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what are some good comedy, scary or just good general movies (link)
If your IQ is over 60 stay away from Saw.

As a screenwriter, I give you ~ My favorite movies.

1) Adaptation
2) Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind
3) American Beauty
4) Memento
5) Clerks
6) A Clockwork Orange
7) Natural Born Killers
8) Dr. Strangelove: Or How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love The Bomb
9) Groundhogs Day
10) American Splendor


hey i am 13 and i want to go to my grandmas church and i have to pay sumbody 10 dollars to take me and i dont have it and i waz wunderin if any body has an idea what to do?
cause i know if i do sumtin mabey the pursonn that usually takes me will take me but i dont know what to do so plz help i rate good!:) (link)
Don't go; I think a dictionary will help you more than a bible at this point in your life.


I'm jsut wonder exacally what i should expect from my boyfriend. How much time he shoudl spend on me, what he should do and stuff like that. I've never gone to school with one of my boyfriends before so this is kind of a new thign for me. Also what so u deam "appropriate" for a 14 year old girl and a 15 year old guy to do? (link)
14 year old girl and 15 year old guy?

Fornicate?

You should be moving in with each other already and having kids.

You missed the start, now you have to make up for it.


i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?

and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?

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You should probably confront her about it as opposed to calling it in.

That way maybe she'll hit you and she will be taken away.


Wow,
I just found out my dad smokes pot!
I'm gob smacked.

He didn't tell me, I found out myself.

I don't even know why I'm posting this, I'm so shocked. I had to get it out. (link)
I'm baffled as to why the hell this passed through the mods.


Okay for school 8th grade tradition is go all out but not slutty.
Me and my friends want like groupish costumes for not lots of money.
Any Ideas?
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Sloths idea is pretty good. But I think you should all go as poor people. That way you get money for next years costumes so you can go as the dying middle class.


I need to make a 10-30 slide powerpoint by monday on a topic but I have no idea what to do mine on. Alot of people are doing theirs on clothing stores & I want to be original. Anyone have any ideas? 5's for anyone that trys to help. Thanks, Meg (link)
How about doing it on originality?


hey. im 13 f and i have no idea what to be for halloween. i dont know how to show pictures on this site but i have a myspace with pictures of myself on it. its www.myspace.com/blonde_baby13. if you can please look and my pictures. just go to the site and click on "view more pics" under my picture. tell me what you think would be good for me to be for halloween. thanks a bunch!
~xOxMaRiAxOx~ (link)
Personally i'd do what all other teenage girls go as.

The town whore.

Hope I helped!


I'm an Aethiest. I strongly believe that there is no god. I respect other people's religions, and I don't try to convert people or anything. Now, I've been in scouting for years. Lots of years. From a Tiger Cub Scout in 1st grade to a First Class scout now (I'm kind of slow with scouting). Anyway, the requirement for every class that says to live the Scout Oath and Scout Law in your every day life is now being enforced. My parents made me describe each part of the Law and Oath in great depth. When we reached Brave and Clean, I was starting to slip up. And then we reached Reverent.

Boy Scouts expects everyone to believe in some sort of god, and be straight. Gays and Aethiests have been kicked out in the past. And since Boy Scouts is a private thing, government can't interfere. People have tried to sue and lost the case. Now, I want to keep scouting. I love being a Boy Scout. Plus, it'll look good on my job application forms when I'm old enough that it won't be against child labor laws. =P So my options are:

a) Quit scouting (I don't want to. Really.)

b) Believe in a god (I'm not going to change my beliefs because of this. It's not in human nature.

c) Lie about my religion (Also against the Scout Oath. Not good.)

So obviously, I'm screwed. What should I do? It's putting so much pressure on me... (link)
Skip that part, pretend like you forgot it.


You know like the code for a line break in myspace is < br > but w/out spaces...?? SO like do i need it to be WORD HERE or just < br> (link)
If you want a break afterwards you just type...

WordWord

And it displays like this...

Word
Word


but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save... (link)
There are three concepts of death.

Heaven and Hell makes the least sense out of the three.

There is nothingness ~ which was first really introduced massively by Friedrich Neitzsche. Who claims people make up religions because the concept of having nothingness after death is too much for the human mind to handle.

There is reincarnation, which makes a lot of sense; "Matter cannot be created or destroyed" ~ the cycle of life.

Then there is the afterlife ~ heaven and hell or whatever, the idea that after you die you transcend to a different level of existance.

Explain these three things to your friend.

And explain to him that any of the three can be right.

And that he needs to be much more open minded. If he wants to believe in something, splendid. But don't automatically assume that it is right because you believe in it. Since there is no proof, don't pretend like there is.


Okay, we have 8th grade prom comming up in about 8 months and my friend weighs about 230 pounds and she was to lose about 80 and that will leave her at 150. So, if you divide 80 into 8 that will be 10 pounds a month, So if i divide 5 into 10 that would be 2 pounds a week. Do you think my friend can lose 80 pounds in 8 months or so?????? We have already talked about her eating habits and exercising and drinking a lot of water.

14/f ( If that helps ) (link)
80lbs
8 months

10lbs
1 month

She will have to lose more than 2 pounds a week.

Because there are not 5 weeks in each month.

Losing 10 pounds a month shouldn't be too terribly difficult.

Keeping it off ~ may prove to be a bigger challenge.

You said '230 pounds and she was to lose about 80'

Was that 'has' or 'wants'?

If it's has~ then, whatever. Best of luck.

If it's wants~ I wouldn't put so much stress on it.


ok if a gurl sleeps w/ a guy who shes not goin out w/ and has cheated on her boyfriends a few times just like goin up the shirt or making out would u call her a whore (link)
I probably just wouldn't call her at all, the line would be too busy from my jackass friends calling her and trying to get some.

In a situation where I did get through though, i'd probably just listen to the baby cry for a moment and hang up.


what would u consider a whore (link)
Well, I find that "whore" is generally used in two different ways.

First off, a "whore" ~ is a prostitute. A person which will sexually please you for a fee.

However, when referring to a person which is not a literal whore ~ more than likely being who you are referring to (if you are taking money for sex, you know you are a whore) then it is generally referring to a person which has callow, meaningless sex - generally more than once, but not always. For instance, if a person constantly has sex - just to have sex. Or if that person goes around and gets in relationships with people just for sex - Then i'd generally refer to that person as a whore.


I'm relatively new here and I quite enjoy visiting this web site, but I can't get over the fact that at least half of these people could not form a coherent sentence with decent spelling to save their lives!

What can be done to help everyone realize that proper grammar and spelling is the key to communication, which, in turn, is the key to not stumbling around blindly in life? I really do fear for our generation sometimes. (link)
Nothing can be done, sadly ~ it is too late.

I've tried everything, trust me.

I've yelled at them.

I've mocked them.

I've tried to help them.

It just doesn't work at all. Whenever I tell someone on this site to write properly, generally I get the response.

"omg theyres liek no speelcheker on heir."
(which, usually they tend to stray away from "they're" and just use "there" to refer to everything. But, yeah~)

I've suggested that a spell checker be added to the site, because I think it would help some people. But then I know there are a few doing it just to be jerks, and then we'd end up with really annoying kids typing in "1337" ~ if it gets to that point, i'll probably become a much more angry and violent person.

I know that all of the time my spelling and punctuation isn't immaculate, but at least I give an effort.

Take a lesson kiddies?


I took 8 dramamine last night, about 9 hours ago. My pupils are still dialated. I looked in the mirror and they are responsive, but still dialated.

How long does dramamine last? Are my pupils going to be like this forever? Does anyone have any comforting words or similar experiences? (link)
A friend of mine took too much dramamine and died.


That story was made up, but I felt I needed to say it.


I need to buy a laptop for use a university. I hate Microsoft, so I'm trying to avoid models with a Windows OS. I guess this leaves me with Apple, so what model should I go for? I'll need it for the internet, storing pictures and writing essays. Money is not really an object, but a price below £1000 would be good. I'd like it to be fast enough to run a fairly graphics-heavy game. If you could also recommend some features that I should look out for (like graphics cards and virus checkers), that would be great too.

I am in the UK, btw, so the laptop market here might be a bit different from the US one (ie different models and companies).
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If you want to run very graphics heavy games ~ You may want windows, Apple isn't very friendly with the gaming industry.

You have more than just apple for an option as far as an operating system goes ~ there are countless numbers of Linux distrobutions out there ~ some even free.

Laptops for gaming aren't very ~ well, good. If you can avoid the gaming, you can probably get an average laptop to do all of that ~ unless you absolutely want an apple - get a copy of linux to put on there (RedHat is nice, but there are plenty of other options) and just write essays, store pictures and such on there. Linux has its own version of AIM, MSN and such ~ so you can still use all that (i'm not too familliar with apple and the availability of those applications on there)

I can't give you specific models, because there is quite a varying field. And i'm from the US~ so i'm not sure what options you are looking at in the UK.


I have applied for at least 50 jobs, I have got refused or no response at all. I need advice, what am i doing wrong? (link)
The first piece of advice I completely agree with. Once you place an application you need to go back constantly ~ get to the point of being annoying. Each time you talk to them ~ they will more than likely look at your resume again, they are more likely to hire you that way. I have had very little luck with a job as well, I applied for a technician job at a new computer store in town, my father knows the manager, and a teacher was talking to him to try and get me a place there ~ he promised me an interview before I even started my resume. I turned it in and called/went in at least 2-3 times a week.

This was 3 months ago.

I was just told yesterday that a friend of mine (one which is vastly underqualified compared to me -.-) applied on wednesday and is already working there.


So don't get bummed out if you don't get a job right away. Just keep looking.


I'm a republican, and every single one of my friends are democrats. If they insult the president (Even though they know that I'm republican) then it's okay, but if I say any republican views they all look at me like I'm a bad person. What should I do? I'm not the kind of person to just sit back in any type of debate but I can't help but feel like my opinion doesn't matter just because it's not a democratic one. (link)
It's good to have political views, but depending on age ~ well, lets just say that most kids aren't very accepting of Republican views. I'm not certain if you are still a child or not ~ but judging by the fact that you seem to have a concrete group of friends that have stubborn political views ~ i'd assume that you are more than likely 18 or under.

Most kids don't do enough research into things to actually know what they are talking about. Most just hear a rough outline of an issue and take a side ~ and if they hear that is the 'democratic' side ~ then they think they are a democrat, and won't agree with republican views.

Just ignore it, don't talk politics with them.


I'm a 15 year old girl. I am depressed. And I'm not talking about depression that has been going on for just months. Its been over a year. and it's getting worse by day. The latest thing I hace done to my self when I had gotten angry was cut all my hair off. I'm scared!!! I've tried to commit suicide before. but thank god i made it out alive. I cut and burn myself. I dont do it because i want to or because I wanna try it. I never believed in hurting my body. I always am thankful for being healthy and alive. I never went one night without thanking god for all the good that he has done for me and my family. I go to therapy but i feel as if its not helping me. I have tried asking god for help and still am. But I am not seeing results. I am trying to be patient but it's hard. My parents are diagnosed with depression. but don't take it seriously. They think I am just crazy!!! I thoguht I was too for a while until it really hit me that I had a real sickness. I believe that I got it from them. But I don't care how I got. All I care about is getting effective help. If I don't get some soon I'm gonna end up hurting myself Badly. AND I DON'T WANT THAT!!!! I had a bright future ahead of me. but now i just don't see it. I wanna get my life back and be the person I really am. I know I was created for a reason. I know I am worth something!! but i need help fast. I am not crazy I just need help before I end my life when it's not time for me. I am too young and don't wanna waste every day of my lfe doing nothing. Because every second that goes by brings me closer to the end of my life. I wanna have a story to tell about my life when i get old.I wanna see myself old. inshallah!!! and I don't ever wanna see anyone experience this problem not even an enemy. (link)
It may be beyond me but hell, i'll give it a shot.

If you have an AIM or MSN account and client then feel free to send me a message (it's easier to deal with more complex problems (such as this) in that manner)

AIM: TheyDiedPretty
MSN: Arsehn@hotmail.com

Or if all else fails we can volley e-mails.

EternalAdaptation@Gmail.com




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