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hey, what's up


my name's hollan, i'm 14 years old. i'm young, but i have been through alot and will probably beable to answer your questions(:


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www.myspace.com/johnvaughn_hollanchapman



i'm really nice, and i can try to help any of you


ask me, and i'll try my best to get back to you(:

advice

Are there any dances like the Soulja Boy dance or the Cupid Shuffle? They have to be appropriate for kids cause im doing this kids night out things and its really just baby sitting a bunch of 10 year olds and we need some fun dances to rap songs. Thanks to anyone who answers.

pop, lock & drop it maybe...?




will smith too

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My 10 year old sister has a 13 year old friend and that friend is a complete girly girl and she constantly talks about her crushes (she can have 16 crushes at one time) her make up her clothes her nail polish blah blah blah now my sister is a tomboy and im not girly but im not tomboy and my sister kinda thinks its weird that her friend likes all that kind of stuff but her friend is always saying when your 13 you will feel this way and blah blah blah blah blah blah and my sister really will not feel that way ever thats not the way she is she start throwing a fit whenever mom wants her to go to the mall with us and she plays football and goes to school in those basketball shorts and long t-shirts and baseball caps she isnt going to change much in 3 years and she really wants her friend to stop saying all that stuff because its not true and you know that teenager feel like they know best and stuff but she is acting really stupid my sister just wants her to stop what should my sister do thanks to whoever answers this

the next time she says that, just say something like we'll see in about 3 years. or just agree with her for her satisfaction.

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ok so i have been friends with this girl sence she moved her in fifth grade. and i have been frieneds with the other girl since like pre-kay and the sad thing is we got in a fight over the summer and in the middle of the school year we all made up were alll best friends well tahst what i thought but every time i wanna hang out with my best friend the one ive known since 5th grade well she says yeah and the day we are supposed to shes with my other best friend and they never tell me when were supposed to go see a movie they tell me im comeing with them but then they dont call me to tell me what time they are goign an dthen they call me in the movie and say oh we forgot about u sorry i forgive them and now shes like getting on my nerves adn its not fair how they ditch me every time and they are supposed to be my bfflas and they arent really??i have no clue what my question is but why are they still mad at m ei have not done wronge to them even in the fight it was them ganing up on me!some friends riight?

bestfriends fight, forgive, fight, forgive.


try bringing another friend into yalls group because i'll just tell that three never works in any situation.

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ok so my friend is like 17 and she has this cousin who's 30 and he keeps tapping her on the butt and hip and kissing her on the cheek every so often and saying he loves her. Problem is, she feels the same way. Now he's never done anything more than that and they've always been close but my friend is confused. She doesn't love him like family but like, well, u know, she's in love with him. She told me about it a few weeks ago and she doesn't know what to do. problem is, neither do I. Any answer would b helpful. She knows loving her cousin that way is wrong but isn't sure what 2 do.

love is love



everyone deserves to find love and happiness.


if they just like the idea of someone loving them, then later on they will probably go there seperate ways.

but if they can't control their feelings, then we'll see what happens.

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I have a guy friend, let's call him Joe. Joe and me talk quite frequently, and we just started this thing where we walk to class together sometimes. I want to know how to flirt without going overboard. Keep in mind that I'm not going to change myself to match his interests, and I know the whole speech about being myself. I just need some simple, foolproof tips that he can pick up on. He's very shy, and isn't one of those guys that flirts with every girl.

We already talk between passing period in the hall, but today, I was walking to Art, and he actually went out of his way to walk with me. :) Also, I'm not asking to be his girlfriend [although it would be nice], I just want to get 'closer' to him.

don't act stupid and giddy like most girls do in front of boys.



talk to him like he's one of your girlfriends.







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ok..this is kind of a weird question..but i was supposed to start my period LAST wednesday..and its a week later. ive been under alot of mental and emotional stress lately, but i still had bad cramps, yelled at people, cried for no reason, ate icecream..etc. and i know im not pregnant bc i havnt had sex in a year. i eat fairly healthy, but am on alot of prescrips for a cold..whats wrong with me??

yeah, you are definatley starting your period soon.

don't worry, nothing's wrong with you.


that happens to me all the time.


moody,cramps,craving, and all that fun stuff are signs that you'll be starting in the next few days.

just be prepared for it.

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hi 14/f
ok i have been on and off with this guy and im over him well thats what i thought...he isnt over me he takes my pic that is on my best friends binder ok and he stole all of them and i was like freak and hes like why are you mad at me and he over reacts ok me and him have never kissed ok!and well he said he wanted to go to the movies with me and my best friend and her bf but her and her bf broke up!ok so he said well thats ok they didn't need to come i mean me and you would just makein out and what not so i laughed i thought he was joking so he asked if i wanted to go this Friday... but i have a date!kinda im meeting this guy i met on myspace!(don't say that i should meet this guy bc im not asking you that ok!!)well i told him i couldnt but what if hes at the movies when i go to meet this guy!i will feel really bad bc hes my best friend and i dont see him as a boy friend any more bc hes a player!like hes a realy big player!so im not in to him at all and i just can't say taht to him bc it will crush him ahh hes my bestie and i feelso bad about it!

tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship right now. if he's really your friend, he'll understand. but if he doesn't, then hopefully he'll get over it.

or just simply tell him that you're not into him because you don't want to be just another hook up.

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ok let me tell you a story about me and this guy
ok im 14/f and hes like 12/mor13/m idk but we have pe together and hes perfect

ok hes just how perfect he is!

1.perfect smile
2.perfect body(not that i have seen it lol)
3.sadly perfectly taken!
4.perfect hair
5.perfect flirter
6.perfect friends
7.perfectly kissable
8.perfectly hot
9.perfectly amazing at sports
10.perfectly easy to talk to!

ok lets get to the story
ok well form the first day i saw him last year i thought he was cute. ok so this year i just happen to be in his pe class and wow!its amazing!he sits there and will smile at me and one time he winked im not one to brag or be so head over heels about a guy but ahh i like him so much!and i think he likes me too but at the time when he was single i was taken but an asshole :] but he was going to ask me out but i didnt know it at the time so . i didnt do any thing but know im not taken and he is and i want ot ask him out his friend says he still likes me but he likes his gf too and his gf is kinda mean to me and she makes him do all kinda a stuff for her:\ and its not fair for him

so should i wait for mr.perfect or should i juts steal her or should i just get over him?

you should wait for him. trying to steal him from his girlfriend will just cause drama. if he wants you bad enough, he'll make a move. don't plan your relationships around him, it will end up back-firing and you'll regret it.


tell me how it works out if you put my advice into action



:)

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Hey,
I live in manitoba, in canada, and its freezing here right now. Last week I was outside without a hat on and my ear got really red, and hurt alittle, but it stopped hurting after about twenty minutes. I was alittle worried about frostbite, so I started wearing my hat. Today it was super cold (-45C, I dont know what that is in F sorry :P) and I think that even though I was wearing my hat, I got frostbite. Last time the soreness went away right away, but its been about nine hours since I went out and it still hurts when I touch it. I know its not severe, but is there anything I should be doing to treat it, or will it heal itself?
Thanks for the help!
-Ange

gradually warm it

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Anyone know where I can get these boots:

http://i28.tinypic.com/sfiaz4.jpg


or similar ones?

I've been looking EVERYWHERE.

probably somewhere like journeys

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Well I'm in love with piercings...but my parents say I have to wait until I'm 16. Fair enough.
I'm 15 in January.
We'll, a lot of people I hang around with and talk to, are getting piercings and I am so jealous and feel left out.
I only have my lobes and one at the top of my ear.
How can i convince my parents to let me get at least one more piercing before I'm 16?

Thanks :)

i've been through this w/ my parents.



say something like you understand if you start changing how you act and your interests and stuff, but you just want a piercing,and that wouldn't change who you are or wh you hanf oujt with.

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okay, what i want to do is dye my hair firetruck red with the tips green for christmas... i've already done the firetruck red using loreal permanint hair dye... now i want to do this as cheaply as humanly possible. my idea is to go ahead and re-dye my hair the red... then peroxide the tips, and do kool aid with the green, so i can easily change it later. i've been dying my hair crazy colors for over 6 years now, so i'm not afraid to mix things up, but i haven't found any GOOD advice on how to do the tips.... don't tell me not to do it... i know it isn't exactly cooth to do it this way, but i've always wanted to try it. positive feedback would me very appriciated, thank you for your time.

yeah, i've heard that koolaid works.


you should go for it, it can't hurt anything.

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Hi 14/m i am starting to dress scene is it ok to wear a clip on lip ring and a magnetic stud? Or wil i prolly get sh*t for it-how could i make it look like i really have my lip and ear pierced and if i just get them pierced wil it be permant? Thanks 4 any help

personally, i think that's totally hot.


but, you just might be called a poser or worse things if they are fake. now in pictures, no one has to know.


you should go ahead and get it pierced, i know for sure that your ear hole will grown in, i'm guessing that your lip would too.

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I am not a cutter but I have cut myself. Only a few times im not addicted. i have self-injured myself as well. My one best friend knows because she used to and i felt very comfortable telling her. my other best friend used to as well and im going to tell her too. she goes to my school though shes older but she will be able to help me even more. im kind of preppy and usually outgoing and happy. dont think im like an 'emo' or w/e. i want to know why i should stop because I know it isnt good but it helps me and just because its different doesnt neccasarily mean its bad-does it?

i know hurting myself isnt the right way too but i never cut deep or a lot and i don't self injury myself any more than mildly. its how i deal with stress and being upset. sumtimes i write but other times i dont have time to sit there and write i need immediate relief. thats what i think of it as-relief. quick, easy, relief. and it helps. i want to stop but in another way actually i dont.

im afraid to tell my bf because i dont want him to think something is wrong with me even tho he works at a teen youth center helping kids with addictions. he still might not want to date me-just be friends.

i have a lot im dealing with and thats just the way i do. my parents dont know either and they would freak if they knew. it isnt on my arms i have a couple on my stomach and a couple on my leg. 2 on my arm but you cant tell they were intentional cuts. i like seeing them and knowing that they represent what im dealing with. it comforts me. any suggestions or advice? i want to know why its bad and what else to do thats quick and easy. it feels like it isnt bad and doesnt really hurt me. it doesnt endanger me so why worry? i guess thats what i think. i at first (i just started last week anyway) i thought of myself as a 'cutter' but now im almost ok with it and just think of myself as a girl dealing with her emotion and problems in her own way.
Thanks so much!
f/14

that seriously sounds like i wrote that whole thing. i know exactly what you're talking about. i did and i still do sometimes. my parents found out and took me right to a psyciatrist, i felt like a psyco, and i didn't want to be there. but later on, i felt that it helped me stop myself. you said you don't do this that much, but writing, or finding some way to vent would probably help.

or even just getting away from eveyone and going running or something t keep your mind off of it.

i don't have much advice for you and i'm sorry about that, but i feel like i'm going through what you are too, and i open to talk about anything if you ever need someone.

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Hi i am a 17/F i have been a bisexual for 5 years now and i want to tell my parents but i dont know how? im afraid of their reaction. also People give me and my gf shit all the time how can i deal with out kickin ass

hey, some of my friends are going through the same thing.

when you feel ready and comfortable enough to tell your parents, whichever parent you are closer to, will learn to accept you for you. i know everyone else is probably saying the same thing, but you can't help the way yu feel, and everyone deserves a shot at love.


screw all the haters. i know it's hard hearing people talk shit behind your back and everyone stares at you and stuff. but as long as you know what you want, don't let them get in the way of that.

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I was wondering, can dogs feel your emotions? I know it's probably a stupid question but the other day, I yelled at my puppy for pooping in the house & gave him a little spanky. He ran off but couple minutes later, I got bad news about my friend and I started crying and even though he knew I was mad at him, he came by me and started licking me and snuggling by me. So, can dogs feel your emotions?

i think they can.


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i know everyone hates these, but i really need a song about being hurt, particularly in a relationship/by another person. i broke up with my boyfriend, but it was because he really hurt me.

maybe something saying how everything was perfect, then it was all screwed up so quick.. still feelin the pain and dont know what to do.. i dont know.

id love a slower song, but not slow slow if possible.

i like rock.. seether, madina lake, breaking benjamin, creed, etc...

thanks its appreciated

hey.

you might want to try never alone by barlowgirl



or never alone by superchick

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