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hi im candi i would love to try and get an advise columm started at our school but i wanted to try the roops on here first....im gonna take all kinds of questions but i would especially like one particulated towards relationships.....im a huge activist and know some french so i can even help with homework lol...and ive been through my share of heartbreak and just obsurdly crazy things so nothing and i mean nothing is off limits ask me anything im not here to judge and believe me i wont!
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i was getting fingered by my boyfriend that i am very much in love with, later i walked him to the door and he noticed he had some crusty shit on his fingeres he used earlier. is that normal or am i just extremely nasty? and how do i prevent it from happening again?
thats completely normal
when he was doin that u got "wet"
and that wetness got on his fingers
when it drys up it becomes crusty like that
its not u
your not nasty
just next time have him wash his hands after words
but once again it has somethin to do with you
or bein nasty
in fact the wetter you get the healthier you are
soooo
your normal not nasty!
My girlfriend has been taking birth control for a while now, but recently her doctor had her change to a different prescription. Ever since then I've noticed she gets these bouts of sadness, usually around night time, and I worry about her because of it. I was wondering if her changing prescriptions like that could cause the changes in her mood. Is it just a temporary thing until her body adjusts to the new prescription?
the change of prescriptions could be her changing to a lighter medication when your on a higher dosage birth control it normally has something in it that helps deal with moodiness (or depression)
if this is the case then yes she could be upset
her hormones could be gettin used to the new meds too hormones can casue crazy moods.... to anwser your question it could be just the meds
BUT
i would ask her how shes feeling what shes going through and stuff like that nothing makes most girls happier than a boy who is observative talkative and a good listener
I think I'm addicted to having sex? when I have sex with someone I can go for hours and I never want to stop until we're both drenched in sweat and the room is literally a little bit fogged up. I masturbate about 2 or 3 times a day and I can't help but think about having sex like 4 or 5 times a day. Help? Is this bad for me? If its not than I don't rly care but I heard your hair can start falling out!?!? Please let me know if I should stop this and HOW?
who ever told you your hair is gonna fall out: NEVER LISTEN TO THEM AGAIN THERE NUTS
also depending on how old you are you could just LIKE sex.... it only becomes an addiction if your doing things to a certain point of unhealthyness
pickin up hookers
watching porn constantly
sex gets in the way of every day life like to the point were you cant do homework or go to work
masterbating to the point of pain in your penis
not being faithful to spouses
not being careful
not using condoms EVERYTIME
i know someone who did masterbate to the point of bleeding out of there penis literally
and bein able to have sex for a long time is just a good quality to have (wink)
AND EVERY ONE THINKS ABOUT SEX
its just the natural order of things
the other thing is all niceness acide you need to make sure FOR SURE you dont have a problem because if you do sex rehab is real and you need to go get help FORSERIOUS
hey maybe u could go to the same one as tiger
Okay so im on the end of my period, (the fifth day) and its like basically over. But everytime i put a tampon in (just in case) it hurts sooo bad. It hurts on the way in, and then when its inside of me its sore.
What should i do?
for your flow and vagina size your prolly usin a way to big tampon they come in different sizes and use should use the very smallest one you can find
also you could be using a cheap brand i recommend playtex and tampax
when you use a cheaap brand the applicators are cardboard which hurts and the cotton of the tampon isnt made very good this could cause irrretence....
and this is gonna sound nasty but maybe your vaginal walls are dry when you leave tampons in it sucks up eberything blood discharge and just the liquide that keeps you lubricated down there
maybe you should take a little break from wearing tampons and were pads for just a few hours to get your naturall bodys liquid flowing again down there
I keep having discharges do you think I will be
starting my period soon? I meed to know!
theres a possibility when your having lots of discharge it could mean the muscels in your vagina are contracting like as if you were having a period and its shoveing out the discharge so it could be getting ready for your period or your body could just have extra hormones its a toss up
As I'm sure there are alot of people out there that can also say that...but I really hate my job.
I started working for ABC Company (Subcontractor construction company) in November 2008 as an Office Manager, even though my boss has never let me manage the office. My boss is a very poor business man, very messy (the office is always disgusting and I have to reorganize my desk every time I come in), I'm asked to do stuff for his wife while working for him (she's a VP for nursing homes and can't afford her own assistant) which I quit doing after working for her on my own time and not getting paid for it (eventhough she said she'd pay me). When I started this job, I loved it. After 3 months I got a $1 an hour raise and was given a little more responsibility, which was great. Even though this job was someone elses that was getting commission, which I was never offered. But, I recently quit doing this because I was wasting my time and the companies paper since the jobs are never even looked at and bids are rarely made. I tried coming up with different ways of helping him decide which jobs to get plans for, but it never happened.
In May 2008 I was laid off over the phone by my bosses wife because business was slow. But when I went to get my last check, 2 weeks later, I was hired back part-time by my boss. So I found another part-time job.
Since I've started working for my other job, I despise the job with ABC Company even more. I'm respected at my other job and allowed to do my work. When I work for ABC Company (2 days a week) I get so frustrated that the rest of my day is bad and I'm in a very crappy mood. About a week ago my boss took an important responsibility from me (billing) and made my time at work less fulfilling and more difficult to keep things running smoothly. (I was never given a reason why he took it away and was confused since I never had any complaints about what I did.)
I had made the decision in January to quit, even though I didn't have another job, because of how angry I always was. But changed my mind after about 4 weeks of my kids and I being sick and missing so much work. So, when I came into work last Wednesday, I was going through the emails (something I do regularly) and saw several emails from people applying to a job my boss posted on Monday for my job. When I confronted him, he said he wasn't replacing me, just hiring someone under me to be here when I wasn't. (I think he lied. The ad he posted had requirements too similar to what I do for him and the pay too high to just be hiring someone to answer phones and send faxes). Oh...and he never offered me to come back full time (which I wouldn't have anyway). I left earlier that day because I was so frustrated by him sneaking around to interview people. He called me later that week and asked if I was coming back. I said yes after he informed me that he wants me to continue doing the accouting and banking, but that he was going to give me less responsibilities (which he has not informed me of what those are).
Today is my first day here after the new girl started. Even though we should be working together, he has her come in while I wasn't here, so he can train her (which is definately something I should be doing since we'll be working together). She has already reorganized things I've had organized and worked hard keeping my boss organized with, she has notes everywhere giving me the impression that she is going to replace me. Did I mention my boss is the type of person that hates confrontation? I get the impression that he wants me to quit. I now have very little to do which is another reason I despise this job, am not sure where I stand here, and organization is confusing trying to work with someone you don't talk to or see.
No one is hiring right now (trust me I've been looking for a long time now) so I'm not sure if I should quit. I was thinking of writing him a letter letting him know how I feel (cause talking to him gets me nowhere...he never listens to me), but don't know what to say. I don't want to fret over a job I don't like. I don't want to be upset over this job either. I'm not sure what to do.
maybe im a bad influence but he seems to not wanna fire you so id just not do anything dont let it bug you bring a book to read or get a nintendo ds and play it for hours talk on the ohone and if he grows the balls to confront you just say you have nothin to do because the new girl is ambiciously taking over everything
so leading up to my period i want to constantly eat everything in sight. however now i'm on the 2nd day of my period and i'm starving because i've barely eaten but i just have no appetite. i can hardly look at food without feeling nauseous and full but my body obviously wants some food in it. what kind of things can i eat that aren't too heavy and will make me feel worse? i'm in college so i have to use meal plans twice a day and i dont eat salads so most everything else we have is chicken fingers, burgers, pizza etc. what can i do?
some yummy things are baked chips. there better for you and chips and dont leave that weighted feelin after eating them andddd there an easy and tastey on the go snack..i recomend baked lays cheddar and sour creme
Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?
i have atarted using all tampons because they work much better for me the only time i use pads is if im gonna be hanging out with my bf and need to get cleaned up and in bed fast lol but pads kotex is best even and tampons by far the two best are playtex sport and tampax pearlt they cost a few dollars more but they provide pertection for longer and work so well there also small and have plastic applicators WHICH ARE GREAT i would never ever use the cheap ones form like kroger with the paper applicators its just so uncomfurtable
im 14/male and i think im gay for awhile now ive been attracted to guys and i really like a guy were friends we hang out a lot together
and ive developed strong feelings for him im a bit nervous and not sure how to tell him how i feel i think he likes me so do i just talk to him im worried if he rejects me and i dont want it to get out i might get picked on what should i do?
1st off is he gay? if he is then chances are he likes you too its hard to find people you like and are gay at that age....if he is gay or if you think he is bi and will except you then id just tell him flat out when the moments right id prolly tell him a few weeks before that you trust him and think your gay because your attracted to guys and your not really sure what to do if he reacts badly you can always take it back but that would be denying who you are and you should never do that but if he is a good friend and even kinda worthy of being your man then hell understand
How many days does a woman ovulate? Is there a calculator or something you can use to figure it out?
it depends on the woman it could very from 4 to 7 days normally around 5....she could have a very heavy flow for 3 days then light for two or three it just depends on the woman
i am a fourteen year old girl. i had sex with my 19 year old experienced boyfriend. during our intercourse, i didnt bleed. or even the day and night after. however i noticed my vagina starting to itch, turn red, and it has rashes. i dont want to open this up to my mom. she doesnt even approve of me having a boyfriend, and i exceeded the line by having sex with him at early age. i want to tell her that somethings wrong with my vagina, but im scared that when we go to the doctor, my infection would be something sexually transmitted or something. if that happens my mom will hate me forever. what should i do? do you think something is wrong with me? please dont convince me to tell my mommy. i dont have anyone to ask help from. do you think i have STD?
id have your boyfriend take you to the free clinic if hes 19 he should be able to drive and even if he cant he should have a friend that dose if you dont wanna tell him you think you got somethin form him tell him you wanna look at getting put on birthcontrol and if you have to lie to your mom tell her your staying after to take an exam the longer you wait the much worse it will get....the bumps could come from your mom switchin laundry detergents and shaving so keep that in mind...
what is the website i need to go to to see the 2girls1cup video
they dont really have an official website just snoop around ul find it (not that ud want to lol)
Is it easier to get prego when you have sex and your on your period? Or is it the same?
now there is prolly a few people who will be mad at me for sayin this to you but its less possible because the egg for that month is bein released so there is not an egg at the top to fertilize
BUTTT BUTT BUTT
therre can be another egg on the other side so it is possible to get pregnant so u should still use condoms
I need some tips from the girls. Are there any special techniques that you use when you're making out with a guy? ILL RATE
touch her face
pull her on your lap
play with her hair
gentle tugs can be fun
move her body around like move her legs over yours
hold her hands behind you
put a mint in your mouth
or poprocks
or hershey kisses
rub her back
even if your not to the ima touch your boobs phase yet shell still like it if you play with her bra straps thats also a very suttle move that will eventually get you under her bra (just sayin)
depending on how old you are or how far you are in the relationship you could grind on each other too IF YOUR LIKE AT LEAST 14
ummmm if you need anything else ask
candi4545
I feel a bit embarrassed because I am a good 21 years older than most of you, so I feel kinda stupid. I got married a long time ago when I was only 19 to a guy who was in the Marine Corps and he physically abused me for 2 1/2 years, so I am no stranger to being abused. I just want this guy to see how much I love him and that I would do anything for him. Hopefully he will realize it soon before things get way out of hand. My family and friends already know that he is abusive and I have to listen to their lectures about why I should get out and that they don't understand why I am in that relationship. It's seriously hard to explain, but he kinda reminds me of my dad the way he is always putting me down, calling me names, being so negative and condescending, how everything I do is wrong. He calls me a dumb B****, a stupid B****, and a worthless B****, and not to mention he calls me his whore. I tried to break it off a few weeks ago with him and he accused me of sleeping with someone else and wouldn't take "no it's over" as an answer. i just feel stuck right now. I shouldn't be complaining since I put myself where I am.
Thanks for your comment and advice, i appreciate that someone cares so much.
it dosnt matter if your fourty or 14 every girl knows what it like to give yourself to someone completely to love someone so much you dont see any other way than being with them no matter what thre flaws are...as women we naturally feel like we can take over the world and change anyone....i honeatly believe people CAN change....but in cases of abuse and cheating it rarely happens if you really love him and he really loves you, you should try conciling and anger managemnt on his part i know no one in the world ever wants to go to a therapist but it seems to be the only way he can get the help that he needs even if you dont stay together....when you were married before there is one good thing that came out of it you WERE STRONG, you were strong enought o leave and strong enough to love yourself more...sadly abuse in the marines and army with spouses is very real and if you were still with him id suggest a support group even one online...the problem with abuse i that it rarely gets better statistics show if it gets to the point of abuse were you get broken bones and such the next step is for him to KILL YOU....thats bad...i know it may seem easy to seem worthless but your not...not at all...now to the hes like your father thing that right there is a leap in the right direction just form thinkin about it yourself youve madee a conection that would have taken some people years in therapy to grasp...we idolize our parents no matter what they do my father is a rageing alchoholic i havnt seen him not drunk in at least three months and he lives with us..but i still love him...we love our parents because its incoded into our minds from the time were born there the two people that will always be there to help you but that isnt exactly true now is it...so we then look for people just like our parents to date and so the cycle continues...i understand why your in the relationship but you can do better and you do deserve better if hes not willing to get help to be with you then why dose he deserve your love?....then we have the he wont take no as an anwser thing the real problem with that is that
a. you didnt tell him clearly enough
or
b. hes gonna become a stalker
im serious men that dont take no for an anwser will follow you around and just do crazy things he has anger issues already if you need to get help from the police DO IT!!!!
and you can complain all you want its not exactly your fault...
Hi!@ well.,. i had 2 get pics off my dads fone 2 send them 2 my computer. n i found 4 pics of my mom n my dad like havin sex. n i also found one video. but i didnt rilly kno wut i was watchin. but then wen i figured out it was lyk sex and it was my parents i kind of got turned on. is dat creepy?
DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU YOUR CREEPY
it is odd to be sexually aroused by your oarents but i highly doubt that is what you were aroused by it was prolly just SEX anything and everythign about sex is hot for people i dont care whos doin it.....i wouldnt like run around tellin the world but there is nothin wrong with you for bein turned on by sex if you werent it would be worse
I am prganent by my ex boyfriend,and he does not want the baby and does not want to be with me...what should i do??
sadly he dose have the choice on whether or not he wants to be in the babys life or even your boyfriend but he dose not have the choice to not pay you child support get him for all hes worth hunny...and they say there never really daddy til they hold there baby so he could always change his mind at the last second...there are other things you need to consider here to do YOU want the baby....abortion are legal in almost all the states....and adoption is another good option to look at....i think one thing you need to start focusing on though is you and that baby because whether or not hes in your life if you keep it it will be for the rest of your life there is an itty bitty creature about to come out of you and you have to think about whats best for it....maybe hel change his mind boys are like that
I havent gotten my period in 2 months and i am afraid! I havent had sexual intercourse! but i have masterbated! Is it possible that i havent gotten my period because i hurt myself while i masterbated? Or could i be pregnant? I think i am bloting, is it because i havent had my period? or because i am pregnant? and when i push on my stomach it hurts!! please tell me what is wrong with me!!!
o hunny please please please calm down your not pregnant its impossible if you havnt had sex or done anyrthing with his penis in or around your vagina to be pregnant and no you cant hurt yourself materbating its a very natural thing close to 60% of females do and even more males. your probly still young and your period is acting up they do that they have a mind of there own. no it is not possible that you havnt got your period because you hurt yourself materbating the only way you could even do that is if u shoved somethin in your vagina which isnt suppose to be there and ius hugeeee and it then ruptured somethin but even then you would still get your period and you would know if you had hurt yourself you wouldnt be able to walk it would hurt so bad. the only way you can get pregnant is if semen the white goey stuff males ejaculate gets around your vagina and then inside it if your just masterbating yourself NO SEMEN...it is very possible ur bloating is from not havin your period that also means your period should be returning soon..dont freak if your a little heavy or even a little light...there are also other things that could affect your period if you started a new medicine or are stressed or are over excersizeing many things could be causing this or you could have just skipped a couple months ad no hunny your not pregnant...scouts honor...
candi4545
ok, well see my ex hated my best friend and i really loved him but b/c they kept getting in little cat fights and shit and he couldnt stand it i kno he still has feelings for me thou but he has another gf idk what to do i still really fucking love him...reply soon i wanna kill myself and im not just saying that hes my one and only
ok well lets see, first off the national suicide hotline is::: 18002738255
i recomend you call
its toll free your parents wont ever know
if you love him this much then tell him how you feel its either
a. gonna blow up in your face
b. get you back together
c. you guys will both know were you stand
your also gonna have to look and see were your friendship lies dose your bestie hate him too if she dose which is more important to you...
and the fact that he has another girlfriend shows that he is at least trying to move on even if he dose still love you and you too decide to get back together make sure they break up first cause you really dont wanna get played
i believe teenagers can fall in love im not just gonna disregard you and say o waaa teenage puppy love i know how bad it hurts but you really should talk to him
Does breaking the hymen effect my period? my hymen was broken a few days before my period and i'm not sure if it is supposed to effect my period or not...
No i assume you mean you lost your virginity the actual breaking of your hymen will have nothing to do with uyour period but your body is adjusting to having sex and if you regret it or you are confused then ur hormones could be acting up...this could cause ur period to be a little waky....i would not be consurned everyone gos through this at some point..
candi4545