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I used to weight around 55 kilos and now i weight 72!!! I drink alot of alochol so its hard to loose weight with a doctor.
I just need tips on excersing !! and diets, stuff like that. How much calories do I burn if I excersie for how long
I also need tips on eating and such! Thanks heaps =] (link)
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Okay so I lost some weight recently By doing this,.....
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-Most of It is to simply cut down on unnatural sugar. Like candy or ice cream. I know it cam be a big sacrifice but I'm not saying completly no more. Just cut down to, one piece of candy a day if not any.
-Cut down on trans fat. Look at the label on everything you buy pakaged. If it says 0g trans fat, then go ahead and eat it! If it says 1g look at the serving size. If it's 'in one serving' it's fine. The reason is because trans fat is the fat that makes you gain weight. Wrestlers and macho men eat the protien bars that are FILLED with trans fat to gain weight to be in a higher weight class or what not. So stay as far away from trans fat as possible!! :)
-Base your diet off of fruits and vegies. I know that's not what you want to hear but do it. It keeps you from gaining weight and will help you with keeping your weight down. There are some fruits I hear that burn calories while eating them. I'm not sure if it's a myth or not so google that. Sorry I couldn't help with that part though. But yeah eat green. Green vegies and fruits are filled with chloraphyl which makes it green. The chloraphyl has a protien that keeps bad stuff (like fats) and things that are not needed in your body out.
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also a way to LOOSE weight is to exersise. Lots of exercise. Even if it's just jogging in place it helps. I understand you don't have alot of time so I won't suggest joining a sport. But what you can do is go to your local gym about everyother day or at least 2 or 3 times a week. This will help you loose weight. It May not seem like it's working but give it a week or two. The more you do it the quicker and more weight you loose. I did this and went every day for two weeks an lost 10 pounds quick. Swimming is also a good way because it burns alot of calories doing laps and what not. Also if you do laps for about 45 minutes then just play water basketball or something for 15 min. (so you will have been swimming and keeping your Jody active for about an hr. You will he quite tired. Get dressed and go home and sleep. You will sleep really good and for a while. Sleeping burns calories too. It's the reason you weigh less in the morning then a t night. If you spend two hours at the gym everytime you go you will see improvements. Playing basketball and jumping rope is a great way too!
I'm sorry this was super long but I figure it should help pretty good!!! :) if you need anything else just inbox me!!!
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Well i'm 21 f and my bf(24)and i may be expecting. i like the idea as does he. so having a baby isn't really my problem telling our parents is. we haven't been a couple too long like a year. but we were friends before that for a year and we are plannning to get married. but my family is old fashioned and will be unhappy about a baby witch is stressing me out. and his parents still like and love his ex so they won't be pleased either. i'm really stressed and my bf tells me to calm down since i'm only 2 weeks late he says we should be sure before we stress the situation. can anyone offer some words of wisdom or give me some way to tell my parents and his that won't blow up in my face thank you (link)
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Well like the answer below me said..
You've got to make sure you are pregnant. Since you are two weeks past you should be able to take a pregnancy test and it be accurate. So if it turns out positive.... Trust your instincts. First of all if your parents would dissaprove, tell them you are going to geT married because you love each other so much. Then maybe a week later tell them you are pregnant. If they know you are planning on getting married they will warm up to the idea you are pregnant so much better. My step-sister was in this same situation except she was 20. I told her to tell our parents they wanted to get married first and they felt a lot better knowing she was pregnant. If they know you are pregnant first, then you tell them later that you are going to get married their automatic conclusion will be that you are only getting married because you are pregnant and they wouldn't apporve of that very much. So tell them you are engaged and then wait a week or two until you tell them because you won't be judged as much. Hope this helped and when I said that you should wait about two weeks I said that because if you waib longer you will start to show that you are pregnant. And do what you and your boyfriend think is right. :)
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so i'm 18 and a girl. I'm not really a "party thrower".. i mean i have thrown parties before like birthday parties and such but none of them have been amazing or memorable. they've all been "blah" i guess you could say.
after my 16th birthday, i decided never to throw a party again because i tried to plan a great sweet 16 party but it turned out in a disaster, only 4 people showed up and my mom was chaperone and was very controlling about how loud the music was and what we were doing etc.
but my best friend convinced me to throw a new years eve party coming up soon. So my question is, how do i throw an unforgettable party? i already invited about 10-13 people and majority of people said yes. so that's around 9 people. what should i do to make it a blast? parents will be here with their friends too. so no alcohol or smoking. i'm not into that. my best friend and i are getting together soon to make a party music playlist. what else should i do? i don't really have anything in mind..
if you've thrown a successful party and it was really fun and people loved it, what did you do? please give me some tips and ideas :)
PS: I live up north so there's a lot of snow here and its very cold. and we wouldn't be allowed to leave my house either. majority of people are 17-18 years old, boys and girls.
thank you! (link)
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Lots of decorations! Some decorations that would be good would be:
Christmas lights
balloons
streamers
funky lamps and what not
cool table cloths to cover your tables.
FOOD!!!:
cheetos
chips (lots of different kinds)
soda pop (coke,pepsi, diet coke and pepsi, sprite. Dr. Pepper, mountain dew, root beer, fanta.
Candy is always good!
And you have to have a tv off to the corner with a couch and maybe a few chairs. You can have music and dancing at one part and the tv off to the other part. You should watchthe ball drop on NBC I think it is at midnight. Get pArty gags like the things you blow o. That sound like a horn and stuff haha. Play games like spin the bottle (hugs, kissing, or w.e you are comfy with) 7 min in heaven, truth or dare, piñatas are always fun, and you could go outside and sled or something: if you have a LOT of snow, you could make a hugggeee snowman or some other snow things. That's always fun.
Lots of music too! LOTS! no one likes a party that hAs the same 20 songs playing over and over haha. Hope this helped!
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I really want to call Selena Gomez cell phone number and talk to her. I only want Selena Gomez's real phone number.
I loved her as Mikayla in Hannah Montana and she is just as awesome as Alex Russo in Wizards of Waverly Place. And I just (link)
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Well her actuall cell phone number isn going to be avavailible to just anyone. But celebrities have this number called a say now number. Have you heard soulja boys song kiss me thru the phone? Well he said his number is (678)999-8212 and if you call it it is his say now number. You can leave him a meassage or in your case Selena gomez with your number and she will call you back. She is one of many celebrities that actually does call you back. Her number for saynow is : (214) 306-9590Â . Hope this helped. I gave Demi lovato to see if it worked and she called me back! It was amazing! Also if you want her fan e mail address and her other email, inbox me a questions and I'll give you them
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is it wrong to be fingered at age thirteen? (link)
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Sweety asking these questions will give you an opinion no fact haha. If youthink you or this person is mentally ready and or phsically ready to be fingered then you think that. I personally know people who were pregnant when they were 12 because their body was ready and they had their periods and horamone. And stuff. So whatever you think :)
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I am 22 years. my periods is very irregular. like 2 or 3 months after.some times i have to take tablets.then my periods will start.bt somedays ago i have sex with my boyfrnd.but i think still i am virgin.bcoz he didn't try to make my hole big & i didn't feel any pain at that time.he just put his penni on the place.i'm very wooried.on that case is there any possibility to b com pregnant.my last periods was 8th nov.bt very light in colour & flow. (link)
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There is a possibility that you are pregnant if his sperm got inside you. But that is a small chance since he didn't go inside you. Hah. Well since you have very irregular periods that is most Likly the reason why you haven't had your period yet. If you worry about it coming and thinking it won't come, it'll take longer to get there. Were you using a condom? If you were it's almost impossiblethat you are pregnant. So just wait. It'll come but if you are extremely worried take a pregnancy test because it will let you know for sure. Hope this helps. Inbox me a question if you want more info. And help. :)
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I can't remember the name of this song...does anyone know? I don't know the exact lyrics but its something like:
And i thought of all the bad stuff and all the troubles we went through, how i found me and you found you.
Its kind of a slow song if that helps..
thanks so much! (link)
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Heart or the matter I am pretty sure. :)
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There's this guy that I really like & I've been having dreams about him & he's the only thing I can think about. School let out & I was in the band room & his best friend, we'll call him Bob, & my crush, we'll call him Nate, are in there getting their instruments & Bob comes up to me & is like: Nate wants to know if you wanted to go out with him. I told Bob yes & he told Nate & Nate doesn't say anything. He just leaves! What is this? (link)
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Well this is common. Nate probably felt embarrassed to stay in there. If you have phones text or call him. Tell him that you are glad he aske you out cuz you really like him. If he seems shy just ask him about himself he willlove to tell you about that. Ask him why he left when you feel comfortable. Let me know how it turns out please! Email me girl! :) go to my collumn and I'll help you with any other questions you have with guys!!! :)
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I am 18 and my sister is 16. In a weak moment, I told her what I had done with my ex boyfriend sexually. (It was right after he and I broke up, and my sister asked me what I had done with him sexually. I told her.) My boyfriend and I dated for over a year; we didn't have sex, but I did give him a hand job in my living room on a rare occasion when he slept over one night.
My sister ended up telling my mom and my younger brother this information months later when she was mad at me...which would be what happened today. This may not seem like a big deal, but I am ashamed that she would betray my trust, and at the secret I told her itself. I would like to think of myself as a pretty innocent girl, and this is why this behavior is considered uncharacteristic of me to my mom and brother, although it is probably very normal among teenage couples. I was not really sexually attracted to my boyfriend, but I felt pressured to satisfy him since we were together for so long. My sister didn't tell my mom and brother this info. because it made her uncomfortable- no, she told on me to try and make herself look better, and to try and get me in trouble and use it against me, although I told her in confidence that she wouldn't tell anyone.
How do I handle this situation with my mom, brother, and sister? I am ashamed at myself for trusting my sister, who has proven to be more immature than I thought she was. She has gone farther sexually than I have, yet she tried to make me look bad for a mistake of the past. She is only every concerned with me when she can get something out of the bargain, and she doesn't value our relationship as sisters. I am ready to disown her as my sister at this point.
My younger brother is 13, and when he heard what I had done with my ex boyfriend, he shunned me and is still acting like he wants nothing to do with me. My mom didn't say much, but I can tell she is disappointed in me, which is understandable. What should I do about this situation? I feel so guilty knowing that my family thinks less of me, and I am so angry at my sister for betraying me when she said she wouldn't tell anyone. I didn't realize until now that she probably only asked me what I had done to form blackmail to use later... (link)
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It may be true that she did that, and i am sorry that she crossed that line. I think you should confront her and tell her that you trusted her with the information you gave her, and you are very disappointed. Ask her what she got out of telling your family that. Satisfaction? What made her want to tell them so badly, So that she could get you in trouble and feel GOOD about her SELF? Its what my brother used to do with me. It is kind of a guilt thing and then it makes you feel bad about it. I am not saying make her feel like crap, just see what she says when she answers your questions. Also you could ask her what she would feel like if you went and told your parents what she has done sexually, it would probably make her feel embarrased..like you feel. Let her know you feel like that and you don't like it at ALL. If she says that she wouldn't care if you told them..well read my last method at the bottom. :) Tell your family what you said here...
"I was not really sexually attracted to my boyfriend, but I felt pressured to satisfy him since we were together for so long."
That will let them know that at least. Tell them that you know they are disappointed in you but it isn't like they have never done it before. Remind them that you are 18, still a virgin, but you are a girl. You have horamones just like everyone else and that you are proud of yourself for saying no to SEX up to this point. There may or may not have been times that you could have been in a situation that you could have gone into sexual activity but you didn't. If none of this works...
LAST RESORT: (mentioned above)
There is always the way of telling your parents what your sister has done, which is like revenge. *I* would personally feel like doing this but then again it makes you less of a person because you had to go down to her level. So i wouldn't necessarily suggest this one. But it may end up here.
I hope this helped a lot! :) please feedback and let me know what you think!!!! :D
If you need anything else at all, Please inbox me or e-mail me!
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i've been wanting one of the north face jackets, but honestly, right now, i'm not willing to spend close to 200 dollars on one.
i've been looking on ebay for some really cheap, but i'm having no luck at all.
does anybody else know of a website where i can find one? or maybe a store that sells them cheaper? (link)
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Well no one that sells them in store will sell them less than the price of what it is in retail....but you could always check a thrift store. (probably not :P) There are a lot of knock-off brands like:
-Columbia (
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Hello , so okay i'm so scared , I told him before I didn't want anything to do with a blowjob or sex right ? so okay we hung out and so , he started to undress me , and he later wanted a blowjob so what else... I went down on him okay and he cummed in my mouth but he was feeling his thing at the same time and later he used that same hand to go up me and im so scared and later I was on his shaft bare but wasn't on his head where it was cumming I kept saying no and then by accident he just touched and it wasnt cum .. but when I got home I put my finger up and seen clear liquidy with white stuff in it , pregant please help me
thank you ,
betty (link)
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its ok, if he had his sperm on his fingers and he fingered you, yes you could be pregnant. by the way this sounds, your not. but the white clear liquidy stuff that you saw in you was most likely your own cum. you got sexually excited so u wet yourself by cumming. it is natural. just wait and see if your period comes late or not. i have had this scare and my period was two days late. i got so scared so i got a pregnancy test and it said negative. i still wasnt sure because my period was late, i also knew if you take a pregnancy test too soon then it will say negative or positive without accuracy. so i waited for my period to come. it didnt. it had been 5 days. my period was 5 days late! i thought i was pregnant so i went to the doctor. he said that the reason my period was late was because of my anxisity with the whole pergancy thing. i had gotten so worried that i might be pregnant my body statred to act like i was so my period came late. the next day i got my period! so its okay, just hold it out. if you feel like you are pregnant, go to the doctor. if you take a pregnancy test only a week after this happens, then it wont be accurate most likely. so either wait until your period comes, (so you know you cant be pregnant) get a pregnancy test two weeks after this happened, or go to the doctor if you really want to know. most importantly, dont worry about it. try to foget the fact you may be pregnant. if you do, you will feel so much better about the whole situation. hope this helped! :) please feedback! :)
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Because im pregnant now my grandma dnt want my boyfriend and I dating anymore. I don't think its fair. I love my boyfriend we been together 4 7 months now and I dont think thats fair. How can I help this issue. . . Please I wanna run away but im tired of running away from my problems i guess its time for me to fix it now because it becomes way worse in the end ..... someone PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Okay so tell her that you are pregnant. Tell her that it would he very hard to have a baby and have no father to support a child with you. Unless you plan to give it up for adoption, tell her. Just be like "grandma, I know you don't want me to stay with my boyfriend, but he got me pregnant. I don't think it would be a good thing if I left him, it would make it very hard for me to raise a child by myself. Unless you plan on taking care of my child for about half o her life instead if my boyfriend, I think we should stay together. Also with out him I know I wouldn't have enough money to let this child have a good life. I'm not disrespecting you, I just want what best for the child and for us." how this helped.. Please feedback! :)
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i havent started my period and i havent ever had sex why havent i started? (link)
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How ever old you are it's fine. I didn't get mine untill I was 14, I thought there was something wrong with me because I had pubic hair and underarm hair and I had cramps and almost evry simptom, so I thought I wouldn't ever get it. It's so annoying so just enjoy your time with out it because you lay say you want it(like I did) but you don't. You get sick alot, get headaches, and you have to be carful on the certain day. You have it. Also, people tart any where from ages 8-18 so dot worry. If you play sports or are phisically involved in anything that requires alot o body movement everyday... You'll get it later probably. That's why I didn't get mine till 14. But don't quit if you are, it won't come any quicker becasue of the actions and things you have done inthe past it will delay it as much as it already has . Continue to do sports if you are in them and enjoy it. If your not, talk to your mom and see when she started, you will probably start around the same time but maybe not. Hope this helps! If you need anything or have any more questions ask me directly !! :) good luck!! -Kaiya
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i have yellow spoting in my panty and wight stuff comeing out so what, should i do (link)
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Sweetie, it's probably a Sign of your first period. This started to happen to me about a year or two before I had my first period. If it's staining, I suggest that you wear sone pantie liners so it won't get on your panties. If they don't feel omfortable to you, just carry them around with you incase your period does start. The white stuff coming out onto your panties is called discharge. The discharge is just a way that your body cleans out it's inside. When I say the inside I lean your vagina. It gets 'dirty' and your body feels the need to clean it out. It will happen more often each day/week. Just carry around sone pads or put some in your locker or purse so you are always preparred. If you need anything else or have any questions ask directly to me and I'll be happy to answer anything. It's normal for this to happen, it happens to every girl And it's COMPLETLY normal to have questions. So ask me anything at all if you need to! :)) good luck girl! -Kaiya
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Does anyone know what the thesis is in Obama's "A More Perfect Union" speech? (link)
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Well, in the constitution it was written that "The constitution will help form a more perfect union" in the preamble. that is bascailly saying it will help us have a better government than we have had before. Obama was saying he truly believes that he should go by this as one of his strongest aspects becasue he really wants to help our government to be better than it has been.
Hope this helps :)
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This girl I'm friends with started calling me her "bestie" today at lunch. She said something like "You know what, Bestie? You're the greatest." I don't really know what that means? What does it mean when somebody calls you their bestie? Or besty, maybe? I don't know? (link)
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bestie is a nickname people give you when thy called you their best friend. That's all it means
when she says that. Like hey best friend..... But instead she says bestie
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I'm a junior in high school btw. Do you think I should skip the volleyball game tonight to do homework? Cause of volleyball I've gotten really behind on homework to the point where I'm failing 3 classes. I know I'm intelligent enough to get As in everything but its just hard because I have to go to volleyball practice at 6 or 7 am and school starts at 8. And then after school most days of the week I have games and they usually last til 8pm. Coming back that late and having to do Honors and Dual Credit classes is crazy especially since I'm not used to that schedule. I took all these hard classes this year that I know I'm smart enough to do but Im having trouble adjusting to. And ugh.. I've already missed one day of school trying to make up homework last week. I am afraid maybe my coach would get mad if I say I want to stay home to do homework but idk.. I have so much to do tonight and I'm soon going to school and I still dont have all my work done cause Im trying to catch up. I dont know what to do.. I cant tell my parents cause they'll make me quit volleyball and I cant imagine quitting cause its my favorite sport.. but in this situation you think I should ask my coach if I could miss the game tonight? Im afraid about consequences though..
Ugh and then even at home I get distracted so easily. Like the day I missed school to do work I ended up barely getting anything done. I've had procrastination issues for years and I deluded myself into thinking I could suddenly overcome them this year and I just feel mad at myself.. like why do I keep doing it! I keep getting distracted and it doesnt help I have less time to do work cause of vball. Like my school year started in August and most days I get 3-6 hours of sleep everyday. Today I got 4 hours of sleep. Its horrible and it just keeps repeating. I fcked up sophomore year with crap like this so how can I fix it this time? Whenever I talk about my issues with this to my parents they dont really help and just make me feel worse.. like when im home i procrastinate to get my mind off things during the day. and if i was stressed out during the day cause i didnt get work done due to procrastination then that just becomes a repeating cycle.
I have big dreams how can I stop procrastinating once and for all. I cant say Im smart when my low grades are saying otherwise cause i cant get my crap together. Im in dual credit (college classes)classes in school so I have access to the college. do you think i should try asking a tutor there or something about my problems too??
thanks so much if you can help (link)
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Hun, your not the only one :). This happens/happened to me alot. I am a cheerleader and everyday have practice till 6 and games don't end till 8 and competitions... Ughh don't get me started. But I am in love with it, just as with you and volleyball. Don't quit anything... In high school I dropped an AP class that I wish now I didn't because in collage it would cut my classes down. What I did was talked to mycoach. If you talk to your coach about how much homework and everything you have going on he will understand. Go to your game tonight because it's too late to back out now. If you talk to your coach about maybe missing one practice a week, so you don't fail your classes, he should understand. If not say once everyother week. Academics always come before athletics in school, so your coach should understand. He can't do anything to you because you asked! :)
If this does not work with your coach talk to your pricipal. I remember all my teachers worring about me because they knew what I was capable of. In alot of schools if you fail classes you can't be on the team. Hoped this helped, please rate and give me word feedback so I know how I am doing! :)
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Well im 13 and well ive been masturbating for yearssss like well yuo know how babys, they like "touch themselves" well i figured out the masturbating thing when i was like 5. i didnt know it was an orgasam.... duhhh cuz i was five. but i dont think im normal. Am i? and could this happen to other people too?? (link)
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You are deffinatl normal, I was like this too actually!!! ;) I did it when I was 4 or 5 but I didn't finger myself, I just rubbed it alot! :) haha so it's fine were alot alike actually!!!! :)))) if you need any thing else or want to talk inbox me of become my friend!! :)))
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i am on an anitbiotic right now and to let you know the 8th of july is when i got my period it was normal five days then it went brwon and it went away on the 17th the next day im bleeding blood like a period and it lasted like a day its light now going away. but i was just wondering why it came again and for such a short period of time. (link)
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if you have just started your period like within the past year it will be irregular. if you have just started and you had regular periods it still can be irregular. if you have been having it for a while and it has been regular then I'm not sure what it could be. its okay though. if you have just started then its going to be irregular. hope this helped! :) if you need anything else just inbox me!!
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Okay sooo heres my dilema. I get my hair hilighted. When I was little I had like white blonde hair but as i got older it got darker. My mom lets me get my hair highlighted and it looks nice and does lighten my hair a lot but it's still not blonde blonde. I want my hair even lighter but my mom won't let me dye my whole head because she thinks it's to many chmicals and its so much of a hassle yada yada, I don't agree with her but whatever haha.
So I was wondering if I could make my hair lighter naturally but I have a few questions...
First of all, I don't wanna use sun in and everyone has heard of using lemon juice but I have heard that it is actually bad for your hair and not good to, use so those two are out. I just heard about using chamomile tea in your hair which would lighten it. So here's my question: has anyone heard of using chamomile? Is it good for your hair/does it work? And better yet, does anyone have any personal experience with this? And one more thing, will using chamomile affect my already color treated hair? Cause i do already have highlights in so i was wondering if that they would be affected or turn a weird color or something.
Okay, sorry this was sooo long. But thanks so much in advance to whoever answers, hopefully someone knows some of the answers to my million questions :) (link)
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Ok this is a way. Get lemon juice and put it in ur hair all over. Go outside and lay in the sun where all o your hair get sun. It makes it lighter like blondish!! :) if you need anythig else lemme no an inbox me!
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