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I'm Amanda. I'm here to help you out, so if you need something then ask me. I specialize in problems dealing with mental health, seeing as I've got quite a few of those myself.
I took a break from advicenators, but I'm back and better than ever.
I have too much life experience for someone my age. Some people view that as bad. I don't really see anything wrong with it.
I'm practical and I'll tell you the truth straight up. So ask away lovelies, I'll be here all week. :]
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14/F
So I'm going on vacation for two weeks and I'm trying to pack light...I was wondering, do I really need to bring shaving cream for my legs/under my arms?
Any opinions are helpful.
You don't NEED to, although it does work better than most other things.
I would suggest using conditioner that you use on your hair as a substitute, that way you only have to pack one container. It works pretty well and doesn't clog up your razor.
Have fun!
Theres this guy Luke. And this other guy, Marcus.
Now, i liked Marcus and about a week ago i told Luke this. He seemed pretty erm.. upset, dissapointed, i'm not sure what other way to describe it. Although, he has been okay with me. It was only about 3 days ago that this 'thing' with Marcus was just a phase, and that i actually like Luke. Well, while he goes around thinking that i like some other guy, it's him who i in fact like. I have a very, very strong feeling that Luke likes me (he used to like me about a year ago and he asked me out, but because i didn't know him that well, i said no, which i now regret).
How do i go about this? How can i tell him that i don't like Marcus without it being too awkward?
I don't want to tell him that i like him just yet, i want to just leave it for a while.
Any ideas??
I would try dropping subtle hints at first and see how Luke takes it. If he's not getting the message, then try and bring it up in a conversation or just flat out tell him. Guys are really confusing and sometimes don't really get what we're trying to tell them.
Best of luck!
ok, whenever i try to shave my crotch, when im done, it itches or burns. what am i doing wrong. it only burns where i shaved. plz help!
Put lots of shaving cream on it and shave the direction the hair grows. The skin down there is very sensitive so if you shave the oposite direction then it's very likley to become irritated. Apply lotion after your shower and if the itching or burns continue then go to a drug store and look for lotion specially for that area. They work really well, trust me!
i "did it:" 2 days ago and it was really no lie for 4 seconds cuz it hurt but im scared that im mite be well uk and im only 14 and that wont be good uk and well was wondering wat are my chances of being pregnate and stuff like plan parent hood if i go will they have to tell my parents and do they give out free birth control? HELP SCARED TEEN!
Unless the guy you had sex with released sperm then there's no way you can be pregnant. And considering the fact that he was only inside you for 4 seconds, it seems highly unlikely.
Birth control isn't free unfortunately. You have to have it prescribed by a gynocologist.
And you're 14? I do not suggest repeating this incident any time soon. You're not devolped enough emotionally to handle the strings that come with having sex. Just take it slow and enjoy being young!
I don't know what's wrong with me lately, but I just don't feel good at all. I have really bad anxiety, but i'm not sure if that's it.
Two fridays ago i threw up, had panic attacks, and was feeling better by monday. On Monday, my symptoms changed, and I felt light headed and tired all the time. Probably because I had lost my appetite, which caused me to eat even less. That feeling continued all week until yesterday afternoon. I came home, and had eaten a full meal and felt a lot better.
But yesterday afternoon I went to a fair in my town where I ate ice cream and a soft pretzel, and went on rides that spun around a lot. Needless to say, not the best idea. I felt really queasy when I got home, so I went straight to bed.
When i woke up this morning around 9:00, i had diarrhea, and then went back to sleep until my brother woke me up at two in the afternoon. When i woke up i felt this knot in my throat, and I was really dizzy.
That feeling had continued and I really, really hate it.
What can I do to feel better?
Is this all in my head, or is there something really wrong with me?
If the kind of anxiety you're describing continues, see a physician because unfortunately it'll only get worse. There are medications that can help anxiety significantly if you're frequently experiencing it.
But I agree with isis. For the moment just get lots of rest and try to stay kind of low key.
Counselors are also good for helping find solutions to panic attacks that don't involve medication. Best of luck!
I don't know where to begin. I've been having eating problems since September. Anything I eat that isn't the best for you whether it's pizza or a hotdog or anything, I feel miserable. I eat what my friends/family eat, or try to, & I get in such a bad mood & feel disgusted with myself. I've been eating 1200-1500 calories daily. I just don't know what to do. I exercise 3-4 days a week [running on a tredmill] & try to do my best, but I mentally can't take it. I always feel guilty for just eating. Basically eating anything other than fruits & veggies. Is there anything I can do? I'm afraid of becoming fat. It's my phobia. Any ideas? Thanks
You should talk to a nutritionsist or a counselor or someone. It might be just in your mind right now but if you keep letting these thoughts consume you, you may be driven to begin eating less and less or not eating at all.
Usually there's a reason for feeling guilty like you're describing, and I think the best way to figure out what it is would be talking to someone who knows more about it (i.e. counselor, psychiatrist, ect.).
If you need anything, you can always ask me personally, and I wish you the best of luck!
i have had anxiety since i was 5 so like 9 years and i didn't like doing certin stuff like sleepovers.birthday parties. busses. being away from my mom basicly. well now i'm over all of that except sleepovers. 2 yars ago i went to my 1st sleepover and it was great but when i went to sleep over my best friends house i didn't feel good at all and i'm on lexapro! i slept over a few other peoples houses and i was fine but everytime i slept over my best friends house i didn't feel good! and i'm really upset because she is my best friend and i make excuses on why i can't sleep over! but now that summer is coming i spend every day over her house and i'm sure i will be asked a few times to sleep over
I'm currently taking Lexapro for depression and anxiety. The medicine is mainly for depression but Generalized Anxiety Disorder and depression go hand in hand. I know it's a terribly hard thing to deal with and I really do feel your pain.
What I suggest is talking to the doctor who prescribes your medication about increasing the doseage, or finding a medication that will target more of your anxiety. Talking to a psychiatrist may also help because generally there's a root cause of the anxiety. Hope it all works out in the end!
This is for girls. I want an honest answer; is penis size an important factor in relationships and does it matter?
for some girls it would but it really depends on the age.
and their beliefs.
i mean, if they want to stay a virgin till they're married, then no.
but if they're in it for the sex,
probably a little bit.
good luck!
does a Chi straightner damage your hair? I want a good straightner that doesnt damage your hair at all (if thats possible lol) or doesnt damage your hair that much for under $40 thanks for your help!
from what i've heard, Chi's are good. but all straighteners are going to damage your hair over time. I have a Helen of Troy. It works really well but I have thinner hair. It only cost about 40 $ but Chi's are really expensive.
Can I get pregnant 1 week before my period? If so, does that mean I will have a misscarrage?
you can't get a miscarriage from getting your period. getting pregnant would make you not get your period. it doesn't matter what time of the month it is.
Some girls dun look good but they have full, ultimate confidence in themselves. Can someone tell me how they manage to do that?
I look not too bad but i just cant have that much confidence like them. My confidence wavers a lot and is easily shattered. How can i achieve that ultimate confidence? and stay confident for long?
everyone will have varrying degrees of confidence. even the girls who look like they ALWAYS know what they're doing, they're probably just as unsure of themselves as you at points.
but you're never going to achieve the confidence you want if you keep pointing out your flaws. look for the parts of you that are beautiful!
well miss amanda. it seems like i have a friend who is overly dramatic. what do you propose i do about this friend.
aha. well miss shay.
i think that we should not say anything to that overdramatic friend. as she might hate us. =P remember to call me after your dentist appointment!
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ok soo heres the deal.
me and my best friend,we didnt fight or anythign,but shes so immature and honestly she bugs the crap out if of me. well she still acts possesive of me. but i have a hard time trusting,so i dont have very many close friends. i cant even go BACK to her because she found 3 other friends"a,b,and c" we'll call them. ik that i HAVE a few friends...but their more like pleasant aquaintances,(sp?) anyway i geuss my point is... ive been really depressed because of we,,bascally what i explained above. Im not aloud 2 write poetry because i have had emotional problems before and my parents now search everything of mine,and get mad when i write. i no loner have anyone i can just talk to to feel better and i dont want a therepist.i tried it before. any suggestions? pleaseee
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you need to find some way to release your sadness and anger and whatever other emotions you're feeling. if you really love writing poetry, ask your parents to back off, after all, stuff like that IS personal and they don't really have any business searching your things.
if that doesn't work, you could always draw or write stories.
when i get really down, i go for a run. exercising releases some chemical that makes you feel better.
being depressed really sucks. i hated that period in my life. try different stuff until you find something you love. x3
my magazine subscriptions includes Times, Blender, Popular Science, Ellegirl, Bitch and Jane. is Bust or Ms. good and what other magazines do you think are cool? Newsweek is sort of like Times and I don't know if it's worth it to subscribe to that as well.
it really depends on what you're into. i have a subscription for Alternative Press. it's all about alternative rock.
But then my sister likes magazines like People and the ones that focus on Hollywood.
I'd say go to a grocery store and see if any magazines strike your fancy. Pick a couple, they almost always have the forms for subcriptions in them.
I`m going to start out by saying this will be long, but thanks so much to anyone who reads this all and helps me out.
I have this best friend, Casey. Words cannot descibe how much of a bff she is to me. She knows everything about me, and always knows what I`m about to say. Were with each other 24/7 and we hardly fight. She`s practicly my sister, we do everything together.
A week ago, she got this new boyfriend, this guy that I didn't like before she started dating him. His name is Nick, he`s 12, shes 13. Casey is a virgin, he isn`t. They`ve already done sexual stuff together and its their first stupid week together.
Last night I was hanging out with both of them and Nick lit up a ciggarrette, and exchanged some pot with another older guy. He offered us both some, Casey would have taken some, but didn't when she saw how mad I got. We were way back on the golf cart paths somewhere, and it was raining, I didn`t want to be in the situation so I started crying and ran away. I was lost along the paths cause I had no clue where I was. Casey didn`t follow me, even though she promised me earlier if I wanted to leave she would come with me. Nick chased after me, blew smoke all over me, and burned me with his ciggarette to make fun of me. I ended up calling Jordan, my other best guy friend, he and his mom drove 45 minutes back into the woods to pick me up only to find I was stained with the smell of ciggarrets, and crying all alone, cause I knew my best friend was slipping away. I don`t know what to do, she used to be a good girl, she never would have done any of this. Now she won`t listen to me, at all, she said she`ll never accept any of the drugs, but I know she will, she almost took them last night and she told me "they were no big deal" She got mad at me when I left cause I was being "immature and embarrassing her" When my dad picked me up, after Jordan dropped me off at her house, he smelt me and now he thinks I`m a smoker, and won`t belive that it wasn`t me. What should I do? PLEASE PLEASE guys, I`m really upset, I`m losing her, please.
oh my gosh. kymmy. it's amanda. oh my gosh.
hey!
casey hasn't been a virgin since she was 4 and a half .. just so you know ..
14/f...i have oily skin and i break out a lot all over my face. i use an acne product twice a day and also use olay lotion. but whenever i put a foundation on my skin gets dry and looks all peely...i don' think it is my foundation since it happens no matter what foundation i use and it just started happening. it is the worst on my chin...it is like litten triangles of dry skin all over it. i really want it to go away and i don't know what else to do besides put lotion on it. THANKS!
yea, you could always be using to many products on your face. I'd suggest using something like clearasil, or proactiv. There are lots of big companies that make anti-acne stuff. So just try one of those out and see what works best! Hope I helped. =]