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Any picture i try to put as my profile pic do not fit. I try to print screen it then cut it and save as a jpeg, but when i print screen it, nothing happens, and it is already a jpeg file. Once again, how can i make my picture fit the requirements?
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ahh i just had this problem yesterday. go to tinypic.com, then upload the picture and take the url, or you can do that on photobucket, whichever you prefer :]
yeah all this advice has helped.. But I can't meet up in the day with him because he is grounded. So Meeting at night is the only way I can see him and he is un grounded when i go on holiday and I want to see him before I go.. So What can I do?.
ohhhh that changes things. and there is no possible way for him to come closer so you dont have to go all the way there alone? i suggest trying to ride your bike or something, rollerblade? any way that you arent just walking. park your bike on the side of the house during the day so at night you wont have to make all this noise. if you dont have a bike try rollerblades. and you know carrying something to protect yourself would help. keep a cell phone with you and try carrying pepper spray. also, carrying a keep works, my mom taught me to keep one key out of all your keys on the key ring between your fingers, and if someone tries to hurt you, gauge them somewhere on the face with it, maybe even the neck. carry a small flashlight to use if you hear something or have to go through a dark alley way. also, tell one of your friends where your going and that you know theres a pervert out there, so if something happens they know to tell the cops or your parents. just make sure your prepared and you should be fine :]
I'm female and 14 years old. My Boyfriend is 15, nearly 16.
Okay, this is quite a weird question bt i need help as soon as possible. Basically, he wants me to sneak out tonight and meet up with him. The problem is there has recently been a pervert around who grabbed a girl in my school near to where i live. I am scared that he could grab me when i go tonight, coz it will be around 1 in the morning and dark. It will take about 5 - 10 minutes until I will meet my boyfriend. So i have a 5 minute walk or even a bit longer on my own in the dark along some roads to him. I don't like the dark much as it is and I am petrified about this pervert.. I can't get my boyfriend to come to my house, and this is the closest I can meet him but I hate walking on my own in the dark. I want to go.. But i am really scared about what could happen.. and then my parents may wake up and realize i have gone and i will be in lots of trouble.. so then i won't be able to see my boyfriend coz I will probably be grounded. So what would you do? Would you go? Or what could I tell my boyfriend why I can't? or should i talk to him about it? I want to go, but just my parents could find out and then there is the walking on my own for 5 minutes in the dark knowing a pervert could jump out.. I am scared stiff, but i do want to go.. Help? xx
trust me dont go! that is the worst thing to do. why cant you two just hang out during the day, minus the perverts. tell your boyfriend that you really want to meet him, but tell him about the pervert that took a girl at night around your neighberhood. dont take a chance with this, its too dangerous. tell him you dont want to risk not seeing him for one night where your going to be scared to death, you dont want to get grounded.
hope that helps a little :]
any pointers on how i should make a move on my boyfriend when we're alone at the movie theatre?
well since he's your boyfriend, you already know he wants to do something with you, so your already past the hardest part!
just get touchy with him you know? just touch his hands, give him signals like that to let him know you didnt really come to the movie to watch the movie.
hope that helps you out at least a little. just go with the flow of things. :]
there's this kid that i met over the summer. hes a friend of a friend's ex boyfriend. lol. anyway whenever we see each other he hugs me and tells me i look nice even if i look crappy. i want to get to know him better. the most we've ever talked was over myspace and the conversations are pretty much "hey whats up?" "nm you?" "nm just got back from work." "thats cool". im going to get his screen name tomarrow for aim but i dont know what i should say. i dont want to be to aggressive and play 20 questions.
---what are some good questions that are going to really tell me what kind of person he is?
well if this kid is doing the things you say he is, he obviously wants to get to know you too, so its not as awkward for you.
you dont need to ask questions on aim, thats not really a good idea. you talk about things with him. like you say hey whatsup then the usual blah happens, then you can say wowww we need to hang out soon, i wanna see you. and if he says the same then you make plans.
thats when you get to know him. in person, not over aim or myspace. you do not want a cyber relationship with him, trust me i tried that, it does not work at allll. ask questions in person, when he starts getting flirty, ask him obvious questions like so hows your love life these days, then that shows him your liking him.
hope that helps you out :]
ok so today i hungout with the guy i like
im not normally a shy person
but when i like you i totally am!
and of course thats how i was today.
i brought my friend with me cause i new it would be silence if it was me and him. we hung out at the mall
went to some stores
walked around and then went to the movies
and saw a movie. so im glad we did that so that way i didnt have to talk. but like everything was so awkward and i felt bad cause it must of been awkward for him as much at it was for me
and now im at home and i feel like the biggest idiot for not being myself and i seriously dont know what to do. i was being myslef with what i said but me being me is fun and outgoing and always talking but when im around the guy i like im like a totally different person and i HATE it!
anything i can do to like not make him think im this big loser. like i need to talk to him
cause he didnt respond back to my text and that hurts more too cause i feel like he doesnt want to talk to me agian..
ahh it sounds like im over reacting but seriously just help me.
(dont say anything mean eiether(: )
ahh i have the same problem of shyness around guys i think are cute or i like.
if you have the mans phone number, call him! who cares about texts, calling is easier to get everything out. call him or talk to him on the computer, just say something like this: hey i know i was kind of shy and not myself when we were hanging out, but its hard when im hanging out with someone so cute.
you dont have to be shy when talknig to him over the phone or the computer, because your not even face to face, if he's nice and the right guy for you he'll understand.
i know your freaking out, i get that way when i get embarrased around crushes, but you get over it and make jokes about it, just pretend like hes a good friend of yours, and dont let your feelings show, just flirt a little like you would with any guy friend and youll be fine!
hope this helps :]
I'm a junior now. I've gone through at least one guy/relationship each year. One really hurt me.
I'm in a new relationship now. This guy is amazing, so sweet and funny. We are really open with each other and it's so different from my other relationships. I can't believe it lasted to 5 months. It's almost 6 months now and it's scaring me. I don't know how to get rid of this.. feeling..fear. I'm so scared that it's going to hurt really badly if this ends.. because I feel as though I'm too attached already. And since this relationship is without any abuse of some sort [verbal] it's the best I have ever had. I'm just worrying over things and trying to prepare myself. But I'm tired of doing this. One of my past relationships lasted over a year but I was still "with" the guy for another year or so, just not official, if you know what I mean. :/ 8th grade to the middle of 10th grade. And he hurt me so bad throughout the years and I'm afraid it's going to hurt worse in this relationship.
I don't know why I'm suddenly having this fear. I've dated 7 people and he's the first guy to actually treat me right.. and listen to me. He's patient and kind, he's actually willing to watch disney/chick flicks with me .. he doesn't make fun of me. He tries to make me smile and laugh.. and he tries to see me as much as he can.
It just seems too good. We haven't had any fights either. I'm not one to fight and in my opinion, I don't think it's healthy. For my relationships I guess. Others? Sure.. My friends always push the idea on me that fighting is a must in a relationship. They try to make me feel like our relationship is somewhat flawed.. and it makes me think that they are jealous sometimes.. because they always pick fights with their boyfriends.
How do I get rid of these worries?
WOWW he sounds like a great guy. first let me tell you, dont listen to your friends at all. not fighting is good for you, it leaves you less stressed. i know im younger than you but i still hope i can help
i know your scared of long term relationships because of past experiences, but you should try not to let it effect you and your really good relationship. i know its hard but you'll eventually work up to it.
if you and your current boyfriend are so open, then sit down with him and explain to him your past experiences in relationships, and how you didnt know how you got so lucky with him, but how you fear the broken heart and losing him.
if he treats you right like you told everyone on here, then he's not gonna break your heart. trust me, tell him that your loving how he treats you so well, but tell him your fears arent because of him, its because of such a long relationship and past experiences. hope i helped out a little :]
ok so i like this kid [k] and everybody has been telling him that i like hiim. he told my friend that i was pretty but he thinks of me as a really good friend. and thats fine, if friends is the only thing we could be then its fine for me. but a while ago, during a b-ball, which him and i were in. [different teams of course], but before his game we would flirt like crazy, we would sit next to each other, take pics of each other, and i loved it, but i didnt like him then. we dont see each other anymore, except for occationally like at a pool party that is possiply coming up, or a party which i was going to go to but cant anymore, im so disapointed. anyway, my friend told him that i really dont like him like that just as friends ya know? and hes like "yaaa i know" you could tell he was trying to talk to his friends, but that he rreally acnoledged it. now [k] isnt the kind of boy that blows ya off, hes sweet and really caring, hes the kind that cares about you, what your doing, and compliments you alot. but when i commented him on myspace, for the first time, he never replyed back. its been about 3 weeks and i dont know, i dont want to comment him again, bc i dont know, it will look like im trying to hard. but i jsut really want to know you opion and can you just put yourself in my shoes to see what to do haa sorryits so long. neway, thanks for reading!
aw its not that long dont worry.
this kid sounds like a really nice kid. DONT LET MYSPACE GET YOU ALL WORKED UP. first of all maybe he hasnt been on in a while, or maybe he did go on after a while and he had a lot of comments and didnt see yours, that happens to me alll the time.
dont work yourself up over a little thing like that. he's not blowing you off. if he has a screen name, i/m him and just be like hey. you dont need to bring up the myspace thing. comment him again if its been two weeks, be like hey, how's life? or something that he can answer too.
trust me youll be fine. i dont know your age but i've been worried about myspace, sometimes its just a coincidence that they dont see it, youll be fine! its only myspace and there are other ways of talking to him, like the phone. hope that helps you out a little :]
Why is it whan i take a picture it looks really bad but when i lok at myself in the mirrori see myself as somewhat pretty???????
it's probably just your camera! i advise that you just ask one of your friends to borrow their camera or have them take a good picture of you. :]
I just saw this movie now. The original one, from 1970 something. I know this isn't asking for "advice", but I really want to know..
What happened at the very end after the priests died? Were the mom & daughter moving out because of the weird stuff? or were they going to live with the father in Europe?
Anyone's opinions are appreciated. :]
& thank you in advance.
ahh thats one of my favorite movies. well obviously the priest got the demon in him and jumped out the window, so the demon would die and not be able to effect the girl again. the mom and daughter moved out because they feared where they lived and they didnt want anything like that happening again. and im not sure if they went to europe. the second movie might answer that one. :]
17/f
okay i have a problem talking to adults. i'm fine talking with my friends or with my parents but for some reason whenever i talk to other adults i choke. like i studder and can't think of the words to say. it's very frustrating because i don't want them to think i'm dumb i just get nervous talking to them. but i'm not nervous of them or scared of them or anything like that it's just talking to them. please help!!!
let's see, i think the solution to your problem is to just stand there. dont start a conversation or anything until they ask you questions, you know? just make your talk short and sweet, avoiding the studder. if you get frustrated and it shows, just be like sorry, im a little shy and this talking to people gets me kind of nervous, dont be afraid to tell them because that can start a conversation, older adults are more understanding then you think. hope that helps you :]
Okay, this is VERY long, and I'm sorry. But I really need some advice, and maybe just some way to have people listen to me.
I'm 16 and live in Canada
When I was about 8, My parents divorced, which ment i would have to move from a small town into a large city. on top of that, my best, and only friend "H" Moved from there to another province very far away. I was really messed up. by age ten i was cutting, but i was always a smart kid, so i did it on placed nobody would see. I never saw "H" for 8 years, but We kept in contact, MSn, Phone, all that sort of stuff. and I missed out on So much. her sweet 16. all her hard breakups. we never had nights of crashing on each others couchs, throwing food into each others mouths. and I always felt like "I should be there, this is'nt fair!" But our friendship Did grow, because of it's trials, and eventually I stopped cutting. Now, I'm sixteen. I serve as the "advice man" for my group of friends. So to me, That means i'm not allowed to cry, or want to be held or loved, I just need to give to them,and help them. because if I'm weak. Then they can't depend on me anymore, I'm not strong enough, and they need me to be there. Cause alot of them have some REAL issues. But that means when I need help, or need to cry. I have noone, and i feel weak doing it. like i failed them all. Last fall, i tried to kill Myself. Over dosed on Pain Killers. one of my friends came to the hospital, left saying "i'm hungry, don't wanna stay here" and another(the only one who came and stayed) talked about her weekend and how her neck hurt, without really seeming to notice that i had just tried to end my life. she said she knew i was'nt oaky that day.. adn i wondered 'well, if you knew everything was'nt okay, why did you leave me alone?"
One of my friends has a drug problem and severe depression.she calls me her guardian angel because of all i do for her. yet often, when I try to help, she just goes back into it, because she wanted to try a new drug. as if nothing i did for her had mattered.
As a birthday gift, my dad bought my tickets to go see "H" and i spent a week there. i had a great time. but H has had a rough life. after she moved, she developed a strong distaste for human physical contact. while I, growing up afraid of losing the things I cared for, grew to show my care for them through alot of physical contact. so while i was there, I made her a bit uncomfortable(unintentionally), and i'm really afraid I hurt her enough that she does'nt want me to come again. I wish I could let her know I never did anything trying to her her, Only trying to show that she means the entire world to me, and I would have never lasted this long without her, but she's withdrawn and i'm afraid our friendship is ruined. I feel worthless, because I'm so used to having her there, and knowing what goodbye means this time, That I am going through heck. I'm afraid i'll never see her again. and I miss her so much, cause she's gotton me through the worst times in my life, and I love her. I woke up to her watching me sleep this morning, and tonightr i sleep thousands of miles away from her
I have feelings for "h" beyond friendship, but she has a BF, and I know it would be wrong to act on them. but It hurts alot because i have them and wish i could just show her and she'd feel the same. and I know thats wrong, and i feel it's betraying our 10 year long friendship.
I'm the oldest of four boys, so alot of the pressure is put on me.i'm the "good one" the one that'll go to university, all that stuff. and I really dunno if I can do it.
and worst of all. I feel I'm in the wrong Body. that I should be a woman. and I don't ruhs into this, I've spend the last coupel years learning about this since i realized what i had been feeling happens to others, and there was even treatment. but i'm afraid of my parents reaction, if "H" could ever care for me as a woman, if i'm wrong, I transition, and then I realize it. and worse, I know the only thing keeping me Back is me, because, without that fear, I might have already done it. I'm my own worst enemy. mayeb that just i really care about this, because if i did'nt i would'nt be afraid
To sum up what I need advice on:
What do i do to ease this pain of leaving "H"(i've been crying all day), not feel so bad about betraying her friendship(deal with loving her, without it hurting, knowing i'll never be with her)
How can I learn to help my friends, but also let myself need their help sometimes?
How can I talk to my parents about how i'm going to transition, even if they don't like it?
And generally, I think i just need some cheering up, and some way to feel like i'm cared for, and that who i am matters, that people still care about me and I am loved as well?
Please Help me, I'm at my wits end, and I don't know what to do.
Solemnstar
ok wow. this was really interesting to read. i mean i thought i had some things bad, but you never really realize what some people go through. ok well im here to help you. ok about "H", she sounds like a great person, and its hard that you love her so much, but she lives so far away and doesnt even know. first off, i think you should eventually tell "h" soon that you really care about her more than a friend. tell her you know she has a boyfriend, but that doesnt stop your feelings, neither does the miles that seperate you. honestly? i think you know that you and "h" can never be, and thats why your crying. but that cant stop you from living your life. i know love is hard and everything, but you have to be real. it sounds like you could have a great life ahead of you, but your letting her stop you from achieving happiness. you need to be more open with other girls and guys too make new friends. there are other girls or guys out there. you'll eventually get over "h" no matter how much pain youll go through. cutting is not the answer. so you should stop that now, it makes it even worse. it sounds like your a great friend and you help all of them, but you need to learn to let your feelings out to your friends, not to random people on advicenators, even though it does help. you need to tell them the things your telling everyone on here. they can help you through things in person, not over a computer. and about the transition, you should come clean with your parents. dont come out and ask for it, simply talk to them about your feelings, and ease up to maybe considering it. if they cant deal with it, find a family member that can help. one thing you cant do: do nottt yell at your parents, no matter what they say about it, it only makes everything worse. dont let this make things hard between you and your parents, because they love you with all of their hearts, but they probably wont expect this coming from you. i really hope i help, and i know things will be better for you because you sound like a really caring and thoughtful person with a bright future ahead of you. :]
So I inherited the lovely gene of oily skin from my dad and with it being summer its gotten even worse. There hasn't been a morning where there isn't a swimming pool of oil on my face. I read in Allure magazine that there are lotions and such you can put on your face to prevent lots of oil coming out of your skin. I don't recall it giving any product names so I was hoping you guys can recommend some good anti-oil face washes and/or cremes that work well for really oily skin.
Thanks!
ahh i dont know of any washes or creams. but i use these oil absorbing sheets by clean and clear, you just use them on your face every morning while your getting ready, and it turns like a different color showing its taking the oil off your skin. hope that helps your problem? :]
okay so i am going to be a freshman in september. i am really scared, whats freshman year like? do the sophmores, juniors and seniors torture you?! what happenes on freshman friday?
another question, how do i make new friends? that might sound like a stupid question but, im shy. how do i become friends with some of the other freshman, sophmores, juniors or seniors? i want high school to be the best years of my life!
thanks for the helpp!!! =]
woww. you sound exactly like i did before my freshman year! trust me dont sweat it. i know im only a sophomore, but im still experienced. no one tortures you, you just hear: wow stupid freshman or hey freshie. but mostly in a joking matter. you make new friends that are in your classes, thats what i did. i also met a lot of people from my already close friends, just be yourself and dont try and be all cool and act older. trust me. your high school years will be the best years of your life. just watch out on the last day of school, because everyone gets shaving creamed and tortured on the last day, not only freshman. hope i helped :]
15 female
this is really long and i'm sorry !
okay so my friend Derek was having people over to swim one day but my friend Melissa was over that hes never met before and i asked if it would be okay if i brought her along with me since she was spending the night. He had no problem with it so we went over there to swim along with a few other friends.
i introduced Melissa to everyone there. after a while Derek and Melissa started flirting a lot. and i didn't really think much of it because when i first met Derek he acted the same way towards me. plus i was glad Melissa was getting along with people there.
Then that night Derek called Melissa to talk cause he was really bored and hyper. They ended up talking for about 2 hours.
Two days later the exact same thing happened. we went over to Derek's to swim ( because he has people over a lot ) and again Melissa was at my house and i asked if it was okay if she came along again. of coarse he had to problem with it. They flirted a lot again. When we got home Derek told me to tell Melissa to call him. They only talked for a little because he was really tired and didn't sleep the night before. Now today we were supposed to hang out again but we couldn't because stuff came up. They have been talking on the phone all day..
The thing is - Derek has a girlfriend and they have been going out for 6 months. Derek's girlfriend has been on vacation for the past 3 weeks thats why she hasn't been around. I know he loves her a lottt. but for some reason when him and Melissa were in the middle of talking on the phone his girlfriend calls him and he flashes over and they only talk for 5 minutes. Then he says he will call her back later (but doesn't tell her why) then he calls Melissa right back and they keep talking foreverrr. Then im like "shouldn't you be calling your girlfriend back now ?" and hes just like "shhhhhhh"
Then they were talking on aim. She admitted to him that she likes him. Hes like you know i have a girlfriend ive been going out with her for 6 months and i like her a lot! and shes like yeah i know. hes like you are fun to be around you are cool funny nice and hot...lol but i do have a girl friend and i like you but i have a girlfriend and i like her a lottt.
Derek's girlfriend and i are good friends i don't want her to hate me because of this. its not like i meant for this to happen. i really don't want things to get out of hand.
i feel really bad for introducing them. i dont know if i should tell melissa to stop talking to derek or what ? im afriad if they do keep talking as much as they have been derek will begin to like melissa even more. and maybe go for her instead.
someone please help.
hmm wow. this is very complicated here. first let me tell you, its not your fault at all. if derek is flirting with all these girls, maybe he and his current girlfriend arent even meant to be. maybe he is looking for someone else, but doesnt want to break her heart, so maybe this is doing something good. its better that derek would break up with his girlfriend, instead of "cheating" on her by flirting with melissa and other girls. if he talks to melissa for 2 hours and his girlfriend for 5 minutes, you can tell who he cares about more. he has seen melissa more than his girlfriend in the past three months, yet he wants to talk to melissa more. i think you should tell derek that he should tell his girlfriend about the problem or you will. you need to tell her what you told everyone on here. tell her that you never meant for anything to happen, it just all happened on coincidence. and if she hates you for something like this. she isnt a real good friend now is she? maybe six months is too long for their relationship to last, maybe its time for it to end and for them to find other people. he may really really like his girlfriend a lot, but if he really really cared about her, he wouldnt be flirting and talking to girls for hours. sorry this is really long, but i hope i helped :]