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Q: I really need to find a job.
I started driving alone about two weeks ago, and now I need to start paying for gas and I just need more spending money.
Any ideas on ANYWHERE I could get a job?
I really dont want to work anywhere like McDonalds or fast food or waitressing.

Thanks :]

ohkay what about.

camp counseling (mostly summer job)
waitressing (ik you said you didnt want to work as a waitress BUT tips are really good. most of the time you can find a place where you keep your tips and it doesnt interfear with your normal pay check)
dairy queen or any ice cream shop
grocery store
clothing stores
animal hospital
starting your own thing like:
baby sitting
car detailing
mowing lawns
shoveling snow

hope i helped somewhat

Q: my boyfriend's going into the coast guard for a 3 year enlistment and i have some questions.

what is boot camp like? is it rough and tough or slack? will he be able to keep in contact with me while he's in there? will i be able to visit him?

when he's in the coast guards, does he get a say in where he is stationed?

other than that, can someone just tell me whatever they can about life in the coast guards?

well i have family in the military and boot camp is ROUGH. in the coast gaurd for boot camp you have to get pepper sprayed. another thing is you have to get shots but they are done by air guns not with a needle. you have to wear a certain wardrobe at al time. its not all fun and games. you do have to move alot in any military service but you get use to it. (so ive heard) you can keep in contact with him but its like controlled by the poeple working there, meaning everything might not be secured. Basically other people can read your mail. in the end of the boot camp thing like maybe a week or so they normally have family night that you can be invited to.

while talking to a friend of the family who is in the coast gaurd he said it was an awesome job, every day you come out knowing you helped someone feels great. basically what they do is go out and help people who have become lost at sea or are at any trouble out in the ocean or any water bodies. i would personally knwo but he said if anyone went into the military they should go to the coast gaurds. =)

Q: hay...
i like to read before i go to bed but i have nothing to read at the moment... i just finished my last book and cant find another to read that interests me!
i just finished reading
'missing judy' by anne cassidy and i'v also red
'lola rose' by jacqueline wilson twicw cos i really enjoyed it.
have any good books i cant read? like the ones i'v mentioned? ones i can relate to???

any of sarah dessen's books. the truth bout forever, this lullaby, and dreamland are great books by her. =)

Q: i need help really fast.

whats the order of the four harry potter movies, so far. i know "order of the phoenix" is last.

can someone put in order for me...

the sorcerors stone
chamber of secrets
prizoner and azkaban
and goblet of fire

is that the order? thnx

thats the order =)

Q: What excercizes are good for toning triceps?! please list as many as you know.

thanks :)

theres a whoel list of them at the bottom of this website. and how to do them =)

http://www.shapefit.com/triceps-exercises-reverse-grip-tricep-pushdowns.html

Q: what is it?

when air comes from your vagina. its liek a art but from your vagina.

Q: 16/f

This is a long, somewhat confusing question. I realize that it is a lot of work to figure this out so any serious answers will definately be rated appropriately. I really appreciate any advice.

For the last couple of months, I have had several 'downs' and few 'ups' with this situation. I am being harassed by girls from my school, some are "ex-friends" and others are just people who don't know me. I am wondering what is the most beneficial next step to take.

Involved People (females aged 15 to 17+):

Myself - Usually in a good mood, polite, kind to others, strongly opinionated, willing to stand up for causes which I believe in. Straight A's (with very few exceptions) and a dedicated student. Last summer I went to many parties. Strong willed, self confident and "always dressed up" describes me.

Tracey - One of my best friends, ex-best friends with Annie, used to be good friends with Danielle and Kaya.

Danielle - Last summer we were best friends, she is a "party animal," low grades, jealous of her best friend, Kaya.

Kaya - Danielle's new best friend, many insecurities, low grades, treats people badly to make herself feel better (laughing at overweight people), acts like she is amazing.

Annie - Used to be best friends with Tracey. Follows Danielle and Kaya with whatever they do.

Here is a basic timeline of the sitation for reference, I have all of the recent activity documented carefully on my computer:

November - Danielle and I got in an argument. I was talking to people at our lunch table about how I was worried about her. I also said she is friends with people then just ditches them and that I was thinking I should talk to her about it. It got back to her before I talked to her about it, she got mad and I apologized. She said tons of mean stuff to me so I ended up not talking to her for weeks. I was excluded from everything and always ended up at home doing nothing.

December - Things were great, Annie always told Tracey how much she disliked me (behind my back) but we started to become friends. At the end of the month I was excluded from "secret santa" because of my dispute with Danielle, and everyone (lunch table people) said they didn't want ME making conflict.

January - Conflicts were slightly resolved but Tracey and I noticed we were being excluded from all events and birthday parties. We started to become closer and hang out a lot.

February - Some "tough/druggie" girls attacked me, saying I "dress like a / am a tramp" and I was hit in the back of the head. I walked away from them but everyone was talking about how I "ran away crying." I still do not see why they did this and it is completely unfair. I do not dress out of the ordinary, usually - when I wear a skirt I have long legs so it looks short, but who cares anyways. I always avoid walking that way now.

March - Annie began to get mad because Tracey and I were so close. She started talking behind my back again and to Danielle and Kaya (Annie did not like Kaya at the time). Danielle, Kaya and Annie began to grow closer due to their hate of me. The 3 of them would always make plans infront of Tracey and I and purposely not invite us.

April - Danielle wrote a blog about people she hated, and I said "Honestly, do you consider me one of those people?" In reply, she went crazy and said a ton of mean things about me. She said I shouldn't bother replying because she did not want to start a "bitch fight." I was outraged, and told her to say it to my face. At school she couldn't look at me and was afraid.

April Cont - Kaya stood up for Danielle and said I was "attacking" her. I was just not letting Danielle walk all over me, I no longer wished to be friends with her and immediately stopped talking to them. I told Kaya that it was not her business. One day at lunch, Kaya and I got in a big arguement and she ended up leaving the table.

April Cont - Kaya, Danielle and Annie went to the "tough/druggie" group of girls and told them what was happening. I started to be harassed by these new girls (I will call them the hawks) and they threatened to beat me up. I backed off, feeling overwhelmed. I completely stopped talking to all of those people.

April Cont - At the same time, Tracey told Annie that she felt excluded, so Annie went against her. It was now Danielle/Kaya/Annie against Tracey and I.

May - Danielle tried to start a fight with Tracey over the computer over nothing. Pointless things continued to happen even though we weren't speaking to Danielle. I started talking to Annie and Kaya again (I regret this now) and we were fine together. I tried to be nice and work things out since the whole fight was over very little. I tried to resolve things with the "hawks" but I was still constantly stared at by them at school.

June - Tracey, myself and two of our other friends made a funny video and posted it on facebook. It wasn't about anyone it was just a pointless music video dancing around in big coats. Danielle, Kaya and Annie "copied" our video but tried to "copy our make-up, clothes and moves." They exaggerated everything and acted like completely sluts (I can honestly say that) then told everyone to "say whose is better." It was obnoxious.

June Cont - They began to harass me on MSN but I said "haha yeah you're great at being us. bye!" and blocked them. Kaya was me, Annie was Tracey and Danielle was my other best friend from the video. One day walking along the street after our friend's birthday lunch, Danielle and Kaya rode by on a bike and yelled "ugly ass sluts!" to us. We ignored them. Later on, Annie and Danielle apologized to Tracey and included me in the apology (it was never sent to me) and Tracey "accepted" their apology.

June Cont - Annie and Danielle left for a month long student exchange trip in Europe. Kaya found a new "best friend" (Ellen), whom I used to be friends with last summer but we rarely saw eachother. Kaya and Ellen posted pictures in short skirts and tanktops saying "oh ya.. this is how (my name) stands and dresses" and posted them on facebook. Kaya, Ellen, Danielle and Annie have all been put on "limited profile" for my facebook and cannot see anything except my name and a nearly blank page.

Ellen lives on my street, like a two minute walk away. She has been in many fights and now I am feeling threatened because in my honesty box on facebook, Kaya threatened that if I went to any bonfires or parties this summer that she would fight me or get other people to. Annie and Danielle are gone for three more weeks, but Ellen and Kaya are so close. In addition, they have all of the "hawks" on their side.

I have just been staying home/inside to avoid conflict and I am sick of this harassment. Please help. =(

PHew that was long, adn very confusing. alright so basically this is going to be hard but you need to tell someone that you trust an adult. its not fair that you have to stay home because your scared basically i would make sure to stand clear of them become on their good side. you dont have to be firends with them. honestly i dont knwo what else to do. if i was in that position i would feel like i couldnt do anythign cause after you tell someone then what are they going to do.. could be worse than before. so for a while at least you might have to suck it up make sure when you go somewhere you are with someone a friends family parents) just as kind of a witness i know that your parents cant always be there for you but when they can use them.

make sure your parents do know about this ordeal. it could help you they might have advice to. and if you are scared (which who wouldnt be) to go to parties then do your own thing this summer. if you can try to get away for a little while talk to your mom or dad about going ot vist family jsut to have things cool down a bit.

if that is not possible try getting a job or volenteering jsut so you have something to do this summer and your not hiding away wasting your summer completely. You can even throw your own little bash and invite close friends it doesnt have to be the part of the year and then exclude them just a friendly thing maybe a pool party or a sleep over type thing to celebrate summer. something so that you dont have to be in your house doing nothing because of this. dont let this get to your head you have a whole
summer not to worry about this USE IT.

ANOTHER THING which is not recommended but suggested (if theres a differences)is maybe its time to stop playing the good guy and sticking up for what is going on. i nnot saying ruin their life but you can make sure people knwo what is going on so there is no more people taking their side. i say this is not recommended because it could jsut blow up in your face adn make things worse but you never know. so take caution with that. but remember what they are doing to you will come around to them (karma)

when you do have to face the music when you get back to school talk to a cousulor (sp?) when you get back to school you dont have to tell on them or even gie names but ask him/her what to do. i hope ive helped some what and good luck.
=)

Q: Ok so i have acne. And the last two weeks i have done EVERYTHING that my mom has told me to do so that it would clear up. I wash my face 2 times a day and put cream on it like 2 or 3 times a day too after washing my face. And its not getting better. I keep bringing up to her about the dermatologist[sp?] and shes always like " well if you would listen to me you wouldnt have this problem" and shes seen me working my butt of just to make it go away. Does anyone have any tips to convince my mom to take me to a dermatologist becuase I really want my face to clear up before the start of school!! Anything to say to her at all will help

thanksssssssssss
promise to rate too!!:]♥

ohkay maybe the problem is your wahsing your face too much. i watched a talk show on this the other day, and they said people think they are helping themselves out when they wash their face alot when in fact they are making it worse. washing two times a day is plenty enough. when i feeel my face is getting bad i use noxzema continious clean foaming cleanser. it makes your face tingle which i always felt makes me feel its getting the job done. though thats not always the case OR an even better one is clearasil ultra deep pore treatment. ANY clearasil ultra products do good.

but anyways if you tired everything and it still not working. then have a serious conversation with your mom, not when she is shopping for food or cleaning wait til all eyes are on you and tell her why you want this A) your embarrassed B)you feel you've done everything.

also tell her what consequences (sp?) you've gotten out of this (idk how bad it is) but if poeple make fun of you, you have scars, or people look at you funny. things liek that.

also remind her the dermentoligist (sp?) is a professional and can let you know what to do and what not to do. she does it every day for a living and can help you better than the ideas that haven't worked so far.

one thing you dont want to do is get mad, yell, tell her everything she has said hasn't worked. people are more likely to talk to you when you are acting normal and calm/ mature. hope i helped you =)

Q: does anyone know how i can make my own website? like all the steps that i have to do to make one?

i dont know how well this is going to work out. but you i jut google make a free website and this is one of the things that came up. you can always invest money into a website but if your not willing to do that just yet, this is a suggestion =)

http://www.freewebspace.com/

Q: k well ive been going out with this guy since 6/19. so not that long, weve like kissed goodnight 2 times because i dont see him alot.
the 1st kiss was bad, cos i wasant expecting it so i didnt turn, the 2nd was better cos i kissed back.

i want to like go faster, like i wanna make it long, so if were still going out in sept when school starts it might be easier.

but like i get nervous like to make the 1st move so i need like tips and advice on what to doo.

pleasee help i rly like him&thankss.

just when you guys are close together. its easier to do it when its jsut you and him. idk when you guys are together or whether he comes over to your house or what but just liek if you where huggin each other and once you pull back you can lean in there. it might be hard at first jsut kind of coach yourseld through it. talk to your self (IN YOUR HEAD) saying things liek jsut lean in go for kiss him. it might seem dumb but i assure you it will help. =)

Q: Does anyone have the code for a scrollbox? I wanna put it on my myspace, but yeah. Just the code if you know it.

No links to code sites, please

TEXT HERE

the website that was the code to get a scroll. it also said to put it in all boxes that you want to have a scroll if you want to change the colors o the scroll bar you would have to go to this website:

http://www.myspace-help.com/Learning/Scrollbox.php

and then right before the box with the code it says click here for colors. or click here for border styles. =)

Q: alrighttt so i need a new straightener, because mine doesn`t really work any more the coating over the plates like wore down & you can see the metal underneath.. and when i straighten my hair it always has a wave to it because i have curly hair. i need a straightener that will get my hair pin straight. does anyone know any good brands i can buyy. price doesn't really matter.. nothing wayyy over a hundred dollars though...
thankss :)

Corioliss is a good brand. the one i have cost about 100$ and i got it in one of the keoshes in the middle of the mall. (the little stands that sells things but dont have a room)so anyways we werent going to buy it but i ended up gettin it for 15% off. but i was with my dad. i think as long as your with an adult (idk how old you are) you can get a discount at least from a keosh in a mall. just becuase most poeple arent willing to make deals with younger people including teenagers =)

Q: 15/f

i have been inlove with the same kid, for the past year. i can't get over him. and like its causing me not to have many boyfriends, because i turn them away. how do i fix this? i want to stop thinking about him, but i cant. and people always bring him up to me, like oh he talks about you, or oh he said this about you. and i dont know why they say that and its like random people. and its just uhhh. how do i fix this?

well if you like him you shoudl bring it to his atention. you might have so talk to him more hang around him (dont be too clingy) if you dont want to like him just think of his flaws. all of them this may be hard but think about what you like in guys, and what he doesn't have. for example someone who likes you and is open about it. It could be that he likes you and he is shy. you never know. another way of getting over him is looking for someone else, you dont have to have a major crush on them, just kinda of be "scouting" when you go places like beach for example instead of wishing he was there look around for what already there hah. =)

Q: i'm not all guy crazy like my friends are, i don't go to the mall and go ohh hes hott! i am not like that, even close, i dont even walk by guys and judge them. there is this kid i have kinda had my eye on this past school year but again nothing major. my best friend has been friends with him forever so he is always over her house when i am there, we go swimming at night there and its a long story but she asked him and i to go swim around the pool and flirt for a while, i was glad to cause i kinda like him. so we flirted and when it was totally dark he swam by me and pulled my bathing suit bottom and then grabbed my top(he knew my strings were double knotted so he grabbed the front like my boob)it seems bad but it wasnt and i laughed so the next night we were all swimming and we kinda flirted on our own so later i had my friend say it looks like you and ash were flirting do you like her? and i guess he said yes! i want him to ask me out but how would i like cross his line between liking me and asking me out? wat could i do?

i think you should ask him out. it shows confidence and guys liek that. or you can hint it to him. or you can tell your friend to tell him to ask you out. but i would ask him out!!! =)

ps. if you know he likes you, you know he wont say no. plus you'll feel better about yourself!

Q: i know most girls like to be called pretty or beautiful, or at least i do.. but when a guy tells me that he thinks i am pretty, what should i say back other then thank you- like do guys like to be called hott? sexy? something else? i usually say that someone is very attractive but is there somthing that guys like to be called...? thanks

for questions like this i go to the magazines (they aremy bible) haha its funny yous ay that casue earlier i was reading a article that said gusy like affection to and alot of guys said they liek to be called handsome. so yea. liek other people said normally guys aent looking for a compliment back. but if you jsut want to compliment them thats what i suggest =)

Q: ok so when ever i eat something or drink something sugary like ice cream or coffee from starbucks i get like shaky. not like hyper or anything but my body literally has tremors. what is this? it would be nice if you had any medical information on what might happening to me. cause it sfreaking me out and i just stopped eating anything with sugar in it.
thankyou any advice is wanted!

my dad and friend are diabetic. the way they found out is they were wicked shaky and then when they went to the doctors they found out thier blood sugar was too high and the hospital ran more test and found they were diabetic. Diabetes (SP?) is hereditary so if other people in your family (parent grandparnts, aunts/uncles)ANYone it is more likely you can have it. I dont know if yo knwo what having diabetes means but its like your body doesnt make (i cant spell it) inselin. and thats what keeps your blood sugar at a reasonable rage. so i would talk to your parents about family health background and then tell them and ask to make a doctors appointment =)

Q: yes actual bugs! they like swarm my computer screen at night. theyre little gnats or something.
i dont have any food next to my computer its all clean. what are they and how do i get rid of them? ive sqished like 30 of themin like the last 20 minutes! my screen is a gross bug graveyard!!

the light from the computer screen is atracting bugs make sure you close windows and doors and turn off the monitor (you dont have to shut off the computer) JUST monitor then spray bug spray around the computer but not directly on it =)

Q: okay so i just bought the book "the truth about forever" by Sarah Dessen and i was wondering..is it a good book? what were your opinions about it?
was it funny in any way? or was it boring? its seems kinda boring but i only got through the first couple of pages. any opinions would help.

thanks

That is my favorite book! in the begining she is ust getting some info, kind of back ground info so you know what going on. ive laughed while reading her books jsut cause her characters are so well explained that i can see what they are doing. its an awesome book she is also my favorite author. as long as you like the teenage love like stories you should like it.
other books by her that are good are this lullaby dream land. =)

Q: this is regarding the hair on your eyebrows

why is it that when you pluck them, somtimes theres a little black ballstuck to the bottom and somtimes its white and somtimes there is none?

its just how much you got out of your skin. the ball on the end/ the white stuff means you got the whole thing out. like you pulled out the root. if there is nothing then you jsut got the hair that you can see on the outside of your face. =)

Q: Is every piece of clothing that is made out of only cotton going to shrink?

IS there any way to prevent this from happening, and does it matter if the water is hot or cold? I have a pair of shorts that's 100 % cotton, and I want to have minimal shrinking when I wash them, so what should I do?

Thanks

Wash in cold water. clothes shrink in hot. and when drying them dont let them dry completely let them to get where they are damp and then hang them up to dry. =)

bio

heyy my name is samantha. I like to help anyone who needs it. I don't have alot of experience in some of the categories, but if you drop a question in my inbox and I don't know the answer ill be sure to find it one way or another. And no question is dumb so don't not ask something cause you feel that way!!! =)