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Every time I seem to get "physical" with a guy,
I start to lose interest in the guy. It's like,
"Oh, well. We went all the way. There's nothing more
to do, and you're starting to bore me anyways."
I feel like one of those guys that uses girls,
but the weird thing is, I'm a girl!
Shouldn't I be the exact opposite of this?
Does anyone else feel the same way?
I mean, it's so annoying that I always lose interest
in someone after we get physical and I really don't want to!
Because how will I ever get married or anything?
Suggestions?

yes i am the same way and i agree with the previous answer that u probably didnt have any thing in common, adn all you wanted to do was get "physical" adn thats it. next time take it slow with a guy so you can find out if you like him or if your just interested in getting physical with him....

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my bf is starting to bore me. when ever we hang out or hold hands in the hallway he never says a word. i try to start a conversation and i feel like im talking to myself. also he has no experience bc im his first gf so my friends always tell him to put his arm around me and stuff. also i like the guy to make the first move. i no he might be shy but he doesn't do anything with me. im really not into him at all anymore and when ever he comes near me i think...great hes here now. he totally turning me off now. i like a lot of my guy friends more than i like him. how can i break up with him bc i don't want to hurt his feelings and i will feel really bad. thx in advance♥

go somewhere private so no one will overhear, and tell him that ur realationship isnt working out.

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ah its been driving me crazy...
does this sound familar to anyone else?!

sittin there quiet actin all shy.... i know you wanna fuck jus as bad as i do


no, not i can tel by 504 boyz

.....Late Registration by Kanye West i think....

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Ok so im 14, 5'3" and i weigh about 115.
i am not fat just slightly overweight. I am hoping to workout all christmas break and when i come back to school i am skinnier to the point where people notice. i am aiming at about 110 to 105.
Does anyone know any workouts or diets that will make me lose weight within the christmas break period which is 2 weeks.

also.. this is off topic but i also have a SLIGHT acne problem.. what is acne solutions that work really well? or a really good cover up. i have already tried proactiv, it does not work on me.
PLEASE HELP ME=)

a good diet would be only to eat three times a day adn each meal should only be a plate full, eat whatever you want but only up to 1500 calories a day. adn you know do 50 crunches, then 50 more to the right side of your legs, then 50 more to the left side of your legs a day, adn run about a mile-ish a day.
for the acne problem "Mary-Kay formula 3" works really well but u do have to use it morning and night cauz if you dont your acne will slowly come back, bu tyou'll need the cleanser, the mask, lotion, and the blemish controler.
a good coverup would be bare minerals or something close to it. you dont want to us a liquid cover up cause that will cause you to break out WAY more!!

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whats a good cologne? like what do guys like...basically what do i get my bf...like something ill like but he will too...thats not like...cheap but good. not too expensive. but im willing to spend if necessary! also where to get it!
thanks xxx

hope this helps!!!

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?catId=cat90024&productId=3401_3002

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Okay so I get really shy around guys and don't say like ANYTHING and all I do is smile, and I sort of hate my smile anyways. But yeah, so, a ton of guys always talk to my friend, she's a total flirt! and I love her like a sister, but I'll admit i get jealous at times. I'm normally pretty extrovert but around guys im like SUPER quiet. What can I say or do? I feel like i don't know them that well. Even though I've gone to school with them FOREVER. I hate being the quiet girl in the corner, it acctually gets pretty lonely sometimes ill admit. Any ideas?

.....smile, laugh, and pay attention to their conversations, adn add a comment here or there, u know let other people know your oppinion about what they think, and slowly you'll be able to get into a comfortable position where you'll be able to talk nonstop, i know i used to be that way.....

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i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day and that was also my first time ever, and i was wondering if anyone knew why it hurt because like hes fingered me before but like i figured it wasn't gonna hurt since ive been fingered.

so does anyone know why it still hurt?

....fingering usually doesnt hurt cauz HELLO have you seen the size difference between a finger and a penis its way bigger, adn when u have sex, its not just like being fingered with only a little bit of finger(s) in you, its his penis adn he'll be ussing whatever rithum he uses when he has sex and that always different from fingerin, cuz it goes deeper into your vagina, making it stretch WAY more the his finger would....

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Heyy!!!
At american eagle, Im a size zero jeans, but maybe i just have a big butt because their underwear only covers half my butt! Wher can i find cute underwear that cover me completely?

......wear thongs and then you dont have to worry about it covering your butt.....

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wah does it feel like to be fingered?...n when somebody does it is it meant to hurt? and does masturbation hurt? x

it all depends on how lose you are... down there and how many fingers are being used. no masturbation isnt suppossed to hurt, its something a person does for pleasure.

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im 110 pounnds, and 5'6

my bra size is a 34B, is that normal for my weight
or like extremely small

yes b is very normal size for someone eith your weight, cuz someone with dd and your weight will have serious back problems and they look fake on a person that skinny.

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okay. Well the thing is, i've had my period twice this month! i'm only 13, and do NOT do ANYTHING sexual. i normally have it at the beginning of each month, for 4 days. i had it around the fifth, and i just got it today again. is something wrong with me? please HELP ME!!

no nothing wrong wiht you, you just have irregular periods if it starts to bother you, you could always use yaz its a birth control, and it works great, cuz thats the one ive been using for a few years.

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i have a bf and we dont see each other much, but im seein him in another month. i want 2 go further with him, but not much. maybe like him feelin me up or somethin. but how can i make that happen w/out me sayin anythin at the time? how can i give a hint? other then puttin his hands on me. i just wanna go a little furthur then makin out (which i still duno wat 2 do w/ my toungue, so if u could help w/ that 2, that would be m-azing.) advice? thannnkx.

wel i cant really say im an expert, but they say i do it really good, maybe your stiff, so try movin your head side to side at times, and twirl your toungue with his, and stick out your tounue while he takes on his youngue and play with it, like snakes, its really fun and it can put you in the mood. i dont know, if this dosnt help, tell me, i might be able to help you better. while you guys are making out you could always feel up his leg, and that would give him the hint that youre wanting to move alitte bit further into yalls relationship.

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Hi, I was wondering,when are the proms usually? and what years of highschool you have them..i think its junior and senior..but plz answer.=]

prom is usually in the last month of skool and only juniors and senior can go, unless you have a bf or gf thats a senior or junior then you can go, but only if they invite you!

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Hi, i was wondering,what really is the purpose of the extra padding on the panties where the girls (areas) would be?

extra padding helps girls boobs look bigger, you know for the unfortionate girls who are flat chested, adn they also help those girls whose nipples get hard raelly easily, so if they think its embarressing the can just buy the padded bras, adn it wont show!

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Im on YA-Z ( birth control ) and ive had sex with my boyfriend here and there, but im not sure what color pill ive been on cause it changes.. soo does it matter when im having sex? and also. i had my period 2 weeks ago and it came again yesterday? but like it stopped already, is that normaL?

yes it is normal cuz the yaz taht you're on is probably not a strong enough dose, since you started to bleed through, i would recommend going to your doctor and get a stronger dose, especially if you're still going to have sex cauz since youre bleeding through, the pill it wont protect you as much as it would have if you had a stronger dose.

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So I wanna get a nice tan without going to the tanning beds, and it's not exactly tanning weather out lol. anyone know of any good taning lotions that work great, aren't streaky and look real? Thanks

jergens tanning lotions is awesome and you can also get the jergens tanning face lotion so you will get an all natural glow everywhere!

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my parents dont want me to have a boyfriend, I really like someone and he asked me out but my parents think i'm too young (high school sophomore). Talking about it doesnt solve it too. Shoulld i Go behind their backs?

yes, if you really like him i would go behind your parents backs....
thats what i did and it only turned out to be that they were worried that i was gonna spend all my time thinkin about him instead of my grades, but eventually i told them that i'd been havin a boy friend for like a month and they didnt tell a difference in my grades so they said it was ok.lol.......
if you're wantin to hang out outside of skool it's a good idea to lie to their face and tell them he's only your friend.

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I'm curious.

About birth control. If you have finished the peach /placebo pill week and start a new packet on a sunday. Can you have sex that day? I always use a condom but would the pill protect me and how long does it take?

I've been taking the pill for 6 months so I know it takes at least a month to regulate. But how long does a single pill take.. to.. take effect? Hours.. or a whole week? Would it be wise to take the pill and have sex when you're supposedly on your period? Will the pill stop it?

I know.. too many questions

I really want to be protected.

yes, if you have just finished the placebo pill week and start a new packet you can have sex. you have to take the Pill seven days straight for it to reach its full strength. it would be helpful to take the pill and have sex will you're on you're period but it takes a few days for the pill to stop you're period if you havnt already been bleedin for a full week.

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Im 16/f and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. We have sex, but hes at college, so we're not doing it as much. But I still wanna get on birthcontrol, but I have no idea how to tell my mom. She asked me before, but I said no. Now I dont want you guys thinking im a whore, bc Im not. We were dating 5 months before we even TOUCHED each other, no lie!. So can you please tell me about how you told your moms, and what they did/said? Please and thank you!!!


PLEASE only girls that have asked their parents for birth controll, I dont care how your sister/friend did. I want to know YOU. If you say "well my sister did.." Ill rate you LOW.

well if you dont want to tell her you're wanting the Pill cuz you want to have sex you should tell her you're periods are extremely heavy and you would like to get on the Pill so it will decrease the flow.....that's what i did ,and the doctors didnt even know that i was liein my *ss off!lol

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I am on birth control to regulate my period.. and i've tried going off it but i NEED it to regulate my period i've been off and on it for 2 yrs now nothing more solid then 6 months so I don't think its QUITE enough time to fully regulate me but my question is.. when i get older and go off this birth control can i get pregnant? Also what if i dont regulate.. can i still get pregnant? I want to have a family. Please take this very seriously, sometimes i lie awake thinking about it!

yes, when you get older and decide to get off the Pill ,and have sex you will have a greater chance of gettin pregnant. cauz you have to be on the Pill for 7 days straight before the Pill will be to its full capacity to work effectively, if you dont want to get pregnant. if you're bleeding when you're not suppossed to while you're on the Pill, that means that the Pill you're currently on isnt working as well as it is suppossed to, so yes you will have a greater chance of getting pregnant if you're bleeding through, so if you dont want to get pregnant id go to my doctor and ask for a stronger dose of the Pill.....
....if you need any other info about the Pill ask me...

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