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13/f

Hey peoples, um i waz wondering, why do i lose my apitite at publik places like school and stuff? latly i have been eating less to... im not anerexic im like 160somthin to 170 pounds.... if you could help that would be sooo great, i rate 5s!

Dear Apitite,
You might loose your apetite because when your at home your in your sancuary and you are used to it it's where you sleep and hang out. You might not eat in public like at school because your embarressed. You said your not anorexic because you weigh in at 160 through 170 but maybe that's why. You self concious about your weight so that's why you feel embarressed to eat. I'm saying loose weight because i weigh that exact same thing but i'm not shy to eat aroung people at lunch at school because i know i'm with my friends and they don't judge me about my outside apperance they love me for the person that i am and if you have good friends then they shouldn't care what you eat and don't eat in front of them.

much love,
bubblesamin

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Ok,well i used to live in this city,and now i live in a town.I've changed and i dont like it,im incecure,im quiet,im shy,everything like that.i used to be outgoing,eventful,and all sorts of things like that.So,how can i become more outgoing and happier?maybe like i used to be? i know whenever i go back to see my friends in the city im outgoing and fun with them..but i feel as though im so quiet here i'll never be outgoing ever again!!! please i need advice on how to stay outgoing,talk and yell out with out feeling embarissed of what i say! :(its either that or just move back to my city...oh yeah,13/f

Dear Insecure,
I think i can help because i my self am a fun out going person who can say anything and not feel on ounce of embarressment. First of all you have to think of why you feel insecure here but not back home. I think it's because you really know those people back home and you feel more comfterble with them. But what you should try is to maybe join a sport or a club at school you'll meet tons of new friends there. Then during lunch try to sit with different groups everyday, just to get some variety. But maybe if you wear bright colors sometimes especailly red it makes you be noticed so maybe people will come up to you. You just have to learn that your in a new place and things will certainly be different but that doesn't mean that it has to be a drag.

muchlove,
bubblesamin

p.s. good luck and if you ever needt to talk again my email is bubblesamin@yahoo.com

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ok i like this kid and my friend asked him why he didnt like he and he said it was because i was too skinny. like i kno im skinny but not so much that you shouldnt like a person because of it and its really bothering me b.c a lot of people lately have been commenting about my weight.. i just dont gain any no matter what i eat.. its not my fault. but what should i do?

Dear Skinny,
First of all if a guy you like doesn't like you because of anything physical then he's not even worth your time and besides there are always plenty of other fish in the sea. You wouldn't even want a boyfriend who thought that you should change anything about yourself. You should always know that the people who truly care for you are the people who don't care about your appearences and are the people who except you for the special person that you are.

much love,
Lisha

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Ok their is this guy that goes to my school he is a grade ahead of me but he always sits by me one the bus and he said i was hot and he always flirts w/ me and stuff like that so i totally thought he liked me but when my friend asked him if he liked me he said he didnt wanta go out??? whats going on>?

Dear HIM,
Guys are so hard to read anyways and when they do that kind of stuff like say your hot and then gon't want to go out makes every girls mad. Sometimes you can't judge a book by it's cover maybe he has somethings going on in his life that no one knows about talk to his friends maybe they'll talk about him and give you the dirt on him. Maybe by the time you asked him out he already got together with someone but always the first thing to do is not jump to conclusions.

much love,
bubblesamin

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There is this guy that I know, and I've been trying to get to know him for a while, but he's unreadable.
He will only talk to me when everyone is around, and even then, he's indirect about it. He'll never actually start up a conversation with -ME-

When I try to talk with him alone, he'll end it promptly.

What can I do to get this guy to open up? I don't know what his deal is, if he likes me, or hates me, or what.

Dear Hard to Read,
It doesn't matter what guy it is they always are unreadable.But i find that his friends know him best. So if he really is that unreadable then your best option is get close with his friends and ask them questions about him. If his friends won't open up either then it never hurt anyone if you just snooped around a little bit. Find out what his hobbies are and where he eats lunch at. You can especially spark up a conversation if you know what kind of music he likes and what he likes to do after school. So what you should do is find out that stuff about him then just find out where he eats at lunch then act like yur casually walking around and you just "happen" to run into him then spark up a conversation and always try to make him laugh because laughing is always good for the soul.

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okay this friday i'm going to hangout with this boy, lets call him charlie. I want to become FWBs(friends with beninfits) but i dont know how to make the 1st move or get him to make one. any suggestions? ill be in a hot tub and walking around with some other people (i rate high)

Dear FWB,
I say to just go for it the only way your really loosing a guy is if you don't go after it. If it's not you then tomarrow who know another girl could be scamming on your future boyfriend but always remember to trust your heart it'll tell you what's right. Always remember you don't have to bend over backwards and do all these tricks to get a guy to like you guys just love girls who play hard to get. All you have to do is just keep a good head on your shoulders, sit back and let the guys come to you!!!

much love
bubblesamin

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yeah okay. so i went out with this guy and he dumped me and he was but anyway i was really upset about it. and now he likes me again and i like him soo much and i loved what we had but like my best friend hates him and thinks that he a complete @$$! and like she's always like oh please dont go back out with him please dont. i mean what do i do? do i go out with him? oh and another thing lol um its like i really wanna be with him again, but then again i dont wanna go back to my past, but theres no one else out there and i really like him. lol sorry if its confusing and long but i really need the help

Dear Oh Mann,
It doesn't sound confusing to me i know exactly where your coming from. I think your best friends are the one's who know you the best but nothing or no one knows you better than yourself and your heart. What i say is that don't give him a try make him regret what he did. It's best if you just drop him if your afraid of getting hurt again because who wants that.You'll feel much better after you've detached yourself completley and moved on. And trust me on this one there are always plenty of other fish in the sea.

much love,
bubblesamin

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Some background info: My boyfriend and I have been for a year and a half for past occasions I bought him:
Our Anniversary: hat, chain
His Birthday: few shirts, and a pair of jeans
Christmas Last Year: some clothes and a dvd

Well I have been having trouble thinking of ideas of what I should get him for a christmas present this year. I want it to be very special. I already know that for one part of his present I am going to make a scrapbook with a bunch of pictures of us and our memories and other things in it, but I also want to give him something else. I was thinking about maybe buying him one of those dog tags that you can put pictures on and put a picture of him and I on and and engrave something on it? I know he would love it but I don't know where I could get that or How much it would cost. Anybody have any suggestions? They'd be greatly appreciated! Thanks. =]

Dear Christmas Present,
First of all guys don't really get sentimental about things as much as girls do but who knows if he does he does but 90% out of a 100 don't. My guess if he is then just see how much the dog tag costs if it's inexpensive then buy it and do what you planned but if you don't think he's want that then don't buy him anything treat him to something. Like a movie or dinner or just something special. What i think would be super cute is to give him that scrapbook but to also make him a cupon book like 1 free hug or a free kiss card or free lunch card something like that. If he's not sentimental then just give a guy like that what he's always wanted a hour long make out session lol jk but something hip.

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Okay...I've realized a couple days ago that I really, really like this boy I know (I'll call him Bill)...and the same day I came to that conclusion, I was told by a very good friend of mine that Bill has something for her...and that she likes Bill too. (She didn't know that I liked him, of course)...Today, I found that they have officially paired up...and I didn't really do a good job of hiding my disapointment, because "Bill" asked me if somebody made me upset...I said "Not intentionally"...he then asked if it was him that had done anything to make me upset...(Did he suspect or know that I like him??)...Now, I'm not sure if I should tell him that I really like him or not, because I do NOT want to cause any discomfort between me and the two of them, because I care deeply for both of them...but I don't want him to feel like he's doing anything wrong, either. I think if I told them (Or just him) "Hey, I'm disapointed, but I still support you guys", that it would (maybe) make things better...

I really need answers fast on this one, guys...

S.

Dear Too Late,
I know exactly how you feel and i really do, that happened to me once.It was with one of my good friends and i liked this guy named josh who was a total hottie and sweet guy and when he sat with us at lunch one day they totally had a spark between them too and the next week he asked her out and she said yes. But the silly thing is that i was the one to hook them up. I know it sounds crazy but here's my answer. Just go up to your friend and tell her exactly how you feel and don't leave anything out tell the flat out truth and tell her that you were hurt but it's not her fault because she didn't know about how you felt. Then just wish them a good relationship just know that God has a plan for your life and that it was just never meant to be. Believe me once you get the truth out instead of it being all bottled up inside of you you'll feel much better. Just know that another guy just as cute and just as nice will come along again your young don't worry.

lots of love,
bubblesamin

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