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Ok first if my boyfriend told me he just wants a break right and if someone asks me do i havea boyfriend do i still say yes ?
Well my boyfriend is Muslim and his fasting and me and him had a little argument his friend kept flirting with me and i was just being an honestr gf and told him anyways yesterday he told me he wants a break until he finnishes fasting that in like 20 days and he said he'll let me know if he still wants to be with me do you think he'll dump me ? (link)
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What I think is that he may just need time to think out through stuff that have to do with the relationship,if you know that you didn't do something wrong that could lead him to want to break up with you then for sure that decision he will not make.But,if so then you either try to fix this with him or break up with him first before he does.If someone asks you if you have you tell them you do but,that it may not work out.
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My old best friend and I liked each other we never went out, we wanted to stay just friends but we even still love each other. So we never really talk much we say hi and always give each other high fives or fists. But if we ever flirt its so funny but I hate it we try so hard not to but end up flirting like ten year olds and then our other friends get us to separate we get in silly little arguments like well which kind of doughnut is the best stuff like that. Between all this and so much more there is love hate talking flirting not saying a word I just don’t get it! But I think Im the cause of it all. I can’t get over it we both want to be just friends so we say. Our families used to always go places together but then our parents found out and they don’t like the idea of us in the basement all night or going places or traveling. He watches other guys I hang out with. And hates guys that I flirt with or guys that like me. But we don’t talk about it anymore. We are opposites in every possible way. He accepts me for who I am and always has. He always stares at me in class but just looks so sad. But now he’s trying to hide it all. He refuses to go skating with me or anywhere that could end up flirting or something. Why cant we just be best friends only again but we cant help it. He acts like nothing is wrong but then he gets real jealous and protective. We lost our friendship for a while because of us loving each other and our friends trying to get us together and many other things happen like at parties between us. At the moment he’s in a different state. This never happened to me before with any guy. What could I do or say? Any help please?!? also its causeing me serious physical pain...
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What you could say is that he is very valuable person to you,that your friendship with him means a lot to you,that you don't want to lose that,that it would hurt you if you,him don't talk anymore, not spent time together,and let him know that we all need someone to talk to,and have fun with.
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The guys friend is a guy who likes me but he also sends signes(the friend) is the one who likes me and they both now send signs the guy i like well he winked at me in the halls. and then his friend looked at me as if he wanted to kiss me? WHAT DO I DO, WHO DO I PICK THE HOTTIE OR THE HOTTIES FRIEND? (link)
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Pick the hottie this is a chance you can't let go,that's a sign that he wants to go out with you all you have to do is let him know you like him,you want to hang out with him,he'll make his move there is no doubt about that.
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Advice Givers-
what are your favorite quotes? (link)
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"What comes around goes around","It's always good to live for the moment"
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17/f okay so i hang out with a close knit group who has been like this for three years. I have an amazing best friend who i adore and love. anyways.... so my sister is a freshmen and she is with my group now too. which is cool. so on to my problem..... okay there is this girl that came to my school like a week ago and i have found that i dont like her all that much and neither do alot of the people that i hang out with. My bff was the one that invited her over and i dont really know why other than she was trying to be nice. But lately she has been acting really weird. and i havent been at school cause i am sick so i dont know whats going on but people are calling me and teling me that my bf is like following her around and that this new girl is trying to take over the group. and i dont know why no one is putting this girl in her place but now i feel like it is my job to do it. and i dont know why i dont like her i just get a bad vibe and dont get why my bff is throwing herself out there trying to make her feel like part of the group. im not jealous.....i just dont get why she would be putting this girl before all her friends..... can someone please help me???? What should i do with this girl?Show her her place or let her take over??? and what if my best friend doesnt see she is acting like a little puppy dog??she isnt like that!!she is a leader not a follower!!!!please and thank you to anyone that can help me sort this out....sorry its kinda long (link)
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Yes,put her in her place you can't let her take over because then the people of the group will be obeying her in everything,open your best friends eyes to let her see this girls true colors this isn't right,I understand why you got this bad vibe it's for a reason.
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First off im f/16 (if that helps :D)
I am in this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, who happens to be my best friend as well.
For a background story, i met him in 9th grade when he was in 11th, we became best friends, we finally got together and been going out for little over 5 months.
Anyways I am in completely LOVE with him, although some may say sixteen doesn't know true love, I am more than hundred percent sure that he is the one i love truly with all my heart.
My problem is, i've always had this some sort of "commitment issue" but don't get me wrong, I am way past that and over that ever since i am with my current boyfriend.
But that is also a backdrop to me pushing off someone I love. To make this long story short, I freak out and just push my emotion to max.
For example, tonight we met up at the football game in our school (we barely get to see each other because he is in college and lives pretty far away and i cant drive), (i dont know if it was caused by me PMS-ing but) I saw him and he said he was going to church near my house after the football game and he asked me if i can go, i said only if your friend would give me a ride. He said probably not without asking him (which i expected kind of) but i guess I was already kind of ticked off from my family and other stuff like getting rain POURED because it was tropical storms coming, so I kind of took it out on him and got mad that he wouldn't even bother asking before saying no to me. (I know it's totally my fault) and I left him hanging and all that, and I started crying and i did tell him it wasnt him but I was still acting like a baby and such.
So I finally got to talk to him and he said everything was alright and that he is not mad at me at all but sometimes I feel like I am going to act upon my emotion like this again and just keep pushing him away slowly.
So what is wrong with me? Am I bipolar or something? (family history... I dont know if that's genetic) Why do i freak out and just push off the one i love the most? How can I handle myself better? Because even the littlest thing sometimes really get to me and I start going off and stuff.
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Well if someone in your family had that issue then that could be passed down to someone in the family.The reason you freak out,all is that you just feel insecure perhaps,afraid of how to react, and don't know how to handle things like this.You could handle it by controlling your emotions,not letting things get out of hand,try calming down if it's something bad,and most importantly do not panic.You'll be fine as long as you take my advice.
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okay i have this guy in my class. i like him he is really cute funny and respects girls which is really hard to find these days. anyway all the time in class me and him happen to look up at each other at the same time almost EVERY time and it really bothers me because i don't know if he is staring because he notices me staring or if he is just staring becasue he wants to. we usually hold it for a few seconds and both look down and start working again. he is a sophmore and is really outgoing and im a freshman really shy and i don't talk to many people. i know one of his friends likes me but i don't think that is why he is looking at me. He does it everyday and its making me nervous i don't know what to think about it. by the way i heven't talked to him at all before. i wouldtalk to him but i get really nervous and butterflys and i just chicken out because i don't know what to say. i justwanted some advice on what you think is happening in class. (link)
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You see if he stares even if it's just a few seconds the dude likes you he is also afraid to let you know that he likes you he probably needs some time,get to know you more,and if you're lucky he'll confess to you that he has a crush on you if not then he may be waiting for you to make the move.
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fffffffffflip.
i was taking my makeup off.
and i have a contact lense on.
so i was washing off the baby oil
and my eye started stinging.
and my contact lense was all funny
i tried taking it out.
with wet hands
but i couldnt find it.
i looked everywhere on the floor.
everywhere.
i couldnt find it.
and it feels like somethings in my eye.
its a soft lense
i have no clue what to do.
i tried looking for it.
for i cant see it in my eye.
ugh.
help
what should i do.
im like going to go to a walmart eye doctor
to see if they can see it.
but im scared.
help please.
i only have contact lense solution.
no saline or whatever,
and im seriously scared. (link)
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Don't be scared it must be somewhere on your eye have the doctor put the solution on you,to rub your eye until the lense appears or close them then open them or try blinking a lot too I'm sure it's there don't worry.
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It's pretty hard to tell a guy like him. He is so sweet and kind and at the same time i am not sure if he likes a girl named courtney, or he likes me. I am a girl at TEWMS. And he hang around a guy who could possibly ruin my chances with him...... SUNNYVILLE NOW WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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First, you should try getting along with the guy who could ruin your chances so he stays at your side,supports this guy you like if he goes out with you,tell the guy you like him at the right time,before that you have to find out if there are other girls he likes so you're alert and careful.Go after what makes you happy and don't let no one take what you want.Good luck!
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my friend that i claimed i like well he is so cute!!!!! But the boy just told me that he liked me and is following me and the guy i have a crush on is going to ask me to the scholl dance. but the kid that i dont like is following me to much how do i get alone time for him to ask me out!
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What you should do is try hinting him how interested you are in him,give him a note that you need to speak to him in private or have one of your friends send him a message that you need to see him and that you really like him a lot and want something serious with him or if you prefer to tell him in person.
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im friends with a shmuck. he's my best friend but he's a manwhore basically. he got back with his ex girlfriend and while they were on a 6 month break me and my guy friend hooked up quite a few times. now that they're back together me and him are both having trouble resisting temptation of hooking up again. we have not been physical at all in the month that they've been back together except for one hug. here's the thing though. we always talk dirty to each other and i feel bad about it and afterwards im almost sick to my stomach in guilt but he's like an addiction. he's the first guy that i've been sexual with if that makes a difference. i really want to stop this because i feel bad but everytime we're around each other our conversations turn sexual and sexual towards each other. don't tell me to talk about something non-sexual because we could be talking about frogs or something random but it'll still end up that way.
pleeaasseee help me, i can't just stop talking to him because he's one of my best friends (link)
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It's best you keep your distance from him for a while until things calm down,you have to be able to fight that addiction you have,keep it under total control you can do it if you put all your strength,mind to it you'll manage to beat this temptation of yours.
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tyler is my best friends and i think i might like him, but i don't want to mess up our great friendship. i know he likes me too. his girlfriend broke up with him because he said to her face quote on quote "she's much hotter than you'll ever be," he is sooooooo sweat though. i don't whether i should trust him though because he is so desperate for popularity that once he tole my firneds deepest secret to the "cool kids" ( who are a buch of assholes) (link)
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You can't trust him you got to be careful with him,if you intend to have a relationship with him then you should not tell him your secrets because there is a huge chance he'll tell people about it,but if I were you I would just be friends with him,get to know him more,and see how things go.
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Okay so one of my best guy friends and I are always together. ALWAYS. He's like my brother but he likes me and sometimes when we play around, it comes off as flirting. Well there's this other guy I like who always runs into us in the hallways and he always sees us together so would it be a turn-off for him to see that I'm always with someone else and "flirting" or would it make him more competitive and want me more? (link)
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It depends if the guy is a jealous type then he'll be very competitive with him,want you more other guys who are conceited it would be a turn off.So if he gets jealous then you should try giving him the same attention you give your other buddy so he doesn't feel left out.
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I had short hair for years. When I was younger, I had hair to be my butt. I grew out my hair past my shoulders, above my boobs. For some reason when my hair is dirty or when it's not [sometimes] my neck gets itchy.. like a rash. is there something wrong with me? my hair? i got this when i was younger, but only when i was sleeping .. i always pushed my hair back off my neck.
Is it because I haven't washed my hair or is it something else? Help? (link)
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Did you apply lotion daily because that causes a lot of dryness which creates itchness or if you do then it could be because you haven't washed your hair so there is nothing to worry about.
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I am in need of guidance. I have one child that is seven months old and my doctors put me on the lowest hormone dosage birth control because I'm breastfeeding, but I'm pregnant again. I don't know what to do. I didn't miss any pills and I've been on the pills for about 4 months now. I can't afford another child and while the father and I are together, I'm not planning on staying with him because he isn't reliable and won't share the responsibilities of parenthood. I'm 24 and completely lost as to what to do. I really need advice. I just can't bring myself to talk to my family about this. Please help.
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This is really complicated the only way is for you is to go to the doctor so he can give you a pill to stop you from being pregnant if it's not too late but Iam not the one to make that big decision you are to make it,or you have to be able to be strong,have the baby,you need support on this,help too you're family is going to have to find out that you're carrying a baby,it's better to let them know then later because things could get worse,who knows they might even be very supportive or understand that things just happen,that it wasn't your fault.The choice is yours.
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Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him. (link)
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Both of you really need to talk about how he feels about you,if you mean anything to him,if he does have strong feelings then go after your first love but, you make sure that he breaks up with her so you can be with him without anyone getting in the way.
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I moved to a new school this year and i met about
10 new friends and we are all in a group.
But i've got really close with 2 girls from the group ( i'll call them maria and jen )
but maria told me she liked this guy who is sadly in all of her classes. i've known him since 1st grade and honestly, he's really stupid. she only likes him because she thinks he's cute, well he is but thats a different story. Well now shes been going all crazy and saying i need a boyfriend soo badly and i told her it won't go far but she doesn't believe me. she won't stop talking about boys and how bad she wants a boyfriend. its really annoying. i want to keep her as a friend because i love her a lot, but how can i prove to her that this guy isn't right for her? =\ (link)
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You know what if you can't appreciate help or advice you don't like then don't bother no more you little brat!
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Okay there is this guy that i have liked since like 7th grade and one of my best friends has none this. She started liking him too.. (i doubt it.) And he started liking her.
Now im not trying to be a catty, jealous, caniving bitch, but i mean im the one who got them together because i was being the "good friend". And honestly i dont mind that they are going out.
But she treats him poorly and he knows it. EVERYONE DOES. Shes always with other guys. I just dont think its acceptable. And here i am watching all this. I am wondering .. is she just going out with him because i like him? And i just dont know why she would treat him poorly...when he is the greatest guy in the world and it makes me feel bad because im the one that helped them get together..but he still seems happy and i know i would treat him better... So what do i do?
oh and sorry..its so long. But i think the guy knows that i like him. Is it wrong that i like him and that is my friends bf? im so confused. :[
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Well you should speak to your friend,tell her that she shouldn't treat him that way,if she still continues her ways then you should tell the guy you like him,because like you said he deserves better but you will need to come clean,tell her you will go for him because she hasn't been a good girlfriend.
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Ok so i have this friend but i dont konow if he likes me as a friend or wants to be more then that, anyway we have homeroom and last period together in last period we talk all the time and when i'm not looking at him he stares at me and when i catch him staring at me he smiles at me then if i tell him my dads picking us up he'll say your dads picking us up when he knows i mean my dads picking me my sis and my bro up but he says that stuf on purpose to make me laugh and when were going to the buses i was with my friend and he was in front of us and i guess he heard my voice so he turned around and smiled at me for like 5 seconds and almost fell down the stairs......he plays football too but he can't play rite now because he fractured his wrist i dont no if he likes me or not and thank you so much to everyone who answers this you've been a big help just saying this ahead of time
P.S. he's a little bit shorter then me and i don't no if i should worry about that i mean his hottness makes up for it by alot!!!!!!!
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That shouldn't matter as long as you too want to be together.I do think he likes you he gives signs like the way he stares at you,how long he stares,spent more time with him,make him feel you're interested in him, and make him feel as comfortable as possible.
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So I have this problem.
I have a boyfriend who i trulyyy love.
I'm not "IN LOVE" with him, but i love him.
Hopefully you understand the difference. Well, it's weird because we have been together and everything was really good. Recently, we started hanging out with another couple, the girl being myy real good best friend, and the boy being my boyfriends realL good friend. so it's been us 4 for a while. but it's complicating because ever since we started hanging out with them, we have been fighting. i don't even know why, because it's not like our friends do anything to make us fight. we just do. i think it's because he compares us to them, [keep in mind that our friends are not together, they are just talking and hooking up] but he like compares us to them because they are just "happy" i guess, but alsoo they aren't a couple let alone have their feelings as strong as mine and my boyfriends [well as strong as MINE, i should say] but when we're together, its hearts beating out of our chests kinda thing, i love him, and he has told me that he loves me as well [keep in mind this is nott "IN LOVE" kind of thing] i really really really care a LOT about him. and he has said that he KNOWS he loves me.. yet last nighttt we were talking, and before i let it get to far to become an arguement i was just like "do you love me?" and he just stopped talking and kinda put up his hands and was like i dont know. and so it really upset me because he has said he loves me before and said he knowss he loves me. and hes like sometimes i feel like i do and sometimes i feel like i dont. and i was like ok that means you dont and he says i guess i dont then. so i was just left speechless. and hes like i guess i misinterpereted what the word means. and i just couldnt say anything.. knowing all the other times he said it, and then thinking that he never meant it, let alone know what love is.. just hurt. now i'm left heartbroken. i don't know what to do. that is all that's on my mind. we are still together, not fighting or anything, but i can't seem to get myself to feel any better. it hurts to know you love someone and not have them love you back.. and then think of all the other times he has said it and know that he didnt mean it, when he THOUGHT he did. this guy is my oxygen. what should i do? do you think this all happened because we started hanging out with the otehr couple and started fighting? i really need help. i reeally REALLY appreciate it.
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It's okay,I do think that this started because ever since you guys were hanging out with the other couple,tell him why did he tell you something that he didn't mean,tell him not to get mad you just want to hear a reason from him,also that you don't want to fight either,that it really hurted you, you want this pain to go away,and he can take it away.
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