roots will deffinitally help on the test

Q: what does it mean when you can through your voice?

make your voice sound like its comming from somewhere else

Q: a few months ago i painted my bedroom this elaborate pinkish orange color and its beautiful but its sooo vibrant. not to sound gothic, but im not a VIBRANT kinda girl. i love the color but.. i need to off-set it a little with a darker color bedding or curtains.. any suggestions?