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my bf and i hang out every weekend since we live so far apart. hes one of those guys who has very sudden urges to make out a lot and he smokes. and the chemicals in the ciggarettes are really starting to affect his mouth because he has bad breath.

now, i feel really guilty for thinking this! but i try to be a really clean and person! and this is the only thing about him that bothers me. he brushes his teeth a lot and chews mint gum every time im over there because i think hes aware...but it still smells bad.

how do i tell him nicely that his breath smells bad? or do i just sneak mints into his drinks or something or what? im really picky, as you can tell, and i feel bad for it. but yeah. if SOMEONE understands where im getting at here, please help me?? thanks! (link)
Instead of flat out telling him his breath smells bad, just be like ' your breath smells like smoke, you want some gum?' if he says no, then sorry i guess you better just flat out tell him haha


what do you think of these i'm graduating 8th grade and if you don't like these can you give me links to some cute ones?!


http://store.delias.com/itemProcess.do?itemID=49632&categoryID=424&page=1&destination=wishlist&color=MUL&size=&quantity=1&shipToMeOrOther=ME

http://store.delias.com/item.do?itemID=49635&categoryID=424

http://store.delias.com/item.do?itemID=49629&categoryID=424

http://store.delias.com/item.do?itemID=49457&categoryID=424

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Macy's has some realllly cute dresses: http://www1.macys.com/catalog/index.ognc?CategoryID=18109&PageID=18109*1*24*-1*-1&kw=Dresses&LinkType=EverGreen

in case that link doesn't work, go to macys.com then click on juniors and then dresses. the only thing about this is most of the dresses are in different macy's locations so you will probably have to order the one you want online


Can anyone give me the cons and pros of buying an iPod Touch by Apple?

[and is the internet fast [and unlimited] and how do i use it. where can i use it. and can i go on AIM?]

Thanks (link)
Cons:
more expensive
some people complain about not having enough space (only 8 GB or 16 GB)
back gets scratched easily
no flash for the internet
fingerprints on screen
can only use internet in wi-fi areas

Pros:
battery life is really good
youtube
easy to use
flip screen
itunes music store
cover flow
good video quality
thin
internet is pretty quick


And the internet is unlimited but you have to be in an area where wireless internet is available (school, starbucks,vbarnes and noble, your house if you have wireless etc..)
You can't use AIM on it tough because flash is not installed on the itouch. However, you can go to meebo.com or flickim.com to use a program like aim. Overall though, i would say it's worth it. i love my ipod touch!



I'm going to a 90's themed birthday party on the weekend and I need to think of a costume.

It needs to be something memorable, or slightly obscure yet amusing from the (british) 90's

If possible, if it fits with being in a wheelchair thats useful but dont worry about that.

Any Ideas?
Cheers in advace! (link)
you can dress up like one of the spice girls, i remember ginger spice always wore and outfit with a british flag on it. and they were hot in the 90's haha


nah, its about my best friend.
i fell inlove with him.
and everything went chaotic. gah.

thanks =]

what hurts the most (link)
ugh boys. they drive me nuts.
but i hope everything turns out alright, just remember whatever is meant to be will always find it's way...
i found a few more songs:
since you've been gone- theory of a deadman
you got it bad- usher
if you want me- one less reason


do u know any lyrics or poems that explain this
"we argued like we were together
we changed for one another.
we were honest and we lied.
we were open to each other.
we had a guiding hand.
we never failed to be there.
we laughed and we cried.
we loved and we hated.
we put each other first when we say we didn't.
we climbed to the top.
we tried way too hard.
we did all we could."

i know thats a poem in itself.
but im trying not to make it obvious :-X
or can you reword it for me?
im unsure. heh thanks! (link)
so is this for a boy you are interested in? or maybe a break up and you want him back?
from what i get out of this, these songs come to mind:
what hurts the most- rascal flatts
best thing you never had- butch walker
have you ever- brandy
tired of you- the exies

basically, all these songs are about wanting someone or missing someone you can't have or did once have. i hope this helped.


I dont know how to break up with this guy! My friend dared me to date him, but it got out of hand... and i dont know what to do!
Should i tell him it was just a dare?
HELP!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!! he is driving me nuts and i dont know what to do about it
I dont want to hurt him
but i dont really like him...at all.in fact i hate him! i dont no how to break up!
i am leaving on may 20 so should i just stick it out until i leave?
once agian, HELP!!!! (link)
just tell him you don't want a boyfriend right now. he might be hurt but i mean it's meaner to stay with him as a joke. however, don't let him know it was a dare. that would be very mean.


I am very intrigued by the music video for this song. Any ideas as to what it symbolizes? (link)
They wrote this song because one of them saw someone commit suicide and run in front of a moving car. They just "stopped and stared". That's what this video is. It's shot from everyones point of view during the incident. I just understood it today. It's really sad. You can get it really well if you read the lyrics.


Its between a 1998 Mits. Spyder Eclipse
& a Cougar.

Im not sure what I want in the Cougar though.
Im getting a car for my sweet 16.
I want to know what car is better.
& if anyone can give me any information on a cougar.

It would help if someone could give me a price also. (link)
when my friend turned 16, she had a $5,000 limit on a car and got a cougar. it was used but it runs fine and gets good gas mileage. the only thing is hers is a stick-shift. but they make automatics too, a couple people at my school have the automatics. overall it's a good car.


The two things that have had my interest for quite a while were : Psychology or Art, and I've basically lost the interest for both of them.. I have had lots of bad and good things that have happened in my life, that most people never experienced. But I've just thought about it all.. and my view on being that has changed, I dont want to listen to people's problems anymore.

And for the art situation. Art is a very tedious thing.. and I know there are tons of jobs that have to do with art, but the only thing is like art or photography ... I dont know that I'm especially good at anything anymore, so i dont know how to find what I want to do.


17/F/USA
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I dont know anything about art really. but as for psychology, there are a lot of jobs for that. you don't just have to become a psychologist or a counselor. you can get into social work or deal with people who have addictions, you can become a child and youth worker which helps kids that come from bad families. not sure if this link will work but it has a list of jobs in the psychology field: http://careercruising.com/Careers/Cluster.aspx?LoginID=0534ac80-85b7-4b74-9ac9-afa08868842a-&clustertype=USNational&cluster=HShope this gave you a few more options, good luck!


is it normal to feel like my vagina is unattractive
cause im scared to do things with guys because i think that they'll think its ugly
im not scared to do the things
just the reactions
help=[ (link)
i agree with both those comments below. if you really want to do stuff though but don't want to know or see their opinions, so things in the dark. that way they can't see it if youre super concerned about it.


I need help?
My love just broke up with me and he says he wants to wait like a week or so and get to no more stuff about me?
But i'm in love with him and it just breaks my heart and i am confused and dont want to let go i have no clue what to do?
Please help me.... (link)
Well, if he wants to know more about you that's a good sign. I know it sucks being broken up with but this is actually a good situation because in order for him to get to know more about you, you will get to hang out with him more and talk to him more. So my advice to you is learn more about each other, by doing this he may want to get back together. But just remember, boys come and go!


For the past few nights it was really weird.
like i would have a dream i was on the phone
then when i wake up i dont relize till like 5 secounds later it was a dream.. so when i wake up, I dont hear anyone talking so i say "Hello? are you there?" and my right hand is by my ear as if i was holding the phone, then relize its not in my hand.. There was nothing there. haha i think i talk in my sleep. .. but is that kinda thing normal? (link)
People do some weird things when they sleep, it just sounds like a dream so i think you're pretty normal :) But i know kinda what you mean. sometimes i'll text people in my sleep and read them in the morning and be like what the heck was i thinking?! but yeah it's normal..


i need to know a song by joe...i've been searching for it but cant find it...the lyrics goes: "i knew your girl from way back before i hooked up wit u...everything we did was on the low, thats why u've neva seen me wit her before"...pls anyone that knows the name of that song should let me know...i'll really appreciate it (link)
I'm pretty sure it's called "i wanna know", by joe.


me and my ex broke up while back and we have been messing around.. now he has a gurl and he still messing.. what does that mean? (link)
Take it from someone who has been used a few times. He's just using you. If he is cheating on his girlfriend right now, he isn't a faithful person. If you guys got back together or whatever you think he's hinting, he is just going to use you for random play and either dump you or cheat on you like he's doing now with his current girlfriend. Unless you like what's going on now, i suggest you stop. think of how his current girlfriend would feel if she found out.


I got drunk one night over spring break and spent the night with a guy other than my boyfriend(we did NOT have sex, just messed around a little). Well, now my boyfriend doesn't want me seeing ANY of my friends that were at that party. I could understand not seeing the guy I spent the night with, but not all my friends... What should I do? (link)
dump him.
even though you were drunk, you still messed around and it could happen again. who is he to say you can't see your friends? that is ridiculous.


I'm desperately saving up for some trips im going on this summer- any suggestions on good jobs for a 17 year old? Like, good paying or beneficial. Go crazy with your tips, I'm picky haha (link)
i work at a gas station. it sounds lame but it keeps you busy and the time flies. i get 8 dollars an hour so it's not too bad, easy work as well.


i need some ideas for a school video project about 1 to 2 min long it can be about anything. something like a commercial is good but has to be funny (link)
these guys from my school made a video like true life on mtv. it's called true life: i am awkward. it cracked everyone up. here's the link you can watch it maybe get some ideas: http://youtube.com/watch?v=brcl42Dpvvw


I'm a 42 y/o single man. Less then a month ago my best friend died in an accident. I have not been able to come to grips with his death. I have recently been having thoughts of ending my life. This happens whenever I am alone, especially at night. I have lost loved ones before, including my parents and brother all within a year of each other, but I never felt this type of despair, or loneliness. I am afraid I may eventually give in to my suicidal urge. Can anyone help me? (link)
It is with a heavy heart i apologize for your loss. I could not imagine going through that so i admire your willingness to ask for advice. you came to the right place, too considering this site is mostly teenagers and teenagers love life. Although you are going through an extremely rough time, i encourage you to keep pressing on. This is just a temporary problem. Suicide should not be a permanent solution for a temporary problem. after events like this, many people turn to faith to fix their suicidal desires. if you are willing to find faith, i know some encouraging bible verses. try joining a group somewhere in your community, a group of interests, hobbies etc. You are bound to find things and people to get your mind off of this. Just remember, don't make a permanent solution to a temporary problem!


i'm gonna start off by saying i'm NOT a whore
me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 9 months and he's fingered me once and we makeout alot thats about it ;; i kinda would like some more "exitement" and i give him handjobs all the time and was even thinking of giving him head (even tho i have NOO IDEA WHAT TO DO!) and maybe even sex.. i've given him alot of time and i dont wanna like push him but do you think i should say something to him.. if so what?

btw he's one year younger then me
do you think that has much of an affect on it?
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well i mean you guys have been going out for 9 months. if you decide to have sex just make it special and something worth remembering. and be SAFE! use a condom, check into birth control. And as for the age thing, i don't think it's a big deal unless you're 18 then it's illegal if you guys get caught. And to make sure you aren't pushing it,just ask him if he wants to. But don't ask when you're "in the moment". ask while you guys are just hanging out so hormones aren't raging and stuff haha.




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