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How can I bring up wanting birth control to my mom? I dont think she ever had sex until she was married..and she was brought up in a strict christian home (no sex until marriage) but i dont find a reason wrong with sex before marriage. I am 16/f and ive been going out with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I love him and he loves me and we are sexually active (condom every time). I cant let her know I am sexually active because i dont think she would understand. Should i start pretending to complain about cramps so she will get hints or whaT????????? (link)
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You just need to talk to her. It sounds like you have a good relationship with her, but are afraid of what she will say or think. You and your boyfriend have been together for a while now, and in these days (sadly) it's acceptable for you to be having sex. Whatever her reaction is, if she is the mom you have portrayed her to be then she will get over it. She may not like your choices, but she will be happy that you have made a mature and responsible decision by coming to her.
If that is truly not an option, go to Planned Parenthood. They will give you birth control and it is free and confidential.
Just be careful that your mom doesn't find out you went behind her back. She may not trust you after that.
I think it's better to just suck it up and have a girl talk with your mom!
And...GOOD FOR YOU that you are making responsible choices! There are a lot of teen girls that should learn by your example!
Good luck, hun
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hi im 16 f and hes 14 m. the other week we only just started talking (on msn) and we got very close and he seemed very caring and loving towards me, he then asked me out and i said yes..he lives close by and we get along very well but my only question is...does it matter whether hes 2 years younger than me? (link)
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No, it doesn't matter at all. Think about it...when you're 50, he'll be 48...that doesn't seem so bad, does it? I dated a 15 year old when I was 18. It was a little weird because we were in different classes and circles and different times in our lives. But after a while we didn't care about that because we really liked each other.
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im gunna try to move in with my favorite cousin (we're seriously best friends) after high school. but i really dont know if ill find a job where she lives (another state). i have alot of money saved up from the job that i have now. should i ask my cousin to turn in job applications for me or something? i dunno if that would work though because we're gunna buy a new house together (we don't know which one).
also is it hard to do what my cousin and i wanna do, which is buy a house together? what kind of stuff do we need to get besides furniture?
thank ya kindly. (link)
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OK, moving in with your cousin is great. But don't buy a house together. You need to see what a huge deal that is. A typical mortgage is 30 years! I am sure you won't wanna live there forever! That doesn't mean you're stuck there forever, but it's a tremendous hassle to sell a house and a lot of times you have to live in it for years to be able to get enough equity to benefit from the sale. It isn't easy to get a mortgage, either.
Get an apartment, townhouse, or rent a house. You're only obligated for a year at a time on a lease. You don't have to take full responsibility for the property (if the roof leaks, the landlord fixed it, you don't have to cut the grass...).
Try looking online for jobs. Lots of places will let you apply online, or they let you fax or email a resume or application. It wouldn't hurt to ask your cousin to turn in a few applications. The state's local newspaper most likely has a website and that's the best place to look for a local job.
You are gonna need a lot to move in together. Furniture, pots and pans, utensils, cleaning supplies, a couple of tools (hammer, screwdriver...), towels, appliances (if they don't already have them there, shower curtain...I could go on forever!
Go to garage sales and thrift stores. You will be shocked at what you can find in a thrift store, and it's cheap. It will get you by until you can buy a new one. The dollar store is great for all of those little things like measuring cups and utensils, things like that.
Best of luck to you and your cousin!
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Im just checking if anything is wrong with me or anything. lol. Im not sure what it could be or if its nothing really. Well, lately i have been getting dizzy a lot. Sometimes when i first get up from sleeping. When Im watching T.V. ill get up and then ill get really dizzy when i get into my kitchen to the point when i know its coming now. I also get really dizzy when its hot outside. Its not hard for me to get dizzy, and i can feel it coming. When i do get dizzy it lasts a while and sometimes i loose my balance, well, most of the time i do. Im not sure what it is, or if i have to worry about it at all.. If anyone knows or has any ideas of what it could be or if you have any suggestions please let me know. Sorry its so long. (link)
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I would definitely see a doctor, there are many things that could cause you to be dizzy.
But if that is not an option, here are some suggestions.
You may be anemic. That means your body isn't getting enough iron. Take some over the counter vitamins, make sure they have lotsa iron!
You may be dehydrated. Drink water, not soda or sugary stuff. Just water and a lot of it.
Check your diet, have you been eating poorly this summer?
Any chance you're pregnant? That's how I found out I was pregnant. I had dizzy spells that I ingored and finally I blacked out and fainted in McDonald's (how embarrassing was that)! I had to be rushed to the hospital by ambulance! It was there I found out I was pregnant and the baby was taking all my nutrients because I wasn't properly eating or taking care of myself and my body just shut down from malnurishment. It was terrible, I spent 5 days in the hospital and it was scary because the baby was small and I was in danger of losing him. That was 8 yrs ago, he is a healthy boy now.
That's probably not your case, but just know that it can happen.
If none of these work after like a week or so, I would go to the doctor.
Hope I helped!
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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Honestly, you are not being overpaid. If you think about it, you were paid $40 for 4 hours of babysitting. That's $10 an hour for 2 kids, breaking down to $5 per kid. That's about the going rate. $100 per week for the 9 year old is a little high, but people willingly pay that for someone who comes to their home and is trustworthy.
I would be grateful for the job you love so much. And Elcee had a great point. Maybe if you feel like you're rolling in the dough and you like the kids and parents so much, a great way do show appreciation is to do something fun for the kids. Maybe you could treat them to a pizza for dinner one night? Or the ice cream thing was a good idea, if you can't take them out for ice cream then you can buy a 1/2 gallon and some toppings before you get there and let them make their own sundaes. That's always fun. Another way to show appreciation is to clean up the house. Do their dishes, maybe help the 9 year old clean his room...Cleaning sucks, I know but the parents will greatly appreciate it when they come home...it's one less thing for them to do.
Good luck!
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now, and we've only made out. If we go any further with him..would that make me seam Easy? (link)
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There's lots of things you can do between making out and having sex. 7 months is a long time to be dating, so I say if you feel like you're both ready to move on a little then go for it! Just take it slow and be careful! No, it's not easy at all...
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Ok,I'm 13(gal)and i babysit 2 boys 3 times a week for about 4 hrs. There 1-1/2 & 6 yrs. old the 6 yr.old will NOT listen, i tell him not to do something and he still does it. Every time i have a problem i tell the dad when he gets home,but he never does anything.I have been babysitting for around 3 years and I've never run into this problem before. I'm thinking about starting a discipline plan.If he acts up i will tell him to go to his room,if he doesn't do that I'll tell him were not going outside that day etc.(i say what i mean and mean what i say).Then if it still doesn't work after a few days I'll tell his mom i cant babysit him anymore.I just cant handle him.I just need to know if other babysitters like me think this sounds good. thanks. (link)
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You've got the right idea. I have a home daycare, I take care of 7 kids between the ages of 8 months and 8 years. I know how you feel!
You need to be firm. The 6 year old walks all over you because he can. Take a stand, be firm. Find a good time out spot. A place where he can sit down in a corner- no TV, no other kids, no distractions. He needs to go to time out for 6 minutes (1 minute per year of age). Set a timer. If he cries, tell him he can't come out until he is done. Be firm and serious. Don't send him to his room...too many things for him to do in there. He needs to feel like he is being punished, not rewarded.
Next time he acts up, give him 2 warnings. Then firmly send him to time out. This will take time to get used to, for both of you. Be patient. I promise it will pay off. After he has served his time, talk about it- tell him why he was there.
After the first few times, he won't wanna go back there and eventually all you will have to do is threaten it.
It works for me!
Good luck!
Jamie
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hello,
my name is kelsey and i am 13 years old....ive been a cutter for as long as i was 11 or so. i cut for many reasons...my moms ex....was a mager alcohalic..and one night he cam into my bed room..and he was toaching me in ways i didnt like..i was only 8 years old...and lots of times he would beat my mom..and i waould hear her screams in mybed room...one day it was so bad i had to whatch i didnt no what to do....but the neighbors caled the cops..thank god..and my mom was taken to the hostbital. she was sent to a place so she could recover but she ran away...i had to stay with my grand parents for a week. when my mom left him 3 years ago i was so happy...but i still cut my self becuz i think of how how so many kids get a normal family and have a great child hood.but i dotn get to now.and now she has a new bf i will admit i love him hes very nice but some day i hate him with a pasion..please help me i dont want to cut anmore but i still love the pain....my mother knows i cutshe found out twice but doesn do anything about it...i dont think she loves me....please help me!!!!!
thxz..kelsey (link)
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Kelsey, sweetie...DON'T DO THAT! I am so sorry you have had such a bad time in your life, but you don't need to do that! You need to seek help. If your mom isn't there for you (and shame on her if she isn't), you need to reach out and find more support. Maybe an aunt, uncle, grandparents...If you don't have those resources available, School is right around the corner. TALK TO YOUR SCHOOL COUNSELOR! That's what they are there for. It is confidential (to an extent) and they will know what to do to help you. Please honey, you need to turn to someone. You can't fight this battle on your own and cutting only leads to more serious issues. Check out the internet for information on cutting. Do a Yahoo! seach on teen cutting. You will find a bunch of sites there. There are better things you can do to channel your anger. But please Kelsey, please stop hurting yourself. If you wanna chat, my name is Jamie. I am 28/f and I have a little boy who is 8. My aol sn is cruzfam106. I'll be there if you need me.
Take care of yourself!
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Thanks for your advice it really helped and I really appreciate it there is my aunt grace and my uncle billy,but the thing is they are my dad's brother and sister so I don't think they would tell me they'd probally be on my dad's side if he did do it,but my cousin michelle who's always been there for me in anyway she could I could probally go to her,but the thing is she was only 18 at the time so I don't think she would know,but iam going to go try asking her she was there for me when I spoke at my dad's funeral she stood right there beside me as I made my speach about my dad so I could probally trust her to tell me the truth since she was there for me when my dad died don't you think she would tell me the truth I don't know who to trust to tell me the truth anymore should I go to my 36 year old cousin for advice on this? (link)
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Go wherever you can, get the story from everyone. That way you can decide what makes sense to you. Good luck sweetie, I hope you find what you're looking for!
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ok this is very embarrasing but I am and girl but when i was born i was born with a penis..he doctor says im a girl cause i have boobs and i have periods...dont ask me how cause i really dont know how. When i have sex with boys do u think this will creep them out? and should i get my penis removed?
ANSWER BACK SOON! (link)
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Ok,
My husband had the same issue, but reversed, of course. His penis had to be surgically dropped when he was a baby.
He is a perfectly normal man, you would NEVER know the difference. And no, he is not a hermaphedite...he is a MAN, always has been.
So if it worked for him, it could work for you!
Do what you feel is comfortable.
Good luck!
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I dont eat meat and i was wondering wat foods can i eat high iron!
And also are there any symptoms to show that i am animic?
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Low motivation, easy bruising, dizziness and fatigue are signs of anemia. If you are feeling tired all the time, you are probably anemic. Also, you will have a weaker immune system meaning that you get sick a lot or easily.
If you aren't a veggie freak, try taking a simple over the counter vitamin. Something with iron in it.
Your bowels will be hard and dark for a little while, so don't be alarmed. That's normal when you first start taking iron.
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hi i am 21 female i usually masterbate using my fingure and get discharge. since last week i m not getting dischagre. is it normal? or any thing wrong with my sexual health (link)
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maybe you are getting bored with the same old masturbation technique. i don't think you will always get discharge, sounds normal to me. try a different technique or maybe a vibrator.
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Hey iam a 17 year old girl and the other night I asked my mom why she divorced my dad when I was 3 becouse she never told me,but when I asked she said the reason I divorced your dad when you were 3 was becouse he molested you when you were 3 I was like really shocked becouse me and my dad were always so close before he died when I was 12 I don't know what to belive anymore iam so confused if I can't trust my dad who can I trust anymore?how can I find out if this is true since my dad died when I was 12?I've tried asking my granny my dad's mom becouse I figured she would tell me the truth,but she didn't want to talk about,she just said now rachel you know that's not something polite to talk about.I didn't mean to be rude,but I was just so desperate I felt like I had to find out.what should I do?please help me iam so confused.I don't even know if this is something I should be trying to find out or if I have the right to be confused and scared.what should I do? (link)
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My heart goes out to you!
I grew up most of my life without my dad. My mom and sister have bashed him in front of me for as long as I can remember. My mom said he beat her and my sister said he molested her and she caught him touching me when I was 3. I don't remember any of this, of course.
3 years ago my mom got very sick (cancer) and she needed signed divorce papers from my dad in order to get insurance. I was forced to meet my dad to get these papers.
When I met him I (of course) got a different story. My dad seems genuine, he is great to me and my son. So now the same question lies with me that lies with you. Who is lying and who isn't?
My mom has since died, so any chances of getting truth from her is gone. And my sister is so spiteful that I could see her making it all up...but then again, why would she lie?
It's been 3 years since I have known my dad now and he has not given me a reason not to trust him. The thought is always there though, in the back of my mind.
I am so sorry that your dad isn't there to tell his side of the story.
If I were you, I would sit down with Grandma again. You are 17 and old enough to know what she knows. If she doesn't help, is there an aunt or uncle or someone else?
I know your feeling like you don't know who to trust. I feel that too. I can't advise you on what to do or who to beleive, but I can tell you what works for me.
Be your OWN judge.
Look back on YOUR life with your dad. Get your family's input, but don't take sides. Be optimistic. You are old enough to figure things out on your own. Beleive what makes sense to YOU. If he did molest you, he's a jerk. If your mom is lying then she's a jerk. Either way, you lose. So what I did is I drew up my own conclusion. I will NEVER know the truth, so why live in wonder? It will only make you depressed and crazy. I couldn't take another 28 years of that, and neither should you.
Whatever happened, good or bad it wasn't your fault. Remember that.
I hope I helped and didn't just confuse you more!
Huggs!
Jamie
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Myself and my fiance are 26 and I have a 2 1/2 year old from a previous relationship. We have been together for 1 1/2 years and engaged for 1. Last week my fiance had a couple of friends that were looking for an apartment to live in. They are supposed to be moving into the ones where we live. Without asking me, Josh invited them to stay with us until their apartment is ready. It has been almost a week now since they came to stay. It made me really angry that he did not ask me if I cared if they stayed, he just invited them and told me they were staying. I'm upset because I am the one paying all the bills right now because he just finished college and has not found a job yet. Our apartment is really small and was cramped with just our stuff in it. Now our dining room is stuffed with their things and they have taken over our living room too. We only have a couch in our living room because it it tiny. At night after I get home from work I like to make dinner then lay around and watch TV for a while before I go to bed. Since they have been there I don't get to sit on the couch or watch TV. I have been coming home and going to my room to read. Josh gets upset with me because I don't want to sit out there with our "company". I wouldn't mind hanging out with everyone, but when I do sit in my living room I either have to sit on the floor or pull a chair from my dining room to sit on. I feel like my son is getting shorted by them being there too. He is used to having free roam of the house and playing where ever he wants to in the apartment. Now he is confined to his room and can not play anywhere else and when he tries to he gets into trouble for getting into their stuff. Then over the weekend we had a birthday party to go to for my grandmother. I made it clear to Josh the night before that I did not want them in the house while we were gone. When we got ready to leave the next day Josh handed them his keys so they could come and go as they please. It's like my thoughts and opinions don't count anymore. Then when I try to explain to him how I'm feeling he gets angry with me and thinks I'm being rude to them. I like my personal space and I hate it when I don't have it. Right now my space in majorly being invaded. I don't know how much more of this I can take. Josh thinks I'm too controlling on things like this, but I'm tired of being stepped on and used. How can I make him see my point of view before I just get angry with the situation and just kick all 3 of them out so it's just me and my son again? (link)
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Oh goodness!
You and your fiance need to communicate! I see you are trying to talk and he isn't listening. Not cool!
First of all, YOU are paying the bills. How dare he move his friends in without talking to you first!
Your guests need to contribute. If they can't, then they gotta go. And if that includes your fiance, then so be it. He isn't being fair to you at all...inconsiderate and selfish are the words I can think that best describes it.
Try having a DEMANDING conversation...Say "look Josh, I am serious about this and we need to talk". If he is argumentative and unresponseful about that then think about how it will be once you're married! A relationship is about compromise and it doesn't sound like he's holding up his end of the bargain.
I don't mean to be negative, but I can see your anger and I relate...I just got rid of an unwanted houseguest. Our situations are much different, but I can definitely sympathize with the whole space invasion thing. Sharing your home with someone can be very difficult and stressful! Especially when you have kids!
Good luck
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I accidentally spilled Clorox on the carpet in our game room. I dried it up as fast as I could and poured water over it then cleaned the water up. After the water, I used carpet cleaner then I vacuumed over it so it would soak up any bleach that was left. Is that what I should have done or did I make it worse? Is there anything else I can do to make sure that part of the carpet won't turn white? It's a beige color. (link)
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Hmmmmm...
My husband owns a carpet cleaning company.
There is NOTHING you can do to get bleach out of a carpet. And that carpet cleaner stuff is the WORST thing you can do to your rug.
For future reference, only use water and a SMALL amount of mild dish soap to clean your rug, furniture...That stuff they sell in stores is not only crap, but could have harsh chemicals in them that could damage your rug.
Use a dry white rag and blot it, soaking up the water.
Also, be careful when mixing chemicals...bleach mixed with god only knows what was in that carpet cleaner you used could have been bad. Not only for your carpet, but for you!
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does anyone remeber the name of the show i cant remeber the name of it all i remeber is part of the song
Skina marink i dink i dink
Skina marink i do
I love you
its bugging me that i cant remeber lol (link)
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It's from the Sharon, Lois and Bram show...with Lamb Chop the puppet. I remember this from when I was a kid and I sing it to my son all the time! I Love you in the morning, and in the afternoon...I love you in the evening and underneath the moon!!! :)
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Does any one know where you can buy a john deer hat? (link)
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eBay...you can get ANYTHING on eBay
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Mmmkay. How to begin...
So, my best friend is the guy in this situation. We've been friends for a few years, and I'm closer to him than anyone else, and he feels the same. We can, and do, talk about anything comfortably. But I have feelings for him that go beyond friendship. Sometimes I think he feels the same way. People often ask if we're going out. We tried the 'friends with benefits' thing for a while. Meaning we made out a lot, no commitment, but then he got a girlfriend. But really, beside the fact that we don't do anything that would count as cheating, our relationship hasn't changed at all.
But his girlfriend HATES me. When I hug him, she gives me dirty looks(but I hug everyone, it's not a weird thing). She ignores me when I try to make friends with her. Not to mention she's bad for him. He's always walking on eggshells around her, constantly afraid he's saying the wrong thing. She is extremely manipulative and has him a hundred percent whipped.
We always joke about how we're going to get married; we even have the names of our children planned. But the other day, Lucas said something about it that sounded dead serious. I remember his exact words: "You know how some old married couples are just so content? That's how we would be. We'd never fight. It would be perfect."
The other day something happened that really confused me. We were laying on my bed watching a movie(well, it isn't really MY bed. I recently had foot surgery so I'm crashing on the futon until I can climb the stairs to get to my room). I sat up for a second, I can't remember why, and he put his arms around me and pulled me down. I apologized because I thought I was blocking his view of the TV and that's why he moved me, but he said "No, I just want to hold you." So we were cuddling and he kissed me on the forehead. And there have also been other situations since he's been with her where we came close to doing something we shouldn't have been doing.
So the actual questions here are:
Should I tell him how I feel or wait until he's single again(I have a feeling it'll be soon with her jealousy)?
Should I talk to him about not getting intimate, or should I just stop it if the situation arises?
Any other advice you can offer about the situation would be helpful as well. (link)
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Wow, sounds a little complicated! It sounds like you are both totally into each other, just scared to jump in. I will offer you a little bit of advice...friends with benefits NEVER works. Been there, done that, things get nasty and in the end you always end up losing a friend. Here's what I would do. First, he needs to make a choice...you or his GF. It's obvious he has feelings for you so you need to be straight and honest with him. Just come right out with it and tell him how you feel. He doesn't belong with this other chick if he is cuddling and kissing you anyway. It looks like you could have something great here, I would go for it. To answer your questions...tell him how you feel NOW, don't wait. Don't be intimate with him until he dumps his GF, (yes, talk to him about it don't wait until the situation arises).
Let me tell you a little about me...
I am 28 and HAPPILY married to my best friend. We were friends first too, since we were 14! I was just breaking up with a BF (who is the father of my child) at the time we got together. We sat down together and talked about our options, openly and honestly. Option 1 was to get together, forget about my BF (who was a jerk). Option 2 was friends with benefits and option 3 was forget the whole thing ever happened. Let's just say that we have been married for 6 years, he has adopted my son and he is still my best friend. We are that type that Lucas said you would be...we never fight and we are sooooo content. Most people have to work hard at a relationship and we don't because we are just so comfortable with each other.
I really hope that helps. I hope that seeing my situation shows you that it can happen, even if he has a GF. All you need to do is be honest and upfront with him (and yourself) and if it is meant to be it's meant to be...
GOOD LUCK!
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How can I track down a person's email? I've exhausted all of the traditional searches, and have no idea where to go next. All responses appreciated, even the sarcastic ones.
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Yahoo searches usually work for me! Click on people search and then do an email search. If you're lucky, you may get an address and phone number too!
Good luck!
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