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Q: what kind of perfume do guys like best?
They want the scent to only be attributed to you but they don't want to be able to smell it on you from across the room. If you're in a relationship, ask him which scents he prefers and which ones he hates. You could also take him with you when you buy perfume.

Q: Im with this guy and we've been dating 4 a while now and hes already cheated once and i trusted him 2 not do it again n got bak with him n it turns out that 4 months later he decides 2 fuck around again. and hes bipolar so he scares me alot when he gets mad because sumtimes he takes it out on me...if you know wat i mean...and i want 2 break up with him but than i always end up going bak 2 him because im afraid of what he will do to himself or other things. because he stars freaking out. and i dont know what 2 do. because theres been so many times when i wanted 2 leave but i never can because he'll take it out on himself and i dont want anything 2 happen 2 him or 4 him 2 take it 2 far. n i dont know what 2 do.......????
Besides the fact that he is unloyal, he is mentally unstable. Your relationship is controlling and abusive. You are afraid of what he will do to you or himself, therefore that fear and manipulation on his part has caused you to stay. You know this is unhealthy and you want out. You cant keep blaming yourself for what he has been putting you through. He definitely needs help but more importantly right now is you. You need to tell an adult that you trust. You need their support and their understanding of the possible consequences of you breaking up with him so they can protect you from his harm. Once you do leave him and have someone that is helping you feel safe and keeping him away from you, then if he continues to threaten to hurt himself you can try to get him professional help. I know this is hard hun. I wish you the very best. If you need anything else im here.

Q: im so shy around my boyfriend why is that...and ever time i wanna say something i cant because what if he dont wanna talk about the same thing....HELP im 13 and im a female
You like him a lot and so you are worried he will stop liking you. You want to keep him interested and impress him. He is with you because he likes you. The butterflies in your stomach is totally normal and a good thing. Just relax and be yourself. You won't disappoint him. He knows you enough to want a relationship with you. He likes a lot of things about you. I'm sure the things you have to say are included ;)

Q: I have never had a boyfriend before. I am thinking of asking a guy out soon. But how do you ask a guy out? and if you're going out ... what do you do?? all of the relationships ive ever seen have been horrible to say the least, so I haven't even been able to see it before... So I am really in the dark... I hate feeling this way when im already 16 years old!! thanks for any help... and for not thinking I'm a complete loser!
Relationships take a lot of work. Don't just ask out anyone to get experience or be able to say you have a boyfriend. It is important to choose someone you really care about and someone that you can trust really cares about you. There are plenty of ways to ask someone out, but the best way to go is not to have someone do it for you. Just be straightforward and ask if they will go out with you. Don't rush into any relationship. You have seen what others have gone through and waited until you are ready and because of what you have seen, it has made you unsure on what a relationship is supposed to be like. You are definitely not a loser. Wait for someone special to put all your time, effort and care towards. When you are with him, youll know exactly how you want the relationship to be and how you want to spend your time together. Going to the movies and getting a bite to eat are the classic dates, but not the only kind. Spend time together doing things you enjoy. I hope I cleared things up a little for you. If you need anything else im here.

Q: i've only had sex 3 times. and everytime, it hurts. like i mean it feels good.. but it hurts... and i dont know like if it's just me or if theres something wrong.. but it doesnt feel good.. like doing other stuff feels great.. but sex never seems to feel right... uhmm help?
You have only had sex three times. You say it doesnt feel right and that it hurts. Maybe it doesnt feel rite because your not ready. if you're not, then tell your partner and if they really care about you then they will respect that and wait. The pain is probably that your partner has not broken your hymen yet. Once it does break, the sex will feel better. If you are stopping him from full penetration because of pain, then he wont be able to break it and you will not be able to get past the point of being in pain. It only hurts for a couple of minutes and then its all pleasure from there. If your hymen has been broken already then try doing the other things you enjoy right before intercourse; you probably are not wet enough. It will make you more turned on. Back to making it feel right, you got to be in the mood. Don't just have sex because your partner wants to. You both have to want it to enjoy it. Maybe you want him to caress or kiss you more. If so tell your partner you want to feel more loved and cared for and tell him what he could do to make you feel that way. There are many reasons why you may not be enjoying it. Make sure to always use protection. I hope I helped. Good luck and if you need anything else im here.

Q: I went to the doctor a few days ago & they found this lump on the side of my knee. They doctor said he thought it was some type of cyst that they could either remove or give me some type of shot, but I'm having an MRI wednesday just to make sure.
I don't get it, though. How can a shot get rid of it? & I run track starting in a week or so. If they do surgery, does that mean I can't run track?
I jus got three cysts removed from my tailbone a little over two weeks ago. Mind did not penetrate my skin so when the surgeon removed them, he did not stitch me. He has been havin me pack it with gauze, remove it, and repack it until the wound heals. This is so the cysts won't grow back. If i didnt get the surgery and if you indeed have a cyst, then at any time it can come through your skin. It will get really large and fill with fluid. This will be really painful. The worst part is if this does happen, you will need to go to the hospital so they can cut it so it can drain it and they will not numb you or knock you out first. They will just cut you. There is no telling when it will come through your skin, but it definitely will. There are no ways to get rid of cysts besides surgery, so im not sure what your doctor was talking about with the shot. Definitely ask him. If it is a cyst, please get the surgery done right away so at least you'll be in less pain then them having to cut you when your conscious. You will be in too much pain to run and you will be told not to until you the wound heals. Your health is more important then track though, so you need to take action to take care of yourself; make sure you dont have to deal with the worse. I hope you don't have to go through what i am still going through. Whatever the lump is, I hope you take care of it and that you heal quickly and successfully so you can get back to running. Good Luck. I wish you the best and if you need anything else im here.

Q: do latinos (m) not go for asians (f)? (of course all depends on individuals but generally?) esp if girl is older by one year?
Liking them you already looked past their race and their age, which is just a number. Don't let fear of others not being able to look past their race, get in the way of you guys having a relationship. If the connection is there, go for it. Don't worry about what others will think or say, because people will always talk about a couple; not always about race or age difference, but no matter what, people will always have something to say. You learn to not let it affect your relationship. So if you like them, then it is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud of who you are and who you like. Don't let anyone tell you that it is not ok to like someone. Good luck and I hope you go for it.

Q: ii really like this boy :(
Ask him if he is going to go out with her. If he is, ask him if he would go out with you if things don't work out. If he isn't planning on getting with her right now, find out if he sees himself getting with you in the future. If not, you have to move on. You will find someone who cares about you the same way you care about them. You also need to move on if what he sees in her he doesn't see in you. You shouldn't change for him. You deserve someone who appreciates all of your characteristics. Good luck and if you need anything else im here.

Q: whats a grocery check out?
The area in the store where you buy your stuff; where the cashier scans and you pay.

Q: what does "turn the tables on me/you" MEAN?
When you see what the other person has gone through, how they feel by them doing the action back to you, telling you that you will see their point of view when it gets done to you by someone else... If the person telling you this is not the victim but the person that has wronged you, they feel they did the right thing and they are telling you that when you are put into this situation and have to do this for or to someone else, then you will understand why. Hope I helped.

Q: 15/f

okay i have big breasts and i want them to go smaller. I am overweight and i want to lose it. I am currently 5"4'and weigh 176 lbs. i was wondering if you knew any way for me to lose weight around my breast area without pills or surgery.

Also can you tell me things i can do to lose weight around my belly, love handles, and thighs?

Thank you!!!!
Hey hun, I am honored you came to me for advice, but i don't think there is any other way to reduce your breast size. If you are suffering with back problems due to their size, then maybe you should consider surgery. If it is just your self- esteem, then it would be best to accept your breasts for how they are and know that if someone can't look past the size of your breasts, they never saw the real you or even gave you a chance to get to know you; therefore weren't worth your time in the first place. For weight loss in other areas however, what i do that works wonders is drink nothing but water. I have been drinking only water for 2 years (with the exception of a few special occasions where no other beverages were available). It keeps unwanted weight away. When i first started doing it, I saw results instantly. I have always been thin, but i have a large appetite so occasionally i gain 5 pounds and am not comfortable with it. When that happens, I just increase my water intake. The good thing is drinking only water has never let me gain more than 5 pounds. As for foods, try only eating junk food when you have your period. Make sure you have the needed amount of fruits and vegetables in your diet. Eat those certain foods that make you gain a lot of weight sparingly. Try to walk daily even if its a short distance or run if you would like. Situps/crunches will help tone your stomach. Leg lifts, squats and lifting weights on machines at a gym will help tone your legs and keep them in shape. As for love handles, I haven't found anything to reduce the size or change the shape of mine. Eating healthily and exercising might give you results in that area. If not, at least your special someone has something to hold onto instead of bones. That always comforts me knowing my boyfriend appreciates my body. If you're not in a relationship and feel that no one appreciates your body, your first step would be to appreciate it yourself. You can always get in shape if you make the effort. The person you are on the inside outshines the person you are on the outside if you look past it and allow others to. I really hope I helped. Good luck and if you need anything else im here.

Q: what is something really sexy i can do making out with my bf when we are standing up because on the couch we rub up on each other but Sunday im gonna see him but have no acess to a couch lol and i really want to do something sexy cause we only see each other once a week and our time together is very limited. thanx! :]
Caress his face, run your fingers through his hair, bite his lips a little, move to kissing him and nibbling on his neck and earlobes, squeeze his butt while making out wit him, hold his hips, squeeze his back, softly whisper in his ear the things that you wish you could be doing with him, how much you care about him or how much you'll miss him... There are endless possibilities. Have fun and be creative. Don't be afraid to try new things :)

Q: what is it when you and your bf are making out on a couch and your rubbing up on hip with your hips and hes kinda grindin into you? thanx!
Dry Humping

Q: I read some stuff and researched on how to write a bibliography for SITES but i don't get it =/. Why do you have to list so much? In my school, we made a chart: list the date that we found the site and write the url.

But on the site that i found, it says:
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Website
Lynch, Tim. "DSN Trials and Tribble-ations Review." Psi Phi: Bradley's
Science Fiction Club. 1996. Bradley University. 8 Oct. 1997 .
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What's the stuff at the top line? What if i site i found isn't really professional and had nothing but a tiny bit of information that i used?

Can anyone set an example of a bibliography using this site for me or tell me about it in a more better detail? Thanky uo so much!
http://www.skimarmot.com/about_jasper.html
No matter how much information you use from your source, you need to cite it in your bibliography anyway. You don't want to be accused of copying someone else's work, so it is important you document every source you use. Also even if you can't find an author, you still need to cite it. Use as much information as you have. Try using citationmachine.net Click on MLA because i bet that is what format your teacher wants, but definitely check. Then click on what the source you are citing is... If it is a website or book, etc. The site is great because then it gives you a section where you can fill in the information you have and it gives you the proper citation you need to put in your bibliography. The only thing you need to change on what they give you is whatever they show you to underline, make sure you italicize it instead. That is a change in the MLA format that my teacher said the site didnt update yet. Otherwise, everything else will be correct. I hope I helped.

Q: 14/f

i went out with this boy for two months. lets call him richard? alright, well he was my first real actual boyfriend. and i was his first real actual girlfriend. i was his first girlfriend like ever. usualy i cant keep a bf for more than 2 weeks because i get really annoyed of them. so i found richard and he always said he loved me and that he wanted to last through highscool even though we are going to two different highschools. but he said he liked me that much.

PROBLEM:
at two months he broke up with me for my best friend. it really hurt. at first everyone kept saying he still liked me he just didnt want to go out(but he liked my best friend too). so i still like him to this day (about a month later) and i hadnt heard of him liking me. so as much as i still liked him i knew there was no chance. i mean we still talk all the time and we are good friends. but we arent dating like that..but today my best friend told me that her boyfriend (richards best friend) said that richard would go out with me if i still wanted to. and richard asked me to hang out this weekend..


what should i do? im so in love with this boy..(despite my age) and if i go back to him, i would think he would just know i would always be there..no matter what he did to me..like i was always a last resort? but i dont know if he actualy feels that way..because i guess he really likes me still?

if you were in my position what would you do? and this weekend..what would you say to him and just any advice you have on this situation ill take.

thanks soo much and i apologize for it being so long :\
If he cared about you as much as he is claiming, then he would have never left you for someone else. You are right- he probly will think no matter what he does, you will always take him back. He will have the upper hand in the relationship and probably take advantage of that. Who is to say he wouldn't leave you again for someone else? Who is to say this time he won't cheat? I know you care about him so much but its best you dont get back together with him. Getting over him will be easier that way. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have been thinking about your best friend or wanting to be with her. You deserve someone who cares about you the way you care about them. I wish you the best and if you need anything else im here.

Q: two years ago i went out with a guy and 4 months later we broke up. he was my first love and although he had had other girlfriends before, he said i was his first love. he was about 2 years older than me. he still has the girlfriend that he had after we broke up but recently he texted me. i didn't know he still had my number because when we were together he didn't have a cell phone. anyway we've been chatting for about 2 weeks now. not anything important. just talking about the weather and lame things like that but the other night i had a dream that we were still together. i don't like him but im really worried that if we keep talking that im going to fall for him again. but i still want to stay friends and talk.


to talk or not to talk....that is the question
Talking to his ex while with someone is wrong to his gf and wrong to you. He must have feelings for you if he is wanting to talk to you after all this time has passed. Now that you are getting the memories back, next is your feelings and that is not right for him to get you mixed up in the fact that you guys are no longer together. He is with someone and you dont want to like him. You need to stop talking to him before you get hurt.

Q: ive been goin out with this guy for 5 and a half months then he moved without really saying goodbye i think we want to try the long distance thing but im not sure what should i do?
Relationships are hard enough. Long distance relationships take a lot more work. The love has to be there. He left without saying goodbye!? That is low and it shows that he doesn't care for you as much as you thought he did. He didn't have the decency to tell you that he wouldn't make the committment or effort to still be with you. If he didn't have the respect or care enough to tell you he was moving and be there to comfort you about it before he left, you can't trust him to be honest with you. Don't waste your time. He has proved he is unworthy of your love. One could say it was hard for him, he was scared you were gonna leave him, he didn't know how to handle it... If he loved you, there is no excuse for what he did- so he doesn't. You deserve better. With him gone, it'll be easier to get over him. Good luck. Don't worry, you will find someone who will treat you better.

Q: This is long but please read..Okay, lets call him this guy.


Now i liked him ever sense i saw him..ever sense we started our first
converstation. And i have this friend thats a guy, and Turns out hes Best
friends with the guy. okay, now my friend made it obvious we wants to be
more then friends. he flirts alot and has asked me out about four times,
but i never returned his texts. I dont know, i mean i like his best friend,
and only like my friend as only a friend. And i talked to the guy about him
asking me out and saying how i dont like him like that..he said he didnt
tell my friend but idk, will this ruin more chances of me being with "my"
guy? i mean why would he go out with his best friends crush? I bet hes heard the saying "bros before hoes" err whatever..tho im not a hoe.lol And i bet my
friend has talked to him about liking me. So that basicaly blows it all
off. i dont really know what advice im looking for. but ANY i'd be greatful
for. i mean i feel like i LOVE this guy. i think about him 24/7. and
everything about him makes me smile. He wears the most crappy clothing in
the world and barly does his hair. but i dont care. i really like him. I
dont know how he feels about me. I mean its cute, somtimes at night when
were dont texting eachother he'll text somthing like well night honey xoxo
or nite sweetypiee xoxo dont let the bedbugs bite. he even called me
Sweetie on the phone infrount of my friend and his bff [the one that kept asking me out] once. and I think he gigles err
silently laughs alot on the phone, in a good way When were on the phone alone. I was planning on just
writing a few short sentances, guess it ended in paragraphs. but Please
advice. About The guy, or the sittuation of "my" guy's and my friend liking
me.. b/c i dont know what to do. .. Does he even like me like that at all?
They are best friends and if you try to hook up with your guy and succeed without the guy liking you being informed, there will be more drama then if he did know. He will feel betrayed by his best friend and hurt by you in a way where he might not trust women anymore. His self-esteem might be drastically lowered...etc. Plus your guy might lose his best friend and take it out on you. You need to talk to both of them, you need to tell the guy that likes you that you are flattered but you dont feel the same. You need to tell him you like his best friend. Then you need to talk to your guy. Both guys will discuss it and your guy might want his best friends approval first. In order to have the least drama, lessen the amount of hurt and assure you and your guy will have a chance, this is the best way to go.

Q: Okay there is this guy CJ and he is like big senior jock, and im just a freshman...but anyways like i got him as a freshman conseler for one of my classes and i will catch him like looking at me, but when i look at him looking at me, he turns away real quick. and then today he like threw two paper balls at me and started laughing, and i was throwing them back, then me and him and my friend matt got into a paper fight...it was fun and all but then matt was talking to cj and i saw matt nodd towards me. then cj kinda smiled. So what does this mean? Could this mean that he could be crushing on me or something? What does this sound like to you? thanks...
It definitely sounds like he likes you. He is looking away because he is shy to keep your gaze. He is teasing you because he wants to see how you react and likes how you react. Him and your friend talking about you while smiling, he has feelings for you. If you like him, flirt back and something will happen from there. If you don't, it seems like he is waiting for you to make a move, so just keep being friendly, but not too friendly or he'll think you like him back. I hope I helped.

Q: Lets just sum it up

-dated Simon for 22 months
-broke up due to immaturity, and fighting (Jan. 07')
-got a new bf for 6 months, in that 6 months that Simon said he still loved
-Broke up with bf 5 months later
-Start to try and work things with Simon
-Things were great, no fighting, matured alot

We've been working things out for 4 1/2 months now and he still hasn't asked me out, and I've asked why and he just says because of college (didnt this run through his head before he confessed him still loving me (we've also dated while he's in college)) and he just says when he comes back home (in may) but I dont think I want to wait around that long, it seems like we're dating now but without the title and i want the bf/gf title

I don't want to be annoying but I can't wait forever sense I've been waiting sense the day we broke up..
Does he really love you? You broke up with your new boyfriend because he said he still loves you. That is what he wanted- for you not to be with that guy so you can work things out. Almost five months have gone by and he is using the school excuse!? If he really loved you and wanted things to truly work out, he wouldn't let nothing get in the way of getting to be with you again. You need to talk to him. Ask him if he is being serious. Tell him you don't want to wait forever and that he needs to stop playing with your emotions.

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My advice is based on my experiences, my morals, my values and what I would do if I were the advice seeker. I always put myself in your shoes and look at all sides of the story. I love updates, so please inbox me to let me know how everything turned out because I worry about you! Some lessons I hope to teach all include: *Always stand up for what you believe in *Never give up *Fight for those who would fight for you *Don't hold back your feelings because you're afraid of getting hurt; you wind up getting hurt anyway *Don't follow your dreams- chase them *Appreciate the things you have *Always put others before yourself *It's always ok to feel, but it's not always ok how you react to those feelings *Learn from yesterday live for today and hope for tomorrow

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