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im gonna be a freshman next year and im really afraid im not gonna fit in. see i have plenty of friends now but i worked pretty hard to get and keep them. im... different to say the least and a lot of people dont get me and now it feels like i have to start all over again to find friends. and frankly, im not sure how. im kinda anti-social in a way... i dont like people on a whole lol cause they're stupid... but i do like meeting new people and i would really like to make some new friends

well if u think people are stupid and ur anti social than u aint gonna make no friends! lol* well be nice to ur friends. ANd become a social butterfly!
remember the way to make a friend is to be a friend!
Good Luck in high school!
Melody*

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hey~
i'm 12 and weigh 155 i don't look fat AT ALL but i don't get a lot of boyfriends and i have a chubby face. at the end of my 6th grade year i weighed 160 but i started running and biking every day and lost 5 lbs. but i want to get down to at least 130i still have till august 17 any suggestions i need help i want to look HoT!!

well keep on doing wat ur doing. Exercise, eat healthy and no tv, pop,cake, or junk food. If yuo need more tips then leave me a comment askin for help at www.livejournal.com/users/lil_nerd

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i have a best friend that told me she moving in 3-4weeks. i wish she wasnt moving, but i dont know what to do. if she moves i'll never get to see her agian or hang out with her. we hang out every day and when she leaves i want get to any more. im really sad. i want to tell her how i feel and i have been but it wont make a diffrence if she moves or not. i cant not make her move, she has all ready bought a house, and selling the one she leaves in now. she my best friend in the whole world. when she leaves i dont know what to do, i'm going to be sad. help me!!!!!!!!!!!!

everyone goes through something dramatic like this i went through something very similar to that. just keep in touch and dont forget all the good times you had together. maybe on the weekends you can get together and call eachother on the weekdays.
hope everything works out!
*cow gurl's cuzinn.,
Lorin*

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hi my friend has been really mean to me, they are starting to beat me up when there in a mood help xx

ok if your friends are beating you up wen they feel like it they are not your friends. THey are nuthing but bone headed bullies! Talk to your principal or parents about it and then see how things go from there. Till then just steer clear and find sum true friends that arent such bone heads!
GOod Luck!
*MElody

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Ok i'm going to be 18 on July 10th and there is this dude named Jason who I like and he likes me too...he says that I have all the qualities he wants and in a girl and he just makes me feel real good...but there's a huge problem...He is 27!!!! ahhh I don't know wut to do!! I think when ur 18 ur legal, but still is it bad gettin involved w/him? I'm real confused!

no i dont think its bad. But wait till the 10th hun! lol* ne wayz just remember, older guyz are different so watch out 4 em!
Good Luck
*MElody

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What would you do you do if you were in love with a guy and he didn't like you back?

Well start out just trying to be his friend. This might take a while, but if you really like him then try it. After being friends for a while, ask around to see how he feels about you, flirt a little, and normal things. But remember this type of thing takes time and patience so dont rush it! i know this is easier said than done, but just try it. ALso remember this, if it doesnt work out there is tons of other guyz so just move on. If its ment to be then itll happen in its own time.

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Hey,my situation is prolly a pretty common one,but i'll go into it anyway. I'm an 18 year old guy,who knows this really nice girl for over a year. The reason i never made my move on her was that she was always going out with one of my friends and still is. I am under the impression that i'm her friend and nothing more,b/c she tells me things prolly only her bf should know and i feel bad about this. I dont wanna wreck anybody's relationships,but it seems like she's more comfortable around me then him. What should i do?

well if she is dating your friend id just stand back. Im sure her relationship wont last forever. Besides if she is more comfortable with you than him then she probably sees youi as more as a friend. But dont get your hopes down. Look for signs and for troubles in her relationship. then wen you see the time is right, talk to her about it. Just remember, friendship is more important than relationships.
Good Luck and take your time,
*Melody

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im really depressed and i dont know what to do with myself both of my best friends whom i hang out with all the time both have boyfriends, but me being the ugliest friend does not. i feel really left out the thing is no guy will notice me because im not pretty and im not fat but im not skinny im 5"8 and i weigh about 175lbs ive stopped eating basically, trying to lose weight. i just want to be happy again how do i get some confidence???? i have none at all... please help i feel like the ugly duckling of the group

well first remember, the ugly duckling turned out to be the beautiful swan. am i right?? well i actually am in your position. Both of my best friends have boyfriends to. DOnt worry. Boyfriends arent important. Friends are. And i dont care how pretty or ugly you are, its whats on the inside and how you act. You will eventually find the guy that is right for you!
GoD Bless you! and GOod Luck,
*melody

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hey..i got a problem with friends.they used to be my good friends..but now they hate me..i dun really know why, i just heard they hate me because they are jealous about me getting good results in examination last month and they say i'm proud. i want all of us to be friends as me used to.help me can my atitude

well first of all, do you think you have an attidude? if so then talk to your 'so called friends' if they mean that much to you. SOunds to me like they are just jealous.(like you've already said)i know wat its like to lose a friend. Maybe its time to get new 1's that accept ur good results. Cuz thats wat a true friend would do. My advice is to just talk to them. Good Luck,
*Melody

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i've gotten really depressed lately. my parents relationship is (excuse my french) going to hell, and my sibs are mixed with alchohol.
my little sis is spoiled like god only knows, and i'm kinda left to life in the middle. i guess my mirror has a little play too... i'm 14, weigh 200lbs, and am 5'7. i'm starting to not eat that much anymore, and i really need some help with this.

ok, first things 1st, everyone has family difficulties so your not the only one who has to deal with this type of situation. But that doesnt mean its not important. Talk to your parents about yuour sibs and your lil' sis. alchohol is a big deal and that needs to be dealt with! ANd forget abouut your wait! that isnt important. But it might help if you come up with a healthy eating plan! Good Luck! if you need more help just leave another message and ill get back to you!\
*melody

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ok ive never been kissed before and all my friends have been kissed and i was at a party a while ago and we were play truth or dare but only truth cuz there wasnt any guyz or w/e but then like it came to me and they asked who my first kiss was w/ and i said ive never been kissed and they all laughed and i felt sooo stupid i just wanted to leave cuz i was so embarassed and i know im not pritty n stuff so i know i wont get my first kiss for a while but im just sooooo scared tho to i dont know its just like i was up north and this one guy ((ive known him for a while)) and we havent seen eachother for a while and we talked to catch up on stuff and he said he liked me again and then he started asking me about kissing and stuff and i kinda turned him down but now i totally regret that cuz i rilly like him to and its just every time some guy wants to kiss me im afraid i dont know why i am its just i feel stupid when ive never kissed a guy.. how can i not be afraid and just kiss the right guy? help pleeeeez!! thanx!

Well first of all, im sure you followed your gut about not kissing him. But if you ergret it that much than call him up or sumthing and explain yourself. And just for the record, it doesnt matter how pretty you are, its whats on the inside!! ANd your time will come sumtime, TRUST ME! just wait for theat 1 special sum1! he will eventually come around!
*Melody

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Hey I'm Bryant! There is this girl I like and I think she likes me what do i do ?

Its simple. Tell her how you feel. I mean if you really like her, and you think that she likes you, than you should ask her how she feels about you. Maybe even ask her out on a date.

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