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Q: I am 16, been on varsity football since my freshman year, im going to be a sophomore, im not really worried about having a girlfriend, sometimes i just wish i had one, do you girls like to get close with a guy before you date them, as in like a best friend relationship, or do you like to meet guys and find something new about him day in and day out....?? i dont no anymore lol

personally i fall for my guy friends. i have only liked my guy friends.

Q: ok thers this girl that i like and she says that she wants to have sex with me but she is allways saying that but it never happens i would love to have sex with her and i love her alot but she is just shy. is there any way i can make her not as shy? 14/m

maybe shes kidding? i know i say stuff like that to some of my guy friends online too but i know i'd prob not even be able to hook up with them. there is no way you can make her unshy. she has to do it herself. but really your 14 and she must mean around that age and girls don't want sex at that age so don't plan on having sex with her for a while kiddo

Q: my neighbor is a 13 year old female and im a 14 year old male. she stalks me and she likes but id ont like her like she likes me wat do i do?

stalkers are great! haha it makes you feel loved. tell her to leave you alone! or just make her mad at you (that always works!). and it you wanna have fun with it stage a show for her haha! its great!

Q: If a guy that you like gets mad at you.. even for something stupid.. this happened to me during the school year.. and he was playin mad and stuff.. what do u do? cause like i always got close with a guy and we'd joke around or whatever and then he'd like get mad.. but not seriously mad just this like 'im not tlaking to u u said this " or whatever.. what do u do?

wait it out! lol he'll come around. doesn't really seem like a problem bc if you know he wasn't serious why get upset about it? lol

Q: okay im 17 years old and after my last relationship( with a guy i fell in love with)i havent been able to find anyone that i can go out with and not think about and compare them to him what should i do

even though i'm young and haven't been 'in love' but i have gone out with guys i really liked and i know what its like to compare guys to you last guy. i do it all the time. i remember my last relationship had started with me complaining to him about the other guy. he started to become my friend and i realized that i liked him and the other guy was outta my mind. but now since me and my friend broke up i haven't gone out with anyone else. try to get this guy back! he def. means something specail to you. maybe you don't like him like that anymore but no matter what keep the friendship because this guy is definatly something specail. I'm happy to say that me and my friend are still good friends but i still compare all guys to him!

Q: alot of ppl in the grade up from me hate me...because of stuff i did the year before n they all say they are gonna kick my ass no matter how sorry i say i am they dont care they think i should pay for my attitude...?? n i dont get it i said sorry n it was from like 2 years ago shouldnt they b over it by now what should i doo???? because school starts soon n they said they are gona kick my ass this yearr...?

if they are a grade older than you who cares... its not like your gonna be in alot of classes with them. and if they think they can kick you a** then they aren't too smart... what about teachers in school? they are just trying to scared you and they think they can just cuz they are older than you. if they haven't taken your apoligy then forget about them and pretend whatever happened didn't. just ignore them, they can do anything to you! they just think that they are tough.

Q: ok, i have a boyfriend....lets call him..alex*. I really really like him and all... but my friend..(lets call her..mandy*)is mad at him. She said i don't spend enough time with her or anything because she is always with alex. She got mad about sumthin, and said i had to choose between her or alex. I don't know what to do. I'm really confused. I don't really wanna have to choose. Is there a way i can make them both happy or sumthin? I seem to find time to hang out with two of my friends and alex.. but for some reason i cant find time to talk to mandy a lot lately... please help!!!

you don't have to pick between your boyfriend and your friends. that is totally not right, but noone likes to be forgoten. your friends prob think that you forgot about them. you should tell your boyfriend how your friends feel and he will understand that you need to have a few girls nights. boyfriends are there to help you out with anything and so are friends. you can't let them make you choose. trust me just talk to them and boyfriend... trust me it has worked b4.

Q: I am going into my junior year in school in about 2 weeks. Ever since freshman year, I have had the reputation of being the "goofball" or the "non serious" one. I think this is what caused somebody at school to always say "I hate you" and make fun of me. I never hear her say anything nice to me. Once in a while she'll be like "Oh you know I'm just kidding right?" And I'll be like "Oh yeah! I know!" It doesn't bother me that she says "I hate you" once in a while just kidding around, but it does bother me that she treats me differently than everyone else. I think she thinks it doesn't bother me because I usually just laugh it off. But it does bother me. I'd like to be friends with her without her treating me mean. I don't really want to tell her it bothers me, because that would be embarrasing to me...and her. So, what's a goofball to do?

i have the same problem. all i did was i kinda calmed down and when ppl treat me different i just don't talk back. then they don't make fun of you. and if she still does it just tell her that it bothers you. i know i cant do that but if you try to ignore her or don't talk back i'm sure shell get the point

Q: I think i'm in love with someone that's out of reach...he's too old and lives too far away. His name is .. Ricky Ullman. What should I do??

love,
hopless romantic

ricky ullman is by far the hottest guy alive! safe to say... i think you should go and dream and kiss him! lol hes good i should know! i think all you can do is dream and watch his show and look at pictures. lol

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woohoo! i finally got about to this! ok so i'm lauren! and i am always hyper unless you catch me on a bad day. even thou i'm hyper everyday i can still be serious! apparently thats when i sound smartest! haha but i know the time of firendship even thou i act like i don't.