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Q: People keep judging me because I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. And since it is high school, everyone always questions or assumes that we had sex. So, how was it for you when you first told people or it got out? Did your friends or people treat you differently?

We did have sex. And we still do, some people found out because the boyfriend thought it was okay to imply it.. and give them ideas. So now I've got an old friend [that i dont talk to or see anymore] who is always "Don't have sex with her, or I'll cut your dick off" or "Wear a condom!" towards my boyfriend at his school and it's really annoying. I didn't tell her anything, it's just she always acts superior because when she was 14.. she did it.. all, you know? I'm almost 17 and I haven't done drugs.. she keeps treating me like a child when she's a year younger than me and she implies that i'm not responsible. What do I say to her without coming off as rude? She makes it seem it's okay for herself to sleep around but when it comes to me, only having sex with one guy.. it's HORRIBLE!

also, another bit about sex.. i kind of want to stop having sex for a while.. but i'm not sure how to tell my boyfriend that. I'm sure he will get a bit hurt about it.. and I'll like some ideas of what else we could do.. nonsexual ..? we are going to bake something, but not any time soon. i'm not sure what else we could do for now.. watching movies is getting old and we are broke.

Ok so people started finding out that Im not a virgin by the guys friends (which are older)
and I just told very selected people. But his friends had started saying shit and he got mad at me and ect.
So people will maybe call you a slut but probably not depending how old and how long you have been dating. And for your friend she is trying to care for you but you should tell her that you know what you are doing and that you appreciate her but that you are responsible. And for not having sex he wont like that idea but it is always but to the girl so remember that.

Best of Luck

Q: ok so i got this whole title of beinhg a whore[but imn really not] from sending someone a picture but it wasnt that bad. like just ass but alot of people saw it caz they stole this kids pohone &+well then this other boy found out about it &+saw it too and i really like this other boy so we started talking &+before i knew it he was asking me for pictures &+stuff well i sent him like two so far just like boobs but he wants more &+im running out of ideas to do. like i dont want to continuously send him the same thing. but yeah. &+we might end up going out caz he likes me &+stuff just adding it in. GUYS OPINIONS WOULD BE GREAT! but girls too anythinbg that maybve youve sent that guys like? so thanxand does thsi sound whore-ish. but thanx for anything.

Stop sending Pictures.
That is what is getting the name Whore.
If you were to do things with a guy you can always deny those and people will not know, but a picture is worth a million words.
And the guy might be using you because he wants pictures and he gets them and he will want more and he probably thinks he can get that also.

Q: ok well i think im ready to start doing sexual things..! like i dont really know how to explain it but....i am .. the only thing stopping me is i need 2 find a boyfriend..sooooo i guess my questions are: how can i let a boy no that i want to do things with him..??.. and like any comments..!! btw. 14/f

Im 14 and I lost my virginity when I didnt have a boyfriend. The guy was 18 and a seducer.
Well if you want to love a guy that you have sex with then just take your time and slow down.
But if you just want to have sex.
Go for an older guy.
Or they will find you ethier way.
Your virginity will be goon soon.
Guys are Guys.

Q: my bf wants to try anal. i thought he was kidding because he always said no, it's gross. i guess not this time. i really don't want to. for so many years of being anemic and constipated from my diet, the idea of a penis being shoved up there.. is not appealing. i've had friends say it's not pleasurable and everything. that it's only good for the guy because it's tight. he 'missed' once and that was a bitch.

so what's your anal experiences? horrible, good? :/

My anal expierence was on Friday...
I was WASTED, and it was a threesome.
Oh and best part it got on tape.
Yeah. Oh and im fourteen.
Dont call me a slut either.
But dont do it.
I didnt want to. I never have.
But I guess it got like shoved up there and that hurt alot..
So just stick with sex.
You will be alot happier.
And in a lot less pain.
My ass hurt for 2 days afterward.

Q: im ready so don't be like it's when you are ready caue i am (: but approximately how long in a realtionship do you think you have to be in to be felt up..like i like this boy soo much and he likes me a lot too...but like 2 months or what..cause i dont want to get a reputation like "wow they went out for this long and he got it and so if i go out with her for that long i can get it"...soo just give me an estimated amount of time (: thanksss a bunch.

if it helps. im 14/f

You said it yourself.
Your ready.
And I believe you actually are if you can say that and be positive.
And if people say shit then tell them to "S.T.F.U" because you cared about that guy. =]

Q: please tell me your first time sex stories..from what i have heard none of the first timers are pleasureable. i would really appreciate it if you shared yours and tell me how it went. thank youu soo much (:

I am 14 years old and I lost my virginity a half a year ago.
I was not dating the guy and he was 18.
I have had sex with him about 6 times.
And I know now that he was using me.
But anyways.
The first time was a good expiercence.
The night before we were gonna but then no condoms left so the next nite we did.
Ok so we were in his car.
Actually it was his parents car because he drives an Auti TT. =]
But yeah we were in the backseat and clothes were off and right away it hurt but then I got on top of him and everything was ALOT better.
The second time I had sex with him I wasnt 'wet' so that hurt but since then sex has not hurt.
If you want sex to be pleasureable then make sure you are ready, comfy, attracted, wet. =]
Have a good time!

Q: I would like to hear some opinions on 14, 15 and 16 year olds having sex. I personally find it heartbreaking when I read these questions from these young people asking about sex and if they are doing it right. They don't even know about the other consquences BESIDES pregnancy and HPV, STDs such as STIs and emoional consequences.

I am only 20, so it wasn't long ago I was this age, and I find this to be ridiculous! What happened to true love? Or waiting until marrige? It seems to me these girls just want to be popular with the boys and the guys want to be popular among boys. Is it just me? Am I crazy?

I am 14 and I have had sex.
Im probably gonna sound really slutty but I dont regret it yet.
I lost my virginity to a guy that was 18 and that I didnt know for a very long time...
(Probably a some months or so..)
Well I wasnt going out with him and when I had sex I still wasnt dating him. Ive had sex with him multiple times and I never wanted to believe that he was using me. I do now know that he was... I dont regret it because it changed my life ethier for better or worse I dont know. I did not have sex to be popular though. I feel that I had sex because I wanted it.
Teenagers are well informed about sex.
And before I was gonna have sex I did alot of research on it. There are people in my grade that have also had sex and I believe they know about STDs and Pregnancy also.
Yes, some people are not as responsible and have sex when they are drunk (I have also done that) and they will regret it... Just dont judge all the younger teenagers about them having sex. It is their decision.

Q: I need birth control i had sex and i plan on to keep doing it with my boyfriend we've been together 2 years, but i have NO idea how to convince my mom to get it. i can't very well say heyy i had sex get me some birth control cuz she'd freak and probably make me break up with him. i know theres ways around it saying my periods are irregular nd stuff but that won't help ive already tried. anyy tips?!

Sweetie, how old are you?
Hmmm.. You should tell your mom that you have sex.
I know you think im crazy (and I never wanted to tell my mom but my sister did and that was bad at first but now its alright... I want birthcontrol also but I dont have a boyfriend and she believes im not having sex anymore) but you have a boyfriend and she should respect your desision...
Sit her down and say "Mom, im not a virgin and im having sex with _____. I want birthcontrol so I can be smart about my sex life and not get pregnant."
Hope I helped...

Q: 15/f
ok me and my boifriend cant wait to have sex but im still wondering if im ready to have sex with him i have had sex before 4 times but not with him and all those times have been with the wrong person and this time im kinda taking it slow compared to all the other times we have been dating for 4 months now but we've known each other for bout 6 or 7 months so how can i find out if hes the right person to have sex with...

Have you had sex with four guys or with one other guy four times?
Sorry that doesnt matter but it is totally up to you if you want to have sex with your boyfriend.
You should ask yourself if you think you are ready. And is your boyfriend pressuring you in any way?
If is then I would wait a while until you fully know...

Q: Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

Babygirl.
First to know if you are acting slutty we need to know about the guy.
How old is he? If he is older than 15 thats not the best thing...
How long have you known him? Just starting to.. Not good ethier...
How many times have you hung out with him before doing shit? Just a few.. Eh..
If thats how it is you are acting a little slutty.
I am not calling you a slut though because I have done FAR worse and im only 14 turning 15, but I didnt do anything til a while ago.. But anyways.
Does he even like you?
Are you dating?
Do you like him?
How does he treat you?
You should ask yourself those questions and see if he is actually using you or not.
But yes I hope that helps..

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Hii. My name is Nicole Danielle.
I have a fucked up life.
I have been through alot and I hope I can help you with any of your problems because I have probably been through them also. If you have any questions/comments let me know. :D
I dont want too get to personal because I tend to do that too quickly.