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My best friend just told a huge secret of mine. Do I have the right to be angry?

The secret wasn't that big of a deal but it kinda meant a lot to me.

Thanks in advanced! (link)
yes, you absolutley do have a right to be angry. if you tell someone something and say that its a secret and not to be told to anyone, then they shouldnt tell anyone no matter what the secret is!!! tell her that that you trusted her and now your trust is lost and she will have to gain it back, if thats how you feel. hope i helped good luck


okay, so my mom hates everything about me so, I make up things that happen at school, like I tell my mom that the boy I like has said I'm sry about a billion times to me b/c of something that really happened but he only told me once, should I stop telling her lies to make her happy with my school life( which is better than my home life)or no??? (link)
first off, im very sorry to hear that your mom .. hates you? me and my mom never really get along either, and trust me ive tried lieing to her but that stupid line "the truth always comes out eventually" is unfortuntley true. she eventually found out my lies which just got me into more trouble and i dont know what would happen to you if the lies came out but i really dont think its a good idea. maybe you could sit down and talk with your mom (i know i totally hate this too) and ask her what about you she disapproves of so much? then you can comprimise. but i think telling the truth is better then lieing and trying to make her happy because im sure there are many other ways you can do that. i hope i helped good luck hun!!


i have been going out with this guy for 4 months. nobody knows except two people. my friends don't like him they say he is stupd. my biyfriend and i started out as bff so close it was like brother and sister how do i tell my friend without loosimg her? what about parents?
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yea thats like the story of me and my bf too lol. but anyways, its your disicion going out with him not anyone elses if you really like him then dont worry about your friends. if your friends would leave you just because of your bf then i guess theyre not really your friends rite? if you really need to tell your parents then go ahead. i hope they dont mind but depending on how strict your parents are. if you have any other questions please ask good luck talk to you soon


HELP! i just got my period for the like the third time! is there any way that i can calculate when i'll get it next?

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its usually every 28 days also make sure you count the week that your getting it good luck


my bestfriends boyfriend is an ok guy i actually used to have a crush on him like a year ago but eversince theve been going out she never has time for me when shes over my house shell talk 2 him on the phone it gets annoying wat should i do HELP!!! (link)
you should probably have a sit down with your friend here. it personally dont think its right to be on the phone when your at some one elses house no matter who it is. she probably doesnt know that its bothering you either because if she is your best friend and she knew it bothered you, she most likely woulndt be doing it. just tell her straight out that youd really like to spend more time with her and stillll have time with her boyfriend but it feels as though your drifting. she should understand i hope i helped much luck to you


Ok, well I'm 14/f and I'm not sexually active at all... i don't even kiss guys (it's a personal choice). But I do crazy stuff with them if I'm at parties or soemthing.. like go streaking, flash them, haha play strip poker. It's just how the parties go. And it's not liek I do it alone, my best girlfriends all are in. Is this liek really slutty? Am i considered a slut? I mean I have fun and all, but I don't want to be considered a slut at all. Thanks for the advice (link)
i wouldnt consider you a slut. your just having fun right? streaking and strip poker and stuff like taht isnt thaatt bad, just try not to take it to an extreme or get carried away because sad to say, your reputation is all you have these days. so if one person thinks your a slut, it could get carried to the next and the next. but still have fun your only 14 once rite lol mmk hope i helped you lots of luck


i think one of my friends might be anoerxioc how do i tell besides them not eating. i rate 5s (link)
in most cases of anorexia the person will have a low self esteem about themselves. they will tend to be more quiet and conserved. weight loss will be a big give away. sometimes your skin will start to color and your face pale. they will put themselves down a lot and try to stay on a big "diet" as she/he might call but probably actually starving themself. hope i helped and good luck with your situation


hey its me again. okay that guy already knows i like him!! he's known since the 3rd day of school! he's 2 years older then me, (he stayed back twice) and he's never had a girlfriend. i know he likes me because he shows all the signs that he does. i walk with him, flirt with him, i try to do everything with him. he told me i was his best friend. but thats not enough for me. i know he really likes me. but i just don;t understand WHY WONT HE LET HIS FEELINGS OUT? the whole school knows he likes me but he wont do a damn thing about it. everyone tells him we'd make the perfect couple. i've even asked him out and he just ran away. but whenever im in the halls he's always endlessly staring at me. i smile back and he smiles back at me. its really cute and stuff but i think its time he comes to the plate and lets out his feelings and stops playing hard to get. he knows ive liked him the whole year and the school year is almost over so its nothing new to him. what can i say to just let the feelings flow outta him? (link)
wow oh my god i didnt no all that detail! but yes i have seen guys like this. these are again your possible choices 1) maybe he doenst like you like that. i honeslty dont mean to be rude but im thinking of alll your options. are u blinded by love? if not and you no he likes you then # 2) approach him when you two are alone and calmly say "i really like you. i think of you as more than a friend. i dont exactly no what you think of me but im feeling as tho you are sending me mixed signals. i would just like to know straight up if you like me .. or as a friend or what because im tired of waiting and i really think we would be great togther" try that and keep me updated if you need anything else please ask i hope im helping you good luck talk to you soon


kay theres this guy and he likes me. but he doesnt want to show his feelings and hes playing hard to get. i need something that i can say to him thats short and quick and will make him think twice about playing hard to get. idk what to say to him but i really need help!!
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hey i think i can help umm yea i no i hate it when guys try to play hard to get it sucks but try to be flirty with everyone. you can try to talk to him more and that will show him that your interested because maybe thats just what he is waiting for ya no? always be smiling and happy and flirty and put on your best impression for him maybe he\\\'ll loosen up and say something. if you feel like your waiting too long and hes not coming around then you could either 1) move on to bigger and better guys or 2) go for it and tell him you like him or have some1 do it for you or even just say you want to hang out sometimes i hope i helped ask if you need annnything else good luck ttyl


14/female

so i've had my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.. and this friday I wanna make-out with him at the movies..But I don't want him to know it's my first time.. I REPEAT, I do NOT want him to know it's my first time.. Can somebody give me a step-by-step on how to make-out? I need every little detail, everything that's most likely going to happen.. don't suggest some french kissing website because i've already been there to them all. (link)
its really not as hard as you think it is. just follow his lead he knows what hes doing. keep your mouth open dont bite down lol and go with the flow its a breeze. relax and enjoy it while it lasts =) hope i helped and good luck have fun byes


ok this is kinda gross but yesterday when i got home from school i had to go to the bathroom really bad and i was kinda constipated.. and then when i wiped there was really little blood..but then when i went to sleep, on my underwear was a lot of brown..so idk if it's my period or what ? it didnt really look like it, idk though
could it of been my period or no?
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yes its definetley your period. tell your mom or whoever you feel comfortable to get some pads if you cant right away then put lots of toilet paper wrapped up im sure you already no this so good luck hope i helped


Hello,
My sister is a single foster mom for infants in Mass. She told me how she is taking a drug that tricks her body in to thinking she gave birth, so she will start to produce milk. She is planning on breast feeding the infants in her care. If the child does not take the breast (which is what is happing now), she pumps the milk and feeds it to the child with a bottle. The foster care office has no idea, and my sister has never been tested for any disease that she could pass on to the infant through the breast milk. I know that this is against foster care policy, and it could be considered as a form of abuse.
So my question is, should I report her? At best case her foster license will be taking away and nothing else will happen to her. At worst, she could be made an example of, and sent to jail for child abuse, and have to register as a danger to children. She works as a nanny, and hopes to open a day care out of her house someday. So this could destroy her life. If I do this I know that my mother and sister will disown me, and I will never be spoken to again. However are the babies in her care in danger from her? She would not "harm" them, but is being breast feed from a stranger with out permission harm? What do I do?
Thanks
Tess (link)
i definitley think that you should bring it up to the people in charge just for the good of the baby im sure your sister would never want to hurt the child but i dont think its a great idea buying off the internet but thats her choice anyways you should probably tell someone to make sure the perscription is ok and the child is healty hope i helped good luck


what is a free music downloading program?i have winmx right now, but it doesnt work very well,and some songs i cant download.i need a free program that i can dowload onto my computer.

also,i was wondering if i could download songs from high school musical on a given music program,because i cant on winmx,but if you dont know, thats ok.

thanks!! (link)
i use limewire and its actually really good. you can download songs, pictures, videos, and documents i think thats all and so go to limewire.com and click basic version which is free otherwise its like $30 a month good luck hope i helped!


I am going to this dance. It's semi-formal like girls are all getting dresses and guys wear shirts and ties. But I have no clue what to do with my hair. My hair is like 2 inches below my sholders, blonde, and little layers. I have long side bangs. Does anyone know a good hair style that I can get done (I'm going to my hairdresser and she will do it) I don't want anything to much though (link)
you could get corn rows which would look cute or you could just go for a natural look with some waves in your hair which is what i would do. you could put it up half way in a pretty barrette or clip or you could look in the books at the hair salon which is what i always do lol they have some good choices ask your hairdresser what she likes on you hope i helped good luck have fun at the dance =)


any ideas on how to make an outfit not look so boring? i usualy wear jeans and a long sleaved shirt but all my long sleaves are so plain. (link)
accessories are the way to go. wear a cute belt or scarf over your shirt, lots of bracelets on top of your sleeves make a cool look, with maybe matching earring and a necklace. lots of girls also wear bandanas around their leg or rip theirs jeans a little and wear some colorful leggings underneath. some of my girls in my school are actually wearing sunglasses around too hehe hope i helped lots of luck =)!!


My room is very plain.
let me give yu an idea what it looks like

blue walls, wood floor a larg wodden cabinet for my tv and computor, a pretty good size book shelf. wooden drawers for my cloths and 2 plastic drawers. Also I have a boxing bag. I get really depressed in my room because it seeems so depressing to me

what can I do to my room to make it look nicer and happyer? (link)
it would be cool to pick a theme for your room and go with that. like an ocean theme, or a color scheme. then shop for some on-sale stuff you would like to decorate it with and what looks cool and more lively is if you put posters up or a bulliten board of you and your friends or something creative like taht
hope i helped & good luck


My boyfriend went away and I'm not that kind of person to just sit around and wait. I met someone I use to like and still like and he still likes me. I now go with the other boy and don't know what to do. I feel really bad but...I need advice and thoughts on what I should do.

thanks in advance
XOXO i rate 5s (link)
first of all, you need to tell you boyfriend. and i dont blame u for going out again because your bf isnt around - but its not fair if he still thinks you guys are together and could end up finding out the wrong way. there is no reason to feel bad as long as you tell him ud rather be friends hope i helped
PeAcE


How old Should a child be when they start dating? (link)
i dont think there is actaully a "right time" but my guess is when you feel comfortable to handle a relationship and not make it some drive by kind of situation. around 8th grade high school i would say hope i helped
PeAcE


i was just wondering what people think of glasses. do you find them nerdy or attractive? i have to wear glasses fullo time and i am wondering if contacts are the way to go or should i wear glasses but i dont want to seem like a four eyes freak. any inputs are appreciated. (link)
heyy i definetly think that glasses make people look very intelligent and attractive but i have contacts and i love them. they are a tiny weeny bit more of a hassle but soo worth it. its totally up to you though, which ever you feel more comfortable with, good luck hun
PeAcE


i just got an ipod nano for xmas and i downloaded itunes from the cd and whenever i try to click on itunes it wont open ..what could be wrong and how do i fix this ? (link)
my itunes did that alot too and idn really wahts wrong with it but i just went to the start menu and kept clicking it and not the icon on my desktop and it eventually started working. you can also go to the itunes homepage and look under help and see if they can help you
hope i helped a lil
PeAcE




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