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Hi. Just so you know i am not used to getting advice about this subject. I normally am the one giving haha. But you see i can't really talk to my friends about this subject becasue I told them all I was going to move on to another guy. O.K. well there is this guy, his name is Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend. I've always looked down upon people who cheat (becasue its happened to me :(.. ) Anyway I had never conversed with Ryan before the end of this summer. Partly because we didn't know eachother, only eyed eachother when crossing paths in the hallway. I am extreemly attracted to him. I think he is likewise. We both have a facebook and I know this sounds juvinile but the only person he ever writes back via wall comment, message, or picture comment is me. I will have a series of messages with him that will be 20 comments long, where everyone elses is only 3, where as he ends the conversation and keeps it going with me. i found this one movie and i thought he threw it in my car, well he didnt but thats beside the point. what he did say though was that we should watch it and call it a party (he origanly told me i should have a "party" and for people to watch the movie). after this i thought it seemed like he was flirting, and that made me nervous because he has a girlfriend (which is a younger classmen who looks up to me) so i then told him that i didn't know if she would mind but i didn't want do do anything that would upset her.. he said he didn't think it would and that it was no big deal. I haven't talked to him as much lately but he still runs into me (seems most of the time like is secretly planned out) and starts conversation. I don't know what i should do, I really want him, but I don't know if i should follow my gut or my mind which is telling me that I would probably shouldn't. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do?... i'm really sorry this is so long i tried really hard to keep it short and to the point (link)
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hmm well idk maybe you could talk to him or just let it go and late fate be fate...........maybe if your supposed to end up with him then you will and if your not then you wont. you cant fight fate...whatever happens. happens. and is this boy really worth going through all the drama getting him??
i hope i helped.
good luck!! tell me what happens!
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i always have problems with myself...
my breasts are not perky but theyre big and im not sure if guys like that. and im scared if my boyfirned doesnt think im too pretty... im in the normal weight range and bmi stuff but i think im still fat... i dont know what to do. i think my eyes are beedy and boring since theyre brown and one eye is like kinda lower at the tip then the other and the one with the higher tip is placed lower by a baby bit. i notice but my friends dont. but they took a reeally good look and they noticed just like i noticed on some of them. but the tips of their eyes are the same. which is sad for me cause one eye is a bit bigger. im just rilly self concious about all of my looks. my calves are not high up like almost every girl i see's is. i hate like all parts of my body now. im not too funny anymore and my family is falling apart. i maek horrible grades and im always jealous... it's the worst thing. it overtakes my mind until i stop worrying. :(
please can someone help me with learning to accept myself but not only accept myself but love myself. im not always depressed, i can be very happy but .. i really would love to not complain about how i look and would like to have a nice dose of confidence. :) thanks (link)
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its not good to put yourself down like that... i know you probably dont want to hear this and it probably wont solve all of your problems but its the truth....everyone is made differently and you should be happy to be alive. the way you see yourself is a whole lot different than other people see you. you see all the little things that are wrong but most people probably dont notice it. its all in your head. people dont look at you and say..what can i see that is wrong with that girl?? thats not how it works......i mean do you do that to people? im sure the girls you tink are beautiful have all these little things that they think are wrong with them. looks arent everyting.
i hope i helped you a little bit!
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Ok so I like this guy he sometimes stars at me and when he stares i looks and stare back i am way to shy to ask him out wat 2 do HELP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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write him a note or just forget all about your shyness and go talk to him before its too late. if you do ask him and he says no....then oh well atleast you went after what you want.
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this boy i dated when i was 11 years old said he loved me and would never hurt me. my paren't don't want me to date him. he broke up with me 3 weeks after i dated him and then he tries to get me jealouse even though i kissed him even though i was broken up with him. i kissed him when i was 12 years old. when i said i liked someone elsed he went and asked my mom about it. does that mean that he still likes me? what should i do because i am not allowed to date him for one reason is that my mom is friends with his mom and my dad thinks that i will marry him and have kids and that theywill come out with problems. and i think i still may like him.
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so im confused.....how old are you now?? if your 12 or 13 i think you should forget about the boys you have mentioned and if they really like you they will come to you. but you also have like the rest of your life for boys. and if you are 12 or 13 why are you talking about marrige??
good luck!
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Well there is this guy I like. He has a g/f. He knows I like em' so he said he likes me a lil. So today I gave him a note saying that i like him but i don't want to get into trouble, and that I don't know what to do. I told him I had a note for him, & then he asked me if I talked to his girlfriend about it..? and I was like no,. Him: cuz someone said that they were in class and they got someone watching me. Me: WTF?. I didn't talk to her or anything. Bell rings, I see him reading the note and I walk off fast. Am I gonna get my ass kicked? I don't know what to do!. Ahhh. (link)
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i wouldnt worry about it...but if you are going to worry, talk to the girl and work it out or if you know for a fact she said it..tell your teacher or parent.
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What do you do when you can't be with the one person who completes you? (link)
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i dont know. thats a good question. i guess either move on or if the situation is right (like their not married or anything)..wait. whatever makes you happy.
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13/f
Well this girl is kinda my friend still. Well actually she used to be my very best friend until we just stopped hanging out as much and I know why I stopped hanging out with her. She was just acting more mean than she used to. I explained it to her she said that she would stop but it stay that way. Well sometimes I still talk to her on the phone.
We are doing candy selling and I've only sold 3 boxes and she's sold about 6 now. So I go to this one market shop place and sell them a box and I knew that is where she goes every year to sell candy. I told her I sold a box there and she said that she goes there every year. I do know the guy there because we shop there and stuff, she told me she also knew the guy but obviously she doesn't shop there. So now she went all dramatic. I'm not the best candy seller and its hard and I've only sold 3 boxes. She isn't the bestest friend anymore.
So what am I supposed to do? (link)
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i would say talk to her first and if that doesnt work just ignore her.
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well. i guess ill start from the begining. this girl that i've loved for idk how long, few years i guess(yes im a dude)has been goin out with this one dude from another town. well me and this girl has went out, and she told me she loved me and all that good stuff, but later on she broke it off cuz her parents doesnt really like me. so she goes out with this one dude, from another town, doesnt get to see him alot. then i hear today that the dude cheated on her, and that she found out last night. heard that from her brother. wel we start talkin about it, then he tells me, that he doesnt get why shes still goin out with him. (that part almost kills me)so i suck it up you know, and head to class
well on the way to class, i saw her. and i looked at her, the girl looked like she was about to cry. and damn that bothered me. still does. so like why does that bother me.? (link)
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because you care about her...and you like her.
let things work out on their own...whatever happens. happens.you cant fight fate.
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Well I Like This Boy Let's Call Him "A"
I Use To Like His best Friend Let's Call Him "B"
I Did'nt Like "A" As Much As I Liked "B"
But When I Did Like "A" I Told Him I Wouldnt Go Out With Him Because My Friend Liked Him
Now "A" Told "B" When I Told Him That
Then A Found OuT I Liked "B" And Told "B"
"B" Asked Me If I Liked Him And I Confessed
Now Acting Like He's Intrested
But Today He Caught His Friend Holding My Hand Under The Table
And His Friend Told Him To Look
(His Friend Asked Me Out And I Said Maybe)
Now Even THough B Is Acting Like Hes Intrested
Im Not Sure If This Is A Game Between Him And "B"
Thats Why I Dont Want To Act Too Intimite
WHAT DO I DO?? (link)
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i would say go for whatever one you like more. ask them if its a game.
tell me how it goes too.
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I am male in high school, sorry if this a bit long.
I have no trouble at all starting a conversation with someone or meeting someone new, but when I am in a conversation I often get stuck. If I have known the person for like 5 years I am usually perfect, but < 5 years and I soon have nothing to say and just smile and nod to the other person and agree with whatever they are saying.
Also for some reason everything I have to say just floats out of my head so I am also not funny and the conversaion is awkward. I am not nervous when I talk to anyone, new or old, but I have been told I sound unsure when I talk.
I would appreciate any advice at all on this subject and would be very grateful. Thanks! (link)
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hmm idk i kinda think you should just be yourself and just let whatever you wanna say come out. i know this isnt very helpful but being 12 doesnt exactly give you any advantages on that stuff to give advice for.
good luck!
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maybe this sound pretty stupid
but what means "mono?" (link)
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i've had mono before. its a sickness that you get form being overly tired or overdoing it and not getting enough sleep. it can put you out of school or work for quite some time. i was out for 3 weeks. hope this helped you!
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I have basketball tryouts in 9 days. what should i train in? ive done basketball most of my life (summer camps, rec, travel.. since i was 8) and im kinda good at far away shots I guess but as suprising as it is, im bad at lay ups and close shots. how can i get better? im not the best player but i have lots of determination and im not afraid to get agressive, which i guess has helped me since i don't have the best like, skills I think. i'm trying out for the A team since im in 8th grade and i cant make the B team since the B team is only 7th graders while the 7th graders can also make the A team. i didnt try out when i was in 7th cause i wanted to be in a diff club at the same time. i'll do that if i dont make bball but i really want to focus on making the team now. i guess i slacked off and i eat halloween candy regularly but how can i get off that habit for like a full chance to get in shape? i havent really been doing any sports (well gym doesnt count in school) since summer so i guess im kinda outta shape. what can i do to help me get better at bball in well.. 9 days? like what skills should i focus on and HOW should I? cause we dont have a bball court or hoop at my house so i practice in school in gym sometimes. or should i just run outside? so thanks for helping, it means A LOT to me and well i'll keep ya posted if i make the team too! :)))))
P.S. there are like 19 8th graders trying out and about 20-something 7th graders trying out. and like 22 people are on each team I believe.. something like that. -nervous- (link)
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i play basketball too. condition alot it helps..like running and crunches and push ups. but definitley running. practice the things you arent good at..adn when tryouts come along try to show all of your strong points and not do alot of of layups or those things your not too good at. just give it all youve got.
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how can i make friends with a guy without giving him a false impression that i like him? (link)
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just try not to flirt.
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Okkay so me and my bff have been friends since 3rd grade, we are now in 10th grade.
Okaay, lately, my bff has been pissing me off.
There is this new girl and my bff is always around her, and when im around and the new girl is around, she doesnt even acknowledge me.
Me and my bff always go to our school things called young life, and we still do go with each other, but now my bff brings the new girl too, and she leaves me out & doesnt talk to me all night.
Friday my bff invited me to go to a tailgating party with her, which would be today.
Well, I told my bff to call me, i told her this on myspace, and she said she would call me when she got out the shower. I havent gotten a call.
I have the new girl as a friend on myspace and she posted a bulliten saying that she was with my bff at a place. But then I realized that they were going to the tailgating party after, adn My bff still hasnt called.
Im about to say the hell with it because im sick of my bff's stupid shit, about leaving me out.
Any advice before I do?
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talk to her before you do. tell her how you feel.
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15/f/good student.
here's the scenario:
we're supposed to buy and bring a book to school on a certain day. i forget, and don't buy it. i realize that i didn't buy it when it's already too late to get it. i start to freak out, thinking that the one F i'll get for not bringing the book will affect me a lot. i start to FREAK out.
same thing with homework/tests and studying. just the TINIEST things make me freak out/panic.
does anyone know why this is? (link)
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just remember that like 10 minutes later all will be forgotten and it wont be a big deal anymore.
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see im in middle school now and some of my best friends are mad at each other and now some arent even friends....and im just freaking out because i live down the hill and they live up the hill so i never see them and i dont know what to do.like my best friends they used to be best friends for life and now that were in middle school no one is friend but me and my best friend.see we had a big group at are elementry school and now that we all went are seapreate ways no one is friends but me and my best friend....some moved and some now hate each other.....see i dont know what to do so that we can all have our group back and not hate each other......i dont know what to do.....so what do i do?do i tell everyone to meet me somewere and make everyone friends agian?do i just go my way and forget about them?WHAT DO I DO?
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as you go on in school the drama only gets worse. i had this same problem just think about why they are mad at eachother. its it a dumb fight?? if oyu still want to be friends with them do it now and forget the little stuff. if its bigger than forget them. but if there really good friends then i would jsut tell them to make up.
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hey! soo my two bestest friends in the whole wide world are coming over on halloween. one has a little sister and shes going trick-er-treating with her bff in my neighborhood and my other friends little brother is disabled and is going to dress up and come over for a little to drop off my friend. the one with the little brother is dressing as a NUN (dont ask why.. shes crazy like that! thats why i lover her!)!! and we were planning on watching halloween movies and stuff but we dont like scary movies. we were also going to eat smores and popcorn and stuff but i wanted to make it more "halloweenish". also, i have to hand out candy so idk what to where..
well i was wondering if you had any ideas on what we should eat, where, watch, do, etc.. so if you can think of any good "party plans" please answer!!! that would be great. thanks! (link)
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haha well im going as a gangster.
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Another boring "love" predicament.
There is this boy I have liked since last year but we've never had much of a chance to talk therefor we aren't really friends. I REALLLLY like him and every day I just get deeper and deeper.
Everyday he always stares or always does something that makes me think he likes me too. My friends would stop me to say that they saw him looking, even random people I hardly know would tell me that. I'd even catch him looking and he won't look away. I've danced with him at dances, and he's pretty much wherever I go. He also copies a lot of my movements and I hear that when guys do that they're subconciously showing they like you. Ex) Standing with arms folded. He'd copy and do the same.
He's the shy type but he hangs around with all the jocks so it just kinda makes it harder to approach him.
I really want to talk to him or get up the nerve to ask him out and I ALWAYS chicken out. I'm stuck in this rut thinking that maybe he'll make a move, but its going NOWHERE.
1. I can't move on. I've tried. I'm too deep.
2. I've tried subtle moves I guess.
Idk what to do anymore.
Any idea's on how I can approach him and make a subtle-obvious move without scaring him off? He's REALLYYY shy and I figure he'd get a little creeped easy.
ANNNNYYY advice would be good.
Even if it has nothing to do with "approaching" him.
THANKS (link)
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well i would say just ask him on AIM or email or something..........that sounds odd or dumb but lets face it when you are at scool and you are right in front of him noone is going to want to ask him out right there on the spot..maybe im just shy too but i dont know. or ask him in person when ur alone! hmm im not certain.im sure you will figure something out!
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First off, I've finally found that it's time to ignore the people in my life who only want to cause trouble, or start nonsense drama. And I've managed to stay really happy now, in fact, happier than I've ever been in my life so far. But now, I'm having family drama with my parents. I feel like I'm in the middle between the two of them when they're arguing. So my question is faily simple, how do I manage to stay happy or at least sane, through all of the drama?
-Your good friend,
LagunaBabe (link)
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i SO know all about drama! my life has been nothing but a reality series these past months..i just ignore them all and care aobut the people who care about me. its so hard not to get pulled into it but when you do just remember its not worth it because once you get in and say what youve asid you can get out and you cant take back what uve said
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I have a friend (we'll call her) Tammy. So Tammy texts me the other day saying there are rumors going on about her being pregnant (but she's not). She said that people have come uo to her saying that i told them she was pregnant. And i haven't so i don't know why they would tell her that. I don't even talk to the people that have asked her. So main point is she is believing them over me, someone who has always been there for her. its really bothering me because we were good friends and she's letting rumors (that i didn't even start and aren't true) ruin it. she won't respond to a myspace message i sent her. and i can't convince her i never said it. what else can i do?? (link)
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as hard as it is just let her go.
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