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Hi my name is Alex. Im 17 and going to be a Senior in high school. I am extremely outgoing and spirited. i love to laugh, smile, and have a great time. i am a huge sports fanatic. my friends tell me a lot cuz im a great listener as well as an advice giver, especially on love, family, and friends. hope my advice can affect you in some way :)

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well there's this guy i like..and we've dated before and we always seem to fight now but we're the best of friends..well today we got in a big fight..and i told him i didn't want to hang out with him again this summer (we don't live in the same town) and he's like w/e and he got all mad at me..later i told him i was sorry and i still want to hang out with him and he's like yeah right and than i got an e-mail from him and it was this chain that he sent to me and it said that like he will always be there for me and everything and how i'm a great friend..but later he sent me a message when i wasn't there and it said i hate you (one time i was talking about someone hating me and he said "who could hate you"). so it kills me to know that he hates me. and he pretty much said that he could never hate me. i have no idea what happened..cause we always kid about that stuff be he didn't say he was kidding or anything..i'm soo worried about our friendship now..and i didn't even do anything..i love this kid right to death and i would do anything for him..i never knew how much the words "i hate you" could feel until you hear it from the one person you would do anything in this world for..even give up your life for them to keep living. it hurt me so bad..and i just want to tell him but i don't know if i can even express to him how much it hurt me. please help me..i just want to know what to say to him..i know it's really what i feel i should say but i need some help. i rate high! please help me! i'm stuck in the gutter on this one. =/

wow i know how you feel... been there and done that. well there are 2 things that you could do :

1) you could call him and start working it out . tell him that you overreacted and girls tend to do that. tell him that your friendship means the world to him. stuff like that. believe me it works. see where it goes from there. if hes the best friend you say he is then he will understand.

2) let it blow over. some guys get mad right away and the next day or so they dont care. some are even faster than that. only you kno if he is like this .

hopefully this helped. believe me the "i hate you" is just a defensive mechanism. hes hurt that you said you didnt wanna hang out with him. so he said that.

i kno this will work out in the end :)

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Does everyone find someone that they love and that loves them?

yes of course. there is someone for everyone . dont stress. one day youll find the one and be happy.

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Hey Im 15/f and I was just wondering what are some signs that you are pregnant? and when do you start getting them? like how many days or weeks after your missed period? Im like so confused!!! I've been having these strange stomach pains and its only been like a day or two after I was suppose to get my period..could I be pregnant?
thanks
il rate high!

take a pregnancy test if you arent sure

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i have many friends but they never call me or ask me to hang out. its always me talking to them or calling them or asking them to hang out. i have a boyfriend who ive been with for almost a year and they have kept in touch with me less and less since ive been with him. i really want my friends back and to make new friends. what can i do?

i kno how you feel . i have friends who never call ... im always the one to initate everything. ya it sucks but what can you do?!?! all i do is start hanging out with them and eventually they call you once in a while . sometimes ppl are shy or just 2 busy. never think its you ... or youll end up worrying to much ... and worrying sucks .. believe me :)

hope this helped

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Alright, I'm 16 and I have been dating my bf for about 2 and 1/2 weeks. Everything has been going pretty good. I feel like I've known him forever and we are falling head over heels for eachother. His family loves me and my family loves him. It's been perfect. But it seems that everytime we hang out little things bug me about him. Like his friends for example. Most of them play girls and he acts a little different around me when they are with him. Another thing I don't care for is that he can be pretty insensitive about my feelings and is pushy about things. He says and does things and doesn't think about how it might be taken the wrong way. Like yesterday my twin sister pissed him off so he kiddingly yelled at her and then when she said a sarcastic comment back he went over to her, turned her over, and started punching and slapping her ass real hard. And I found it extremely weird and inappropriate because whenever I think of someone grabbing, slapping, or punching someones ass its usually someone they are into, because he does the same thing when we play fight. So it totally disgusted and pissed me off. When he did that it made me offended and mad. My last bf would walk by girls at the mall when I was with him and smack their ass but I never said anything about how it annoyed and upset me because I figured that if I let out how I felt that it might screw things up. Even today we got in a sort of fight over the way things were going between us. As in how fast we were moving physically. It is always me who intiates these small skirmishes and that's what worries me. Most of the issues I have with him happen because I have been through alot of shit with guys in the past and I try to protect myself by not putting up with shit. I just don't want to be the person that fights about shit all the time and feels like an overreacter. But I know that if I keep things to myself that it will end up building up and building up and the issues will never get solved. So is there any way that I can relieve these issues without feeling like I might be causing my relationship to self-destruct?

if he does this stuff to bother you and your having doubts then you need to talk to him. if he gets mad. then its not a good relationship. if he cares for you then hell understand ... guys who flirt to much can become bad news if they dont think that what they are doing is bad. sit him down and tell him . if it doesnt go well then umm you kno what you can do ..

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ok there is this guy and we went out befor but he cheeted on me and broke my heart but now he is saying he is sorry and that he still has feelings for me and i dont kno what to do cuz i also still like him but i dont want to get hurt......and i am also a cutter and last time we went out i cut alot cuz of what i was hearing about him and stuff...... but i think he has changed and he tells me how soory he was and that he owes me for what he put me though....what should i do? should i trust him again> or should we just be friends?

stay friends . someone who cheated on you doesnt deserve you. you say your cuter but you were cute be4 . once a guy cheats he will cheat again its a effin bad habit. stay friends. if he rlly likes your personality he will be able to keep it that way

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ok, this might seem a bit confuseing but here it goes. Ok me and this guy Brian and his mom and my mom were hanging out by the pool. Brian is 17 by the way. When we first got there Brian asked me how old i was. And I told him i was 13. Then after a while of talking and swimming. He comes and sits beside me while our moms are gone to get something to eat. Right out of nowhere he says " Well what do u think about me?" Then I got so imbarassed and told him what I thought. He kept going on and on and on about how he would kick his youger sisters ass if she botherd me ( who is in my grade). Then after a few minutes he comes and sits beside me again and says " You know what?" " I can spoil you." I looked at him and said " Oh yea, I bet you can" Then he goes " I can give you a missage and that will spoil you." I loked at him funny and said " I don't think so "
Does he like me. ( plz ezcuse the messed up spelling and crap.) I rate high 4 good answers!!

unfortunately he sounds like he wants to use you. just to get some. guys who come on that quick are not good guys .. for future reference . if you talk to him again just become friends. nothing more. if you do your taking a high risk of getting hurt. hes 17 ... wut would a 17 year old guy wanna do with a 13 year old girl ... hmmm ::ponders:: yea hes no good ..

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well i have been crushing on this guy at my school name Shaun. i have liked him for two years now, but i'm not sure if he really knows i like him or if it's a trick that his sister is playing on him. even though he broke my heart when he turned my down at the school dance i still like him alot. why won't he talk to me?

to sum it up BOYS ARE DUMB ... boys like to avoid things. take this .. my friend jesse found out that i thought he was cute ... cute!!! and so he ended up not answering my IM's or my comments on his myspace. and everything's like wierd now. good friends went downhill.. just cuz hes dumb. if a guy makes you feel bad move on. its so hard i kno. but nothing in this world deserves a wonderful person like you if they make you sad ..

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I have been with a guy for 3 years. I am 18, and he is 21 years old and we recently broke up about a month ago. The way he was treating me was horrible and we've been through way too much to handle, yet we have so much love for eachother. He recently matured and changed alot, or so it seems. There is another guy I have been very close friends with for about 4 years and we recently confessed our feelings for eachother. We plan on remaining friends for now and taking it extra slow when we both decide we are ready to persue our relationship. My problem is that I am not sure what I want to do right now. I really really like this other kid yet I am still deeply in love with my boyfriend and am not ready to start anything yet. I am just really confused on whether to give him another chance or just let it go. Please dont say follow my heart because that's just the thing, I dont know what my heart is saying right now. This other guy is everything i've ever wanted...amazing(if that info. helps at all) . Please help me.

you have gone out with your ex for 3 years and you say he treated you horrible. yes he has recently matured but the question is : are you willing to go back out with a guy who treated you bad or give an amazing guy a chance? personally i think you should try the new guy. i mean you only live once. y stay with your ex if problems arised ... dont waste more time on someone who has treated you bad over someone who can treat you like a princess.

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...What do people think about a teenage pregnancy? Is it bad i mean If a person thinks they are lonley an are scared to be alone while their boyfriend leaves for awhile for the military..would it be okay to have a baby?

Baby.... with that four letter word comes so much responsibility. let me tell you this ... im 17 also. and to think that b/c my b/f was leaving for the military that i should consider having a child ?!?! well i would say naw . not b/c i dont want a child. but in the future. im 17 . i have so much to live for. i cant even vote yet let alone buy an alcoholic drink. i was just legal to drive. babies should be for ppl with a career and an already set life. im not even a high school grad yet. think this over a lot. babies change your whole life. once you have a baby its not all about you nemore. its about you and him/her. plus your husband... if your still together. i would wait it out. but thats my opinion ...

hope this helped a lil

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i am always shy around my friends i would say how are you and stuff like that but then we would have nothing else to talk about cause i wouldnt know what to say but i act different around my good friends but i mean for friends that i really dont talk to much do you have any suggestions ???

well take it from someone thats extremely outgoing ... you need to feel confident in yourself. i kno your a great person ... and i kno all your friends kno you r 2 . and everyone you talk to is dying to be your friend. so all you hafta do is bring up something general. like movies, books, music, what they did over the weekend. eventually it will stir up something. and then youll have a good friendship with a lot of different ppl. never be shy to show yourself. be happy with yourself and make sure ppl can get a taste of all the magic you possess .

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i want to go on a diet so that when school starts i will have something to feel good about and not just the torture of school starting but i just cant stop eating im 13 years old and i weight 106 lbs and have a big tummy i have been doing crunches but i just cant stop eating any suggestions i rate 5s help please asap

signed desprete

im 17 .. and i used to weigh 150 .. yea talk about huge . i kno weigh 128 .. wooo woo lost almost 30 lbs. all i did was south beach diet. its a better way of living. and you can still eat a whole crap load. believe me. makes you feel happy. neways your skinny as a stick . 106 lbs. you dont need to lose ne weight. but if thats wut you want for yourself then all the power to you .

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i'm debating if i shood have a 14th b-day party. or jsut a little gathering with friends. for my 13th my mom treated me and 3 close friends to movies a nite in town and dinner. idn if i shood do that again or have some friends over at my house. i think i'm a little too old to like have a planned party somewhere like at a party place

listen.. im 17 ... and for my b-day i just took like 5 of my closest friends and went to somewhere nice. like dinner and a movie. or a arcade kinda thing. ice skating. it doesnt matter if its a party or sumthing. just w/e makes you happy ... kk.

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