about

Hey my name is missy :)
Umm...ask me a question and I'll try my best to answer.

advice

ok well me and my "bf" want to go somewhere special and we dont want to go to the movies been there done that to many times! and not my house b.c heres the thing i want to tell him i love him for the first time!! and he has something to give me and things like that so not my house to many people, there is like 8 people there. not his house his mom is all over his kids when girls coome over, well thats what he said. so any ideas its tongiht or tomorrow but i need answers quick thanx!

Can you guys meet up at a park? Or maybe like a small caffe? I would meet up at a starbucks or the pool. There's not really many places you can go to get privocy. Good Luck!!!!

[view]

Ok so,ive recently started playing guitar and i was wondering if anyone know any good, easy songs that i could play??

I heard the song Hey Jude, by the beatles was easy? I don't really know for sure. Good Luck!

[view]

well... i was really close to this girl, we were good friends and then like one day we was planning to do stuff like goo to the movies that day then she rang back later and said she couldn\'t do anything the next day so im like oh ok.. and then i was on msn and herd from my boyfriend and his cousin that she had invited them over to her house the next day.. i was stunned coz she lied 2 me and said she couldn't do anything and that she didnt even invite me or her own boyfriend to her house instead she invited my boyfriend and his cousin... her little sister and her were only going to be home the next day and her mum doesn't let her have boys over when she isnt home...my boyfriend was at his house with his cousin and they were saying to her on msn like would you have sex with me tomorow(the cousin said that) and she was like no becoz i have a boyfriend and i wouldnt wanna cheat coz i love him and all... i was pissed off at her for inviting them over already.. anyywayz it came the next day and i was like mehh stuff it im gona go out so me and my sister went shopping.. then when we got home at like 4 my boyfriend called me and him and his cousin were going on like guess what i had sex with your friend annd all i was like wtf coz shes 13 and my boyfriends cousin is 17 annd she has never had sex before (she told me she wouldnt until she was ready and had atleast been going out with the guy for more then 4months or something) anyway i was soo shockked i was like omg wtf.. annd then there like nahh were only joking and im like ok annd didnt really believe them anymore.. annd then later on msn they go to me were sorry yeahh my cousin really did have sex with my friend and i was like noo you told me before they didnt.. and there like well it did happen.. then i decided to message my friend and ask her.. so i did, and she replieed and said no it didnt really happen i only hookedup with him as a dare and i was like wat you cheated on your boyfriend coz you hookedup with another guy (this was the first time she had met my boyfriends cousin) and she was like it wasnt cheatin it was a dare.. then i messaged and asked was that all and shes like yess i wouldnt do anything else... then at that moment my boyfriend and his cousin were like to me nahh it didnt really happen and my friend just messaged me and said sorry i take it all back it really did happen.. i had sex with him and i was soo shockked i couldnt not believe it.. and my boyfriend and his cousin still denided it and said it didnt happen.. (his cousin has a fioncee) annyways and i rang my friend and she was like crying on the fone and i go who else knows and she said my mum and im like well tell me everything that happend.. (this was her story) \"we went into the bedroom and your boyfriend (my boyfriend) and my little sister were out in the lounge watching movies and while we were in the bedroom he asked if i wanted a hug coz he said i looked cold so i said ok and then he started hooking up with me (making out) and then he asked if i wanted to hop into the bed soo it was warmer so im like ok and then we hopped in and he started un-dressing me..then he asked if i wanted to have sex and i said yes and then we had sex and after 5mins i said stop becoz it was wrong and it hurt so much\"... i was soo shocked i was like i gtg annd hunng up!! then the next day came and i woke up to a fone call from my friends mum.... she said to me that it really did happen and that she had taken my friend to the docotors and all and i was like im soo shocked i cant believe she even did that becoz its her first time and she goes and does it with a 17 yearold and there not even going out!! and it was the first time she had met him.. and her mum told me to be supportive and like stick by my friend and all and give her sympathy coz she isnt in a very good state at the moment.. i was like ok.. then yesterday i was talking to my boyfriend and he was telling me the truth that really happend.. and i found out that my friend had also given his cousin head and he licked her out!! i was shocked even more soo as she had not even done this with her boyfriend yet.. i was also told that his cousin and her had also had a conversation over the fone the day after it had happend saying that she would doo it again!! i was like STUNNED.. becoz as if she is proud of what she did.. she lied 2 lots of people eg.me she cheated on her boyfriend and she broke her mums trust... i dont think i can be friends with her after she is trying to get sympathy from people but then telling other people in a way thats like she is proud of wat she did!! i dont think i can be friends with a person like that.. she lied to me and it really hurt me and i was already angry at her for even inviting them over and telling me she couldn't do anything.. she also told my other friend yesterday that she got raped!! and that is no where near true!! she agrreed 2 have sex with him and she was happy with it becoz they were going for over 30mins (which is what my boyfriend said) annd she also did other stuff which means she didnt plann on stopping.. she also agreed to doo it again!! her and her boyfriend have broken up now and im glad becoz she does not deserve him at all!! she should be ashammed of what she did and its nothing to be proud of!! i dont no how i can not judge her even thoo she is ment 2 be my friend.. but i dont no anymore becoz i still cant get over what she did!! this is gona stick with her for the rest of her life and your virginity is not something you can just throww around you want your first time to be special not with someone that you had only met for like 30mins and that you dont even no annd your not even dating.. can you please help me and give me some advice im sorry this is so long i just wanted to give you the whole story.. please helpp i need some advice... should i still be her friend ?? or should i tell her how i really feel?? what do i doo??

I would tell her how you feel. Explain she hurt you and you don't think you can trust her. I wouldn't be her friend because she didn't even tell you the truth. Just meet up with her and tell her how you feel, just pretty much tell her what you said in this question. If she changes and tells everyone the truth, then I would still be friends with her, bc we all make mistakes. All I can think of doing is tell her how upset you are about this situation. Good Luck!! and I'm sorry!!!

[view]

there this guy that i like and i would like to get to know him better. but its summer and im not sure how i can do this without looking pushy or desprate. any ideas? i would greatley appreciate them! thank in advance!

Get a group of friends together to go to a movie or the pool, and ask him if he would like to go. It shows your just trying to be nice and include him, not controlling. When your in the group of friends try to get alone w/ him and talk. Then gradually build a better friendship and call him. Good Luck!

[view]

Okay so theres kid who i havent talked to in a while. & we started talking again today. for some reason whenever i talk to him i get like butterflys or something. i used to like him before but then i didnt like him. do you think i might like him again.? what do yah think?

Maybe your just excited to talk to him because you haven't for a while. Keep talking with him and see if you still feel the same and if you do then you like him. Good Luck!

[view]

a few nights ago i was with a friend and two older boys (3 years) weve hung out before, and this guy pressured me into haveing sex with him but i wouldnt. i dont like im or anything its just a hookup. the thing is im a virgin and hes not and then i was drunk a few nights ago and ended up doing something im starting to really regret. sex. i lost my virginity to someone i dont even like he made it seem like it wasnt a big deal and everyones had it so i just gave in. at first i was okay with it but now im starting to think.. what am i going to telll my next boyfriend? or my friends? i dont know if i should just forget about this whole thing and say im a virgin. im just getting upset and i dont know who to turn to and im not going to a councelor or anything. i guessi just need some moral support.. thank you
and no we did not use a condom, we were in a hot tub and he swore to me that he would pull out before, but we didnt even get that far into it i think. plus hs going off to college and hates kids. so im pretty sure im safe. please help thank you

Aww I'm sorry he treated you like that and told you it wasn't a big deal. If your friends/future boyfriend really love/like you they'll listen to your side of the story and accept you. You made a mistake. You got drunk around the wrong people. Just learn from this and make sure the next guy you decide to do it with you love and he respects you and does NOT pressure you. I'm sorry, and Good Luck in the future.

[view]

15 Female

Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?

Thanksss.. :)

Most people don't, but there's nothing wrong with it as long as your comfortable starting off frenching. It's not like yur 11 years old or anything. lol

[view]

well just before i walked into 7-11 with my little sister and this guy who looked about 14 was with his friends and he was like "i dont know you" and i turned around thinking he was talking to me and he was. so i just gave him a weird look. and hes like "REALLY I DONT" so then i walked away and i was whispering to my sister about him and he saw me and like smiled. um, is there any reason he did that big scene?

He might of been showing off to his friends. He probably was. Or his friends told him to do it. He could of just been a jackass who knows. Don't worry about it, you didn't do anything wrong.

[view]

wat is stds and how you get it

It's a sexually transmitted disease. You get it from unprotected sex and oral. Or in some cases from making out w/ people who have an std.

[view]

i've had my period from the beginning of July up until now (16thh.) i've had it for 3 years, so its not like it still could be irregular. what could be wrong with me? its so annoying having it all the time so can someone help mee ! thanks.

Ok what you should do is right down what day you started and finished your period. Tell your mom what happened and wait til you get your next period and write down when you start and finish and if it's still irregular have your mom call the gyno. 2 weeks is not normal and it can make you enemic {low iron from loss of blood}. If your periods were really heavy the full 2 weeks or you just want to make sure nothings wrong, then I'd just have your mom call the gyno and ask for her opinion on what to do. Good Luck!!!

[view]

well im one of those girls who care about there weight 24-7! im so sick of feeling i have to be pretty,smart,athletic,and more improtanly SKINNY. sometimes when i see junk food its just there so why not eat it rite? ik its bad to eat it but it taste so good and i like it. then i do the worst thing ever look in the mirror and go gross im fat! it like duh you were just eating junk. so everytime i go to a party i go its just food think of it as garbage. doesnt work im also one of those people who like starve themselves and my friends know it because one time in school we were watching this movie that talked about crap like that and i looked so sad but i didnt care so they know! and well im 5'5 and like wiegh god who knows now probally still 123 and i dont like that if i ever get to 130 i will kill myself no like so what im trying to do is like l00se the pounds b4 november my next checkup so if i see a 130 something i will really no lie kill myself i dont like that so if you guys would help me any sugestions that would be great!!

I undestand what your going through but it kinda pisses me off you'd say a normal weight like that is fat! I'm 5 foot 5 and I weigh 134 but I'm not fat! If you have actual muscle to your body then you shouldn't weigh any less. If you weigh 130 thats not bad, guys wanna grab on to something, they like curves! Everyone has differn't body types maybe yours is curvier! I can understand you wanting to build muscle, but why would u want to be anarexic looking? Look at Lindsay Lohan, I know a ton of guys thought she was soooo hot when she had curves but now she's disgusting they say! Just work out and build up muscle, don't worry about weight just as long as you look and feel good. Good Luck!

[view]

my boyfriend told me hes in love with me. he looked into my eyes and said it and i think im in love with him too.his friends always tell me that im all he talks about and when im with him he kisses my hand and does the sweetest things and he always says never to let go of him.also he invites me to all his lacrosse games and he ditches his friends just to see me even if its only for 30 minutes...thats a pretty big deal right?when guys are the first ones to say it..they mean it right? or could he have said that because hes afaid of losing me??

Omg, it sounds by his actions he definately means it. He doesn't sound like he's trying to say I love to you to get anywhere with you {sex wise}. I think your veryyyyy lucky!!!!I'm jelous!!!!lol Have fun and I hope everything goes well.

[view]

okay this is not about me . well i was friends with this girl and shes going out with a kid that shes in love with and he loves her well anyway i heard that he cheated on her and had sex with other girls [ hes only 14 ] . i told the girl and we started talking as friends again but then the other girl that told me about it got mad at me for telling i mean was it wrong to tell her seeing it was her boyfriend? please help bc i try to exp-lain that it was the right thing to do. thanks♥

I can understand why she would get mad, you blabbed a very important secret without asking. I would of told my friend if I were you though, I agree it is the right thing to do. I just think you should of told your other friend that you were going to tell this girl. You might want to apologize to your friend and tell her you think it was the right thing to do but realized you should of at least informed her you were going to tell. That's all you really can do. Good Luck!!!

[view]

My one friend was being very mean to me on the phone, and I didn't do anything at all! Well this is how it started (sorry this might be long)...

Well my one friend usually calls me about everyday, and I noticed she hadn't called all day yesterday or today, so I thought I'd give her a call. Everything was fine until I asked her if she was gonig to an amusement park for our school or something. She said that her parents would never let her. So I started making these little crying noises because I did want her to go. Then she gets all mean telling me to stop making those squeaking noises. I told her I was just kidding, and she said that it gets annoying sometimes. I couldn't believe that she said that! I mean we're girls! We all make weird noises, especially squeaking ones! After that it was quiet for a while. Then she was talking to me like nothing really happned.

I was trying to figure out why she said that. I thought maybe it was because she might have been jealous because she couldn't go to the amusement park, but she didn't sound so dissapointed about it. Also, it was very hot outside today, and I know they don't have air conditioning, So I thought she might be hot, and irritable. I'm not sure. She seemed like she was in a bad mood, but then she didn't. It was very strange. Maybe she was moody, but I really don't know.

I'm getting kind of worried because I'm affraid she might call our other friends and tell them, which I don't think she will, I sure hope not! But I don't think our friends would get mad, because we all make weird noises for fun. Maybe she was just annoyed and not in the mood for talking, but then again, she didn't seem like it. Like she talked to me on the phone how she always does, but it was different in a way. I don't know, I'm very confused. So do any of you know why she was acting this way? Thanks!

Mabye she thought those crying noises were an imitation of her crying bc she couldn't go and she thought u were making fun of her. Like have you ever had someone make fun of you while you were complaining like saying boo hoo. She might have taken it that way. If she didn't maybe she was just in a mad mood, and since she went back to normal I really wouldn't worry about it. No worries!!!!

[view]

What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain

I'm sorry, but I think their just being very dramatic and want attention. Their just trying to cause trouble if they won't let you explain. Sorry, thats my opinion. If you really want to know, talk to her best friends and see if they know anything. See if they can get her to talk to you. Try calling her and emailing her til she talks to you. Sorry, good luck!

[view]

Iam 17 years old and my breasts are still growning is this normal?

Yes your boobs don't stop growing til your 20ish. Don't worry!!

[view]

I told this kid that knows my boyfriend that my boyfriend poped my cherry and we had oral sex on a.i.m. So before i could tell him i was lieing he signed off! Now i'm scared he is going to tell my boyfriend. The only way i can think of to fix the problem is if the kid signs back on a.i.m and i tell him i was joking. What should I do? And what if he tells my boyfriend?

Do you have the kids phone number??? If u do call him. Or call your boyfriend and tell him about the joke he'll probably laugh. If you don't want to do that, just wait til your boyfriend asks u {if he even finds out} and tell him it was a joke. Don't worry too much!!! It'll be ok!!

[view]

alright im 16/f and im still a virgin. ive only done things with 2 guys but i have only had the opportunity to do things with 2 guys..the 2nd guy i didnt even like but idk..it just all happened.do you think thats kinda of sluty? and me & this guy have a little thing goin on but im afraid that when we hang out agian we'll go a little bit too far. i really like him and i know he likes me but i dont know if i can stop myself. im supposed to hang out with him and stay the night over his house cause he is my friends cousin and my friend is goin too. but idk..i just dont want it to happen and i dont know if it will or not or if i can be able to stop at just making out..what should i do?

Nah your not slutty. Sometimes people feel like they can't stop themselves either, it's not just you and your not a slut for saying that. If your going to make out with him do it in a place where you know you can't go any farther than that. Like, in a movie theatre or other places where your friends are close. Don't worry!!

[view]

Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

I always give my cell number.

[view]

My cousin had a friend over. They asked if I wanted to see a movie with them at home. I said okay. I went. My cousin's mom told me that I couldn't go because my cousin never asked her. So I had to go home. My cousin never apologized. I got a phonecall. It was my cousin's friend, who asked, "Hey, do you have any money?" I said no. My cousin's friend asked, "Well, I have a proposition for you. I heard that you like me, so if you go to the movies with us and pay for me to go, then I'll call it a date." I said that I don't even know my cousin's friend and won't be used like that.

Should I be offended? My cousin is one of my best friends.

I would be. That boy sounds like a using asshole. I don't get whats up w/ your cousin though? Did she not want you to go to the movies with them? If she didn't I think that's really rude too. I understand she might want her time w/ her friends, but if your at her house and their going to see a movie it's wrong to want to leave you out. Talk to her about it, ask her whats up with that. Sorry

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop
eXTReMe Tracker