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Give me some tips on getting a boyfirend or knowing if a guy likes me? How do i get a guys attention? I need help!! (link)
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hey.
i think you're feeling like, most of your friends have one..and you feel kinda "leftout" right?? no need to be rushing for a boyfriend. i definitely agree with the guy below me, it doesn't seem like YOU actually want one. I've been single all my life so far. and i'm 14 yrs.old going into my sophmore year. AND TRUST ME.. if you're not in highschool it's wayyy better to stay single. because alot of guys will be coming after you.[i have experience]...lol..and most of the time you feel like you don't want to be tied down. Just flirt and be yourself...
well if you honestly think you WANT a boyfriend then just laugh alot, smile, BE YOURSELF, act as if you're with your bestfriend, and most of all have CONFIDENCE..because if you want someone..you deserve to have them!!!
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okay so i have this really old sn and its getting totally boring but i cant think of any!any ideas? heres some info about me.............
my name is emily, ppl call me em tho
i am crazy (in a good way :]) i like to dance, cheer
it can have any thing in it, but i want it to be fun!
thank u soo much :] (link)
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kay i have some ideas...i'm kinda crazy like you[in a good way] so ...how about:
1)YoIt'sEmm
2)xxDanceWithEMxx
3}psshxxEMxxaHOttiE
4)DuRRiT'sEMyo
5}FahhREAliT'SEm
i personally love them all...i'd pick any..LOL..
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i am going to a party the 23rd and on myspace 4 girls that i thought were really nice and everything are plotting something to ruin my reputation, i don't no what to do but they think i'm a boystealer i mean i'm really not i just hang out with guys all the time because my sisters always did because they used to say how much easier it is to be friends with guys then girls and i like it too. But should i go to the party i mean its the first time ill get to see all my friends all summer and i usually just don't cheat myself of having fun. But please helP!!! i really don't want a bad reputation going into the high school!!!!! (link)
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oh definitely, ur sisters are so right. boys are way much more easier to become friends with than girls. i mean, i'm a girl and everything,, but they just cause too much drama..on a daily basis. but anyways, YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY GO!!!!...you get to hangout with your friends..and have a great time. yea, at first whatever they spread about you,is gonna hurt but,...it's all jealousy. strut your stuff...lol...work it..!!!! have fun..and be carefree.
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who nos good ways to start convos w/ boys who like sorts and r funny aka the guy i like (link)
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oh. boys like when ur funny. don't worry making some1 laugh isn't as hard as some ppl. think. juss talk about a teacher.. or like comment on him about his appearance , yet in a flirtacious kind of way. For example: "your hair, was lookin a bit rough today, but it was cute and i liked it that way." some thing like that. TRUST me you'll do fine. I'm STILL nervous about talking to my crush these days,but how i look at is, I WANT SOMETHING,, I'M GONNA GO FOR IT!!.. and in end you'll be satisfied!!
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Ok I think he likes me but I'm not totally sure.I turned him down caus of my friends.I was just lacking cofidence.But now I'm not completely sure just what to say.Any sugjuesttions?Plus I have to call him and my ma don't like him or me dating.So I NEED HELP! (link)
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you should DEFINITELY stick with him. because if you don't you'll end up regretting it. and if your friends were your real friends they would encourage you, and want you to be happy. i had a friend that was like that towards me before. i liked this boy, and she didn't want me to go out with him, because of her reasons. And i should've followed my heart. Instead, i felt bad, and missed a great oppurtunity with a great guy. so don't make the same mistake i did...take chances...live,laugh, and love.
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there is this party tonight and i want to tell my crush i like him. i m pretty sure he likes me back.
is this stupid? should i wait? WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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you should definitely tell him! Yes, sometimes we are all afraid of hearing the truth, but that's what ,makes up stronger! And if he says he doesn't like you back, just know that he had his chance and it's time to move on to someone who's worth your time and since you're almost completely sure, most likely he'll say he likes you too. I don't think that's stupid at all. i see it like this: YOU WANT SOMETHING, AND YOU'RE GOING FOR IT!!!!! ..tell me how it goes..need any more help feel free to write me in my [[InBoX]]..kay =]
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this guy REALLY likes me like he called me beautiful and stuff but i REALLY don't have feelings for him at all. and it seems like the more he talks to me and tells me he likes me, the more turned off i get, and the more i like this other guy.
now, the guy that likes me told me he liked me AFTER i told him i liked someone else... so i dont know why he told me. but he did. and he asked me for my cell number & he doesn't text... which is pretty much the only thing a cell phone is USED for... and he called me and he was like, hey i'd really like to talk to you and i mean i feel bad and everything but dude, he's becoming sort of obsessed with me. like the moment i get on my instant messenger, he IMs me.
i just REALLY need some space. i've been trying to avoid going on as much as possible, saying i'm busy etc. and only limiting to talking to him in school, but idk it's just really hard cause of all this guilt.
he KNOWS that i like someone else that's not him cause i told him, but he still tells me he would like to kiss me, thinks i'm beautiful and wants to go to the 8th grade dance with me but i really don't like him beyond friends.
the TRUTH is, i only asked him for his screen name cause i thought he was friends with my crush! it turned out horrible, and NOT what i wanted. cause now my crush's so called friend now DIGS me and my crush still doesn't like me!
please help me? i can't just tell him to lay off cause that would really hurt him.
xo (link)
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the best thing to do, is just tell him "to be friends." yes, this will probably break his heart, and crush him into pieces,but this is what he needs to hear,the truth. The truth may hurt, but if he can't get a clue...then this is the last option. i'm sorry, i couldn't give you more advice on this, but this is the only advice that will work.
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okay so my boyfriend calls my best friend all the time and i'm fine with it but i was talking with his best friend in the hall and he flipped out on his friend telling him to stay away from me..i feel bad and i dont want my boyfriend to think im fine with him walking all over me but what do i say to him?
thx! (link)
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You need to set things straight with him. You know that he's calling your best friend, and your okay with it. because you trust him AND your best friend. so why can't he trust you? you need to tell him that, your allowed to have friends even if they're boys and he should put more trust in his best friend and you. and that no matter what, your heart belongs to him.
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14/f
So i know this story may sound selfish but i cant help it! My bestfriend( known her since 2nd grade got closer in high school) is bestfriends with this other girl(name=chy) she meant like ONE MONTH ago and i dont mind that but everytime i make plans with my bestfriend shes like ohh sorry im hanging out with chy. im like ok .. then like in school ill ask her to hangout when shes free and she will say CAN CHY COME ill be like umm i cant go and like i make it obvious i dont like chy because chy never liked me( and ive told my bestfriend this but shes like oh) ughh.! and my bestfriends computer is broken so she tells me to go check it for her and i do and i realized that her top is :: HER COUSIN, CHY, HER SISTER,ME
i didnt tell her this cause i think its stupid.
and i just cant stop but be jealous of their friendship. How do i get over this?
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ok. this has happened MANY times w/ my previous friendships. you should definitely talk to your best friend. Ask her "why doesn't she hang out w/you anymore?" don't mention anything about chy. because then, it would seem like you ARE jealous, then your best friend would start attacking you!![NOT PHYSICALLY] if she makes up some excuse like,"oh i'm hanging out w/ chy!" or something related to that, then you should ask her why does she like hanging out with chy more than she does with you, especially since you knew her since 2nd grade!!! if you need anymore advice, or need help, feel free to INBOX ME. =]
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I've become this depressed slump in the pass couple of months and there's no one to blame but myself.
I let selfish feelings take over and I got attached.
My mind is eating itself up and everytime I seem to open my mouth, no one seems to care.
I don't even care anymore.
The thoughts I have are stupid and fuckin pathetic.
But I can't control them, Or hide them like I use to. I need a release. But I don't have one anymore. Hanging out doesn't work, going to shows doesn't work, Writing doesn't work - Everything I write is an added complaint to the last thing I wrote.
I feel like I bring everyone down when they're around me.
I'm mad. And I feel like no one cares... And the people that do seem to care, I just can't bring myself to open up to them. So yet again, this is all my fault.
Sometimes I get too stressed and end up crying. I can't control it anymore.
Other days I feel like destroying everything in my sight... Luckily, I can still control that.
I wonder how long I will be able to.
I actually had this feeling not too long ago and it's 1 am in the morning.
I'm scared of what's coming. I no longer have school to keep my mind busy.
Graduating should be a great experience. But it wasn't.
I still can't stop thinking about him... I fell in love. How could I have let this happen again?
Why do I get attached to people and always end up getting hurt?
It's an endless cycle and I don't know how to kill it.
It hurts. Everything hurts, and I don't know how to kill this pain.
I need something, but I'm not sure what it is.
I'm not sure of anything anymore. (link)
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it seems like everyone has a point in their life, where everything seems to be going downhill. Well the best thing to help you be less- depressed would be excercising. excercising, can help your body feel a better and look better. i remember when i use to be depressed,and i thought no one cared. but it was the excercise , that hepled. and the key to being depressed is NOT laughing. just a couple yrs. ago i barely ever laughed, but when i laughed it seemed like the grass was a little greener, and the sun was a bit brighter. Or you could even take up a hobby. do something you enjoy, or fine relaxing, such as reading, or even yoga.
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okay... so theres a guy... hes just like totally hot! i've been crushing since primary school nd i've been thinking about telling him that i like him but i dont know if i should. bcoz if i do, he'll probably think im a freak/werdo! lol. i was actually thinking of writing him an anonymous letter or something. but that could lead to complications. :(. i dont know wht to do.
thnx. (link)
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i think you should stick w/ the anonymus letter thing. that way, he wouldn't know it was you, who sent it to him. and if he doesn't like the letter, it could save you from alot of embarrasment.
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my 17th birday is coming up and i have NO clue what to ask for. what are some good ideas please. money isnt a problem. =] (please dont tell me makeup, clothes, or typical things. thankkss) (link)
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there's always a kid's dream = car..uhhh
ipod? mp3? psp? i would say money, but money ain't a thang. a new cell or a cell if you don't have one. that's all i got.. sorry =[
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ok...so at my work there's a really nice guy that everyone likes and i just found out he has a crush on me. then the other day he started asking me out to the movies and stuff and i would absolutely love to except im 17 a nd hes 24 and i dont know if it would be worth the risk. OH by the way my dad is our boss. and the last thing i want is for him to find out im going out with one of his employees whos over 20. i mean i actually really do like him but, Should i risk it? (link)
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You should definitely go for it!! If you do, just make sure he doesn't try to lay his hands on you. just because he's 7 yrs. older than you doesn't mean he has the right to hurt you in any physically means. and since your dad is the boss, becareful, and try to keep your relationship on the down low. So basically you should risk it. and if the relationship carries on for about a month or more, or it starts to get serious, i think your father has the right to know. But then again it's your decision, so you can tell him when the time is right for the both of you.
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15/f.
I'm in the 9th grade and I really like this guy. Well, V-day passed and I didn't even bother asking him out or anything....and he didn't make a move either. I know that he likes me as much as I like him. Should I wait for him to make a move? and meanwhile, dress a little more...em..."open?" and flirt around to attract attention..?..or should I just ask him out? :S :S :S (link)
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NO. You should not wait for him to make a move.you shouldn't dress a little more "open" you wouldn't want him to think you were some kind of slut or something. Just keep doing what you're doing that made him attracted to you =]. so i'm definitely going with you should DEFINITELY ask him out. why wait, when this could turn out to be a good relationship? LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE!!!
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hey im 15/f
okay i had a dance yesterday. before thedance we all went to eat with me, my date and other people/ the dinner was really fun. cause i actually got to talk to me date and friends at the same time. and we talked alot. i dont know if i like my date or not but i mean i dont hate him or love him.. Anyways the dinner was fun. then we went to the dance, but the dance was pretty horrible.cause we all didnt do much and we just stood around lol. he just started jokingly grinding on me or just put his hands around me when we just stood.
so sicne we got bored, we decided to go to this girls house named jennifer. it was her , her date, and 5 other people including me and my date. before we went to her house , we all started walking around on the roads and talking. idk. my date randomly put his arm around my friend kelly, but i was like oh well. cause it wasnt like big huggin or anything, and i was like what the heck. then i dont know.. then when i was walking with him and kelly, he moved over to the other side to walk with her.but maybe he didn't mean to do it, and maybe i was just thinking too much in my head. (sry i might sound like.. annoying and picky and shit. haha)
so thwen we got to jennifers house.. and she and her bf starte making out. and this other girl started making out with hers. me , my date, and my friend were laying on the bed. my date was laying next to kelly. and i was laying by her too. i know its not a big deal... but he started putting her arms around her and iwas just there being all what the hell. later he said that he wanted 2 girls by him so i went to the other side by him. then when i told him to scoot over cause i was falling, he told me to lay on him so i wouldnt fall. then he put his arms around me.
then kelly's mom decided to take me and my date home. kelly was in the car too. i was laying on date then he put his arms on my head. then when i left he hugged me goodbye.
i dontk now. its kind of confusing... but do you think my date liked kelly? or was he just being friendly? cause it was kind of annoying. cause i know him more and my friend just met him,. i dont like him in THAT way, buti ts still annoying when your date just starts to hug your friend randomly. but him being all friendly to hermade me like him more. :D but its still .. yeah all fuzzy in my head.
Thanks :D
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I definitely think your date likes kelly. Just think. if you were his date, wasn't he suppose to interact with you? yea, he could talk to other ppl. but, it just seemed weird, how your date was feeling on kelly. and it seemed way too much of a touch, for it to be a friendly kind. ex. say, if that was your boyfriend, would you let him touch kelly that? I wouldn't... lol
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Recently my parents asked me if it would be ok for us to move. The place we would be moving to is in the same state but its about 45 mins to an hour away from where i live now. Atfirst it was a deffinate no for me but then I started thinking about how it might be able to help me. lately ive been really depressed and not happy with my life and i have started to drink atleast 2 or three times a week this past week i drank every night. The reason that is holding me back from moving Is that I think I will miss my friends so much i will just get more depressed
what should i do help please! (link)
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I think it would be best if you'd move.your probably depressed because of your surroundings. so maybe you need to expand your horizons. This move will probably help you get better, and hopefully you'll stop drinking. and just think, you'll still be able to visit your friends. and there's always the phone. and you guys can probably talk on myspace if you guys have one or on another online service. it'll be hard to get use to the new move. but it'll be to your benefit once you get use to it!!
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My friend and I are good friends. But sometimes I'll catch my friend staring at me, and staring at me like she's mesmorized or something. It's not just that she stares at me, but she's stares at my boobs, at least that what I think, because it doesnt look likes shes looking at my face. Shes next to me all the time like in a give me some space kind of thing. Is she crushin on me or what.. ?
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i don't think she's crushin on you. i just think she's obssesed with your body. like for example a girl may find a guy attractive but, she may not even have one bit of a feeling for him. If it's creeping you out, i think you should tell her your a bit of uncomfortable with the way she looks at you. Or this also may be jealousy. she may love the way your body looks so much, the only thing she does is stare at you.
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Well I got this problem, I really like this boy and sometime he flirts with me. Im asking what flirting can I do or how can I turn him on in a way that he can see that it don't matter that he's white and Im black. Im 16 and a female (link)
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ok. well since this boy is flirting with you i don't really think he cares either. you could argue with him.. that's pretty good. you could also tell him how cute he looks.
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"Ok please no funny answers and I want to know if Keisha is overreacting. Today at work Keisha was down on her hands and knees rearranging the cabinets in the work area and Keishas butt (rear end/booty) was sticking up in the air. Ginny (a coworker) passed by and said; Gee your butt looks big; This upset Keisha so she went over and asked; Ginny do you really think my butt is big; and Ginny replied (smiling the whole time); Well it must been the angle because you look fine standing up. I was joking.; Keisha said; But do you think my butt is big; Ginny replied; No; But this still bothered Keisha, however, Keisha didnt say anything and about a half hour later Ginny asked Keisha if she was ok and Keisha said; well it still bothers me; Keisha said; If your butt was big I wouldnt joke around like that. One never says something like that to someone who has a big butt; Keisha agreed and walked away. Throughout the day Ginny kept telling Keisha she was joking; However, about two hours later Ginny said to Keisha; I was joking; you have to gain; I was joking; MY QUESTION: DO YOU THINK KEISHA IS OVERREACTING; AND (2) WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THE ENTIRE CONVERSATION (0THER THAN SAYING IT IS SILLY) (KEEP IN MIND LAST WEEK ANOTHER COWORKER SAID TO KEISHA YOU ARE SO SKINNY DONT YOU EAT)" (link)
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i think keisha LOVES the attention. after ginny had said keisha's butt was big, she didn't say " shut up" or" stop being silly" she just asked about her body because she's probably conceited. and loves her body being complimented.well that's my opinion!!
1) was she happy or mad when she asked ginny those questions?
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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KAY..you sound really confused. so you're basically saying that you and your current boyfriend aren't having the relationship you both started out with ..right? well tell your boyfriend that maybe you guys need some space.i'm not telling you to break up with him, i'm just saying maybe both of you guys have to figure out what you really want.like is it worth it? or are you guys wasting your time? your EX sounds like a really nice guy. You guys should defintitely start out as friends.like hang out,talk on the phone, IM.stuff like that. and then meanwhile your boyfriend should figure out what he wants. ask him when the time is right..
1) why are you lying to me?
2)do you really want to be with me?(ask it like you mean it)
3)and finally ask him do you think we're wasting eachother's time!
oh and it is possible that maybe he MIGHT be lying to you because he wants to break up,but not necessarily i COULD be wrong.
and you have a right to be happy you know! you have only one life and you should LIVE IT!!!!! =]
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