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Q: hey i'm 15/f.

i've recently had extremely bad skin, and my periods already gone so that's def. not it. anyways, theres this ONE zit that will not go away.

it has been there for about a month, and it looks like 2 zits combined, honestly.
i've been drying it out, putting REALLY hot water on it to try and get it to come to a head for popping.

for some reason, it won't. school starts in a week and a half, and i really don't want to have this HUGE red peely bubble on the side of my chin that wasn't there when school ended.

PLEASE help, guys! what should i do?

i heard that if you put white toothpaste on it it should go away. (my doctor told me so it should work)
you could try pro-active, clearasil.
and try not to touch your face to much. and continue putting hot water on it.
wash your face like twice a day.
i wear a product called Diffrin that my doctor suggested but im not sure if thats on counter.
hope this helps :]

Q: (14.f) Sorry if its long.
Okay well,I noticed that I sweat sometimes and then it starts to stink now..I asked my parents for deodorant,but they said it's "bad" because it covers your armpit and you can't sweat,etc.etc. I want to use deodorant 'cause I'm worried about school.It's just that they won't let me! They also say like if you use it, then you have to use it more and more and then you might get cancer or whatever at your armpit.What can I do? How do I make them know that I need it? Even my mom uses it sometimes, but then shes like, see even I don't use it alot!
Then I have another issue about my body hair on my arm and my leg.As you see, for PE,I usually have to wear capris or sweat pants, but my gym teacher says I should wear shorts.Well I mean I want to wear shorts on like hot days.But instead I wear capris.But now if I wear capris, you can then see my leg hair.AHEM,once again, I cant shave,wax,or use those lotion/spray to remove my hair!A lot of my classmates don't have hair and they can wear shorts without looking bad.I also have some on my arm.Well its better then my leg.Its much more skinnier, but now my leg hair is more thicker.Well I don't want to shave anyways..I heard waxing hurts..I wanna use that lotion/spray thing.But Since I have bad skin(dry, etc.), my parents say like,"what are you thinking?!?you know you have bad skin,if you do use it then don't tell me when its red or whatever.I won't take you to the doctor, and then starts giving me a lecture.Well none of my parents or aunts have body hair,I'm like the only one. Except my dad has some.BUT NOT A LOT LIKE ME.Well he's a guy so I don't think they should be so caring about it anyways.Well..I'm a girl so I care..Is there any way?!?!?!?!? I really wanna get rid of the hairs on my leg for sure!!
ANY ADVICE, I WOULD APPRICIATE!!! Please help.. Thankss!

Well with the odor problem tell them if you dont use anti-perspirent deodorant then it wont stop you from sweating. And while you try to persuade your parents maybe you could carry moist towels and everytime you use the lady's room wipe off the sweat or something. (i no it sounds weird but its better then nothing) You could also maybe ask your doctor or nurse to talk to your parents that it is a good idea to wear deodorant.
and with the hairy legs, there is an electric shaver that you cold just easily glide up and down your legs without it hurting, and also after you shave what helps is to put any kind of lotion on so your legs are smooth. you should talk to your parents that you are growing up and you are in charge of your body. get them to talk to your doctor and make an agreement.

hope everything works out :]

Q: Hi 14/m i am a freshman in high school and my first day was today.I met this girl in my math class she just moved here from Australia and she is kinda shy so hasn't made many friends. And i like her and was wondering what i should do to impress her. I sit right next to her soo yeah we talk a lot. Girls, what do u like to talk about with guys and what gets u goin, (if you know what i mean ;)lol) Please help me, even f it's a simple answer. Thanks!!!

Well i like guys that have a sense of humor, and make me smile. and when i talk they seem to take interest and look at me in the eyes sometimes. Also some girls like guys that could be silly but sensitive.
and on what to talk about, ask her questions about Australia, make little fun comments here and there, and just be yourself. Because some girls can sense when a guy is not being himself, and also if you act like someone you are not, she might not be interested in the person you are trying to be other then just being yourself.
hope everything works out :]

Q: I am probably getting a dog if this week with her works out (I have another dog already and we have to see if they get along well... so far they are fine together.) She looks very German Shepherd but she's small. She's very quiet and sweet. I can't think of a good name for her though. Here is her picture:

http://img503.imageshack.us/img503/3264/puppyto2.jpg

My mom likes the name Maggie for her but I'm not sure it really suits her. Any ideas?

Aww well maybe Layla, Delilah, maggie, CoCo, Jessie, Lucy, Aggie
thats all i could think of for know hope i helped :]

Q: I've just gotten sde-swept bangs cut, but they'll only stay to the side for a second at a time.
this is sort of what I'm going for (only the bangs):
http://i175.photobucket.com/albums/w145/cheezemeplease/emo.jpg

Would I have to use a straightener to keep it that way, tons of hair spray/gel/mousse, or both?
Thanks.

thats a really cute hairstyle, yes you would probably need to straighten it. but i also heard after you take a shower with a comb comb the bangs to the side you would like them to stay, and keep on doing that for awhile and eventually they should stay like that.
hope i helped :]

Q: I used to like this guy. But he came off as to jerky for me. But now i am curious if he liked me back.

He points out stupid imperfections about me like my forehead is big.
He tripped me.(idk if it was "playful" or not)
He throws things at me.(pencils,erasers ect.)
When we sit next to eachother he puts his hand on my leg till i move it.
Yells at me all the time
Calls me by a name i absolutly hate(not like bitch or anything it a name like gurtrude or something like that)
Makes an effort to be by me if i am standing up.
Only leaves if i tell him to(when he stands next to me)other wise he follows me around.
Walks up to me makes some rude coment like you look frumpy today and then walk away.

So does this guy like me?

well it sounds like he is into you. flirt with him, then see what happens
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Q: Recently ive been thinking alot about death, and its nearly at a point where its uncontrollable.
i dont know why but im really afraid of whats going to happen in the afterlife, if there is one. ive made alot of mistakes in my life before, and i keep on thinking that will affect what will happen.
at night i often think about it and start crying.
i used to want to die because of personal issues, but now i want to keep on living forever.
someone please help me :( i feel really paranoid!!

dont worry, that does happen to some people. sometimes when you have time to think about that kind of stuff and have to face the facts that you cant live forever, and it is scary. But remember He (if you no what i mean) will always forgive your mistakes, and loves you. Try to have fun, try not to live your life being afraid of what is going to happen much later in the future. You are in good hands. and if you keep on thinking to much about really later in the future then later you might regret not doing some stuff that you wanted to do.
Just dont worry, and if it helps maybe pray at night.
hope i helped :]

Q: i'm taking dance 1 at school and we have to wear leotards.. do dancers normally wear underwear and bras under them? what are some type of outfits that girls wear?

well i wear underwear and a bra under them. and later if they say you can you could probably wear sweat pants, and a shirt over it, or a dance skirt. some people wear tights.
hope i helped :]

Q: what would a good song be to show a person that you love them but not going out. and like that you always want to have them and stuff like that thanks

Youve got a friend
Umbrella

Q: any tips on how to get over a girl? not just any girl, the best girl ever. she was seriousely amazing... thanks :D

i understand it might be tough but think if she got over it and is moving on so could you, also think of the advantages of the break up including being able to flirt with other girls again, and try going out again if you want.
hope everything works out :]

Q: So I really really like this girl, but she has me eating out of her hand. I can't stop, she's a master of manipulation. Or maybe I'm just nuts about her. Any thoughts that could help me out?

okay well its good if you know that she is taking advantage of you, so you could figure out a way to stop. Dont let her take advantage of you and walk all over you, Tell her that if this relationship is going to continue "we need a change. meaning no taking advantage of me. we will both treat each other equally," etc. and try not to be to available and dont look desperate or anything.
hope everything works out :]

Q: whats a good place to get AIM infos?
I want a good profile. thanks.

good websites with aim pro ideas are
iconator.com
xanga.com (go to blogs then type in aim profiles)
AV_Layouts
google.com
hope these help :]

Q: What websites can help me with making layouts,I have my own layout myspace but the thing is I don't know how to make them,like I'm really good at HTML but I dont know how to make them.HELP?

um i heard that whatever.com might be one or
AV_Layouts
try to google it

sorry if i wasnt much help :]

Q: can you start to show signs of pregnancy 20 days after you have sex.. because i had unprotected sex with my ex and we recently broke up and the day after i had my period and it was 1 1/2 weeks early.. and lately ive been feeling really diffrent like i noticed one of my boobs looks diffrent from the other and ive been having to pee a lo.. ive been getting really bad headachs usually early in the morning and late at night and the other night i was looking on google for pregnancy symptoms and it said one of them was "having a feeling your pregnant" and i have that feeling but i cant buy a pregancy test.. i live in a real small town and i know people that work at our local pharmacy and they would tell my parents and im only 15..i really want to tell my ex that im scared and im affraid he will think that im just saying that to make him stay with me witch isnt true.. im just really scared.. should i tell him? what should i say? who should i tell? im not close to my mom at all..just help?

Okay well if your ex brought you in this situation then he should help. you can either explain to him the situation and warn him that he helped bring you in this situation and he should help you out. or you could get a close friend and drive to a different pharmacy. or if you know someone older that you could trust ask them to get you one. im not sure if its possible to order one online at your age but you could try to check that out.
hope everything works out :]

Q: 17.f
theres this kid that i have liked for a very long time. well at the beginning of the year he found otu i liked him, and he said the most hurtful thing about me, in front of my 2 bestfriends. now they obviously told me. and when they did i confronted him and i was flipping out. now me and him have been friends for a very long time. and i dont want to loose him as a friend. but what he said was extremely hurtful and made me feel like i was nothing. well the day after he told me how sorry he was and that if he didnt mean it then he wouldn't have said it. so i guess he meant what he said. and that made me seriously cry for about a week, because it hurt so much. I talk to him now, with him knowing i like him. and he's all cool with that we are jut friends. i just dont know if i did the right thing by talking to him again. Because he hurt me so bad and made me feel ugly, feel like a nothing and i could never be pretty. i guess im just wondering if by me maknig the choice of talking to him again was the right choice?

Well it kind of depends on your guys relationship. If it really was important to you and if you like being his friend, and he apologized you made the right choice. Even though he did hurt your feelings. But sometimes people can be so mad or confused it makes them feel clear and some how better by saying something mean. Which is of course a HUGE mistake. But then when they have some time to think about your guys relationship and that he cares about you as a friend of course he should feel regret and alot of guilt. And sometimes a person needs a second chance. Just make sure he is treating you right. And remember that we all have made mistakes and said some stuff we dont mean and later regret. So remember those words he said to you were just probably slipped out of anger but not the truth. But it is your decision.
hope i helped :]

Q: 14/f

I seem to have a problem, I always like guys that aren't available. Sometimes I fall hard, and then get really depressed because I know I can't have them.
A few times in the past, boys I've liked have asked me out, and before I've had time to think about it, I've said no. And after I think, what did I do that for?
And boys I've liked have chatted me up at parties and I've got away from them quickly. And I always regret it.
Now, I've been in love with this boy for the past 4 months. And he really is the most amazing boy I've ever met. He seemed to be in a really serious relationship with his girlfriend and I'd cry all the time because of it.
A few days ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend, and I was ecstatically happy. Although I didn't think anything would happen for quite a long time because of his relationship with his girlfriend.
But then he said he's not sure what's going on with them at the moment, and recently has been talking about breaking up with her, although he's not sure. And his best mate keeps making comments that make it sound as if it's because he wants to be with someone else.
And suddenly I feel like I'm in a panic, and I don't feel as happy and I feel quite worried.
And I don't know why, I mean, I've wanted this for months now, right?
Yet I can't help it, it seems as soon as someone starts to like me, I pull away.
Do you have any idea why I do this? Is it to do with commitment? And how can I stop it?

Thanks in advance, sorry it was long, xxx

You probably just get nervous, it might be with commitment but it also might be your nervous what is going to happen next, and your afraid to figure it out. so like i said i think the reason you pull away is because you can get nervous without even realizing it. What might help is to think of all the advantages, and just try to take a little time to think before you say something to make sure thats what you want to say.
hope i helped :]

Q: What are some good movies like Grease and My Fair Lady, they have to be musicals. I'm doing a solo ensemble for my shiw choir and I need to find a really good song.

the sound of music
Camelot
the king and i
Oklahoma
Westside story
hope these help :]

Q: i am a fifteen year old female who is planning on having a party for a whole bunch of friends, guys and girls. there isnt any special occasion, i just want to have a party. im planning on having between 30 and 50 people. im looking for ideas on what type of things we could do, this is NOT a smoking or drinking party. XD im planning on having a slip n slide, and i have horshoes in my backyard and a pool table in my basement, and i thought i would have ddr up for poeple to play. any suggestions on great party food, games, or activities would be great. thank you!

you could have out some music,umm if you have any sports stuff you might want that out in the backyard, for food chips are always a suggestion, pretzels, cheese and crackers, soda
hope you have a great party :]

Q: There is a new series coming up on either nick or disney channel.
I can't really remember the name of it.. it's something like "Between the Bell" or something with the word "bell" in it.
and its about these kids in high school and things happen between classes and stuff...

can someone tell me what its called? thanks

oh thats on Disney Channel, its suppose to be one of those short episodes.

Q: 13/f

Anybody know a site where they translate English words into Japanese words? Like they have an English word then the Japanese word for the English word. Like this:

Konnichi wa= Good Afternoon/hello
Tamagachi=Friend

Like that!
I need to know ASAP, please! THANK YOU!
^_^ Izzy Uchiha!

http://freetranslation.imtranslator.net/?dir=en/ja&text=
just google japanese translation
hope this helped:]

bio

hi, my name is emily i am 14 years old and in 8th grade
i love hanging out with my friends,good with little kids, shopping,boys, cheerleading, dancing, music, fashion, eating haha, and giving advice :]
I also really enjoy going to my beach house, especially when i bring my 3 bffs.