hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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ok so my long time secret lesbian lover and I are having a sleepover this weekend and I want to sexy it up this upcoming night. now we've had sex like fingering and groping before, and making out, but that was like at night when we were trying to find someway to stay up... so whats some stuff I cann do to turn her on? we'll be alone for a few hours (link)
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just be yourself, and let yourself fully go. there is no right or wrong way to turn someone on, you have to go with flow and what you feel in the moment. if you guys have a good connection you will know what to do and she will love it either way. try and focus more on what you want to do to her rather than what she will want, the rest will come to you in the moment.
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so here I am so touchy cry on silly things
if any one argue me then I cry at the same moment and I feel awkward every time that happen I wonder if there are some =ways I can do to be tuff .Don't care about over much than they do
any tips plz (link)
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yes, please try meditating. it will help you see why you are the way you are.. it takes a while for the effects to work though, you must at least try and keep the regime for a week or so. good luck
http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate
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i took a period on the 13th of july and i had sex on the 21st i then took a bleed on the 23rd what would be wrong (link)
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how old are you? if you have just started menstruating around a year or two ago it is normal for your periods to be out of synch. if not, then you should probably go to the doctors because it might be some sort of infection, you could also just be "spotting" (however, spotting means that there is only a bit of period blood, not a normal cycle's ammount).
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So, I think i may have diaper rash but from a pad. So i'm calling it pad rash. I looked and it's all red and stuff and It's irritating. I'm a little embarrassed to tell anybody. So i went on here. Any help? (link)
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hm. make sure you are changing your pad frequently enough and if it's getting too irritating.. then use a tampon. also, make sure they are non-scented, as some people have sensitive skin and can be very irritated by this. in the mean time, you can get a diaper rash cream from any drugstore or pharmacy near you to help sooth the rash, hope all works well.
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So there's this girl who is one of my friend's close friend, she's really nice and does ballet en pointe. Only thing is I never really held a conversation with her. I really want to be her friend just cause she's seems genuine.
And honestly she's also really cute and bi curious like I am.
Id like to get to know her
Any ideas??
I only talk to her online on tumblr really.
We're both 17 (link)
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oh my goodness! i am in the exact same situation as you.. i would love some advice on this as well, lol. but really, the best thing that you can do is be yourself and talk to her. you never know what she is going to say, and if you two are meant to be friends, you will. who knows, she might be interested in you, too.
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I don't understand. why do they feel so threatened? i'm a black girl, who's down with dating anyone i'm compatible with, because i'm not racist. I don't understand all the controversy on the internet.
even in real life, my parents seem like they'd prefer if I married another African, for cultural reasons, and I think if I dated someone who wasn't African (not even African American, unless they're like 1st generation), my parents wouldn't think the relationship would last, because of "irreconcilable differences". Even though skin color doesn't determine personality. I understand where they're coming from, and I'm glad they're not like "don't ever date a white/asian/hispanic" person, simply out of racism, but generally it seems like society just isn't that rational about this.
Especially online, I find that a black girl would get offended by a celebrity couple where a black man is with a white woman, or a white man gets offended when a white woman is with a black man, and I really don't get it. when I see a white woman with a black guy, even if I'm attracted to the guy, I'm happy for them, if they look like a happy, loving union. Why would I feel threatened by them? There's plenty of other fish in the sea. People say the worst stereotypes online, too, to either justify or criticize interracial relationships. like I was just on this site called bossip.com and I'll never go on it again, because people there are just so hateful, almost to the same degree of hate as people have on stormfront.org. like someone will try to justify a black girl dating a white guy because "all black men are bad and dangerous" or w/e, or someone will call the black girl insecure and self hating for not only being attracted to black guys. or if a black guy is with a white girl people assume it's only because of sex. why are people this shallow? it's truly depressing. do most people think this way, or is it just on some sections on the internet where people say horrible things to make themselves sleep well at night, because it helps them feel better about their own insecurities?
Like if a black girl is with a black guy all is fine, but when that formula changes, all hell breaks loose. Do they just feel inadequate when someone dates someone of a different race, because they feel it lessens their chance of being with them (even if they're a celebrity), because race is something out of one's control? like if a black guy sees an attractive black girl with a white guy he feels like he can't compete simply because he doesn't have his look? is that where this comes from? interracial relationships have been happening since forever, but since our world is becoming more and more interconnected, people from different places have more similar lifestyles. it's not crazy that people with different looks could fall in love when they have similer ideals and etc. and yet people act like it is
can someone explain this to me, because i'm totally at a loss. it's especially confusing in the context that we're all just humans and race doesn't even exist. but when you say that people just tell you to shut up. i know the concept of race is still a factor nowadays, as racism (both institutional and social) still exists, but it's hard to have a serious discussion about a racial issue like this one when you also acknowledge the truth of race not even being real. because then it's like.. then why is it an issue? as the world is more interconnected, many places in the world are becoming more and more diverse. a white girl and black boy can grow up in the same town together, and fall in love, but it's wrong because they're different skin tones? like am I the only one who thinks this is stupid?
why do people care so much about such superficial things, like some people want to date different races just have their kids look a certain way, or w/e, and I don't get it. what is the point of marriage when it's based on something so fickle. i thought marriage was supposed to come from love, and compatibility (link)
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of course marriage is supposed to come from love! a lot of people just haven't evolved as much as you yet. you are a lovely spirit who has no reason to be confused because you seem to know a lot more about real love then most people! stick to your beliefs and there are plenty of people out there who are just like you! go out and find them :)
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All day i have been feeling like something is really wrong. I have been taking deep breaths to calm down, but i feel very uneasy. Im nervous for no reason, & i cant shake this feeling. Am i going crazy or is this normal? Im thinking of everything & everyone i know. I really dont know why i feel like this. Help? Cuz im really a minute away from calling & texting everyone &their mother... (link)
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you might have anxiety problems?.. there is no reason for you to be feeling these negative feelings and they are all in your mind! you should maybe try telling your doctor or friends/family about this? a therapist would really help as well. other then that, try putting on some uplifting and positive music :), light a candle, take a bath, go out with a friend for coffee, anything to bing you back to reality or calm your nerves down. more than likely, there is nothing to worry about and even in the slight chance that there is, there is nothing you can do about it at this time. so relax and take your mind off it some how :)
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I like this girl. and then there is another girl on the soccer team I am on. I have only heard about this girl and never met her. but the other girl which is from school, I have known since almost school started. I like her and I am pretty sure she likes me. if this helps I am a 13yr old male. i Keep my life confusing. it isn't because I want it that way it is how it happens. my school has so many kids that are going out. but this girl is sweet,nice,funny and likes me for who I am. On friday me and her went and played volleyball. it was fun until a bunch of other kids came.. then I got bored and went to sit and was gonna see if she followed me. yea she followed me. sat down and then we chatted. Could that mean anything. and then her friend started looking at us funny. I know that I like her because this kid comes around and calls her a ho* and then I get ready to beat the crap out of him. He makes me so mad because He really shouldn't be talking to any of my friends like that. I want to make her my girlfriend before either the 28th of this month or the 25th of next month. because I am going out of town at the end and would want to call her. but I also want her to go to my party next month. help me... I could really use your advice!!! thanks,sup4321
Ps.check out my column. recomend it to people please. thanks,sup431 (link)
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oh, i'm so sorry my love. i haven't been on this in years and i just came on to see that i have an unanswered question from 6 years ago! i'm guessing you have already sorted this problem out.. i would love to hear what happened with the girl. are you two seeing eachother now or have you moved on since then?
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What to do with a gambler (link)
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my mom had the same issues and it started getting bad so we made her get therapy at a local health centre. the therapy was only for one week and included her meeting up with other people like her who had the same addictions. the trick is you need to get to the root cause; why does he/she REALLY gamble? you can;t just try and make someone stop gambling, because there is an unresolved emotion behind it which will still be there, and it will end up resulting in another form of addiction, even if that is food or the shopping. the best advice i can give you is to try and seek help from an out source who knows what they are doing and have dealt with people like that before. they will know how to truly heal them. there are many sites on the internet that will help, i'm sure you know how to use google so just search for therapy centers near you or ask your doctor next time you see them.
good luck
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So my last day of my period is today, I went to the restroom to poop and the next thing i knew the toilet water had blood not a lot but a good amount to know it's blood, i checked my pad to see if i was spotting but i didnt have nothing. But before that i ate two sandwiches it was spicy. In my heritage it means that this happened beacause i ate so much spicy food. I am concerned about my health. Can you please tell me what this means? (link)
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your instinct is probably right, it is most likely from eating too much spicy foods.. here is a link to help you understand better
http://www.livestrong.com/article/510477-can-hot-sauce-cause-rectal-bleeding/
there is also much more information on the web that you can find upon this subject. just type in key words like "spicy food anal bleeding"
you are probably going to have to cut down on the spicy foods you eat. there are many, many other spices and herbs that taste great but don't have the same effect as "hot spices" do down below.
good luck
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I am a 20 year old male.the problem with me s tat im jus good for nothin.i even tried suicide but it didnt work out.I dont have any close friends either.the ones who i consider close consider me only as 1 among their friends.i just feel so left out.my college sucks,my mom scolds me for the most silliest of the reasons.i dont think im going to have a successfull future an just dont know what to do.when i hear some of friends saying that they did somethin makes me feel jealous.is it that i dont i deserve good things in life or what.can anybody advise me on this (link)
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why not instead of feeling jealous about your friends you go out and do something for yourself? you're probably depressed right now and the whole world seems against you, but it's not. the simplest things in life can make you happy and that can be something as simple as finding a new hobby to keep you interested in? have you ever tried playing sports? working out? or doing something creative like writing or painting? these can all automatically bring up your mood and give you something to live for. find your inspiration, your true calling in life and go after that and it will make you happy :). when you have something to live for it makes everything else worth while good luck!
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I'm looking to buy a horse and I'm 13. I have an online job but it takes sooo much time just to get a dollar from that. I've seen books online about how kids can raise like $1000 a week or so. I already do chores and my parents aren't willing to pay me for them. Nobody in my neighborhood has someone I can baby sit. And I've tried putting up signs for mowing and raking lawns but they got vandelized. Any ideas? Preferably something that wont take up too much time. Thanks! (link)
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what about pet sitting or pet walking?
this site has a few ideas that you might find interesting..
http://www.quintcareers.com/jobs_for_teens.html
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info:I'm 17 years old, a senior and go to an all boys high school and the girl I like is a Junior at the all girls school (our schools are practically right next to each other and there are co-ed classes) but I don't have any classes with her, I only see her at creative writing club (CCC for short) (we meet once maybe 2 times a month she enjoyed some of my stories)
Situation: There is this girl that I like and I think I've seen 2 signs that she may like me but before I try to make any move I want to be at least 80% sure that she actually likes me back
1st sign: On my second CCC meeting she kept slowly changing seats around the room until she asked the club mod if she could switch seats with him he said sure then she rolled the seat until she was right in front of me she said "I heard that you gave jenny(fake name for privacy) a really sweet valentines day gift So do you like her? I hesitated for a second (because the only reason I gave jenny the gift was so that I could have an easier time asking her out to the prom I don't think i really liked her)but I didn't look her in the eyes and said yea then she rolled back to the front of the room and acted like nothing happened
2nd sign: I asked her out to the prom and she agreed to go despite falsely thinking that I liked jenny
So does she like me or am I over thinking it?
BTW I realized I liked her the second I said I liked Jenny (I can't stop kicking myself for that) (link)
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she probably likes you. go for her! :)
that's my best advice. :)
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I AM AN INDIAN
hey i love a girl but she is not interested in love affection so how make fall in love wid me
MALe 18 (link)
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be yourself. and love her unconditionally
even if she doesn't "love you back".
then let her go, if she comes back to you it was meant to be!
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My mom says i can go to boys houses if she talks to the parents. I told her she can talk to this boys parent that i like,but now she wont let me go unless my friends come with me.She says he can come here,but i want to be able to go out too! What should i do? (link)
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same thing happened with my mom.
start off with what she lets you do, just go wit it and be easy with her.
then you will start to gain her trust :)
don;t worry about the future! have fun Now.
for now you were just meant to hang out like that, don't fight against your mom, go with the flow
it will work out :).
be grateful for what she is letting you do now, and everything else will follow..
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how do u know if a guy is attracted to you? Do every guy think about sex at one point. Even the nicest guy who is really modest. How do you know if he wants you but is to shy to act or make the first move. What does it mean when a guy talks to you and looks straight into your eyes? I just have these questions so hopefully you can answer them that would be nice :)) (link)
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every single guy thinks about sex. even the most modet ones :). it is a natural thing
if a guy likes you he will eventually make a move! but if he doesn't and you're a bit interested, why don't you? (:
we only have one life! live it, have fun with it (L).
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who sing the old pop song " i wanna be bad , it makes me looks so good (link)
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are you sure it is not "i wanna be bad, you make that look so good"
in that case, the lyrics are here
http://www.anysonglyrics.com/lyrics/m/mandah/iwanna.htm
and the artist is Mandah.
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I know two guys that I like, but they are so different! One is funny and I have fun with him a lot, but the other is so imaginative and sweet! Who do I choose? The first one teases me, but I know he likes me, but the other is close to my personality, but I blew him off without meaning to! Please help me! P.S. I am pretty young and female. (link)
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think about each person..
imagine being with them, hanging out, doing whatever (:
just picture them in your head and have funwith it!
now record on a paper, or mentally some of your thoughts and feelings that you have thinking about each seperate boy.
the one you felt the best about being with/the most positive feelings, is the one you want more :)
go for him
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Well this is not just love and life...This is about alot of things happening in my life...I feel betrayed and used ..I also feel like a failure...Well someone I really liked supposedly showed me that he cared about me and then he made me believe he liked me when a few months later he chose another girl over me...I felt so bad because I feel like ive been lied too...and I feel so mad because he looked at me with those eyes making believe he felt love for me and all was lies...I met this other guy ,,,I was falling for him after the first night he made me believe so many things///that he missed me and wanted to be with me showing interest..he almost kissed me..a few days ago I saw him writing about another girl who he loved...I feel so stupid ...Ive gained alot of weight and it keeps me hard to loose it everyday I eat more and more...I wanna stop this get my life in track loose the weight,,,and find love...someone who wont lie to me because ive been lied to much and feel very useddd help me pleaseeeee (link)
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love.
give out as much love as you can.
volunteer, do good things for people, support charity, help your parents out in the kitchen, say hi to the person walking across the street
just send out love..
it will all come back to you. multiplied. in every way imaginable, i promiseee
just try it (:..
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Theres this guy Ive been friends with for many months and been dating for over a month. Hes a frickin weirdo and my friends hate him. I come from a conservative New England town and he stands out in wifebeaters and skinny jeans. His friends are the same way-- weird. He goes to com college and never tried in high school, whereas I'm an overachieving senior heading to a competitive school next year. And hes not attractive. My friends are trying to convince me that he's not right for me at all-- and from what I've just said, its obvious to see why. But he's seriously one of the nicest people I've ever met, and the biggest thing is that we share the same morals. He doesnt drink or do drugs, and he believes in treating women with respect. He treats me better than my old boyfriend did. Should I pay attention to the superficial, surface things or just take him how he is? I mean, how many 18 year old guy will I be able to find who actually want to treat me and my body with respect? (link)
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wow.. this is a no-brainer!
be with him, your heart says so
would your heart ever lie?
your heart is you, and you are truth and love!
your emotions will always be your best guidance system!
positive feelings toward someone, means that is what your spirit and heart wants :). this is good
just work on caring about yourself, and what makes you feel good instead of the others. and i'm sure once you let yourself go and are happy and Confident with your choice, they will be happy too :),
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