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how do get rumors to go away....i just had a huge ass rumor started about me...but the thing is its true...just not ne more...i don't want my entire scool to think shitty about me over a mistake a made a while back...wat do i do??i rate high (link)
i dont think u could stop rumors. wen another jucicy event happens your safe. until den try 2 ignore it or pretend it doesn't matter 2 u. may be people would stop if they see it doesn't bother you.or you could try 2 tell people it's not true. i hope i helped!


k so i have this theri that if u do a lot with a guy he'll want more to soon. Now i think my bf wants to kiss everytime we part and i dont so i find myself saying stuff just so i can get away. its not that i dont want to kiss him but he wont kiss in a movie theater so..... i don't no i dont want to say this cuz its weird. i feel better i f we just kissed but theres always tounge (not thats its a bad thing...lol) please help me!!! (link)
you could tell him dat u dont wanna kiss alot or wen he tries 2 kiss you make it a simple kiss u no wat i mean? i hope i helped!


20, male.

Okay, the girl I'm going out with and I are sitting watching TV. We've only been dating for a few days, but I've been her friend since before elementary school. She mentions a mutual friend was talking about a movie that we passed. So I, the idiot that I am, accidently call her by the friend's name. She pulled away from me for a few seconds, and then went into my arms again.

I explained that it was only because she mentioned her name seconds before, but is that enough? Should I try to explain in detail that I have no feelings for this other girl or should I drop it? (link)
you should drop it cause she did went back in your arms which means 2 me that she 4 gives u.


How can you tell who a major flirt likes? Does he show them more attention or less? Because I have a friend that is a major flirt and he's been following me around in the mornings before school, he's also suddenly starting to eat lunch with me, and always wants to be my partner in Drama. Why the sudden change is another question? (link)
i think he likes you. but you should ask him y he keeps following u. or you could get 1 of his other friends 2 ask him. but i think he likes you.i hope i helped! please dont rate low!


well there is this guy that i like and im not sure if he likes me. we talk at school and he likes to joke around with me adn make fun of me, but he always smiles and is happy around me. i just want to knwo if he likes me, what do you people think?

14/f (link)
he probelly likes u but dont get 2 happy yet lol. make sure of it. ask 1 of his friends 2 ask u. i hope i helped!


I think I'm kind of short.. I'm 13 and just a little over 5 feet.. are there any ways that can help me grow taller? (link)
you just can't grow over nite! but dont worry during your teen years you might grow taller! my friend is 14 but she's 4"8 lol


Is a disco party a good party for a 12-year-old turning 13? My little sister is thinking of doing that for her birthday, and I was wondering what everyone thought. (link)
disco is kind of like a energic party so if she's energic then it's gonna be a great party. if she has an imagation or likes to have fun or can make fun anywhere then a dsco party is alrite. i hope i helped. please dont rate low!


well this guy I have been good freinds with for a long time. And I like him, and a while back he liked me too. But that;s been put on hold because he's going out with this other girl... anyway, lately he has been walking away when I talk to him and it seems like he's pretending I'm not there, or he justdoesn't want me there. it hurts because I really like him and I miss the friends thing. What should I do? (link)
ask him why he doesn't want to be around you no more. tell him it hurts your feelings that he's ignoring you. may be he's acting like this because he nos you like him. but you should talk 2 him. i hope i helped. please dont rate low! lol


Ok i really realy really really really love this guy............ but he lives kinda far away! And the other day this guy that i've had a crush on since i was 8 asked me out .... i told him i dunno but i dunno! lol i mean im so confused! i love them both and i cant decide ............. im so confused! I wanna be with em both but we all know that's not possible! i just wanna be able to know ..... but i also dont wanna hurt ANYONES feelings! i mean .... do i really have to do what i think i have to do? and if so i just cant! it'll break his heart and i think im the only one that's here for him ..... i love him but there's just a few miles keeping us apart........ also my mom says if he comes down here she'll kill him! (and i dont doubt my mom) And the other guy she's known since i've known him and she likes him and (dur) so do i but what am i supposed to do? I cant hurt anyone i just cant but what if that's what i have to do? even if i dont want to? Which guy should i be with? and (also the guy that lives miles away lives in a whole another state away and he's ugly but the sweetest ever) thanks!

LOSTdazedANDconfuzzled
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you should go wit da 1 who has a crush on you besides your mom likes him too. but dont do it for your mom do it cause you really like him and the other one is far away. i hoped i helped!


All of my freinds and even people that arent my freinds are convinced that I'm rich and spoiled. I am defeintly not rich but my family has money. Every time I go shopping, or get somthing new they call me spoiled or rich. Its really annoying and they say it in a mean way and they wont stop. How can i get them to stop saying that? (link)
try not to show it off and tell them that you do not kike the fact that they are calling you rich and spoiled.and it's annoying you


I have this one friend named Jenna and she is SO sweet but about a month ago, she totally started hanging out with some other people. She still claims to be my friend, but I feel like she has just ditched me. So I told Jenna how I felt and she said she just has a hard time juggling friendships, but it seems like she has ALL the time in the world for her 2 new friends. So what can I do to help Jenna see the light or snap out of what she is doing? Would the silent treatment help at all? (link)
try the slient treatment for about a week. if she doesn't realize it then tell her what you did ( you gave her the slient treatment but she didn't care). then tell her dat she changed and your happy for her that she has new friends but she should have time for other friends too. MAKE her relize that you dont like what she is doing


my hands get clamy alot, and its not gross or anything its just somewhat moist. I don't know why because I'm not a nervous or sick person, but anyway I would really like to know what can be done (and if you think surgery or medication than dont even bother). It's wierd, because I don't always feel comfortable holding my boyfriend's hand or even shaking hands with ppl...any help will be very appreciated! (link)
try using baby powder or another lotion or use it more often!


Hi,
I was just putting in some new clean bedding for my rabbit and I reached into the hay bag and a very sharp bit of hay got stuck in my hand, about 3mm in. I pulled it out and it bled. I've washed it and put a plaster on but I was wondering if I can catch any kind of infection from that? It's clean hay and I've had my tetanus jab. Should I put antiseptic cream on? And now or when it's healed a little? (link)
you should go see a doctor if it still hurts in a couple of days


Well, on Valentine's Day my school had these little valentine's cards you could send to your crush. I sent one to this guy I like, but I don't think he's knows it was from me and I'm tired of waiting on him. I never get to talk to him, so I don't know what to do. How do I let him know in a round-about way that I like him?
Thanks! (link)
Go up 2 him and tell him.


i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared (link)
you need 2 get a teacher or your parents involved in this. you never know he could kill! he might have mental promblems but doesn't no. besides he's treathening u! i hoped i helped. please get some help NOW


ok there's this guy that I like and he and I are old friends. And now, looking back I think he liked me a few months ago, but doesn;t anymore. (i didn't like him then) Now I think he likes this other girl, who likes him back. If they started to go out i would be so upset, because I like him a WHOLE lot. What can I do to get him back??? help! please,i'll rate! (link)
i dont really know wat 2 say but u could tell him how you feel and show him how you feel. hoped i helped!


[13/f] everyone at my school sees me as a shy person who always follows the rules and everything and thats not at all how i am! i got detention today and this kid saw me in the office [iv'e had detentions before, but i dont brag about it to look "cool" like all the other kids] and he was like "whoa! YOUR in DETENTION??" I feel like everyone knows me for someone i'm not and it's really starting to bug me. i'm not at all how anyone sees me, not even my own friends.. does anyone know how to like idk, show everyone "who i really am"? i know that sounds gay but i don't know how else to say it (link)
well you could always stop acting "shy" and show everyone who you really are. make extra friends and show them who you really are. i hope i helped!


THere is this guy and i really like him and hes in one of my classes and my friend asked him if he likes me and he said he doesnt like any one right now and i really wanna get closer to him like talk to him more and get him to like me so how do i do that?
I rate 5's (link)
first try 2 be his friend. iof you still like him in a little while ask him out. i hope i helped!


Here’s the information you need to know before I tell you the problem.
-The people who are involved are me, my brother, and our friends M and G.
-Our parents are on a benefit basketball vacation because we all play.
-I give my brothers team there plays
-M is on the opposing team and my brother and G are on the same team.
-M asked me to the formal before all this happened.

Day 1) okay well it was the Friday my dog got put down, my brother had a basketball game, and I went into a crying fit so M and G tried to help. then I went over to Gs and I went home afterwards and M came over to be with me because it was storming.
Day 2)I made the winning shot at my basketball game, M gave me a hug before I could get to G, and I broke away from him to get to G. we went out to lunch, I walked home with G, just the 2 of us. M got mad. I got home and before I got there, my friend called and told me that M said yes to this girl for the formal. so I flipped on him and ran outside and then he came after me and said he wouldn’t have said yes if he knew i liked him, cuz he thought I wanted to go with G. and then I told him he hated me and he said no, i love you. so I dont know.
1 and a half weeks later)another bball game, for the boys. M got a technical, and so I said, its ok M. and he was like, I love you, and he yelled it to me and the ref thought he was talking to him, so he said ok that’s it get out of here. and then M was like, why I was talking to my gf. and he was like right, I am sure she’s your gf. so he came over and gave me a really long kiss, and G got upset. So the ref resigned the technical. But that doesnt matter.

I don’t know what to do, at all!!!
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you need to find out who you like most;it sounds like you like m the most. so you should go out with him and tell G you wanna be friends or less you want it the other way around.(go out wit G and tell m u wanna be friends)but it sounds like M really likes u! i hope i helped! please rate!


okay- i have been getting cramps, and i have that "discharge" stuff.. am i getting my period?? (link)
yea. your period could be coming but if it doesn't come in a week or 2 i suggest you see a doctor!




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