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What can i say?
Okay so I get really shy around guys and don't say like ANYTHING and all I do is smile, and I sort of hate my smile anyways. But yeah, so, a ton of guys always talk to my friend, she's a total flirt! and I love her like a sister, but I'll admit i get jealous at times. I'm normally pretty extrovert but around guys im like SUPER quiet. What can I say or do? I feel like i don't know them that well. Even though I've gone to school with them FOREVER. I hate being the quiet girl in the corner, it acctually gets pretty lonely sometimes ill admit. Any ideas?
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Just try to talk to the guys! I bet the really want to get to kno2 you becasue you might come off as a mysterious maiden lol. just kidding. but I still bet they want to get to know you just as much as you want to get to know them. If you are afraid of looking stupid, dont be! If you say something weird, just laugh about it or make a joke over it. I have a lot of guy friends, and trust me they have about like a 10, 15 minute attention span. Chances are, they probably won't even notice. Try not to be so jealous of your friend,and if she loves you back, she might even give you some tips on how to flirt w/ guys and/or stay cool around them. I hope i helped you out!
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It's YOU that have put yourself into that corner. If you can be yourself and an extrovert everywhere else its nonsense that you can't with them. They are exactly like your friends and talking to them.
Treat talking to them no different and get in there and socializing with them. Go in with a mental script in your head where you'll ask them about their interests, sports, entertainment, school, goals etc. etc. watch what your friend does and start copying her. Ask for pointers and her to introduce you to people.
Its no different than talking to your girlfriends or a family member. There's no need to be scared because they want to know you. Believe me they might be equally as shy to approach you.
Force yourself to talk to someone next time and talk about the stuff above. It will work and as you do it more and more you'll feel confident. These guys aren't out to crucify you if you talk with them. RELAX and just be you and forget about that other shit that's holding you back.
There's no reason you can't have guys hanging off of you like she does. She's confident though and you aren't. These guys can see it or might think you're anti-social. Show them you're alive here.
Think of it like acting. Don't overdo things or be fake but start playing the part of the flirt, confident, easy-going extravert with them and look for openings in conversations to get noticed.
You need to introduce yourself to guys too. Make an effort and just go with the flow. Follow what your friend is doing as well.
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.....smile, laugh, and pay attention to their conversations, adn add a comment here or there, u know let other people know your oppinion about what they think, and slowly you'll be able to get into a comfortable position where you'll be able to talk nonstop, i know i used to be that way.....
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