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why are people so insecure about interracial relationships?
I don't understand. why do they feel so threatened? i'm a black girl, who's down with dating anyone i'm compatible with, because i'm not racist. I don't understand all the controversy on the internet.
even in real life, my parents seem like they'd prefer if I married another African, for cultural reasons, and I think if I dated someone who wasn't African (not even African American, unless they're like 1st generation), my parents wouldn't think the relationship would last, because of "irreconcilable differences". Even though skin color doesn't determine personality. I understand where they're coming from, and I'm glad they're not like "don't ever date a white/asian/hispanic" person, simply out of racism, but generally it seems like society just isn't that rational about this.
Especially online, I find that a black girl would get offended by a celebrity couple where a black man is with a white woman, or a white man gets offended when a white woman is with a black man, and I really don't get it. when I see a white woman with a black guy, even if I'm attracted to the guy, I'm happy for them, if they look like a happy, loving union. Why would I feel threatened by them? There's plenty of other fish in the sea. People say the worst stereotypes online, too, to either justify or criticize interracial relationships. like I was just on this site called bossip.com and I'll never go on it again, because people there are just so hateful, almost to the same degree of hate as people have on stormfront.org. like someone will try to justify a black girl dating a white guy because "all black men are bad and dangerous" or w/e, or someone will call the black girl insecure and self hating for not only being attracted to black guys. or if a black guy is with a white girl people assume it's only because of sex. why are people this shallow? it's truly depressing. do most people think this way, or is it just on some sections on the internet where people say horrible things to make themselves sleep well at night, because it helps them feel better about their own insecurities?
Like if a black girl is with a black guy all is fine, but when that formula changes, all hell breaks loose. Do they just feel inadequate when someone dates someone of a different race, because they feel it lessens their chance of being with them (even if they're a celebrity), because race is something out of one's control? like if a black guy sees an attractive black girl with a white guy he feels like he can't compete simply because he doesn't have his look? is that where this comes from? interracial relationships have been happening since forever, but since our world is becoming more and more interconnected, people from different places have more similar lifestyles. it's not crazy that people with different looks could fall in love when they have similer ideals and etc. and yet people act like it is
can someone explain this to me, because i'm totally at a loss. it's especially confusing in the context that we're all just humans and race doesn't even exist. but when you say that people just tell you to shut up. i know the concept of race is still a factor nowadays, as racism (both institutional and social) still exists, but it's hard to have a serious discussion about a racial issue like this one when you also acknowledge the truth of race not even being real. because then it's like.. then why is it an issue? as the world is more interconnected, many places in the world are becoming more and more diverse. a white girl and black boy can grow up in the same town together, and fall in love, but it's wrong because they're different skin tones? like am I the only one who thinks this is stupid?
why do people care so much about such superficial things, like some people want to date different races just have their kids look a certain way, or w/e, and I don't get it. what is the point of marriage when it's based on something so fickle. i thought marriage was supposed to come from love, and compatibility
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I honestly wonder that question myself. I am in an interracial relationship. I have seen several people of my race give me looks. ( I am Chinese, my boyfriend is Mexican.) Like I feel like it shouldn't matter what race we are. It matters that we are in love with each other, and care deeply for each other. I honestly wish people will get over it.
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of course marriage is supposed to come from love! a lot of people just haven't evolved as much as you yet. you are a lovely spirit who has no reason to be confused because you seem to know a lot more about real love then most people! stick to your beliefs and there are plenty of people out there who are just like you! go out and find them :)
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