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Hey it's Michelle!

For a little about me, i like shopping, boys, listening to music, hanging out with friends, partying, talking, and MTV.

Ask me anything, & ill do the best i can to help! i wont lie to you, im not like a counselor or therapist or something, but ive helped my friends get through rough times and ive been through some myself! i really do appreciate ratings! tell me your honest opinion of my answer. i need to know where to improve!

MiiCHELLE..*

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So there's this guy I've liked for a while. My friends didn't know until recently. When (for fun) theyw ere deciding who was good for me they said the guy i like. (that was before they knew I liked him). So there's this other gorl that likes him for a short while. she says she doesn't anymore but my friends and i think she still likes him. One of my friends (who is friends with both of us; me and the other girl who likes my crush) says that she thinks me and my crush would be good together. Better than him and the other girl. This makes me think i have a better chance of being with him. One of my guy friends said that if you make moves on the guy your chances of getting with him skyrocket 100% I just want to know what are some subtle fliting tips. And if he responds well, what are some bigger moves? Thanks!

when you talk to him, smile. try to talk about things that are funny, so you both laugh alot. guys like girls with a good personality, and that they can just have fun with. hope this helps, good luck!

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Recently, I've become very, very good friends with this girl named...Leslie. We have many friends but a close-knit group of 4 consisting of me, 'Leslie', 'Nicole,' and 'Ashley.' We are all close friends and really nothing can take us apart. In my PE class is a girl named 'Melissa' who I cannot stand for some reason. She just annoys me so much, and now Leslie and Melissa have become pretty close. It aggravates me everytime I'm excluded from their conversations, everytime I'm left out and it's so frustrating to hear Melissa call 'LESSSLIIIIEEE' everywhere I go. Ashley actually feels the same way as I do, but none of my friends know how I feel. I've always been the nice one and the one who's always accepted people...but somehow Melissa just broke me down. My frustration didn't even come from her becoming friends with Leslie...it just grew larger from that. In the beginning of the school year, when I saw her, I knew from the start that for some reason I would not like her. She said something to Leslie and I (while we were working out in class) that implied that Ashley was fat. I was so shocked that I just got up and left them. I don't know what's wrong with me but I just cannot STAND her. She irritates me and just makes me feel insane; and it's not as if she did anything wrong. Sometimes when Ashley and I are late to lunch, she pulls Leslie and Nicole away from us and drags them to lunch without us. During lunch she'll come up and pull Leslie away from us while we're still talking, or sit in between Leslie and whoever is sitting next to her. I know it doesn't seem like much, but the small things have always been what really matter to me.

I really need advice. I know talking it out with my friends would be a good choice but I wouldn't know how to bring it up and how they would respond to me. I've always been nice and trying to be friends with her but somehow it's just not working. Am I doing something wrong? ... This seems really childish but I can't help this feeling. gahhh!

Thanks so much in advance!

try asking leslie to hang out with you this weekend. tell her that you guys havent been spending that much time together lately, so you think it would be cool. she'll probably think about it, and notice it's because melissa is always taking her away.
-or- if you're willing to reason, try inviting leslie AND melissa to hang out with you. you might not be willing at first, but once you get to know her better, you might see why leslie has taken her as a friend. something much similar to this has happened to me, and me and the girl (who's your melissa) ended up becoming great friends!
either way, i hope this helps!

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When I was ill recently, I really relied on my partner, and he was wonderful at looking after me. I've told him how thankful I am and how much it meant to me, but I'd really like to show how grateful I am and am really stuck for what would be appropriate. Would a card or gift be tacky/inappropriate? I saw a book I know he'd enjoy, but it doesn't feel quite the right way to say 'thanks' for all that he's done.

Basically, I'm just looking for opinions - should I get him a small token like the book, or is it more appropriate to just talk to him about it as I have been doing?

why not try both?! double the thanks! take him out to dinner, give him the book, and thank him with a nice conversation. but really, he sounds like a nice guy so either way, im sure he'd love it.

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So I'm sorta about to be going out with this guy. My best friend, hits on everyone, including him. lately i've been trying to hang out more with him (but i haven't like ditched my friends for him) so today, im sitting behind him in math, and my "friend" walks up, and sits on his lap.This made me angry but, he didnt appear to happy about it either but is to nice to say GET OFF ME! So then, she's trying to get her hands either up or down his shirt claiming she's "cold". then. when we are leaving math, i walked out with him. she runs up the hallway, litterally, shoves him off to the side, somehow wiggles between us cutting my totally off from him! i havent told her yet that we r going to go out, cause im afraid of her reaction. how can i tell her to lay off him, without being rude?! ty in advance, i rate high/

i think you should talk to him about it. be like, "hey do you like (friend's name here), because you guys are like always flirting with each other." he'll probably say something like, "no, she always comes on to me." then one day casually bring up that he likes you. if she responds with shock, be like "yeah, you didn't know?" she should get the message, and back off. if this doesnt work, try to get him to tell her to stop. hopefully when you asked him if he liked her because theyre always flirting, he'll get the message, and try to prove to you that she comes on to him, since he likes you.
i know it sounds a bit confusing, but i hope it helps!

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well ok well i broke up with my bf b/c he two timed me and so i broke up with him of corse but now i still like him and he is going out with one of my bestfriends but i know he dosent like her because he told my other bestfreind and i still like him and my bestfreind said he still loved me but should i trust him if we do get back together?

i rate high!
thanx!

guys like this can seem so charming, but in the end it's not all worth it. first off, you need to tell your best friend he doesnt like her, or she'll end up getting hurt. i would get a friend that she might not know as well to tell her, that way she doesn't think you're just doing it because you dont want them going out. second off, this guy may say he likes you, but who knows how many other people he likes! i think if he breaks it off with everyone and comes for you, then he really likes you. otherwise, it just isnt worth it. you dont deserve to get hurt again.
i hope this helps!

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well here it goes. might be long.. well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a year.. and i hve noticed now that i am losing alot of my friends over him :-/ bc it seems like he is all i ever have time for and the only person i am ever with. i miss all my friends alot and i dont kno what to do.. i love him alot and we hve been goin out alot.. but sometimes friends r more important but, i never get to spend any time with them... or as much as i would like.. seems like im not invited many places as i used to be and my friends jus dont hve much interest in me bc im jus the girl with a boyfriend thats no longer fun. i dont kno what to do bc i kno it would be hard to break it off.. but jus sometimes with him is jus not the best and it seems like everything i do makes him mad but i cant get mad at him. dont get me wrong we do hve some great times together but i think we might jus need to go our seperate ways but every other time i hve tried breakin up i ended up wantin him back soo bad! and i jus dont kno what to do.. please give me some help and maybe leave a sn so i can contact you

signed::
xox lover OR friends?

okay, about the friend issue: try inviting him AND your friends to hang out sometime. do something that involves everyone (bad ex: a movie where you 2 makeout and leave your friends wondering why they came) or just leave the boyfriend behind this time and have your friends come over for a girl's night. if they can see your still the fun-loving you, they'll definantly want to hang out more!
about the boyfriend issue: im not trying to scare you.. but this could turn into an abusive relationship. ive read many stories on which the bf is harsh on his gf and he seems to make it up so she cant let him go. well now might be the time to. get back together with your friends so you dont think about him, and then get them in on helping you find a new crush to think about.
but then again, you dont have to listen to me. my best advice is, follow your heart.
hope this helps- my sn is on my advice column

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allrighty i really like this guy ....were like best friends we talk all the time ...we talk on the phone every night..we flirt all the time.. our friends say we would be perfect for each other... we just have a great time together he makes me laugh and hes hott and sweet we know everything about each other ... ok heres the problem hes going out with a girl in 9th grade ( were in 8th) but he tells me he wants to go out with me .. and for three days now im going out with a guy in 9th grade but i dont really like him i think hes just someone to keep me busy till they break up yeah i know bad ..sry .. so i need to know what to do now because i really like this guy and want to go out with him so.. i have no idea what to do (by the way he knows how i feel we talk about it all the time) so what do i do now
ashley

it can be so tempting to go out with this guy, but first he needs to prove to you that he loves you more than his current fling. and so do you. to do this, both of you need to breakup with your *lovers* (lol) if he doesnt like that idea, he probably still likes her, or may just be looking for a one-night-stand (not a real one night stand, you know what i mean). so talk to him about that, & i hope things work out for you2!

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Er. This is a long one. Sorry about that.

Ever since last year, I've liked this guy. There's no specific reason, I mean, we didn't have a lit in common THEN, but I guess we do now. And there was a dance at the end of last year. I was just dancing with my friends, but my friends felt bad for me, so they asked him to dance with me. (his name is Zach) I never even really wanted to, [I'm really super shy] and he had a girlfriend. So I was totally fine with him not dancing with me. But...my friends asked him, and I never even knew that they did until he walked over and gave me the "I like you, but only as a friend" speech. And yada, yada, yada. All I know is I spent the whole night crying. Not at the dance. I'm not one who likes to cry in front of the person who made me cry. So when I got home, I spent the whole night crying.

Early this year, I wrote him a letter apologizing for what my friends had done. I didn't want to annoy him, so when he asked for no more letters, I didn't write him any. Until he got a letter in his locker that read "I want u I need u oh baby oh baby" And he threw it at me, thinking it wa smy note sent to him. Well, it was sent by this girl named Amanda, who we think likes Zach too.

So I wrote him a note. Like I said, I am shy, and since he was mad at me, I didn't know what else to do. [Was this a good descision?] I was just saying that I didn't write the last letter [The oh baby one] and he believed me. Zach broke up, and got another girlfriend. And all was well. We were friends.

But now we have more in common, and he doesn't have a girlfriend. Should I take the kill, risking rejection for the up-teenth time? Or should I just go for his friend who I think likes me? I like them both pretty well equally. I wouldn't say the same thing if it was last year, but I've gotten a lot more lienent with guys since then. I've also realized that Zach and I are probably never going to happen. What should I do?

I'm trying to be wise with the signoff...

♥ *ad0rkable* ♥

try talking with zach more. say something like "remember when you got that freaky letter from someone and you thought it was me?" you guys will both have a good laugh, and then start talking more. if that doesn't work, you always have his friend. you will probably have a better chance with him because there hasnt been any weird "experiences" youve had with this guy. plus, he probably likes you, and since you like them the same, all ends well :)

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I have an extra curricualr activity. There's this guy there. His name is Gabriel. He's not the hottest guy in the world, but I think he's totally nice. We have a lot in common. We see eachother once a week, and talk on AIM. We're in different grades. He's in 8th, I'm in 7th. We don't go to the same school, and won't be able to see eachother over the summer. I really care about him, but he doesn't know. My friends think he's ugly, and that even if he is nice, he's not worth it because he's ugly. I don't care about looks so much. I'm really shy too...

What should I do?

well i wanna tell you to follow your heart.. but it might not be best in this case. you won't get to see him very much, so a # of things could go wrong: hes not as interested, he might cheat on you, he might think you'll cheat on him, or you just wont be able to see each other as much as you like. but hey, if you reallyyyy like him, go for it! things might end up great! ;-)

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What can I do to help myself get over an unforgotten loved ex, and move on with a new one, without feeling like I'm just with the new person to make the other one jealous, or hurt? My ex treats me like crap no doubt about it, thats gotten so bad that him and I can't even remain friends, but getting with this new person that I've known for a long time, practically 5 years will be very strange because I've known the person for so long. People are telling me to follow my heart, but my heart is leading me wrong. What can I do to help this matter?

getting over breakups is tough. (i should know.) but you're going to have to move on girl! think of the reasons you liked him, was he nice, or cute, or funny? now think of how he is now. a complete jerk! when you think about it, you're in love with a completely different person! move on to the next guy, he'll treat you right, and you'll realise how stupid you were to cry a single tear. it'll help you move on, while getting you into a new, better relationship. hope this helps!

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Why does my skin become so oily, so quickly, after washing? It's nasty...
Any suggestions?

you may be using soap that contains lotions, or heavy mosturizers. try using acne wash from clearsil. it's oil-free, and it kills zits. hope this helps!

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im a 7th grader at a private school in dallas, texas. i do a lot of extra curicular activities so that i can get into a good college and highschool but my grades are slipping because i dont have time to get all my work done. i mean i get it done im just tired in the morning because i stayed up so late the night before.
i dont know what to do!



try dropping an extra curicular activity or 2. it'll take off stress, and give you time to do your hw. you'll still have extra curicular activities on your application, and your grades will go up! trust me, schools would prefer good grades opposed to alot of extras. hope this helps!

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my face is breaking out!! okay i have 2 ? any way one is anyideas on how to reduce these pimples?? and is it true if you put toothpaste on them they get better?? i know it sounds weird but thats what i heard!
thanks

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you should try clearasil. it works really good! put it on before you go to bed and your pimples will have shrunk by morning! about the toothpaste theory, its supposed to work because when it dries it dries out your skin, killing the zit. hope this helps!

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ok so heres my problem- i went out with this guy a couple of months ago and we only went out for like 2 months but i'm still not over him! im so in love with him! but i also think i'm in love with my best friend(hes a guy). we are soo close but i really think i love him. but my other best friend(whos a girl) also likes him a TON! but he deosn't like her.she doesn't know i like him but i'm just so confused with what to do. cause a lot of people say he likes me but i dont wanna be mean and go out with him. so i really have no idea what to do! help me PLEASE!

i think you should try your best friend because you will have a better chance then trying to re-light an old flame. your friend(girl) should understand that you really like him if shes your friend. if not, you might want to confront her about it or reconsider your friendship. plus, going out with this guy will help you get over your ex, and possibly even make him jealous!

♥Michelle

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